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(dramatic chord)

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(dramatic music)

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(soul music)

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♪ It's alright ♪

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♪ Gonna be okay ♪

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♪ Just keep on praying
till he makes a way ♪

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♪ He might not come when you want him ♪

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♪ But he'll be on time ♪

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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪

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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪

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- Smells good.

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Looks even better.

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How are we doing?

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- Oh, we are great.

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- That's what I want to hear.

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- How's breakfast, Jade?

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- Good.

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- That's good.

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All right, babe, enjoy.

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- All right.

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♪ Gonna be alright ♪

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♪ Well maybe that's not your testimony ♪

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- Oh baby, thank you for my lunch.

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- You're welcome, baby.

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- [Man] Gotta go,

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- Mmm, you have a great day.

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- Girl, don't start
anything with me, round two.

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♪ Gonna be alright ♪

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♪ Gonna be alright ♪

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♪ Gonna be okay ♪

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♪ Just keep on praying
till he makes a way ♪

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- You know he can do that by himself.

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- I know but that's my baby.

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- I know that's your baby

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but your baby also needs
to be self sufficient.

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Okay?

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- Okay.

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- Come on, I'll race you to the bus stop.

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All right, five o'clock?

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- Yes.

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- All right.

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Ooh, mmm, I see why I married you.

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Bye, don't be late.

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♪ It might seem dark but your
future's looking bright ♪

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♪ So just hold on. ♪

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♪ It won't be long ♪ ♪ Blessings Coming ♪

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♪ Gonna be alright ♪

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♪ Say, gonna be alright ♪

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- Come on man.

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- Why is she steady calling your phone?

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Hello, hello?

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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪

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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪

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Weeping may endure for a night but..

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♪ Listen to me ♪

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♪ Joy is coming ♪

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♪ It's coming in the morning ♪

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♪ It's gonna be alright ♪

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- Good day to you too.

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♪ Its gonna be alright ♪

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- Hey, Mrs. Anderson.

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- Good morning, honey.

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♪ The lord has never failed me yet ♪

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♪ Its gonna be alright ♪

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- As always, thank you for tuning in

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to Mix 99.5, the heart
and soul of St. Louis.

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This is your girl signing out,

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Dee Marie from Be the Voice Live

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and I know you guys are
out there in those streets

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trying to get that last minute turkey

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but please slow down
because it's cold out there,

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they said the snow is coming,

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but the most important
thing I want to know

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who is inviting me over for
that Thanksgiving dinner?

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'Cause I know y'all's making it.

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♪ Gonna be all, gonna be alright. ♪

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- Tell me why they denied
my vacation request.

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- First of all, good morning.

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- Well, it's not a good morning to me.

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- What's going on Renee?

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- This stupid office
and their stupid rules.

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They're gonna deny my vacation request

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for the Friday after Thanksgiving?

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- Did they say why?

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- She's talking about that
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even after I already told
her that you approved it.

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- Okay, so who denied it?

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- Mary.

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- Give me a sec.

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- [Renee] Yeah, call her.

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(phone rings)

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- This is Mary.

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- Yes, Mary, this is
Kelly, your office manager.

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I have Renee standing here at my desk

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and she stated at you
denied her vacation request

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after she told you it was
already approved by me?

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- Yes, Kelly, that's true,

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but Renee has already used all

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of her personal and vacation days.

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- Yes, I understand
that, but I approved it.

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So I'm telling you as your manager

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to place the approval
slip in her files, okay?

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Thank you.

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(phone beeps)

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(phone clatters)

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- How am I ever gonna
be successful at my job

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if she keeps overriding everything I say?

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- You must talk to her and
tell her how it makes you feel.

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- She's never gonna listen.

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Excuse me.

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- All done, it's approved.

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- That's what I'm talking about.

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Ain't nothing like having
your girl as a boss.

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(both laughing)

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- Look, I do not understand

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how you be out there in all that mess.

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- With finances like mine,

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you have to go to Black Friday

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for that free TV, that Keurig.

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- And I'm pretty sure it's Keurig.

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- Whatever Kelly, thanks boo.

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(Renee laughs)

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(both kisses)

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- Keurig.

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(Kelly chuckles)

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- Hey, what was that all about?

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- Oh, Mary tried to deny my vacation time.

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I had to get my girl Kelly
to put her in her place.

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- I wish Kelly was my supervisor.

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She seem real cool.

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- Yeah, that's my girl.

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Uh oh, here come your boy Thirsty Rick.

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I'm bout to act like I'm doing some work,

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you can listen to him.

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- You wrong.

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- Hey Renee.

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- No Rick.

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- Why is she always acting
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- Probably 'cause she don't want

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to be bothered with you, bro.

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Just give it up, Rick.

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(Dance Of The Sugar Plum
Fairy by Tchaikovsky)

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- So Julie, are you
still not wanting to know

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if you're having a girl or a boy?

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- Oh girl, no, I definitely want to know

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and I'm really hoping for a boy.

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I just want my family to be complete.

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- Oh, that'd be so perfect.

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- Right, you have your girl

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and your boy done and out of the way.

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- That's what I'm talking about.

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- Oh, I'm so happy to be a teetee again.

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- A teetee?

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When are you gonna join
the club and be a mommy?

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- Right, come join the club.

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- Trust me, that won't be
happening any time soon.

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- Why not, Kelly?

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- Tasha girl, me and Stan
have too much going on

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to be bringing an innocent child

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into this mess of a life of ours.

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- [Tasha] Girl.

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- Anyway, how is baby boy doing

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at his new school girl?

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- He is doing so good.

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He is making so many new friends.

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He even got invited to a
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He is so excited about that.

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- That's so good, Tasha.

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I'm so happy to hear that.

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- [Kelly] Yeah.

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- I think I'm done with it.

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I really need to sit down.

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So I'll take it.

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- Uh uh, girl, go ahead,
I'll take care of this.

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- Thank you, girl.

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So ladies, what are you asking
Santa for for Christmas?

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- Girl, I'm not asking Santa for anything,

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but I'm asking Jesus for a new husband.

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- Kelly, what are you talking about?

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- Clearly, there is something

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you need to get off your chest.

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What is it?

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- So y'all know how close
me and Stan used to be.

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We were like Bonnie and Clyde, baby.

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But since I've given my life to Christ,

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it's like we can't see
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- [Julie] Really?

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- Girl, it's gotten so bad,

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I can't even stand to
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- Oh my God, so what you gonna do, girl?

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- Have you all thought about counseling?

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- Girl, please, Stan ain't gonna step foot

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in nobody's church, let alone counseling.

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- Well go to a counselor
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- I've been married to the man

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long enough to know he
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- Happy holidays, ladies.

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- Mommy, mommy, daddy got me an apron.

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- Oh really?

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Look at that.

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Now you get to help mommy
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Will you put it away for me?

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- Yes.

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- Thank you.

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- That is so sweet.

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James, you're such a good dad.

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- Hey Kelly, tell Stan I said,

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if he thought last year's
turkey was banging,

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this year, he's gonna
bite his fingers off.

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- Hey, if it's better than
what it was last year,

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I might bite my fingers off too, shoot.

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- You just might.

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(women laughing)

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- My God.

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- Y'all are still coming
to Friendsgiving, right?

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- Girl, I guess.

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- You better.

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And don't forget about
the theme this year.

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- We are, okay?

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- [Julie] Great.

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- I gotta go.

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Sorry, I got to head out.

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- Did I interrupt something?

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- Uh uh, no you fine,

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I just got to pick up a couple
of things before I head home.

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- I'm gonna go ahead
and head out with Kelly.

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- [Julie] Okay.

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- Oh don't y'all forget

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to mail your check in
and your contribution.

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- Already done.

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- Thank you, much!

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- Hey, thanks ladies so much
for helping me out today.

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- You're welcome.

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- All right girl.

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- Bye.

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- Did I just walk in on something?

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Is something going on?

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- Nothing, just girl talk.

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Did you bring me something?

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- We keeping secrets now?

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- No, babe, Kelly going
through things with Stan.

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You know how it is.

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- Look, Kelly's not going
through anything with Stan.

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Kelly going through it by herself.

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- Why would you say that?

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- Kelly and Stan were doing just fine

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before Kelly got all
into church like that.

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She needs to let that man be.

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And you know what?

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The same way God was all patient

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and long suffering with her,

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she need to extend that same graces.

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If you remember, Kelly
ain't always been saved.

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- Mommy, can we bake cookies now?

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- Yeah, let's go wash our hands

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and we will bake those cookies.

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- Hey Boo.

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- Hey.

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- Is everything okay, out here?

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- Yes.

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- Good, good, good, good.

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Oh girl, make sure you check
out on the lipstick line.

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00:10:16.562 --> 00:10:19.698
We got some colors that will pop on you.

268
00:10:19.698 --> 00:10:22.600
Welcome ladies to the grand
opening of Nettie Kelly.

269
00:10:22.600 --> 00:10:24.230
I see you divas finally made it.

270
00:10:24.230 --> 00:10:25.129
- Yes we did.

271
00:10:25.129 --> 00:10:26.846
Ebony, this is beautiful.

272
00:10:26.846 --> 00:10:28.088
I love it, girl.

273
00:10:28.088 --> 00:10:29.779
- Eb, this is so nice.

274
00:10:29.779 --> 00:10:30.612
- Well thanks to the finest
designers in the city, baby,

275
00:10:30.612 --> 00:10:31.445
Yassss!

276
00:10:34.341 --> 00:10:37.069
- You know, this has
Candice name all over it.

277
00:10:37.069 --> 00:10:38.689
- Well, I'm glad you noticed.

278
00:10:38.689 --> 00:10:39.569
- Noticed?

279
00:10:39.569 --> 00:10:41.637
Candice, this looks amazing.

280
00:10:41.637 --> 00:10:43.089
You did your thing, girl.

281
00:10:43.089 --> 00:10:44.828
- Thank you so much, my loves.

282
00:10:44.828 --> 00:10:46.269
Y'all just missed Julie.

283
00:10:46.269 --> 00:10:48.997
- Yeah, she told me she could
only stop by for a minute.

284
00:10:48.997 --> 00:10:51.704
You all are coming to the
Friendsgiving this year, right?

285
00:10:51.704 --> 00:10:53.132
- Of course we are.

286
00:10:53.132 --> 00:10:55.651
The question is will you be there?

287
00:10:55.651 --> 00:10:57.136
- What's that supposed to me, Ebony?

288
00:10:57.136 --> 00:10:58.544
- So anyway, Eb,

289
00:10:58.544 --> 00:11:01.295
I know this location had
to cost a pretty penny.

290
00:11:01.295 --> 00:11:03.319
What you do girl, hit the
lottery, didn't tell us?

291
00:11:03.319 --> 00:11:05.199
- Um, excuse me?

292
00:11:05.199 --> 00:11:07.476
Don't worry about how
I get what I get, boo.

293
00:11:07.476 --> 00:11:09.424
You just keep on doing you.

294
00:11:09.424 --> 00:11:11.895
Let me get mine how I get mine

295
00:11:11.895 --> 00:11:14.669
and you get yours however you get yours.

296
00:11:14.669 --> 00:11:16.471
And I ain't even gonna
charge you for that.

297
00:11:16.471 --> 00:11:19.443
That's stay in your lane, 101.

298
00:11:19.443 --> 00:11:21.409
- Whatever Ebony, you crazy.

299
00:11:21.409 --> 00:11:24.775
- Um, excuse me, I don't
even have that much left.

300
00:11:24.775 --> 00:11:26.960
And these are for the people I don't know.

301
00:11:26.960 --> 00:11:28.377
Here, drink mine.

302
00:11:30.583 --> 00:11:34.001
Welcome ladies to the grand
opening of Nettie Kelly.

303
00:11:34.001 --> 00:11:35.314
Have a mimosa.

304
00:11:35.314 --> 00:11:36.981
- [Woman] Thank you.

305
00:11:38.135 --> 00:11:39.268
- Y'all been wonderful.

306
00:11:39.268 --> 00:11:41.987
Follow your boy on social
media, I'm Steve, the comede.

307
00:11:41.987 --> 00:11:42.909
I'm out.

308
00:11:42.909 --> 00:11:46.076
(audience applauding)

309
00:11:47.733 --> 00:11:51.019
- Keep giving it up for bead-a-bead Steve.

310
00:11:51.019 --> 00:11:52.108
That boy is funny.

311
00:11:52.108 --> 00:11:53.906
(audience applauding)

312
00:11:53.906 --> 00:11:55.513
Be sure to come out every Wednesday night

313
00:11:55.513 --> 00:11:57.727
here at Lowes Cafe for open mic night.

314
00:11:57.727 --> 00:11:59.049
Be blessed.

315
00:11:59.049 --> 00:12:02.216
(audience applauding)

316
00:12:03.293 --> 00:12:05.866
- You doing your thing
huh? Ole bead-a-bead!

317
00:12:05.866 --> 00:12:06.804
- Come on now man.

318
00:12:06.804 --> 00:12:07.637
- What up James?

319
00:12:07.637 --> 00:12:08.470
- Trying to take over man?

320
00:12:08.470 --> 00:12:09.303
- Yeah.

321
00:12:09.303 --> 00:12:10.766
Scott.

322
00:12:10.766 --> 00:12:12.158
- Hey, you really trying to take

323
00:12:12.158 --> 00:12:13.717
this comedy thing serious huh?

324
00:12:13.717 --> 00:12:16.213
- You doggone, right, I mean,
did I do my thing or what?

325
00:12:16.213 --> 00:12:17.678
- He did all right.

326
00:12:17.678 --> 00:12:19.898
- All right, he did great.

327
00:12:19.898 --> 00:12:21.408
- Henry you were laughing, hard.

328
00:12:21.408 --> 00:12:22.286
- He was laughing hard.

329
00:12:22.286 --> 00:12:23.474
- You was dead laughing.

330
00:12:23.474 --> 00:12:24.307
- Don't worry about it Donte,

331
00:12:24.307 --> 00:12:25.140
you know its always one
hater out the bunch.

332
00:12:25.140 --> 00:12:25.973
- Come on man, you did
your thing bead-a-bead,

333
00:12:29.215 --> 00:12:30.415
I'm just messing with you.

334
00:12:30.415 --> 00:12:33.830
- Hey, hey, hey, hey,
you had me dying man.

335
00:12:33.830 --> 00:12:34.674
You a clown boy.

336
00:12:34.674 --> 00:12:37.484
- That's what's up, but excuse me fellas,

337
00:12:37.484 --> 00:12:41.237
I gotta go entertain one of my many fans.

338
00:12:41.237 --> 00:12:44.784
- [Henry] Go do your thing player.

339
00:12:44.784 --> 00:12:46.281
- That dude is hilarious man.

340
00:12:46.281 --> 00:12:47.114
- Yeah.

341
00:12:47.114 --> 00:12:48.057
- Straight up, straight up.

342
00:12:48.057 --> 00:12:49.868
Hey but Stan, I mean you gonna apply

343
00:12:49.868 --> 00:12:52.160
for my old position or what man?

344
00:12:52.160 --> 00:12:53.317
- Man you know what man,

345
00:12:53.317 --> 00:12:54.995
it's crazy that you're
asking me that right now

346
00:12:54.995 --> 00:12:57.719
cause I have been thinking
about it real tough lately.

347
00:12:57.719 --> 00:12:58.607
- You should.

348
00:12:58.607 --> 00:12:59.440
- Man, you might as well.

349
00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:01.016
You're the team lead so gone

350
00:13:01.016 --> 00:13:02.927
and climb that corporate ladder dog.

351
00:13:02.927 --> 00:13:04.113
- You sure right.

352
00:13:04.113 --> 00:13:06.112
Cause you got Henry and Steve on.

353
00:13:06.112 --> 00:13:07.211
My potna put my name

354
00:13:07.211 --> 00:13:09.648
on his application, he
aint even get hired.

355
00:13:09.648 --> 00:13:12.878
- I'm so glad I didn't put that
boy name on my application.

356
00:13:12.878 --> 00:13:17.211
- Scott, Scott, Scott, it
wasn't even like that man.

357
00:13:18.252 --> 00:13:19.085
Stanley look,

358
00:13:19.085 --> 00:13:19.918
I really need you to apply
for that position man.

359
00:13:22.192 --> 00:13:24.533
And I know where you at,
I know that look man,

360
00:13:24.533 --> 00:13:26.261
look I felt like I was disqualified to,

361
00:13:26.261 --> 00:13:28.101
you know for the position I'm at

362
00:13:28.101 --> 00:13:31.864
but I just went for it man,
and the rest is history man.

363
00:13:31.864 --> 00:13:32.781
- I guess.

364
00:13:33.874 --> 00:13:35.115
- What's up lames?

365
00:13:35.115 --> 00:13:36.446
- Dog, what's up.

366
00:13:36.446 --> 00:13:39.883
What it be like, what it
be like, what it be like?

367
00:13:39.883 --> 00:13:41.775
- Finally showed up, what up dog?

368
00:13:41.775 --> 00:13:42.608
- What's happening, what's happening.

369
00:13:42.608 --> 00:13:43.441
- You missed the show.

370
00:13:43.441 --> 00:13:45.202
- I know, I know man, I had
to handle some business.

371
00:13:45.202 --> 00:13:46.271
- I get it.

372
00:13:46.271 --> 00:13:48.141
- I know you did your thing.

373
00:13:48.141 --> 00:13:50.081
- What's up boy?

374
00:13:50.081 --> 00:13:51.414
Big money Tuan.

375
00:13:52.291 --> 00:13:53.628
Man I tell you, when your wife got

376
00:13:53.628 --> 00:13:56.438
that makeup lounge going on.

377
00:13:56.438 --> 00:13:58.467
What kind of loan you had
to take out for that one?

378
00:13:58.467 --> 00:13:59.300
- Its one of them loans that

379
00:13:59.300 --> 00:14:00.686
you gotta mind your business on.

380
00:14:00.686 --> 00:14:03.269
(men laughing)

381
00:14:04.396 --> 00:14:07.382
- Well I'm glad Tasha's
content with her eight to five.

382
00:14:07.382 --> 00:14:08.905
- Hey whoa, hold on now.

383
00:14:08.905 --> 00:14:10.884
You gonna have to keep your eye on Tasha,

384
00:14:10.884 --> 00:14:12.636
cause if she come up with a
game plan man, on something,

385
00:14:12.636 --> 00:14:14.635
you gonna be investing in it.

386
00:14:14.635 --> 00:14:16.666
- Hold up, all y'all
know each other wives,

387
00:14:16.666 --> 00:14:18.968
and y'all hangout like
they do in the movies?

388
00:14:18.968 --> 00:14:19.801
- Sure.

389
00:14:19.801 --> 00:14:20.634
- Yeah.

390
00:14:20.634 --> 00:14:21.875
- So y'all are happily married huh?

391
00:14:21.875 --> 00:14:23.275
- Yeah.

392
00:14:23.275 --> 00:14:25.433
- Man that's not the case
with me, man I'll tell ya.

393
00:14:25.433 --> 00:14:27.905
- Don't look at me, I'm happily single.

394
00:14:27.905 --> 00:14:31.763
- You know what I can honestly
say, I'm happily married man.

395
00:14:31.763 --> 00:14:33.753
(men laughing)

396
00:14:33.753 --> 00:14:35.185
- I thought I was the comedian.

397
00:14:35.185 --> 00:14:36.161
- Okay, wait a minute, wait, wait, wait.

398
00:14:36.161 --> 00:14:37.923
So y'all honestly don't think

399
00:14:37.923 --> 00:14:41.552
that it's possible to be happily married?

400
00:14:41.552 --> 00:14:42.385
- [All] No.

401
00:14:42.385 --> 00:14:43.262
- Absolutely not.

402
00:14:43.262 --> 00:14:45.732
I mean you can pretend
to be, but you're not.

403
00:14:45.732 --> 00:14:47.712
- Well wait a minute, wait
a minute, now wait a minute.

404
00:14:47.712 --> 00:14:48.891
God...

405
00:14:48.891 --> 00:14:50.420
You all really going to sit here

406
00:14:50.420 --> 00:14:52.925
and tell this man that
he could not be married?

407
00:14:52.925 --> 00:14:53.883
Happily married?

408
00:14:53.883 --> 00:14:54.716
- Yeah.

409
00:14:54.716 --> 00:14:57.125
- To his wife, his true love.

410
00:14:57.125 --> 00:14:59.129
- Hey look, Jesus, let me tell you

411
00:14:59.129 --> 00:15:00.235
from me and Kelly stand point.

412
00:15:00.235 --> 00:15:01.068
- [Man] Enlighten me.

413
00:15:01.068 --> 00:15:03.403
- Look man, at one point in our marriage,

414
00:15:03.403 --> 00:15:06.365
I can honestly say that we was happy.

415
00:15:06.365 --> 00:15:09.373
But right now I can't say the same thing.

416
00:15:09.373 --> 00:15:10.676
So check this right,

417
00:15:10.676 --> 00:15:12.482
I just don't understand how is it

418
00:15:12.482 --> 00:15:14.028
that we can go from doing everything

419
00:15:14.028 --> 00:15:15.847
up under the sun together,

420
00:15:15.847 --> 00:15:18.017
to now, its like we hate each other.

421
00:15:18.017 --> 00:15:19.527
Look bro, I can tell you

422
00:15:19.527 --> 00:15:21.767
that she hate the sight of me coming,

423
00:15:21.767 --> 00:15:24.635
and to be honest the feeling
is starting to become mutual.

424
00:15:24.635 --> 00:15:26.236
- And you know, I feel you man,

425
00:15:26.236 --> 00:15:28.366
cause you know, everybody
know my situation.

426
00:15:28.366 --> 00:15:30.335
Me and EB, she crazy as all get out.

427
00:15:30.335 --> 00:15:31.168
- [Man] crazy.

428
00:15:31.168 --> 00:15:32.750
- I mean when we good, we good.

429
00:15:32.750 --> 00:15:35.825
But when she started that
woody woo woo, it's bad.

430
00:15:35.825 --> 00:15:36.658
- [Man] The who?

431
00:15:36.658 --> 00:15:39.287
- Hey, but it's 50, 50,
it wight itself out.

432
00:15:39.287 --> 00:15:40.207
So I take it.

433
00:15:40.207 --> 00:15:43.047
- Well shoot, You know my
wife, she a workaholic bro.

434
00:15:43.047 --> 00:15:45.053
So that kinda worked
out for the both of us.

435
00:15:45.053 --> 00:15:45.981
You know what I mean?

436
00:15:45.981 --> 00:15:49.471
Man I don't know if she happy or not.

437
00:15:49.471 --> 00:15:51.532
So I guess I'm safe.

438
00:15:51.532 --> 00:15:52.940
- Safe?

439
00:15:52.940 --> 00:15:55.681
Man its not safe, matter
of fact you tripping.

440
00:15:55.681 --> 00:15:57.791
You better know if your
wife happy or not man.

441
00:15:57.791 --> 00:16:01.321
- Hold on, why it always
important that they always happy?

442
00:16:01.321 --> 00:16:03.036
What about us?

443
00:16:03.036 --> 00:16:04.691
Man we need to change that mindset.

444
00:16:04.691 --> 00:16:07.216
- Listen, now you talking.

445
00:16:07.216 --> 00:16:10.936
- Well truth be told, the
bible did say be careful

446
00:16:10.936 --> 00:16:14.916
how you treat our wives,
lest our prayers be hindered.

447
00:16:14.916 --> 00:16:16.097
- Yup.

448
00:16:16.097 --> 00:16:19.457
The liquor most certainly
started to kick in.

449
00:16:19.457 --> 00:16:21.988
Man every time this dude get to drinking,

450
00:16:21.988 --> 00:16:23.087
he start quoting scripture.

451
00:16:23.087 --> 00:16:25.880
- Hey, hold, hold, hold, hold, hold on.

452
00:16:25.880 --> 00:16:27.028
He aint lying though.

453
00:16:27.028 --> 00:16:28.586
The bible does say that.

454
00:16:28.586 --> 00:16:33.003
- Yup, this most definitely
about to be a long night.

455
00:16:35.217 --> 00:16:37.967
(dramatic music)

456
00:17:03.556 --> 00:17:04.956
- Hey mama.

457
00:17:04.956 --> 00:17:06.634
- [Mama] Hey baby, what you doing?

458
00:17:06.634 --> 00:17:08.269
- [Kelly] Nothing just
At Style-Taneous Styles

459
00:17:08.269 --> 00:17:09.271
looking for something to wear

460
00:17:09.271 --> 00:17:10.938
to the company Christmas party.

461
00:17:10.938 --> 00:17:13.334
- Oh that's right, that
is coming up isn't it?

462
00:17:13.334 --> 00:17:15.275
Send me a picture of your
outfit when you get it.

463
00:17:15.275 --> 00:17:17.640
I'm just going to wear
something I already have.

464
00:17:17.640 --> 00:17:18.966
- Now make sure it's burgundy

465
00:17:18.966 --> 00:17:21.265
because you know that's the
color we wearing this year.

466
00:17:21.265 --> 00:17:22.843
- Oh yeah, that's right.

467
00:17:22.843 --> 00:17:25.081
Did you start your Christmas shopping yet?

468
00:17:25.081 --> 00:17:26.723
- Not yet, but I will soon.

469
00:17:26.723 --> 00:17:28.294
I know you're probably already done.

470
00:17:28.294 --> 00:17:30.563
When you get finished, in June?

471
00:17:30.563 --> 00:17:32.014
- child, you know I don't mess around.

472
00:17:32.014 --> 00:17:32.912
I don't have time to be in the store

473
00:17:32.912 --> 00:17:34.613
with all those crazy folks.

474
00:17:34.613 --> 00:17:36.592
Anyway, I was just
calling back from earlier.

475
00:17:36.592 --> 00:17:39.062
Call me when you get done.

476
00:17:39.062 --> 00:17:39.895
- Oh mama.

477
00:17:40.763 --> 00:17:41.763
- Yeah baby?

478
00:17:42.683 --> 00:17:44.392
- Never mind.

479
00:17:44.392 --> 00:17:45.975
- What is it Kelly?

480
00:17:47.190 --> 00:17:48.628
- Nothing.

481
00:17:48.628 --> 00:17:49.878
It's just Stan.

482
00:17:50.805 --> 00:17:52.143
I'm getting really frustrated.

483
00:17:52.143 --> 00:17:54.904
I feel like he's not for me anymore.

484
00:17:54.904 --> 00:17:58.765
- Oh, here we go, singing
that same old song.

485
00:17:58.765 --> 00:18:00.293
Did you do what I told you to do?

486
00:18:00.293 --> 00:18:02.422
- Yes, I demanded that he get it together,

487
00:18:02.422 --> 00:18:04.339
but he has not changed.

488
00:18:05.225 --> 00:18:06.058
- No.

489
00:18:06.058 --> 00:18:07.933
You have to tell him that he either

490
00:18:07.933 --> 00:18:10.544
has to get it together
or he needs to leave.

491
00:18:10.544 --> 00:18:12.464
I mean, he sitting up in that house,

492
00:18:12.464 --> 00:18:16.182
you serving God and he's
disrespecting you and God,

493
00:18:16.182 --> 00:18:17.525
and want to act like the devil himself.

494
00:18:17.525 --> 00:18:19.011
Aint nobody got time for that.

495
00:18:19.011 --> 00:18:21.395
- Right, and do, you know, the other day

496
00:18:21.395 --> 00:18:23.645
I kept calling him over and over again

497
00:18:23.645 --> 00:18:25.563
and he wouldn't answer
his phone for nothing.

498
00:18:25.563 --> 00:18:27.435
And when I got home, he was sitting

499
00:18:27.435 --> 00:18:30.184
on the couch with his
friends, playing a video game.

500
00:18:30.184 --> 00:18:34.383
He spent all his free time
doing that, it's so frustrating.

501
00:18:34.383 --> 00:18:35.352
- That don't make any sense.

502
00:18:35.352 --> 00:18:36.197
You could have been stranded on

503
00:18:36.197 --> 00:18:37.906
the side of the road or anything.

504
00:18:37.906 --> 00:18:39.336
- That's what I'm saying.

505
00:18:39.336 --> 00:18:40.600
- Now did you put blessed oil over

506
00:18:40.600 --> 00:18:42.276
the house like I told you?

507
00:18:42.276 --> 00:18:43.829
- No mama, I haven't done that.

508
00:18:43.829 --> 00:18:45.570
- Child, that's what you need to do.

509
00:18:45.570 --> 00:18:48.616
Put it on his pillow, put it in his shoes,

510
00:18:48.616 --> 00:18:51.290
on his toothbrush if you have to.

511
00:18:51.290 --> 00:18:52.443
I mean do what you need to do.

512
00:18:52.443 --> 00:18:55.287
Pray those demons right
on up out your house.

513
00:18:55.287 --> 00:18:58.349
- Wait a minute, on his toothbrush mom?

514
00:18:58.349 --> 00:18:59.757
(Kelly laughing)

515
00:18:59.757 --> 00:19:03.029
Look, I know you serious
but that is hilarious.

516
00:19:03.029 --> 00:19:06.726
I really appreciate you
talking to me ma, I do.

517
00:19:06.726 --> 00:19:07.815
But look, I'm going to go ahead

518
00:19:07.815 --> 00:19:10.071
and try to find what I need to
get and get on up outta here.

519
00:19:10.071 --> 00:19:12.497
I'll call you later, okay?

520
00:19:12.497 --> 00:19:13.844
- [Mama] All right, baby.

521
00:19:13.844 --> 00:19:15.098
- I love you.

522
00:19:15.098 --> 00:19:17.657
- I love you too, baby.

523
00:19:17.657 --> 00:19:18.990
(paper crinkles)

524
00:19:18.990 --> 00:19:21.740
(dramatic music)

525
00:19:23.789 --> 00:19:24.622
What?

526
00:19:29.251 --> 00:19:32.684
(dramatic music)

527
00:19:32.684 --> 00:19:35.290
- This dude is a beast man.

528
00:19:35.290 --> 00:19:36.790
It is no stopping him.

529
00:19:39.634 --> 00:19:41.200
Hey what's up babe, you good?

530
00:19:41.200 --> 00:19:42.117
- I'm fine.

531
00:19:43.114 --> 00:19:45.153
- That you most definitely are.

532
00:19:45.153 --> 00:19:47.495
You look real good in that
dress girl, fine, fine.

533
00:19:47.495 --> 00:19:49.763
Like a whole snack, come
on over and sit down.

534
00:19:49.763 --> 00:19:52.735
- Stan I am not in the mood, okay?

535
00:19:52.735 --> 00:19:54.383
- Yeah, of course you're not.

536
00:19:54.383 --> 00:19:55.592
You're never in the mood.

537
00:19:55.592 --> 00:19:58.072
I wasn't doing nothing but
giving you a compliment anyway?

538
00:19:58.072 --> 00:19:59.805
- A compliment?

539
00:19:59.805 --> 00:20:02.209
I could care less about
a compliment from you.

540
00:20:02.209 --> 00:20:04.561
I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

541
00:20:04.561 --> 00:20:07.061
I don't need your reassurance.

542
00:20:08.902 --> 00:20:11.228
- Is that what you learned
at church today Kelly?

543
00:20:11.228 --> 00:20:14.429
- I'm not about to put up
with your sarcasm today.

544
00:20:14.429 --> 00:20:15.450
I'm not gonna do it.

545
00:20:15.450 --> 00:20:16.596
- Look, you the one that came in here

546
00:20:16.596 --> 00:20:17.863
with his little attitude

547
00:20:17.863 --> 00:20:19.503
and being that you just came from church,

548
00:20:19.503 --> 00:20:20.490
I'm just trying to see.

549
00:20:20.490 --> 00:20:21.485
Is that what you learned today?

550
00:20:21.485 --> 00:20:23.789
- What ever Stan, I have every
right to have an attitude.

551
00:20:23.789 --> 00:20:25.118
When are you going to get it?

552
00:20:25.118 --> 00:20:26.044
- Get what Kelly.

553
00:20:26.044 --> 00:20:27.629
- That I've changed.

554
00:20:27.629 --> 00:20:28.997
- Oh, have you?

555
00:20:28.997 --> 00:20:31.025
- Yes, but you won't acknowledge it,

556
00:20:31.025 --> 00:20:32.971
look, I'm ready for you to come on.

557
00:20:32.971 --> 00:20:34.846
- Come on and do what, what?

558
00:20:34.846 --> 00:20:36.788
- Quit dragging your feet.

559
00:20:36.788 --> 00:20:39.392
Get your life together and live for God.

560
00:20:39.392 --> 00:20:41.396
- Is that what I was doing when
we first got married Kelly.

561
00:20:41.396 --> 00:20:42.705
- No and neither was I,

562
00:20:42.705 --> 00:20:44.356
and what does that have
to do with anything?

563
00:20:44.356 --> 00:20:47.457
Look, I'm ready for you to come on.

564
00:20:47.457 --> 00:20:48.958
You're supposed to be the head

565
00:20:48.958 --> 00:20:50.859
and I'm supposed to be following you.

566
00:20:50.859 --> 00:20:53.373
I'm to follow you as you follow Christ,

567
00:20:53.373 --> 00:20:54.859
but you're not even following him.

568
00:20:54.859 --> 00:20:56.979
You make it so hard for me.

569
00:20:56.979 --> 00:20:59.696
- Look, let's just calm down

570
00:20:59.696 --> 00:21:01.404
because I've been in this house all day,

571
00:21:01.404 --> 00:21:02.952
waiting for you to come home from church

572
00:21:02.952 --> 00:21:05.196
so I can enjoy the rest
of the day with my wife.

573
00:21:05.196 --> 00:21:06.413
But instead you want to come here

574
00:21:06.413 --> 00:21:07.740
with this whole little attitude.

575
00:21:07.740 --> 00:21:09.695
- You know how your day
could have been enjoyed?

576
00:21:09.695 --> 00:21:13.445
If you would've came to
church with me, Stan.

577
00:21:15.202 --> 00:21:16.824
- You know what?

578
00:21:16.824 --> 00:21:20.521
I'm just going to go
get me something to eat.

579
00:21:20.521 --> 00:21:23.688
- Leave Stan, that's what you do best.

580
00:21:27.551 --> 00:21:28.551
Blessed oil.

581
00:21:29.689 --> 00:21:31.423
Father in the name of Jesus.

582
00:21:31.423 --> 00:21:33.357
God, I come to you right now

583
00:21:33.357 --> 00:21:36.912
praying against all these
spirits in my house.

584
00:21:36.912 --> 00:21:39.804
Lord, especially for my husband.

585
00:21:39.804 --> 00:21:41.567
He is allowing the enemy to use him.

586
00:21:41.567 --> 00:21:44.650
I need you to help him to understand.

587
00:21:46.532 --> 00:21:49.953
Oh my God, Mrs. Anderson, what,

588
00:21:49.953 --> 00:21:52.633
how did you get, what, is
there something you need?

589
00:21:52.633 --> 00:21:54.540
- It sounds as if there's
something you need, honey.

590
00:21:54.540 --> 00:21:56.437
So I'm here to check on you.

591
00:21:56.437 --> 00:21:58.655
- Look, I'm fine, I'm just praying

592
00:21:58.655 --> 00:22:00.538
and about to put blessed
oil over this house

593
00:22:00.538 --> 00:22:02.986
and pray these demons
up out of my husband.

594
00:22:02.986 --> 00:22:05.628
- Whatever are you going
to do that for dear?

595
00:22:05.628 --> 00:22:08.301
- Look, I need to see a change in Stan.

596
00:22:08.301 --> 00:22:09.134
- And you think you're going to see

597
00:22:09.134 --> 00:22:11.556
change by putting blessed oil everywhere?

598
00:22:11.556 --> 00:22:13.510
- I don't know, but I'm
willing to give it a shot

599
00:22:13.510 --> 00:22:15.555
because things have gotten
too far out of control.

600
00:22:15.555 --> 00:22:20.270
- Sweetheart, please just
hear me out, that's all I ask.

601
00:22:20.270 --> 00:22:21.497
- Sure, go ahead.

602
00:22:21.497 --> 00:22:22.539
- All right, now listen.

603
00:22:22.539 --> 00:22:24.364
When I say this, it is coming

604
00:22:24.364 --> 00:22:26.895
from a place of love, all right?

605
00:22:26.895 --> 00:22:28.229
Okay, listen.

606
00:22:28.229 --> 00:22:31.430
The first thing you need
to do, honey is to pray.

607
00:22:31.430 --> 00:22:34.487
- Mrs. Anderson, I was praying.

608
00:22:34.487 --> 00:22:35.879
- Yes, I heard you, sweetheart.

609
00:22:35.879 --> 00:22:38.650
It sounded like the prayer
of the self righteous,

610
00:22:38.650 --> 00:22:40.739
which availeth not much, honey.

611
00:22:40.739 --> 00:22:45.239
Listen, you must first pray
and ask God to change you.

612
00:22:46.210 --> 00:22:47.156
- Change me?

613
00:22:47.156 --> 00:22:48.029
- Yes.

614
00:22:48.029 --> 00:22:51.511
- Trust me, Mrs. Anderson,
I have definitely changed.

615
00:22:51.511 --> 00:22:54.424
- Sweetheart listen, you
are the one who proclaims

616
00:22:54.424 --> 00:22:56.381
to be the believer in
this marriage, right?

617
00:22:56.381 --> 00:22:57.214
- Yeah.

618
00:22:57.214 --> 00:23:01.341
- So that means that you've
given God permission to use you.

619
00:23:01.341 --> 00:23:03.258
- Well, I do let him use me.

620
00:23:03.258 --> 00:23:06.256
I serve and worship him faithfully.

621
00:23:06.256 --> 00:23:08.682
- Do you really Kelly?

622
00:23:08.682 --> 00:23:11.536
Listen, the Bible tells us in Romans 12:1

623
00:23:11.536 --> 00:23:13.770
that we are to present our bodies

624
00:23:13.770 --> 00:23:15.847
as a living sacrifice dedicated

625
00:23:15.847 --> 00:23:17.885
to his service and pleasing unto him.

626
00:23:17.885 --> 00:23:18.718
- Now Mrs. Anderson.

627
00:23:18.718 --> 00:23:21.293
- Now that there is the true worship

628
00:23:21.293 --> 00:23:22.780
that you ought to be offering up.

629
00:23:22.780 --> 00:23:23.962
- Okay, so you really don't have

630
00:23:23.962 --> 00:23:25.146
to throw all this word at me

631
00:23:25.146 --> 00:23:27.322
because I know it very well.

632
00:23:27.322 --> 00:23:28.155
Trust me.

633
00:23:29.366 --> 00:23:31.165
- Child you do know your word,

634
00:23:31.165 --> 00:23:34.538
but it's not enough just
to know it, now is it?

635
00:23:34.538 --> 00:23:36.902
The Bible tells us to be doers of the word

636
00:23:36.902 --> 00:23:38.906
and not hearers only.

637
00:23:38.906 --> 00:23:41.402
Deceiving your own selves.

638
00:23:41.402 --> 00:23:44.189
- But it's so hard and
I'm getting tired of Stan.

639
00:23:44.189 --> 00:23:46.523
It takes two to make a marriage work.

640
00:23:46.523 --> 00:23:48.268
- Well sweetheart I'm not a firm believer

641
00:23:48.268 --> 00:23:51.023
in all them little popular
sayings y'all have today.

642
00:23:51.023 --> 00:23:55.495
I don't know if it takes two
to make a thing go right.

643
00:23:55.495 --> 00:23:58.453
Will it make things easier, maybe.

644
00:23:58.453 --> 00:24:01.396
But let me tell you what
I do believe sweetheart.

645
00:24:01.396 --> 00:24:04.783
I believe that if there's
at least one willing vessel

646
00:24:04.783 --> 00:24:07.695
that will allow God to have his way.

647
00:24:07.695 --> 00:24:09.124
Well then you at least have a chance

648
00:24:09.124 --> 00:24:11.644
of seeing things turned
around for your good.

649
00:24:11.644 --> 00:24:14.635
- Well you are speaking the truth.

650
00:24:14.635 --> 00:24:16.955
You sure do have a lot of wisdom
when it comes to marriage,

651
00:24:16.955 --> 00:24:19.500
how long have you been married?

652
00:24:19.500 --> 00:24:21.073
- I think its been, it seems

653
00:24:21.073 --> 00:24:23.959
like it's been about 2,000 years.

654
00:24:23.959 --> 00:24:27.187
Honey, that man was
crazier than a road lizard.

655
00:24:27.187 --> 00:24:30.442
I want to tell you, we had
our share of ups and downs.

656
00:24:30.442 --> 00:24:32.542
And you know what, I'd be willing

657
00:24:32.542 --> 00:24:35.434
to be your accountability partner

658
00:24:35.434 --> 00:24:37.836
if you will allow me to.

659
00:24:37.836 --> 00:24:39.372
- I'm willing to do.

660
00:24:39.372 --> 00:24:40.779
- All right, good.

661
00:24:40.779 --> 00:24:42.887
Now your first point of focus is to pray

662
00:24:42.887 --> 00:24:45.554
and ask God to change you, okay?

663
00:24:46.506 --> 00:24:49.637
And oh, may I make one
more suggestion honey?

664
00:24:49.637 --> 00:24:50.691
- What's that.

665
00:24:50.691 --> 00:24:51.774
- You know you can't always

666
00:24:51.774 --> 00:24:54.691
take everybody's advice, all right.

667
00:24:56.123 --> 00:24:59.138
Even those who are closest to you.

668
00:24:59.138 --> 00:25:00.377
- Yes ma'am.

669
00:25:00.377 --> 00:25:01.913
- Happy holidays sweetheart.

670
00:25:01.913 --> 00:25:04.663
(dramatic music)

671
00:25:08.361 --> 00:25:13.361
♪ Together we walk side by side ♪

672
00:25:13.925 --> 00:25:18.925
♪ That's how it was meant to be yeah ♪

673
00:25:19.499 --> 00:25:22.855
♪ You see nothing else matters, no ♪

674
00:25:22.855 --> 00:25:27.743
♪ Our love is for eternity ♪

675
00:25:27.743 --> 00:25:32.743
♪ And you are my shining star, yes ♪

676
00:25:34.631 --> 00:25:39.631
♪ Our love will never depart ♪

677
00:25:39.665 --> 00:25:44.665
♪ Holding your hand
with my hand in yours ♪

678
00:25:46.174 --> 00:25:51.174
♪ It is such a wonderful feeling ♪

679
00:25:51.759 --> 00:25:56.759
♪ This Christmas holiday we share ♪

680
00:25:57.651 --> 00:26:02.112
♪ I believe in you and me ♪

681
00:26:02.112 --> 00:26:06.189
♪ I believe in you and me ♪

682
00:26:06.189 --> 00:26:11.189
♪ And our love will always be ♪

683
00:26:13.002 --> 00:26:15.799
♪ I believe ♪

684
00:26:15.799 --> 00:26:17.941
♪ I believe ♪

685
00:26:17.941 --> 00:26:21.627
♪ Dance with me baby, step with me sugar ♪

686
00:26:21.627 --> 00:26:23.796
- And so that will be your total need.

687
00:26:23.796 --> 00:26:26.360
That actually concludes my
presentation this morning.

688
00:26:26.360 --> 00:26:27.501
So again, I thank you all

689
00:26:27.501 --> 00:26:29.829
for choosing Erickson insurance agency

690
00:26:29.829 --> 00:26:31.376
for your insurance needs again,

691
00:26:31.376 --> 00:26:33.743
I am Susan Erickson and
I will be representing

692
00:26:33.743 --> 00:26:36.364
you guys from the Northern
division moving forward.

693
00:26:36.364 --> 00:26:37.872
Thanks again for your time.

694
00:26:37.872 --> 00:26:39.224
- Thank you Mrs. Erickson.

695
00:26:39.224 --> 00:26:41.631
The information you
shared was very valuable.

696
00:26:41.631 --> 00:26:42.464
- [Susan] No problem.

697
00:26:42.464 --> 00:26:43.697
- Renee, will you be sure to have

698
00:26:43.697 --> 00:26:46.488
my meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow?

699
00:26:46.488 --> 00:26:48.429
- Sure Mary, I will have

700
00:26:48.429 --> 00:26:51.929
your meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow.

701
00:26:58.436 --> 00:27:00.770
She aint the boss, but she
always tell me what to do.

702
00:27:00.770 --> 00:27:02.411
- Renee, Renee, you want

703
00:27:02.411 --> 00:27:04.002
to take a break and go get some lunch?

704
00:27:04.002 --> 00:27:08.293
- Sorry Ricky I have to work
on these meeting minutes.

705
00:27:08.293 --> 00:27:11.196
- Come on Renee, you gotta
take a break at some point.

706
00:27:11.196 --> 00:27:14.036
- I'm fasting and as a matter of fact,

707
00:27:14.036 --> 00:27:16.203
I'll be fasting all month.

708
00:27:19.289 --> 00:27:20.773
- Renee, right?

709
00:27:20.773 --> 00:27:22.021
- The one and only.

710
00:27:22.021 --> 00:27:23.529
- And you're Kelly's assistant, correct?

711
00:27:23.529 --> 00:27:24.516
- I sure am.

712
00:27:24.516 --> 00:27:25.349
- Great.

713
00:27:25.349 --> 00:27:26.829
I actually wanted to stop by next week

714
00:27:26.829 --> 00:27:27.726
when I'm in the area

715
00:27:27.726 --> 00:27:29.405
and drop her off some more brochures.

716
00:27:29.405 --> 00:27:32.182
So if you could fit me on her
schedule, that'd be perfect.

717
00:27:32.182 --> 00:27:34.747
- Okay, I'll take a look at her schedule

718
00:27:34.747 --> 00:27:38.734
and I'll contact you
with the time and date.

719
00:27:38.734 --> 00:27:39.816
- Well thank you.

720
00:27:39.816 --> 00:27:40.807
- Mhm.

721
00:27:40.807 --> 00:27:41.640
- Mhm.

722
00:27:45.799 --> 00:27:48.115
(Renee laughs)

723
00:27:48.115 --> 00:27:50.948
(cart clattering)

724
00:27:52.937 --> 00:27:55.195
- Hey, are you seriously
gonna let Gary sit over there

725
00:27:55.195 --> 00:27:56.381
and do nothing while we over working

726
00:27:56.381 --> 00:27:58.406
our butts like we crazy?

727
00:27:58.406 --> 00:27:59.445
- Crazy.

728
00:27:59.445 --> 00:28:01.989
- Well first of all we all know that Gary

729
00:28:01.989 --> 00:28:03.678
hurt his back not too long ago

730
00:28:03.678 --> 00:28:06.085
and he asked to be on
light duty for a while.

731
00:28:06.085 --> 00:28:07.080
That's it.

732
00:28:07.080 --> 00:28:09.079
- For a while, he been on light duty for,

733
00:28:09.079 --> 00:28:11.624
carry the two, for two and a half years.

734
00:28:11.624 --> 00:28:15.881
You know what, I hurt my back
too, I'm on light duty too.

735
00:28:15.881 --> 00:28:17.478
- Now see that's your problem Steve,

736
00:28:17.478 --> 00:28:18.762
you always trying to be funny.

737
00:28:18.762 --> 00:28:20.324
Its not the time right now.

738
00:28:20.324 --> 00:28:22.026
Now look, how about y'all stop crying

739
00:28:22.026 --> 00:28:23.446
and complaining all the time man,

740
00:28:23.446 --> 00:28:25.082
and just worry about
getting your own job done?

741
00:28:25.082 --> 00:28:27.674
Let's start with that.

742
00:28:27.674 --> 00:28:31.732
- Hey Stan, many hands
make light work, ya know?

743
00:28:31.732 --> 00:28:35.367
- Well we got many hands,
let's make light work.

744
00:28:35.367 --> 00:28:36.772
And you're out of uniform.

745
00:28:36.772 --> 00:28:38.439
- I'm on light duty.

746
00:28:43.065 --> 00:28:44.023
- Hey, its Stan.

747
00:28:44.023 --> 00:28:45.145
- Hey baby.

748
00:28:45.145 --> 00:28:46.499
- Hi, what's going on
with you baby, what's up?

749
00:28:46.499 --> 00:28:50.330
- Nothing, I tried to call
you a few times earlier today.

750
00:28:50.330 --> 00:28:52.648
- Yeah, its been a
little crazy around here,

751
00:28:52.648 --> 00:28:53.481
its been a little busy.

752
00:28:53.481 --> 00:28:54.314
- Oh.

753
00:28:54.314 --> 00:28:55.147
- Why, what's going on though, what's up?

754
00:28:55.147 --> 00:28:58.194
- Look I know you're busy so
I will make it quick okay, umm

755
00:28:58.194 --> 00:28:59.622
You know that lady I be listening to on

756
00:28:59.622 --> 00:29:01.536
the radio all the time, Minister Norton?

757
00:29:01.536 --> 00:29:03.883
- Nah, not really, why what's up with her?

758
00:29:03.883 --> 00:29:07.256
- Anyway, so the girls
are going to Chicago

759
00:29:07.256 --> 00:29:08.145
because she's going to be speaking

760
00:29:08.145 --> 00:29:10.459
at a women's conference
in a couple of weeks

761
00:29:10.459 --> 00:29:11.732
and they wanted me to go.

762
00:29:11.732 --> 00:29:15.252
So just wanted to clear it with you first.

763
00:29:15.252 --> 00:29:16.881
How long is that for Kelly?

764
00:29:16.881 --> 00:29:19.799
- We leaving on Wednesday
and coming back Sunday.

765
00:29:19.799 --> 00:29:21.720
- Hey, look, I don't know about that babe.

766
00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:23.218
- What do you mean you're not feeling it?

767
00:29:23.218 --> 00:29:24.455
- I mean what I said Kelly.

768
00:29:24.455 --> 00:29:27.394
Like that's five whole days
you're talking about being gone.

769
00:29:27.394 --> 00:29:29.086
Look babe, I'm a little busy right now.

770
00:29:29.086 --> 00:29:31.028
Can we please just talk about
this later when I get home?

771
00:29:31.028 --> 00:29:34.876
- Hold on, I was just
calling you to be respectful.

772
00:29:34.876 --> 00:29:36.644
I really don't have to
ask you for anything

773
00:29:36.644 --> 00:29:39.802
and furthermore, you
know what you sure right,

774
00:29:39.802 --> 00:29:41.584
yes, we can talk about it later.

775
00:29:41.584 --> 00:29:42.846
- All right babe, I love you.

776
00:29:42.846 --> 00:29:44.118
- Love you too.

777
00:29:44.118 --> 00:29:45.118
- All right.

778
00:29:47.718 --> 00:29:50.488
(phone clatters)

779
00:29:50.488 --> 00:29:51.774
- You're still going right?

780
00:29:51.774 --> 00:29:52.776
- Renee what are you doing

781
00:29:52.776 --> 00:29:54.128
ear hustling in on my conversation?

782
00:29:54.128 --> 00:29:56.690
- Sorry girl, anyway, I needed favor.

783
00:29:56.690 --> 00:29:58.293
- What is it, Renee?

784
00:29:58.293 --> 00:30:01.092
- Well, you know that guy I
was telling you about right?

785
00:30:01.092 --> 00:30:03.738
- Which one, and why do
you keep playing Rick?

786
00:30:03.738 --> 00:30:05.143
He seems like a really nice guy

787
00:30:05.143 --> 00:30:06.964
and I think he like
you for real, for real.

788
00:30:06.964 --> 00:30:08.941
- Who likes nice guys plus

789
00:30:08.941 --> 00:30:11.155
those the ones you gotta watch out for.

790
00:30:11.155 --> 00:30:12.240
- My God.

791
00:30:12.240 --> 00:30:16.576
- Anyway, I'm talking about
the one from Michigan.

792
00:30:16.576 --> 00:30:17.789
(women laughing)

793
00:30:17.789 --> 00:30:18.871
- [Kelly] Girl.

794
00:30:18.871 --> 00:30:20.202
- [Renee] You know what I told you.

795
00:30:20.202 --> 00:30:22.100
- Girl, what is it?

796
00:30:22.100 --> 00:30:25.946
- Well he asked me to go
out on a date with him,

797
00:30:25.946 --> 00:30:27.332
for his company party,

798
00:30:27.332 --> 00:30:31.652
so I'm just gonna need maybe
two, three days off tops.

799
00:30:31.652 --> 00:30:33.799
- Okay Renee seriously, going
forward you're gonna have

800
00:30:33.799 --> 00:30:36.544
to submit your time off
requests to human resources.

801
00:30:36.544 --> 00:30:39.629
- Why Kelly, you the
head of human resource.

802
00:30:39.629 --> 00:30:42.276
- I know Renee, look
I'm working on a new me

803
00:30:42.276 --> 00:30:44.695
and they have guidelines
that need to be followed.

804
00:30:44.695 --> 00:30:48.381
So we as in you, are
gonna have to follow them.

805
00:30:48.381 --> 00:30:51.019
- Wait a minute Kelly, I don't
know what's gotten into you,

806
00:30:51.019 --> 00:30:53.431
this has never been a problem before.

807
00:30:53.431 --> 00:30:55.426
- I know, and listen,

808
00:30:55.426 --> 00:30:56.839
please don't take it personal

809
00:30:56.839 --> 00:30:59.214
because I promise you its not like that.

810
00:30:59.214 --> 00:31:01.780
Look, I'm just trying to change okay,

811
00:31:01.780 --> 00:31:03.149
and I gotta do things different.

812
00:31:03.149 --> 00:31:03.982
- Change?

813
00:31:05.392 --> 00:31:07.783
I don't think I like
all this change Kelly,

814
00:31:07.783 --> 00:31:10.906
I don't know what's wrong with you lately,

815
00:31:10.906 --> 00:31:14.841
but friend to friend, I'm not liking it.

816
00:31:14.841 --> 00:31:19.344
I'm not liking it Kelly,
what's getting into you?

817
00:31:19.344 --> 00:31:22.364
- And we are back,
right here are Mix 99.5,

818
00:31:22.364 --> 00:31:24.153
the heart and soul of St. Louis,

819
00:31:24.153 --> 00:31:25.494
this is your host Dee Marie

820
00:31:25.494 --> 00:31:27.379
right here with Be The Voice Live

821
00:31:27.379 --> 00:31:28.543
and we are at the question

822
00:31:28.543 --> 00:31:30.092
and answer part of our program

823
00:31:30.092 --> 00:31:32.776
and it looks like we have
quite a few callers today.

824
00:31:32.776 --> 00:31:34.374
So we're gonna get right to it,

825
00:31:34.374 --> 00:31:37.385
caller number one, are you there?

826
00:31:37.385 --> 00:31:38.428
- [Woman] My name is Claire

827
00:31:38.428 --> 00:31:40.863
and I have a question for Minister Norton.

828
00:31:40.863 --> 00:31:43.851
- Praise God Claire,
what's your question today?

829
00:31:43.851 --> 00:31:45.154
- [Claire] My question is, my husband

830
00:31:45.154 --> 00:31:49.110
and I, we are, we were
high school sweethearts

831
00:31:49.110 --> 00:31:52.662
however when we got
married I wasn't saved.

832
00:31:52.662 --> 00:31:53.495
- Okay.

833
00:31:53.495 --> 00:31:55.350
- [Claire] My husband
still likes to party,

834
00:31:55.350 --> 00:31:57.340
he doesn't want to come to church with me,

835
00:31:57.340 --> 00:32:00.604
I just really feel that
we're unequally yoked.

836
00:32:00.604 --> 00:32:02.236
And I just want to know
if you have any type

837
00:32:02.236 --> 00:32:04.704
of advice that you could offer.

838
00:32:04.704 --> 00:32:06.463
- Fist I wanna say congratulations

839
00:32:06.463 --> 00:32:09.210
on accepting Jesus as your savior,

840
00:32:09.210 --> 00:32:11.913
that is absolutely the best decision

841
00:32:11.913 --> 00:32:13.374
that you could have made.

842
00:32:13.374 --> 00:32:16.486
Second, I want to
congratulate you on accepting

843
00:32:16.486 --> 00:32:19.471
your God given assignment
in your marriage,

844
00:32:19.471 --> 00:32:23.852
yes you are on assignment in
your marriage to be a light

845
00:32:23.852 --> 00:32:26.588
and be obedient to Gods word.

846
00:32:26.588 --> 00:32:31.174
Also you know part of
your assignment is to pray

847
00:32:31.174 --> 00:32:34.300
for your husband and his deliverance

848
00:32:34.300 --> 00:32:36.666
and then you also have an assignment

849
00:32:36.666 --> 00:32:39.660
to be the light to your husband.

850
00:32:39.660 --> 00:32:44.660
To be patient, to pray for
him and his deliverance,

851
00:32:44.732 --> 00:32:48.038
and then to take all of
your frustrations to God

852
00:32:48.038 --> 00:32:51.587
because truly he is the only one that

853
00:32:51.587 --> 00:32:55.130
can change your husbands heart, not you.

854
00:32:55.130 --> 00:32:58.377
Also I wanna recommend
that you read 1st Peter,

855
00:32:58.377 --> 00:33:02.210
Ch 3 and just meditate on that, okay?

856
00:33:04.038 --> 00:33:06.166
- [Claire] Thank you so
much Minister Norton.

857
00:33:06.166 --> 00:33:08.435
- Oh absolutely, its my pleasure.

858
00:33:08.435 --> 00:33:11.878
I also wanna recommend another
book, its an excellent book,

859
00:33:11.878 --> 00:33:15.683
its called Are You Really His Good Thing

860
00:33:15.683 --> 00:33:18.555
by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby.

861
00:33:18.555 --> 00:33:20.924
In that book is an entire section

862
00:33:20.924 --> 00:33:24.207
that is dedicated to
those sorts of situations

863
00:33:24.207 --> 00:33:26.766
and Claire I thank you
again for calling in

864
00:33:26.766 --> 00:33:28.627
and I hope that helps.

865
00:33:28.627 --> 00:33:29.766
- [Claire] Thank you so much.

866
00:33:29.766 --> 00:33:31.507
- Oh wonderful, God bless you.

867
00:33:31.507 --> 00:33:32.371
- [Claire] Thank you.

868
00:33:32.371 --> 00:33:34.067
- Minister Norton, that was awesome.

869
00:33:34.067 --> 00:33:34.927
- Praise God, praise God.

870
00:33:34.927 --> 00:33:35.804
- So it looks like we
still have some callers.

871
00:33:35.804 --> 00:33:36.637
- Okay, okay, wonderful.

872
00:33:36.637 --> 00:33:40.027
- That you can take so, caller
number two, are you there?

873
00:33:40.027 --> 00:33:41.996
(door knocks)

874
00:33:41.996 --> 00:33:43.075
- Who is it?

875
00:33:43.075 --> 00:33:45.320
- [Ebony] It's Ebony.

876
00:33:45.320 --> 00:33:47.181
- Give me a sec Ebony.

877
00:33:47.181 --> 00:33:49.357
- [Ebony] Kelly, open the door.

878
00:33:49.357 --> 00:33:50.357
- Oh my God.

879
00:33:54.417 --> 00:33:55.881
Hey Ebony.

880
00:33:55.881 --> 00:33:59.217
- Dang Kelly, what took you so long?

881
00:33:59.217 --> 00:34:03.549
- Girl I am so sorry,
but I've been very busy.

882
00:34:03.549 --> 00:34:07.484
- Busy getting lit, girl
and you didn't call me?

883
00:34:07.484 --> 00:34:09.709
What kind of friend are you?

884
00:34:09.709 --> 00:34:13.836
- Ebony girl, look, Stan
and his friends just left,

885
00:34:13.836 --> 00:34:16.009
they were here celebrating
a promotion he just got.

886
00:34:16.009 --> 00:34:18.011
- Please, Stan and his friends?

887
00:34:18.011 --> 00:34:20.090
They would be here
getting this mess up too.

888
00:34:20.090 --> 00:34:23.077
- Don't start with me,
I'm not in the mood, okay?

889
00:34:23.077 --> 00:34:25.860
- Kelly when are you gonna wake up?

890
00:34:25.860 --> 00:34:26.773
When are you gonna quit letting

891
00:34:26.773 --> 00:34:28.789
this man just walk all over you?

892
00:34:28.789 --> 00:34:31.228
- And what make you think he's
walking all over me Ebony?

893
00:34:31.228 --> 00:34:35.390
- First of all you been saved
going on four years now.

894
00:34:35.390 --> 00:34:38.179
This man aint thinking about
getting himself together.

895
00:34:38.179 --> 00:34:40.346
He's still drinking Kelly.

896
00:34:43.072 --> 00:34:44.720
Girl he smoke.

897
00:34:44.720 --> 00:34:47.252
I just ran into him in the club last week.

898
00:34:47.252 --> 00:34:48.330
Don't you think you deserve a man

899
00:34:48.330 --> 00:34:50.420
that's gonna live for God the way you are?

900
00:34:50.420 --> 00:34:52.842
- Yes, I deserve a man
that's living for God,

901
00:34:52.842 --> 00:34:56.106
but unfortunately I'm not
married to one right now.

902
00:34:56.106 --> 00:34:59.093
And anyway who's knows
what his future holds.

903
00:34:59.093 --> 00:35:00.826
- Girl, nothing.

904
00:35:00.826 --> 00:35:02.999
- Listen you right Ebony I've been saved

905
00:35:02.999 --> 00:35:04.336
for about four years now,

906
00:35:04.336 --> 00:35:06.359
but you know what I've
been doing the whole time?

907
00:35:06.359 --> 00:35:07.539
- Girl what?

908
00:35:07.539 --> 00:35:11.056
- I've been lipping God to my
husband, not living for God.

909
00:35:11.056 --> 00:35:12.243
- You've been doing what?

910
00:35:12.243 --> 00:35:13.610
(kelly chuckles)

911
00:35:13.610 --> 00:35:16.826
- Okay, so look the bible
says that we as wives

912
00:35:16.826 --> 00:35:20.451
are to draw our unsaved
husbands by the way we live,

913
00:35:20.451 --> 00:35:23.421
not by our words, but by our actions.

914
00:35:23.421 --> 00:35:27.159
- Girl you serious about this Jesus stuff.

915
00:35:27.159 --> 00:35:29.411
My girl is changing for real.

916
00:35:29.411 --> 00:35:30.819
- I am.

917
00:35:30.819 --> 00:35:33.808
I really am, I even have
an accountability partner

918
00:35:33.808 --> 00:35:36.045
that helps me out so much.

919
00:35:36.045 --> 00:35:37.456
- Well pray for your girl babe

920
00:35:37.456 --> 00:35:39.815
because I ain't no where near that point.

921
00:35:39.815 --> 00:35:42.231
- Trust me, I will.

922
00:35:42.231 --> 00:35:44.900
But look, I appreciate you coming over

923
00:35:44.900 --> 00:35:47.571
and seeing about little old me,

924
00:35:47.571 --> 00:35:50.683
but girl you see I got
all this work to do.

925
00:35:50.683 --> 00:35:53.872
- Girl look I was just coming
by to check on you boo.

926
00:35:53.872 --> 00:35:57.482
Make sure Stan aint have you
locked in no cage or nothing.

927
00:35:57.482 --> 00:35:59.584
But if you need anything call me okay?

928
00:35:59.584 --> 00:36:01.072
- Okay, I will.

929
00:36:01.072 --> 00:36:02.858
- Oh, Kelly.

930
00:36:02.858 --> 00:36:06.254
Julie invited me to some
conference thing, are you going?

931
00:36:06.254 --> 00:36:08.259
- Stan doesn't want me to go.

932
00:36:08.259 --> 00:36:10.119
- Stan don't want you
to go, wait a minute,

933
00:36:10.119 --> 00:36:13.524
so now think you his
daughter and not his wife?

934
00:36:13.524 --> 00:36:16.032
- No Ebony, he doesn't think that.

935
00:36:16.032 --> 00:36:19.741
Look all you need to
know, just understand,

936
00:36:19.741 --> 00:36:23.533
that I'm trying to draw
my husband by what I do.

937
00:36:23.533 --> 00:36:25.227
Not by what I say.

938
00:36:25.227 --> 00:36:28.609
- You know what Kelly, let
me tell you something baby.

939
00:36:28.609 --> 00:36:30.493
You already know me honey,

940
00:36:30.493 --> 00:36:34.176
I'll never understand nothing like that.

941
00:36:34.176 --> 00:36:35.676
I'm gone, call me.

942
00:36:36.622 --> 00:36:39.267
(dramatic music)

943
00:36:39.267 --> 00:36:41.415
- Oh my God, I can't believe
she's still mad at me.

944
00:36:41.415 --> 00:36:43.323
I need y'all to help me with this apology.

945
00:36:43.323 --> 00:36:45.733
Okay, okay, I can go in
there, I can go in there

946
00:36:45.733 --> 00:36:48.756
and I can just be like,
please, please, Kelly, please.

947
00:36:48.756 --> 00:36:50.253
- Nah, that's too much begging.

948
00:36:50.253 --> 00:36:51.192
- You right, you right.

949
00:36:51.192 --> 00:36:52.501
I'm not a beggar.

950
00:36:52.501 --> 00:36:55.169
I know I can just write
an old school letter,

951
00:36:55.169 --> 00:36:57.714
say I'm sorry and slip it under her door.

952
00:36:57.714 --> 00:37:00.433
- No, no, no, no, much too cowardly.

953
00:37:00.433 --> 00:37:01.515
Make it natural.

954
00:37:01.515 --> 00:37:03.339
- You right, cause I'm not a coward.

955
00:37:03.339 --> 00:37:06.943
I know, take her her
favorite cup of coffee

956
00:37:06.943 --> 00:37:08.538
and just apologize.

957
00:37:08.538 --> 00:37:12.714
old school, I'm sorry best friend, period.

958
00:37:12.714 --> 00:37:14.090
- [Woman] Yes, sounds good to me.

959
00:37:14.090 --> 00:37:15.048
- On my way.

960
00:37:15.048 --> 00:37:18.605
(dramatic music)

961
00:37:18.605 --> 00:37:19.438
Kelly.

962
00:37:21.088 --> 00:37:22.005
Hey friend.

963
00:37:22.984 --> 00:37:25.146
- Renee, what's going on?

964
00:37:25.146 --> 00:37:27.245
- I just wanted to apologize.

965
00:37:27.245 --> 00:37:29.454
You know, for the other day,

966
00:37:29.454 --> 00:37:32.951
the way I ran up out of
your office the other day.

967
00:37:32.951 --> 00:37:34.605
I don't want to seem unappreciative

968
00:37:34.605 --> 00:37:35.975
because I really do thank you

969
00:37:35.975 --> 00:37:38.532
for this opportunity
that you're giving me.

970
00:37:38.532 --> 00:37:40.573
It's just this new you,

971
00:37:40.573 --> 00:37:42.128
it's going to take some getting used to.

972
00:37:42.128 --> 00:37:45.959
Now I'm not going to say I
like it, but I do respect it.

973
00:37:45.959 --> 00:37:48.610
- Oh Renee, that's sweet, thank you.

974
00:37:48.610 --> 00:37:50.196
Apology accepted.

975
00:37:50.196 --> 00:37:51.542
- Awwee, so friends for life?

976
00:37:51.542 --> 00:37:53.798
- Of course, you know you're my girl.

977
00:37:53.798 --> 00:37:54.631
- All right.

978
00:37:54.631 --> 00:37:56.355
(Women kiss)

979
00:37:56.355 --> 00:37:59.037
- Girl, let me go and get back to work.

980
00:37:59.037 --> 00:38:00.080
- Please.

981
00:38:00.080 --> 00:38:01.373
- Now don't say it like that Kelly.

982
00:38:01.373 --> 00:38:03.693
Like I'm not the only one
around her doing all the work.

983
00:38:03.693 --> 00:38:04.698
I do everything, you don't want me

984
00:38:04.698 --> 00:38:07.781
to take no lunch, can't
eat my chicken, huhh

985
00:38:09.049 --> 00:38:11.037
Oh, I forgot to tell you Mrs. Erickson's

986
00:38:11.037 --> 00:38:13.084
out here to see you,
want me to send her in?

987
00:38:13.084 --> 00:38:14.346
- Yes please.

988
00:38:14.346 --> 00:38:15.951
- Okay.

989
00:38:15.951 --> 00:38:17.539
(Susan knocks)
- Hello.

990
00:38:17.539 --> 00:38:18.372
- [Kelly] Hi.

991
00:38:18.372 --> 00:38:19.205
- Hi.

992
00:38:19.205 --> 00:38:20.038
- [Kelly] How are you?

993
00:38:20.038 --> 00:38:20.996
- Good, and you?

994
00:38:20.996 --> 00:38:21.829
- Nice to see you again.

995
00:38:21.829 --> 00:38:23.249
- Same here.

996
00:38:23.249 --> 00:38:25.860
Thank you so much for fitting
me into your schedule.

997
00:38:25.860 --> 00:38:26.860
I know you're busy,

998
00:38:26.860 --> 00:38:28.367
but I'm wanting to definitely drop

999
00:38:28.367 --> 00:38:30.405
these brochures off as promised.

1000
00:38:30.405 --> 00:38:31.682
- Thank you.

1001
00:38:31.682 --> 00:38:32.775
I will get these to Renee

1002
00:38:32.775 --> 00:38:34.005
and make sure she puts them in

1003
00:38:34.005 --> 00:38:36.055
their mailboxes before this evening.

1004
00:38:36.055 --> 00:38:37.474
- Perfect.

1005
00:38:37.474 --> 00:38:38.500
Is this you and hubby?

1006
00:38:38.500 --> 00:38:40.301
- Yes, that is my baby.

1007
00:38:40.301 --> 00:38:42.384
- You guys look so happy.

1008
00:38:44.282 --> 00:38:45.512
How long have you been married?

1009
00:38:45.512 --> 00:38:47.013
- Seven years.

1010
00:38:47.013 --> 00:38:47.846
- Wow.

1011
00:38:48.984 --> 00:38:51.592
- I remember Scott and I were happy.

1012
00:38:51.592 --> 00:38:52.509
My, my, my.

1013
00:38:53.413 --> 00:38:55.410
How things change.

1014
00:38:55.410 --> 00:38:58.072
- Mrs. Erickson, are you okay?

1015
00:38:58.072 --> 00:39:02.489
- I'm fine, I'm sorry, and
please just call me Susan.

1016
00:39:03.983 --> 00:39:05.517
We're just going through
a divorce right now

1017
00:39:05.517 --> 00:39:07.096
and things are really hard

1018
00:39:07.096 --> 00:39:09.258
because we're still
living in the same home.

1019
00:39:09.258 --> 00:39:11.355
- I'm so sorry to hear that.

1020
00:39:11.355 --> 00:39:13.066
How long have you all been married?

1021
00:39:13.066 --> 00:39:15.346
- Four years and a day.

1022
00:39:15.346 --> 00:39:18.466
- Wait a minute, your
anniversary was yesterday?

1023
00:39:18.466 --> 00:39:19.299
- I shouldn't be bothering you

1024
00:39:19.299 --> 00:39:21.057
with my personal issues, I apologize.

1025
00:39:21.057 --> 00:39:22.477
- Susan, you are fine.

1026
00:39:22.477 --> 00:39:26.496
Listen, I believe nothing
happens by coincidence.

1027
00:39:26.496 --> 00:39:27.646
- Why do you say that?

1028
00:39:27.646 --> 00:39:28.775
Well, my girlfriends and I,

1029
00:39:28.775 --> 00:39:31.481
we started a wives' book club recently

1030
00:39:31.481 --> 00:39:34.513
and I would love to invite
you to the next one.

1031
00:39:34.513 --> 00:39:36.044
- I couldn't.

1032
00:39:36.044 --> 00:39:39.822
- Susan, listen, marriage is hard work.

1033
00:39:39.822 --> 00:39:41.244
That's why we started this book club.

1034
00:39:41.244 --> 00:39:43.662
So that we can hold
one another accountable

1035
00:39:43.662 --> 00:39:47.324
and encourage each other
and from the sound of it,

1036
00:39:47.324 --> 00:39:49.444
you don't want your marriage to end.

1037
00:39:49.444 --> 00:39:50.277
Why don't you think about it?

1038
00:39:50.277 --> 00:39:52.284
- I think it's a little too late for that.

1039
00:39:52.284 --> 00:39:53.422
- Trust me.

1040
00:39:53.422 --> 00:39:56.073
I think, I think it will help.

1041
00:39:56.073 --> 00:39:58.301
Have you heard of Minister Norton?

1042
00:39:58.301 --> 00:39:59.134
Tracy Norton?

1043
00:39:59.134 --> 00:40:01.382
- her name sounds familiar.

1044
00:40:01.382 --> 00:40:04.871
- Okay, so she has a podcast,
I listen to it all the time

1045
00:40:04.871 --> 00:40:07.575
and recently she recommended this book.

1046
00:40:07.575 --> 00:40:08.768
Are You Really His Good Thing

1047
00:40:08.768 --> 00:40:11.924
by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby.

1048
00:40:11.924 --> 00:40:14.494
I recommend you pick it
up and bring it with you

1049
00:40:14.494 --> 00:40:16.606
when you come to the book club.

1050
00:40:16.606 --> 00:40:19.728
- I'll think about it, I'll consider.

1051
00:40:19.728 --> 00:40:22.525
- Okay, well I'll text you the address

1052
00:40:22.525 --> 00:40:24.902
and I really, really hope you can make it.

1053
00:40:24.902 --> 00:40:26.568
I think it will help you.

1054
00:40:26.568 --> 00:40:27.476
- Thank you so much.

1055
00:40:27.476 --> 00:40:29.262
I really appreciate that.

1056
00:40:29.262 --> 00:40:32.520
- I know we just met,
but I'm here for you.

1057
00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:35.599
I can understand how
it could be, you know,

1058
00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:37.356
and I'll keep you in my prayers.

1059
00:40:37.356 --> 00:40:38.332
- Thank you so much.

1060
00:40:38.332 --> 00:40:39.165
- No problem.

1061
00:40:39.165 --> 00:40:40.101
You have a good day.

1062
00:40:40.101 --> 00:40:41.059
- Have a good one.

1063
00:40:41.059 --> 00:40:41.892
- [Kelly] You to.

1064
00:40:41.892 --> 00:40:42.975
- Thank you.

1065
00:40:45.261 --> 00:40:46.972
- Hey, what's up with
the Mrs. Business woman?

1066
00:40:46.972 --> 00:40:47.843
- Hi baby.

1067
00:40:47.843 --> 00:40:49.115
- What I gotta do, pull a number

1068
00:40:49.115 --> 00:40:51.294
or something just to speak to you?

1069
00:40:51.294 --> 00:40:52.127
you poppin' now

1070
00:40:52.127 --> 00:40:54.751
- Stop acting silly,
what are you doing here?

1071
00:40:54.751 --> 00:40:55.929
- Well since I was in the area,

1072
00:40:55.929 --> 00:40:58.287
I decided to stop by and
ask you on a date tonight.

1073
00:40:58.287 --> 00:41:01.276
- Stan, you know it's Friday,

1074
00:41:01.276 --> 00:41:05.609
I have church tonight and
we're handing out turkeys.

1075
00:41:06.556 --> 00:41:08.070
- See what I mean Kelly?

1076
00:41:08.070 --> 00:41:08.903
- [Kelly] What?

1077
00:41:08.903 --> 00:41:10.290
- Its like I got to pull a number just

1078
00:41:10.290 --> 00:41:12.009
to spend some time with my wife.

1079
00:41:12.009 --> 00:41:13.494
- Stan don't be like that.

1080
00:41:13.494 --> 00:41:16.098
Listen, I've been going to
Friday night service for years,

1081
00:41:16.098 --> 00:41:18.508
you know I don't like to miss it.

1082
00:41:18.508 --> 00:41:22.258
- I'm sorry that I even
came down to ask you.

1083
00:41:23.174 --> 00:41:24.341
- Really Stan?

1084
00:41:28.057 --> 00:41:31.724
Don't nothing and nobody
come before my God.

1085
00:41:34.038 --> 00:41:36.463
- Minister Norton you
are preaching here today.

1086
00:41:36.463 --> 00:41:38.985
You said something that was so profound,

1087
00:41:38.985 --> 00:41:43.794
you said that as wives our
first ministry is at home.

1088
00:41:43.794 --> 00:41:47.030
Can you please talk to our
listeners more about that?

1089
00:41:47.030 --> 00:41:48.962
- Absolutely, I would love to.

1090
00:41:48.962 --> 00:41:52.264
You know, we as women must realize

1091
00:41:52.264 --> 00:41:55.041
the season that we're in, in our lives.

1092
00:41:55.041 --> 00:41:58.186
If you are a married woman,
there's a season for you.

1093
00:41:58.186 --> 00:42:01.028
If you're unmarried,
there's a season for you.

1094
00:42:01.028 --> 00:42:04.096
In the Bible in 1st Corinthians 7:34,

1095
00:42:04.096 --> 00:42:07.953
it talks about the difference
between a wife and a Virgin.

1096
00:42:07.953 --> 00:42:11.244
And it says that the unmarried woman cares

1097
00:42:11.244 --> 00:42:14.971
about the things of God
and how she may be Holy,

1098
00:42:14.971 --> 00:42:17.640
both in body and in spirit.

1099
00:42:17.640 --> 00:42:19.642
But that the married woman,

1100
00:42:19.642 --> 00:42:22.942
she cares about the things for her husband

1101
00:42:22.942 --> 00:42:24.972
and how she may please him.

1102
00:42:24.972 --> 00:42:26.376
And I want to say something

1103
00:42:26.376 --> 00:42:28.543
to all of your listeners out there today.

1104
00:42:28.543 --> 00:42:32.460
I do not care what your
title is in the church.

1105
00:42:32.460 --> 00:42:34.502
I'm not concerned about that.

1106
00:42:34.502 --> 00:42:38.142
What I am concerned about
is that you are running

1107
00:42:38.142 --> 00:42:41.390
to the church every time
the doors swing open

1108
00:42:41.390 --> 00:42:42.702
and you're volunteering

1109
00:42:42.702 --> 00:42:46.292
for every opportunity that comes by you.

1110
00:42:46.292 --> 00:42:48.920
All the while you are neglecting

1111
00:42:48.920 --> 00:42:51.881
your family and your husband.

1112
00:42:51.881 --> 00:42:53.797
But your first ministry,

1113
00:42:53.797 --> 00:42:57.380
your first ministry is
at home, sweetheart.

1114
00:42:59.296 --> 00:43:00.296
- Oh my God.

1115
00:43:01.297 --> 00:43:02.697
I'm neglecting Stan.

1116
00:43:02.697 --> 00:43:05.447
(dramatic music)

1117
00:43:18.019 --> 00:43:19.635
I'm glad you're still here.

1118
00:43:19.635 --> 00:43:23.150
Look, I'm sorry, I change my mind.

1119
00:43:23.150 --> 00:43:26.114
I would love to go on a
date with you tonight.

1120
00:43:26.114 --> 00:43:27.438
- I'm good Kelly.

1121
00:43:27.438 --> 00:43:28.322
You can go ahead and pass out

1122
00:43:28.322 --> 00:43:29.480
your little turkeys or whatever

1123
00:43:29.480 --> 00:43:30.870
I don't want to
inconvenience you or nothing.

1124
00:43:30.870 --> 00:43:32.330
You got your little church thing going on,

1125
00:43:32.330 --> 00:43:33.676
so go ahead and do that, its cool.

1126
00:43:33.676 --> 00:43:35.900
- Baby I promise you it's fine, okay?

1127
00:43:35.900 --> 00:43:37.630
- Yeah alright.

1128
00:43:37.630 --> 00:43:39.218
- I love you.

1129
00:43:39.218 --> 00:43:40.051
- Yup.

1130
00:43:43.277 --> 00:43:44.194
- Mm mm mm.

1131
00:43:45.379 --> 00:43:48.129
Again, Holy spirit have your way.

1132
00:43:49.084 --> 00:43:50.834
- Yes, have your way.

1133
00:43:52.241 --> 00:43:54.479
- Renee, get back to work.

1134
00:43:54.479 --> 00:43:55.812
- I'm om lunch.

1135
00:43:57.633 --> 00:44:01.252
- Hey ladies, so we have a visitor.

1136
00:44:01.252 --> 00:44:03.554
- Everybody, this is my girl, Susan,

1137
00:44:03.554 --> 00:44:06.446
Susan, this Tasha, Candice, and Ebony,

1138
00:44:06.446 --> 00:44:07.431
and you already know Julie.

1139
00:44:07.431 --> 00:44:08.264
- Hi.

1140
00:44:08.264 --> 00:44:09.097
- Hey Susan.

1141
00:44:09.097 --> 00:44:09.930
- [Susan] Nice to meet you ladies.

1142
00:44:09.930 --> 00:44:10.763
- Hey.

1143
00:44:10.763 --> 00:44:12.121
- Thanks so much for
allowing me to join you all.

1144
00:44:12.121 --> 00:44:14.180
I've actually never been
to anything like this,

1145
00:44:14.180 --> 00:44:16.476
so I don't really know what to expect.

1146
00:44:16.476 --> 00:44:18.109
- Girl, let me warn, you can expect

1147
00:44:18.109 --> 00:44:19.773
a whole lot a bougieness.

1148
00:44:19.773 --> 00:44:21.896
- Cut it out Ebony.

1149
00:44:21.896 --> 00:44:24.263
Susan please don't pay her any attention.

1150
00:44:24.263 --> 00:44:27.446
But its okay, we're just
glad that you could make it.

1151
00:44:27.446 --> 00:44:29.474
Actually we're just about to get started,

1152
00:44:29.474 --> 00:44:32.413
so feel free to listen
in or if you wanna jump

1153
00:44:32.413 --> 00:44:34.532
in at any moment feel free to do so.

1154
00:44:34.532 --> 00:44:35.365
- Thank you.

1155
00:44:35.365 --> 00:44:36.607
- Yeah.

1156
00:44:36.607 --> 00:44:40.099
All right ladies, so go ahead
and make yourself comfortable.

1157
00:44:40.099 --> 00:44:42.374
All right ladies so we are on chapter two,

1158
00:44:43.391 --> 00:44:44.224
romance and riches.

1159
00:44:45.729 --> 00:44:47.319
- [Woman] Yes honey.

1160
00:44:47.319 --> 00:44:49.553
- Okay, so Susan, what we do is we read

1161
00:44:49.553 --> 00:44:51.384
a chapter of the book each week.

1162
00:44:51.384 --> 00:44:53.177
At the end of each chapter,

1163
00:44:53.177 --> 00:44:54.823
there are little things that you can do

1164
00:44:54.823 --> 00:44:57.561
to enhance your marriage, you know.

1165
00:44:57.561 --> 00:45:00.186
We come back together, sitting like so,

1166
00:45:00.186 --> 00:45:01.773
and each lady gets a chance to talk

1167
00:45:01.773 --> 00:45:03.583
about what she got out of that chapter.

1168
00:45:03.583 --> 00:45:04.796
- Okay, great.

1169
00:45:04.796 --> 00:45:05.909
I'm just listening.

1170
00:45:05.909 --> 00:45:07.244
- Oh, that's fine.

1171
00:45:07.244 --> 00:45:09.338
All right, so we'll go ahead
and begin with you Tasha.

1172
00:45:09.338 --> 00:45:10.849
What'd you get out of this chapter?

1173
00:45:10.849 --> 00:45:13.501
- Okay well, this chapter
actually helped me a lot.

1174
00:45:13.501 --> 00:45:14.409
In this section she focused

1175
00:45:14.409 --> 00:45:18.115
on making her obligation as
a wife, our first priority,

1176
00:45:18.115 --> 00:45:20.105
over everything we have going on

1177
00:45:20.105 --> 00:45:22.167
and you all know I have a lot going on.

1178
00:45:22.167 --> 00:45:23.817
(group agreeing)

1179
00:45:23.817 --> 00:45:25.115
Whatever.

1180
00:45:25.115 --> 00:45:26.856
There was one thing that really stood out

1181
00:45:26.856 --> 00:45:29.796
to me in this section
and I highlighted it.

1182
00:45:29.796 --> 00:45:31.897
The enemy will play on your emotions.

1183
00:45:31.897 --> 00:45:33.545
And have you thinking that withholding sex

1184
00:45:33.545 --> 00:45:36.384
from your husband will teach him a lesson,

1185
00:45:36.384 --> 00:45:38.025
but she pointed out that in the bible,

1186
00:45:38.025 --> 00:45:39.967
it states that by withholding sex,

1187
00:45:39.967 --> 00:45:42.369
we're actually placing
them in a tempting state.

1188
00:45:42.369 --> 00:45:43.318
- Whoa, wait a minute.

1189
00:45:43.318 --> 00:45:45.097
What about the wives that don't withhold

1190
00:45:45.097 --> 00:45:47.649
from their husbands and
he still ain't no good?

1191
00:45:47.649 --> 00:45:49.354
And out here giving his baby mama money

1192
00:45:49.354 --> 00:45:50.404
that we aint even got?

1193
00:45:50.404 --> 00:45:51.684
- Ebony.

1194
00:45:51.684 --> 00:45:54.516
Come on, that's not the
focus right now, okay?

1195
00:45:54.516 --> 00:45:56.636
We'll deal with that in
another subject girl.

1196
00:45:56.636 --> 00:45:58.146
- Positive vibes only Ebony.

1197
00:45:58.146 --> 00:46:00.484
- Girl didn't I tell you,
a whole lot of bougieness.

1198
00:46:00.484 --> 00:46:05.143
- Anyways, Tasha that was
really good, and you know what?

1199
00:46:05.143 --> 00:46:07.975
That was certainly a word for me.

1200
00:46:07.975 --> 00:46:09.295
Ebony.

1201
00:46:09.295 --> 00:46:11.987
What'd you get out of this week's chapter?

1202
00:46:11.987 --> 00:46:13.908
- skip me, I wasn't feeling it this week.

1203
00:46:13.908 --> 00:46:14.866
- Ebony.

1204
00:46:14.866 --> 00:46:17.417
- Girl look, I be doing all this stuff

1205
00:46:17.417 --> 00:46:19.885
and he act like he still
don't see me changing.

1206
00:46:19.885 --> 00:46:22.755
And you already know, I'm not
about to be nobody's fool.

1207
00:46:22.755 --> 00:46:25.005
- Ebony, look we all agreed

1208
00:46:25.925 --> 00:46:28.204
that we were gonna take this seriously.

1209
00:46:28.204 --> 00:46:31.193
This is not a journey
that you can take lightly.

1210
00:46:31.193 --> 00:46:32.788
Look, we ought to be this way

1211
00:46:32.788 --> 00:46:35.610
as wives whether they notice it or not.

1212
00:46:35.610 --> 00:46:37.636
I mean because, we're not doing

1213
00:46:37.636 --> 00:46:41.300
this unto them, we're doing it unto God.

1214
00:46:41.300 --> 00:46:42.402
- You know what?

1215
00:46:42.402 --> 00:46:43.760
We already said it before,

1216
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:46.269
let's say it on the count of three again.

1217
00:46:46.269 --> 00:46:48.375
One, two, three.

1218
00:46:48.375 --> 00:46:51.068
- [All] We're doing this unto God.

1219
00:46:51.068 --> 00:46:54.413
- Yes, okay ladies let's get
back to our book discussion.

1220
00:46:54.413 --> 00:46:55.371
- Thank you Candice.

1221
00:46:55.371 --> 00:46:57.010
- So in section three she talks about

1222
00:46:57.010 --> 00:46:59.224
being good managers of our homes

1223
00:46:59.224 --> 00:47:00.985
and a good example she wrote about

1224
00:47:00.985 --> 00:47:03.311
was the husband being the thermometer

1225
00:47:03.311 --> 00:47:05.772
and the wives being the thermostat.

1226
00:47:05.772 --> 00:47:09.215
Now the thermometer, it just reacts

1227
00:47:09.215 --> 00:47:11.511
to what's happening around it right,

1228
00:47:11.511 --> 00:47:14.028
but that thermostat, that thermostat

1229
00:47:14.028 --> 00:47:16.428
it monitors the environment.

1230
00:47:16.428 --> 00:47:18.578
And if it gets to hot or to cold

1231
00:47:18.578 --> 00:47:22.278
it decides what to do to
correct the situation.

1232
00:47:22.278 --> 00:47:23.944
- [Woman] Girl now that's good.

1233
00:47:23.944 --> 00:47:25.657
- No it really is good, though

1234
00:47:25.657 --> 00:47:27.157
because when he comes home with

1235
00:47:27.157 --> 00:47:30.062
an attitude I instantly get one too.

1236
00:47:30.062 --> 00:47:32.388
Look, I don't care what
you've been through today,

1237
00:47:32.388 --> 00:47:35.257
don't walk up in my
house with an attitude.

1238
00:47:35.257 --> 00:47:36.923
- Now that's what I'm talking about boo.

1239
00:47:36.923 --> 00:47:38.250
- [Woman] No.

1240
00:47:38.250 --> 00:47:40.792
- I'm saying that's how
I used to react to it.

1241
00:47:40.792 --> 00:47:43.959
But now I see that I am the thermostat

1242
00:47:45.342 --> 00:47:47.921
and I can just adjust the temperature

1243
00:47:47.921 --> 00:47:49.457
in the environment baby.

1244
00:47:49.457 --> 00:47:51.977
(women cheers)

1245
00:47:51.977 --> 00:47:54.125
- Can I just cut in here
ladies and say something?

1246
00:47:54.125 --> 00:47:55.992
- Sure, go ahead.

1247
00:47:55.992 --> 00:47:59.495
- First of all, what you all
are doing here is amazing.

1248
00:47:59.495 --> 00:48:00.722
I mean, I really wish that

1249
00:48:00.722 --> 00:48:03.218
I had met you guys before Scott

1250
00:48:03.218 --> 00:48:05.537
and I got on this page in our marriage.

1251
00:48:05.537 --> 00:48:06.935
- Sweetheart, look, if you want

1252
00:48:06.935 --> 00:48:09.026
your marriage to work, it can,

1253
00:48:09.026 --> 00:48:11.147
nothing is too hard for God.

1254
00:48:11.147 --> 00:48:13.189
- And I know, but you know,

1255
00:48:13.189 --> 00:48:16.290
Scott and I are going
through a divorce right now.

1256
00:48:16.290 --> 00:48:19.097
And honestly, I'm just listening

1257
00:48:19.097 --> 00:48:21.882
for when God gives me an instruction

1258
00:48:21.882 --> 00:48:24.318
and blesses me with my next husband.

1259
00:48:24.318 --> 00:48:26.261
- Your next husband?

1260
00:48:26.261 --> 00:48:27.858
- Baby, cause he would
give you another one honey.

1261
00:48:27.858 --> 00:48:28.997
- Stop it girl.

1262
00:48:28.997 --> 00:48:31.347
- Susan you married to Scott right now.

1263
00:48:31.347 --> 00:48:33.486
That should be your focus.

1264
00:48:33.486 --> 00:48:36.258
Why is it that we could trust God,

1265
00:48:36.258 --> 00:48:38.405
you know, for jobs, you know,

1266
00:48:38.405 --> 00:48:41.707
we can trust him to watch
over and save our kids,

1267
00:48:41.707 --> 00:48:44.638
heal our bodies, but when
it comes to relationships,

1268
00:48:44.638 --> 00:48:46.952
most importantly, our marriage,

1269
00:48:46.952 --> 00:48:48.991
we don't believe that he could fix it.

1270
00:48:48.991 --> 00:48:51.241
Girl, God can fix anything.

1271
00:48:52.845 --> 00:48:53.806
- [Woman] That's right.

1272
00:48:53.806 --> 00:48:56.219
- All he needs is a willing vessel,

1273
00:48:56.219 --> 00:49:00.363
a yielded vessel in your house
in order for him to work.

1274
00:49:00.363 --> 00:49:02.318
Trust me, I know.

1275
00:49:02.318 --> 00:49:04.430
- [Woman] That's good.

1276
00:49:04.430 --> 00:49:08.729
- I honestly do want our marriage to work.

1277
00:49:08.729 --> 00:49:11.444
I just don't think it can in this state.

1278
00:49:11.444 --> 00:49:13.233
- Oh my God.

1279
00:49:13.233 --> 00:49:15.706
- Honey have y'all tried counseling?

1280
00:49:15.706 --> 00:49:19.402
- Listen, this church,
the pastor and his wife,

1281
00:49:19.402 --> 00:49:22.260
they hold these marriage
sessions every month called

1282
00:49:22.260 --> 00:49:24.586
Marriage Works If You Work It.

1283
00:49:24.586 --> 00:49:27.003
I really think you should go.

1284
00:49:27.889 --> 00:49:28.775
- And the pastor also has

1285
00:49:28.775 --> 00:49:29.796
a book out now called

1286
00:49:29.796 --> 00:49:32.455
The Marriage Cup and The
Covenant, Kelly did you read it?

1287
00:49:32.455 --> 00:49:34.845
- I did, I've been trying to
get Stan to read it with me,

1288
00:49:34.845 --> 00:49:37.650
but you know how that is.

1289
00:49:37.650 --> 00:49:39.164
- Do they do counseling at all?

1290
00:49:39.164 --> 00:49:41.051
- You know what I believe they do,

1291
00:49:41.051 --> 00:49:42.494
but I'll find out for you.

1292
00:49:42.494 --> 00:49:43.585
- Please do.

1293
00:49:43.585 --> 00:49:44.810
- Okay.

1294
00:49:44.810 --> 00:49:46.196
It's going to be all right girl.

1295
00:49:46.196 --> 00:49:49.029
(dramatic music)

1296
00:49:52.071 --> 00:49:55.038
Welcome home Mr. Stevenson.

1297
00:49:55.038 --> 00:49:58.304
- Hey now, that's sexy right there.

1298
00:49:58.304 --> 00:50:00.868
- You talking about the food or me baby?

1299
00:50:00.868 --> 00:50:03.886
- Most definitely not the food.

1300
00:50:03.886 --> 00:50:05.053
- Bonappetit.

1301
00:50:06.151 --> 00:50:08.314
- Now look, Kelly, I could
get used to this right here.

1302
00:50:08.314 --> 00:50:09.147
- Oh yeah?

1303
00:50:09.147 --> 00:50:10.020
- Yeah.

1304
00:50:10.020 --> 00:50:12.359
- Well good because I just wanted

1305
00:50:12.359 --> 00:50:16.705
a nice romantic dinner
with my husband tonight.

1306
00:50:16.705 --> 00:50:17.652
- I'm a tell you what, let me get out

1307
00:50:17.652 --> 00:50:21.118
of these sweaty gym clothes,
and I'm a be back to join.

1308
00:50:21.118 --> 00:50:23.400
- Okay, you better hurry up.

1309
00:50:23.400 --> 00:50:25.301
- I'm coming, believe that,

1310
00:50:25.301 --> 00:50:28.051
(Kelly chuckles)

1311
00:50:30.836 --> 00:50:33.122
I don't know what got into her

1312
00:50:33.122 --> 00:50:36.496
but what ever it is I'm most definitely

1313
00:50:36.496 --> 00:50:39.121
about to take advantage
of it, I know that much.

1314
00:50:39.121 --> 00:50:40.502
(computer clicks)

1315
00:50:40.502 --> 00:50:43.252
(dramatic music)

1316
00:50:52.834 --> 00:50:54.427
- Baby what are you doing?

1317
00:50:54.427 --> 00:50:56.618
You're supposed to be in the shower.

1318
00:50:56.618 --> 00:50:57.704
- Well you know I was planning on getting

1319
00:50:57.704 --> 00:50:59.410
into the shower until I seen

1320
00:50:59.410 --> 00:51:01.854
that all our money is
going down the drain.

1321
00:51:01.854 --> 00:51:03.614
Kelly what is this?

1322
00:51:03.614 --> 00:51:05.339
- Baby, they're small tithes
and offering statements,

1323
00:51:05.339 --> 00:51:07.298
put that down okay.

1324
00:51:07.298 --> 00:51:09.686
I'm in here waiting on you.

1325
00:51:09.686 --> 00:51:11.007
- Are you telling me that you

1326
00:51:11.007 --> 00:51:13.359
are giving this church this much money?

1327
00:51:13.359 --> 00:51:17.034
- Stan, I pay my Tithes,
and I give a little

1328
00:51:17.034 --> 00:51:19.347
more tithes and offering,
why are you tripping?

1329
00:51:19.347 --> 00:51:21.140
- Why am I tripping?

1330
00:51:21.140 --> 00:51:22.515
Kelly this statement
say that you been giving

1331
00:51:22.515 --> 00:51:26.183
that church over $10,000 within a year.

1332
00:51:26.183 --> 00:51:27.940
What is wrong with you?

1333
00:51:27.940 --> 00:51:29.319
You lost your mind or something?

1334
00:51:29.319 --> 00:51:31.760
- Baby you really need
to calm down for real.

1335
00:51:31.760 --> 00:51:35.410
Look, I got dinner ready, come on boo.

1336
00:51:35.410 --> 00:51:37.015
- Like some thing is
certainly wrong with you,

1337
00:51:37.015 --> 00:51:39.543
like them people got you brain washed.

1338
00:51:39.543 --> 00:51:41.238
Do you know that you
living in an apartment

1339
00:51:41.238 --> 00:51:42.169
but I you that little preacher,

1340
00:51:42.169 --> 00:51:43.887
he got a nice little lavish home

1341
00:51:43.887 --> 00:51:46.858
with nice cars and taking
care of his family.

1342
00:51:46.858 --> 00:51:48.383
But you giving him all our money.

1343
00:51:48.383 --> 00:51:49.292
- I'm not about to go back

1344
00:51:49.292 --> 00:51:51.792
and forth with you about
no tithes and offerings.

1345
00:51:51.792 --> 00:51:54.125
You don't even go to church.

1346
00:51:56.505 --> 00:51:58.869
Stan I went and dressed sexy for you,

1347
00:51:58.869 --> 00:52:01.017
I went and got sushi for god sakes,

1348
00:52:01.017 --> 00:52:02.709
trying to set up this
whole romantic evening

1349
00:52:02.709 --> 00:52:04.867
and you wanna sit up and
argue about some tithes

1350
00:52:04.867 --> 00:52:07.436
and offerings, you are unbelievable.

1351
00:52:07.436 --> 00:52:08.306
I can't believe you.

1352
00:52:08.306 --> 00:52:10.386
- Now see typical Kelly, you always try

1353
00:52:10.386 --> 00:52:12.159
to make it like I'm tripping or something,

1354
00:52:12.159 --> 00:52:13.647
well you aint gonna get it off this time

1355
00:52:13.647 --> 00:52:16.684
cause at the end of the
day Kelly, you were wrong.

1356
00:52:16.684 --> 00:52:18.567
You act a complete fool when I go out

1357
00:52:18.567 --> 00:52:21.977
to spend some money, its
always we're on a budget,

1358
00:52:21.977 --> 00:52:23.596
we can't spend too much money here.

1359
00:52:23.596 --> 00:52:26.869
I see why now Kelly, cause you
spending it at that church.

1360
00:52:26.869 --> 00:52:30.073
- Baby you are not about
to make me feel guilty

1361
00:52:30.073 --> 00:52:32.771
about my obedience to God, okay.

1362
00:52:32.771 --> 00:52:35.646
You kill me Stan when you want prayer or

1363
00:52:35.646 --> 00:52:38.021
you want God's favor to help
get your out of some trouble,

1364
00:52:38.021 --> 00:52:40.607
then it all good, but
the moment God requires

1365
00:52:40.607 --> 00:52:44.891
something from you like
money, now its a problem.

1366
00:52:44.891 --> 00:52:47.693
And he the one that blessed
you with it in the first place.

1367
00:52:47.693 --> 00:52:49.254
- Wow.

1368
00:52:49.254 --> 00:52:51.997
So instead of you understanding
where I'm coming from

1369
00:52:51.997 --> 00:52:52.830
you're really going to sit

1370
00:52:52.830 --> 00:52:55.552
over there and defend this foolishness?

1371
00:52:55.552 --> 00:52:59.094
Kelly, I don't get you like, I don't.

1372
00:52:59.094 --> 00:53:01.385
- I don't want to do this tonight okay.

1373
00:53:01.385 --> 00:53:03.901
We were having such a nice evening.

1374
00:53:03.901 --> 00:53:07.484
Can we please just finish what we started?

1375
00:53:08.326 --> 00:53:10.630
We have a long day tomorrow

1376
00:53:10.630 --> 00:53:13.459
and I just want to enjoy this night

1377
00:53:13.459 --> 00:53:15.507
and not let this ruin it.

1378
00:53:15.507 --> 00:53:17.254
- Well, it's too late for that.

1379
00:53:17.254 --> 00:53:19.437
It's certainly been ruined.

1380
00:53:19.437 --> 00:53:21.443
- Stan are you serious?

1381
00:53:21.443 --> 00:53:23.075
- As a heart attack.

1382
00:53:23.075 --> 00:53:24.825
I'll be on the couch.

1383
00:53:25.990 --> 00:53:28.573
(upbeat music)

1384
00:53:33.208 --> 00:53:34.878
- Look at this.

1385
00:53:34.878 --> 00:53:36.795
Girl look, come on now.

1386
00:53:38.223 --> 00:53:39.723
- Lord have mercy.

1387
00:53:40.603 --> 00:53:41.867
Smell like your mamas, and grandmas,

1388
00:53:41.867 --> 00:53:44.337
and auntie, and all them been
in here cooking with y'all.

1389
00:53:44.337 --> 00:53:45.441
- Hey, hey you funny man,

1390
00:53:45.441 --> 00:53:47.452
but hurry up with that
sweet potato though.

1391
00:53:47.452 --> 00:53:48.410
- At your service.

1392
00:53:48.410 --> 00:53:49.410
- Thank you.

1393
00:53:50.850 --> 00:53:52.552
- Hey everyone.

1394
00:53:52.552 --> 00:53:53.552
- Hey Tasha.

1395
00:53:55.516 --> 00:53:56.349
- What's up, what's up big man.

1396
00:53:56.349 --> 00:53:58.495
- What's up man.

1397
00:53:58.495 --> 00:54:01.423
- Everything looks so
good, and smells so nice.

1398
00:54:01.423 --> 00:54:04.479
- [Julie] Thank you girl,
you knew we try honey.

1399
00:54:04.479 --> 00:54:07.022
- Yo, yo, yo, what up with it family.

1400
00:54:07.022 --> 00:54:09.284
- What's going on people.

1401
00:54:09.284 --> 00:54:10.519
- Hey yo, hey J dude.

1402
00:54:10.519 --> 00:54:11.352
- Yes sir?

1403
00:54:11.352 --> 00:54:12.617
- So I hear that the turkey that you got

1404
00:54:12.617 --> 00:54:15.454
is supposed have me biting my fingers off.

1405
00:54:15.454 --> 00:54:17.370
Well I'm here to be the judge of that.

1406
00:54:17.370 --> 00:54:19.252
- Yeah cause you know me big J.

1407
00:54:19.252 --> 00:54:21.917
I'm ready, I got a big
old healthy appetite.

1408
00:54:21.917 --> 00:54:23.274
- Five to ten minutes and guess what?

1409
00:54:23.274 --> 00:54:24.107
- What's up?

1410
00:54:24.107 --> 00:54:27.050
- Y'all are gonna be, tasting greatness.

1411
00:54:27.050 --> 00:54:28.238
You feel what I'm saying?

1412
00:54:28.238 --> 00:54:29.970
(men chatters)

1413
00:54:29.970 --> 00:54:32.556
Hey but, he Stan, is Scott coming or what?

1414
00:54:32.556 --> 00:54:35.029
- Nah man, no Scott man,
you know what I'm saying.

1415
00:54:35.029 --> 00:54:37.153
Him and his wife, they're
going through it right now,

1416
00:54:37.153 --> 00:54:38.384
he thought it was gonna
be a lil fellas night,

1417
00:54:38.384 --> 00:54:40.469
but when I told him it
was a couples thing,

1418
00:54:40.469 --> 00:54:42.787
he was Like ah, he'll pass.

1419
00:54:42.787 --> 00:54:45.870
- Ladies, come help me set the table.

1420
00:54:46.770 --> 00:54:49.776
- We don't want you doing
anything, we got it girl.

1421
00:54:49.776 --> 00:54:50.609
- Right.

1422
00:54:50.609 --> 00:54:51.526
- Let's go.

1423
00:54:56.723 --> 00:54:58.105
- Now James, look.

1424
00:54:58.105 --> 00:55:00.601
I aint gonna lie, I still got my fingers

1425
00:55:00.601 --> 00:55:03.491
but that turkey was good though.

1426
00:55:03.491 --> 00:55:04.800
- Thank you.

1427
00:55:04.800 --> 00:55:07.030
- Everything was absolutely amazing.

1428
00:55:07.030 --> 00:55:08.110
- [Man] True that, true that.

1429
00:55:08.110 --> 00:55:11.725
- But it is my favorite
part of the evening.

1430
00:55:11.725 --> 00:55:14.077
We're about to play a new game

1431
00:55:14.077 --> 00:55:16.752
and its inspired by the newly wed game.

1432
00:55:16.752 --> 00:55:18.417
Just a little bit different, right babe?

1433
00:55:18.417 --> 00:55:21.149
- That's right, check this
out, so real simple game.

1434
00:55:21.149 --> 00:55:23.609
Each couple gets a note card, okay.

1435
00:55:23.609 --> 00:55:26.864
Now women, you're going to
have the note cards first.

1436
00:55:26.864 --> 00:55:29.466
We got men and women on
opposite sides of the table.

1437
00:55:29.466 --> 00:55:31.359
Just to make things a
little more interesting.

1438
00:55:31.359 --> 00:55:32.390
- [Man] All right.

1439
00:55:32.390 --> 00:55:35.131
- All right, we're going
to ask 10 questions.

1440
00:55:35.131 --> 00:55:36.368
After those 10 questions,

1441
00:55:36.368 --> 00:55:37.280
ladies, you're going to write down

1442
00:55:37.280 --> 00:55:39.616
what you think your husband would answer.

1443
00:55:39.616 --> 00:55:40.509
- [Woman] Okay.

1444
00:55:40.509 --> 00:55:42.307
- Men, you give the answer

1445
00:55:42.307 --> 00:55:45.344
and ladies we'll see how
well you know your man.

1446
00:55:45.344 --> 00:55:46.251
- We got it babes, we got it.

1447
00:55:46.251 --> 00:55:47.084
- We got this.

1448
00:55:47.084 --> 00:55:47.917
- Simple enough, right?

1449
00:55:47.917 --> 00:55:48.750
- Absolutely.

1450
00:55:48.750 --> 00:55:49.583
- Well let's get started.

1451
00:55:49.583 --> 00:55:51.798
(group chattering)

1452
00:55:51.798 --> 00:55:53.974
- All right, y'all ready?

1453
00:55:53.974 --> 00:55:55.845
- Question number one.

1454
00:55:55.845 --> 00:55:58.845
When and where did y'all first kiss?

1455
00:56:01.283 --> 00:56:02.361
- Easy one.

1456
00:56:02.361 --> 00:56:03.216
- Come on.

1457
00:56:03.216 --> 00:56:04.049
- Let's start with Henry.

1458
00:56:04.049 --> 00:56:04.882
- Yeah let's start with him.

1459
00:56:04.882 --> 00:56:05.715
- Yeah that's easy.

1460
00:56:05.715 --> 00:56:06.548
- Okay.

1461
00:56:06.548 --> 00:56:08.628
- In the bat-mobile on her lunch break.

1462
00:56:08.628 --> 00:56:11.378
(group laughing)

1463
00:56:13.041 --> 00:56:16.208
- Girl you was getting it in on break?

1464
00:56:17.798 --> 00:56:19.510
- Go ahead and reveal your answer.

1465
00:56:19.510 --> 00:56:21.424
- He is correct.

1466
00:56:21.424 --> 00:56:24.007
(group laughs)

1467
00:56:28.291 --> 00:56:32.453
- Well for us it was the
first day that we met.

1468
00:56:32.453 --> 00:56:35.703
- Dang, my girls are some undercovers.

1469
00:56:37.171 --> 00:56:39.705
- Slow up Ebony because it was actually

1470
00:56:39.705 --> 00:56:42.456
a week after we met at my house.

1471
00:56:42.456 --> 00:56:44.970
- Girl please, same difference.

1472
00:56:44.970 --> 00:56:46.339
- Girl stop it.

1473
00:56:46.339 --> 00:56:50.256
- Come to think of it,
I think I remember that.

1474
00:56:51.568 --> 00:56:56.568
- Okay, okay, listen, listen,
Donte, what you got to say?

1475
00:56:56.784 --> 00:56:57.617
- Oh yeah.

1476
00:56:59.030 --> 00:57:00.494
Under the mistletoe.

1477
00:57:00.494 --> 00:57:01.827
- [Woman] What?

1478
00:57:01.827 --> 00:57:04.994
- At my family's annual holiday party.

1479
00:57:06.496 --> 00:57:07.329
- The mistletoe.

1480
00:57:07.329 --> 00:57:09.833
- You ole romantic fellow, you.

1481
00:57:09.833 --> 00:57:12.224
- I will never forget that day.

1482
00:57:12.224 --> 00:57:13.641
- Oh my goodness.

1483
00:57:15.763 --> 00:57:18.200
- Okay, Antwan, what about you?

1484
00:57:18.200 --> 00:57:19.112
- [Antwan] Oh me?

1485
00:57:19.112 --> 00:57:19.945
- Yeah.

1486
00:57:19.945 --> 00:57:21.362
- I have no idea.

1487
00:57:22.294 --> 00:57:23.542
- Really?

1488
00:57:23.542 --> 00:57:26.109
This guy here, Ebony what did you write?

1489
00:57:26.109 --> 00:57:27.694
- I knew this fool didn't knew

1490
00:57:27.694 --> 00:57:30.944
but yall may as well gone
and give us our point.

1491
00:57:32.064 --> 00:57:33.072
- Clueless.

1492
00:57:33.072 --> 00:57:34.464
(group laughing)

1493
00:57:34.464 --> 00:57:35.580
- She the one that didn't know.

1494
00:57:35.580 --> 00:57:38.057
- You know what, while we're
here, just go on and tell us

1495
00:57:38.057 --> 00:57:39.109
when and where it was.

1496
00:57:39.109 --> 00:57:40.332
- Right here.

1497
00:57:40.332 --> 00:57:43.374
- I couldn't tell you when
and where it was neither.

1498
00:57:43.374 --> 00:57:44.207
- My God.

1499
00:57:44.207 --> 00:57:47.230
- Wait a minute, y'all not participating?

1500
00:57:47.230 --> 00:57:48.635
- No, we're hosting.

1501
00:57:48.635 --> 00:57:49.624
- So sweet.

1502
00:57:49.624 --> 00:57:52.786
- Anyway, all right next question.

1503
00:57:52.786 --> 00:57:56.580
What one word best describes
you in the morning,

1504
00:57:56.580 --> 00:58:01.580
and remember gentlemen, its
what she would say about you.

1505
00:58:01.780 --> 00:58:05.057
All right, this time we're
gonna start with Antwan.

1506
00:58:05.057 --> 00:58:07.710
- Babe, it's a good pie.

1507
00:58:07.710 --> 00:58:08.928
My baby know I be horny.

1508
00:58:08.928 --> 00:58:11.437
(group laughs)

1509
00:58:11.437 --> 00:58:13.431
- We may as well go on and end the game,

1510
00:58:13.431 --> 00:58:15.848
cause we already the winners.

1511
00:58:17.099 --> 00:58:18.682
I know my man baby.

1512
00:58:20.320 --> 00:58:22.285
That's my man.

1513
00:58:22.285 --> 00:58:24.952
- [Julie] Donte, what about you?

1514
00:58:24.952 --> 00:58:25.952
- Energetic.

1515
00:58:26.835 --> 00:58:28.925
- Hyper, energetic, its
the same thing right?

1516
00:58:28.925 --> 00:58:29.758
- It is.

1517
00:58:31.468 --> 00:58:33.301
Stan, what about you.

1518
00:58:34.656 --> 00:58:36.863
- I'm gonna say hasty.

1519
00:58:36.863 --> 00:58:38.260
- Hasty?

1520
00:58:38.260 --> 00:58:40.285
Why in the world?

1521
00:58:40.285 --> 00:58:42.599
Bro you use the word hasty bro?

1522
00:58:42.599 --> 00:58:44.432
- What you write down.

1523
00:58:45.859 --> 00:58:47.674
- I wrote lost.

1524
00:58:47.674 --> 00:58:49.776
What does hasty even mean Stan?

1525
00:58:49.776 --> 00:58:51.655
- Oh so now you trying to front me out?

1526
00:58:51.655 --> 00:58:54.224
Well it mean rushed,
swift, hurried, you know?

1527
00:58:54.224 --> 00:58:57.360
- Okay boy, you better
know those synonyms.

1528
00:58:57.360 --> 00:58:58.193
- [Stan] Thank you.

1529
00:58:58.193 --> 00:59:00.720
- Don't encourage him.

1530
00:59:00.720 --> 00:59:02.887
- All right so, you Henry.

1531
00:59:06.550 --> 00:59:07.383
- Cranky.

1532
00:59:09.273 --> 00:59:10.940
- Crabby, extremely.

1533
00:59:12.677 --> 00:59:13.708
- Maybe you need to adjust

1534
00:59:13.708 --> 00:59:15.427
the temperature in the environment.

1535
00:59:15.427 --> 00:59:17.868
(women laughing)

1536
00:59:17.868 --> 00:59:19.577
- Wait a minute, now listen.

1537
00:59:19.577 --> 00:59:23.267
Y'all already know his
attitude changes after that.

1538
00:59:23.267 --> 00:59:24.305
- I'll bet it does.

1539
00:59:24.305 --> 00:59:25.911
(women laughing)

1540
00:59:25.911 --> 00:59:27.521
- Wait, hold on everybody, hold on.

1541
00:59:27.521 --> 00:59:29.933
Okay now Julie, get your pen

1542
00:59:29.933 --> 00:59:31.948
and your piece of paper ready
and write down your answer.

1543
00:59:31.948 --> 00:59:33.889
- Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

1544
00:59:33.889 --> 00:59:35.908
You need to let us be great man.

1545
00:59:35.908 --> 00:59:37.921
We just here hosting bruh.

1546
00:59:37.921 --> 00:59:39.562
- Right.

1547
00:59:39.562 --> 00:59:42.122
- On to question number three.

1548
00:59:42.122 --> 00:59:43.671
What is the first thing that your

1549
00:59:43.671 --> 00:59:46.559
spouse would do if they won the lottery.

1550
00:59:46.559 --> 00:59:49.229
- That's a good one, that's a good one.

1551
00:59:49.229 --> 00:59:51.891
- So that's what I would do right?

1552
00:59:51.891 --> 00:59:52.724
- [Julie] Right.

1553
00:59:52.724 --> 00:59:56.189
- Right, okay what would she say?

1554
00:59:56.189 --> 00:59:57.352
Pay tithes.

1555
00:59:57.352 --> 00:59:59.571
- Henry you don't even go to church,

1556
00:59:59.571 --> 01:00:01.892
where would you pay tithes to?

1557
01:00:01.892 --> 01:00:02.894
- Baby I can send my money

1558
01:00:02.894 --> 01:00:04.731
through Kelly, or Julie, or James.

1559
01:00:04.731 --> 01:00:07.542
I mean they go to church.

1560
01:00:07.542 --> 01:00:09.541
- The bible says you have to bring

1561
01:00:09.541 --> 01:00:11.972
your tithes, not send them Henry.

1562
01:00:11.972 --> 01:00:14.260
- [Ebony] I was gonna try to send mine to.

1563
01:00:14.260 --> 01:00:15.093
- Wow.

1564
01:00:18.036 --> 01:00:20.104
- Trust me, listen to Kelly

1565
01:00:20.104 --> 01:00:23.070
cause she know all about that, don't you?

1566
01:00:23.070 --> 01:00:24.545
- That's what we doing Stan?

1567
01:00:24.545 --> 01:00:25.378
Really?

1568
01:00:25.378 --> 01:00:27.689
- Let's keep the positive vibes going.

1569
01:00:27.689 --> 01:00:30.856
But Stan you're next, what would you do?

1570
01:00:32.743 --> 01:00:35.947
- You know what I'd start up a church

1571
01:00:35.947 --> 01:00:39.883
so I can get rich off all these
people paying their tithes.

1572
01:00:39.883 --> 01:00:42.833
- Right, now that's a good idea bro bro.

1573
01:00:42.833 --> 01:00:44.740
- Antwan shut up.

1574
01:00:44.740 --> 01:00:45.573
- You shut up.

1575
01:00:45.573 --> 01:00:48.954
- Okay Kelly, what did you write down?

1576
01:00:48.954 --> 01:00:53.037
- Certainly not that, so
again, no points for us.

1577
01:00:55.047 --> 01:00:58.254
- Hey Donte, what you got man?

1578
01:00:58.254 --> 01:00:59.087
- Simple.

1579
01:01:00.196 --> 01:01:04.093
Invest in the indoor
golf facility, of course.

1580
01:01:04.093 --> 01:01:07.760
- I know this man, like
the back of my hand.

1581
01:01:08.821 --> 01:01:11.135
- That is good, okay.

1582
01:01:11.135 --> 01:01:12.968
Anton, what about you?

1583
01:01:14.186 --> 01:01:16.441
- I'd get like an amusement
park, something like that.

1584
01:01:16.441 --> 01:01:18.303
- You know what, that's what's up.

1585
01:01:18.303 --> 01:01:19.362
Ebony, what you write down?

1586
01:01:19.362 --> 01:01:22.779
- Give a majority of it to his baby mama.

1587
01:01:24.568 --> 01:01:26.498
- Come on with all that shade Eb.

1588
01:01:26.498 --> 01:01:27.331
- [Ebony] Boy please.

1589
01:01:27.331 --> 01:01:29.007
- You tripping, you need to chill out.

1590
01:01:29.007 --> 01:01:30.523
- All right, all right,
all right, check this out.

1591
01:01:30.523 --> 01:01:32.293
We're going to switch it
up a little bit, okay?

1592
01:01:32.293 --> 01:01:34.567
Ladies, now y'all in the hot seat.

1593
01:01:34.567 --> 01:01:35.400
Okay.

1594
01:01:35.400 --> 01:01:36.233
- [Woman] Right.

1595
01:01:36.233 --> 01:01:37.499
- Question number one,

1596
01:01:37.499 --> 01:01:39.922
which one of y'all are
better with finances?

1597
01:01:39.922 --> 01:01:41.183
- [Woman] Yeah, that's good.

1598
01:01:41.183 --> 01:01:42.504
- Kelly, we'll start with you.

1599
01:01:42.504 --> 01:01:44.626
- Well, I think we all know

1600
01:01:44.626 --> 01:01:48.543
that I am much better at
managing the finances.

1601
01:01:51.023 --> 01:01:52.354
- Really Kelly?

1602
01:01:52.354 --> 01:01:54.251
Are you?

1603
01:01:54.251 --> 01:01:56.171
You know, I did believe that to be true

1604
01:01:56.171 --> 01:01:57.490
until I realized how much money

1605
01:01:57.490 --> 01:01:59.132
you was taking out of our household.

1606
01:01:59.132 --> 01:02:00.549
- Oh my goodness.

1607
01:02:02.005 --> 01:02:04.588
- Really Stan, are you serious?

1608
01:02:05.435 --> 01:02:06.602
You know what?

1609
01:02:07.882 --> 01:02:09.215
I'm sorry y'all.

1610
01:02:10.405 --> 01:02:11.655
We about to go.

1611
01:02:12.651 --> 01:02:14.866
- [Julie] No Kelly.

1612
01:02:14.866 --> 01:02:16.792
- It's okay, it's just a lot of

1613
01:02:16.792 --> 01:02:18.351
negative energy coming from over here

1614
01:02:18.351 --> 01:02:21.355
and I do not to ruin the vibe.

1615
01:02:21.355 --> 01:02:23.805
Come on Stan I'm ready to go.

1616
01:02:23.805 --> 01:02:26.541
- Hold up, so now you're
just gonna leave me here?

1617
01:02:26.541 --> 01:02:29.154
- No I'm not leaving
here Stan, you coming to,

1618
01:02:29.154 --> 01:02:31.821
come on I'm ready to go, please.

1619
01:02:35.570 --> 01:02:36.487
- Hey Stan.

1620
01:02:37.627 --> 01:02:39.269
- Alright yall.

1621
01:02:39.269 --> 01:02:40.632
Y'all have a good night.

1622
01:02:40.632 --> 01:02:41.778
- [Man] Alright.

1623
01:02:41.778 --> 01:02:42.945
- [Woman] Bye.

1624
01:02:48.683 --> 01:02:51.602
- I cannot believe that
you humiliated me in front

1625
01:02:51.602 --> 01:02:53.880
of our friends like that,
what is wrong with you?

1626
01:02:53.880 --> 01:02:54.713
- What's wrong with me?

1627
01:02:54.713 --> 01:02:55.546
I can't believe that you've

1628
01:02:55.546 --> 01:02:58.138
been humiliating me behind my back.

1629
01:02:58.138 --> 01:02:59.488
- How am I humiliating you Stan?

1630
01:02:59.488 --> 01:03:00.321
- What you mean Kelly?

1631
01:03:00.321 --> 01:03:02.925
- You know what, you are unbelievable.

1632
01:03:02.925 --> 01:03:04.192
I just came home the other day and you

1633
01:03:04.192 --> 01:03:06.736
and your boys was in the
house smoking and drinking.

1634
01:03:06.736 --> 01:03:07.569
- And your point Kelly?

1635
01:03:07.569 --> 01:03:08.695
- That's my house Stan.

1636
01:03:08.695 --> 01:03:09.528
- Yours?

1637
01:03:09.528 --> 01:03:11.036
- Yes, you know what you do what ever

1638
01:03:11.036 --> 01:03:12.867
you want to do when you want to do it,

1639
01:03:12.867 --> 01:03:14.732
I'm tired of the disrespect Stan.

1640
01:03:14.732 --> 01:03:16.534
- Hold on who you think you talking to?

1641
01:03:16.534 --> 01:03:19.161
Oh so you my mama now?

1642
01:03:19.161 --> 01:03:21.536
- Nah, nah, nah, Stan aint ruin the vibe,

1643
01:03:21.536 --> 01:03:24.416
that was Ebony over here with
all that woody woody woo.

1644
01:03:24.416 --> 01:03:27.296
Getting all negative and now
its just spread like wild fire.

1645
01:03:27.296 --> 01:03:28.425
Look.

1646
01:03:28.425 --> 01:03:30.633
- So its negative cause
I'm speaking the truth huh?

1647
01:03:30.633 --> 01:03:31.466
- Yes.

1648
01:03:31.466 --> 01:03:32.521
- Don't get mad at me cause you a fool

1649
01:03:32.521 --> 01:03:35.673
for your baby mama and you the
only one who don't know it.

1650
01:03:35.673 --> 01:03:37.715
- Stop it please.

1651
01:03:37.715 --> 01:03:40.715
You guys are disrespecting
each other and its not cool.

1652
01:03:40.715 --> 01:03:42.058
- You know what Julie you right.

1653
01:03:42.058 --> 01:03:42.988
We shouldn't bring this vibe

1654
01:03:42.988 --> 01:03:45.304
into your home, it is Friendsgiving.

1655
01:03:45.304 --> 01:03:46.970
Kelly aint the only one leaving,

1656
01:03:46.970 --> 01:03:47.803
I'm gone too, I'm outta here.

1657
01:03:47.803 --> 01:03:48.636
I can't stand her

1658
01:03:50.169 --> 01:03:53.490
- that's that 50 50 I
was telling y'all about.

1659
01:03:53.490 --> 01:03:54.557
Right there.

1660
01:03:54.557 --> 01:03:56.000
- [Ebony] Antwan, let's go.

1661
01:03:56.000 --> 01:03:56.833
- Antwan.

1662
01:04:02.528 --> 01:04:04.945
(door bangs)

1663
01:04:09.149 --> 01:04:09.982
- [Julie] I'm sorry.

1664
01:04:09.982 --> 01:04:14.649
- Well we can stay and finish
the game if you guys want.

1665
01:04:19.593 --> 01:04:22.111
- Stan, I have every right to have

1666
01:04:22.111 --> 01:04:24.118
a say so in what goes on in this house,

1667
01:04:24.118 --> 01:04:26.649
look I've been holding
so much in for so long,

1668
01:04:26.649 --> 01:04:28.832
I'm not doing it anymore, I'm tired.

1669
01:04:28.832 --> 01:04:29.720
- But when we were smoking

1670
01:04:29.720 --> 01:04:31.952
and drinking together it wasn't a problem.

1671
01:04:31.952 --> 01:04:33.584
- You doggone right its a problem.

1672
01:04:33.584 --> 01:04:35.289
Look that was our life style before Stan

1673
01:04:35.289 --> 01:04:36.911
but I'm not living like that anymore,

1674
01:04:36.911 --> 01:04:38.694
why can't you get that through your head?

1675
01:04:38.694 --> 01:04:39.773
- You do understand this is my house

1676
01:04:39.773 --> 01:04:41.274
just as much as yours, right?

1677
01:04:41.274 --> 01:04:42.127
So you can't be telling me what

1678
01:04:42.127 --> 01:04:44.346
I can and cannot up in here Kelly.

1679
01:04:44.346 --> 01:04:45.304
And you most definitely aren't going

1680
01:04:45.304 --> 01:04:46.607
to be taking no money out of here neither.

1681
01:04:46.607 --> 01:04:48.035
- Look, I said, what I said.

1682
01:04:48.035 --> 01:04:50.134
- And I'm saying what I'm saying.

1683
01:04:50.134 --> 01:04:52.524
Look, I've been dealing with
you, with your whole change

1684
01:04:52.524 --> 01:04:54.168
and I don't say nothing to you about it,

1685
01:04:54.168 --> 01:04:55.535
but then you want to pull this up on me?

1686
01:04:55.535 --> 01:04:57.087
Like what more is it that
you want from me Kelly?

1687
01:04:57.087 --> 01:04:59.404
- What more I want, I want
you to listen to me Stan.

1688
01:04:59.404 --> 01:05:00.237
- Man look.

1689
01:05:00.237 --> 01:05:04.652
- See look at you, that's
what I'm talking about Stan.

1690
01:05:04.652 --> 01:05:06.316
I'm trying so hard.

1691
01:05:06.316 --> 01:05:07.436
To be a good wife to you.

1692
01:05:07.436 --> 01:05:09.369
When you told me I
couldn't go out of town,

1693
01:05:09.369 --> 01:05:12.319
I didn't go out of respect
for you as my husband.

1694
01:05:12.319 --> 01:05:14.316
But you, baby it's so unfair

1695
01:05:14.316 --> 01:05:15.806
because you do whatever you want to do

1696
01:05:15.806 --> 01:05:16.870
whenever you want to do it

1697
01:05:16.870 --> 01:05:18.406
and I'm tired of it Stan.

1698
01:05:18.406 --> 01:05:21.011
I'm sick of your mess, I
deserve so much better.

1699
01:05:21.011 --> 01:05:22.353
- You're tired of and you sick of my mess?

1700
01:05:22.353 --> 01:05:23.186
- Yes.

1701
01:05:23.186 --> 01:05:24.019
- And you deserve better?

1702
01:05:24.019 --> 01:05:24.852
- Yes I do.

1703
01:05:24.852 --> 01:05:26.138
- You know what Kelly, you right

1704
01:05:26.138 --> 01:05:27.999
and I've been doing some serious thinking.

1705
01:05:27.999 --> 01:05:31.399
You just not the same woman
that I married seven years ago.

1706
01:05:31.399 --> 01:05:33.760
You all into this whole
new religious stuff

1707
01:05:33.760 --> 01:05:35.320
and you always trying to force it on me

1708
01:05:35.320 --> 01:05:37.403
and I'm just not with it.

1709
01:05:38.551 --> 01:05:42.218
- Okay, look babe you
right, I'm sorry okay.

1710
01:05:43.903 --> 01:05:45.713
Look, we ain't getting nowhere.

1711
01:05:45.713 --> 01:05:47.045
It's like we talking at each other

1712
01:05:47.045 --> 01:05:49.628
and not to each other baby.

1713
01:05:49.628 --> 01:05:52.617
Look yes, I decided to
serve God and prayerfully

1714
01:05:52.617 --> 01:05:55.664
you will to one day, but
that has to be your decision.

1715
01:05:55.664 --> 01:05:57.668
- Exactly Kelly my decision

1716
01:05:57.668 --> 01:05:59.530
and that's just not it right now.

1717
01:05:59.530 --> 01:06:00.944
Look I can't do this no more.

1718
01:06:00.944 --> 01:06:03.527
- You can't do what anymore,
Stan what you talking about?

1719
01:06:03.527 --> 01:06:07.136
- Us Kelly, this marriage,
its just not gonna work.

1720
01:06:07.136 --> 01:06:08.711
- Wait, wait, hold up.

1721
01:06:08.711 --> 01:06:09.669
You don't know if you want

1722
01:06:09.669 --> 01:06:11.471
our marriage to work, are you serious?

1723
01:06:11.471 --> 01:06:14.208
- Look like I said Kelly,
we on two different pages.

1724
01:06:14.208 --> 01:06:16.958
(dramatic music)

1725
01:06:18.676 --> 01:06:20.245
You just said that you deserve better

1726
01:06:20.245 --> 01:06:21.976
and you do, cause the truth of the matter

1727
01:06:21.976 --> 01:06:24.750
is our marriage is not what it once was.

1728
01:06:24.750 --> 01:06:26.267
We're unequally yoked.

1729
01:06:26.267 --> 01:06:28.670
Aint that what your bible said?

1730
01:06:28.670 --> 01:06:32.087
- Hold up babe, Stan, Stan hold up, Stan.

1731
01:06:36.667 --> 01:06:41.250
Baby look I am so sorry, look
I want out marriage okay.

1732
01:06:42.099 --> 01:06:43.636
No Stan when I said I want better,

1733
01:06:43.636 --> 01:06:45.281
I want better with you babe.

1734
01:06:45.281 --> 01:06:47.214
- Kelly don't do this.

1735
01:06:47.214 --> 01:06:48.427
I want a divorce.

1736
01:06:48.427 --> 01:06:49.260
- What?

1737
01:06:50.164 --> 01:06:52.504
Wait hold on, Stan.

1738
01:06:52.504 --> 01:06:54.921
(door bangs)

1739
01:06:55.979 --> 01:06:57.345
- Sweetheart.

1740
01:06:57.345 --> 01:06:58.606
Now tell me what happened.

1741
01:06:58.606 --> 01:07:00.740
- I can't, I can't do it anymore.

1742
01:07:00.740 --> 01:07:02.363
I give up.

1743
01:07:02.363 --> 01:07:04.177
I've been giving my
all, I've been praying,

1744
01:07:04.177 --> 01:07:06.094
I've been fasting, I've been submitting,

1745
01:07:06.094 --> 01:07:07.622
I've been doing everything
that the bible tells

1746
01:07:07.622 --> 01:07:11.678
me to do as a wife but its
like he's forgotten about me.

1747
01:07:11.678 --> 01:07:13.786
- Who do you feel has
forgotten you sweetie?

1748
01:07:13.786 --> 01:07:17.311
- God, Mrs. Anderson, he is
punishing me for something,

1749
01:07:17.311 --> 01:07:18.882
I just don't know what it is.

1750
01:07:18.882 --> 01:07:21.179
- Oh Kelly listen to me.

1751
01:07:21.179 --> 01:07:24.116
Okay, anytime storms
in life come your way,

1752
01:07:24.116 --> 01:07:27.242
don't always assume that
you're being punished.

1753
01:07:27.242 --> 01:07:30.447
As long as you're walking
up right before God,

1754
01:07:30.447 --> 01:07:32.292
it's either one of two things.

1755
01:07:32.292 --> 01:07:35.700
He's either testing you or
baby he is showing you off.

1756
01:07:35.700 --> 01:07:38.317
- I know what it is, I've
been too nice to him.

1757
01:07:38.317 --> 01:07:39.982
Letting him walk all over me.

1758
01:07:39.982 --> 01:07:41.761
I should have been mean and cruel

1759
01:07:41.761 --> 01:07:43.415
like any other wife would have been.

1760
01:07:43.415 --> 01:07:45.757
- Not a wise wife Kelly.

1761
01:07:45.757 --> 01:07:48.416
Honey listen, you are doing
the right thing right now,

1762
01:07:48.416 --> 01:07:50.748
I know it don't feel like it but you are,

1763
01:07:50.748 --> 01:07:53.207
you are being obedient to the word of God.

1764
01:07:53.207 --> 01:07:54.957
Well look what my obedience has gotten me.

1765
01:07:54.957 --> 01:07:56.269
Headed to divorce court

1766
01:07:56.269 --> 01:07:57.666
- Divorce court?

1767
01:07:57.666 --> 01:08:00.171
Who told you to go to divorce court?

1768
01:08:00.171 --> 01:08:01.083
That is the first thing

1769
01:08:01.083 --> 01:08:03.793
that comes to mind among
marriages these days.

1770
01:08:03.793 --> 01:08:04.922
We don't even get to experience

1771
01:08:04.922 --> 01:08:07.356
the fullness of God and all his promises

1772
01:08:07.356 --> 01:08:10.273
because we just give up too easily.

1773
01:08:11.544 --> 01:08:14.398
Why don't you turn in this bible

1774
01:08:14.398 --> 01:08:17.439
to 1st Peter, Ch 3.

1775
01:08:17.439 --> 01:08:21.106
- Mrs. Anderson, right
now is not the time.

1776
01:08:22.930 --> 01:08:26.379
- Right now is the perfect time, honey.

1777
01:08:26.379 --> 01:08:30.046
Come on, turn to 1st Peter, Ch 3.

1778
01:08:31.383 --> 01:08:34.449
And I want you to read verses one and two.

1779
01:08:34.449 --> 01:08:35.866
Come on, come on.

1780
01:08:39.567 --> 01:08:41.567
- Wives in the same way,

1781
01:08:43.285 --> 01:08:46.535
submit yourselves to your own husbands.

1782
01:08:48.168 --> 01:08:52.399
So if any of them do not believe the word,

1783
01:08:52.399 --> 01:08:55.232
they may be won over without words

1784
01:08:57.171 --> 01:08:59.657
by the behavior of their wives when they

1785
01:08:59.657 --> 01:09:02.740
see the purity and
reverence of your lives.

1786
01:09:05.260 --> 01:09:06.976
- That's right, see there?

1787
01:09:06.976 --> 01:09:09.605
Now you are doing exactly that honey.

1788
01:09:09.605 --> 01:09:12.402
What the word of God instructs you to do.

1789
01:09:12.402 --> 01:09:14.863
So whatever happens out of all this baby,

1790
01:09:14.863 --> 01:09:16.946
it is supposed to happen.

1791
01:09:18.162 --> 01:09:20.697
Look you're right when you
say you can't handle this,

1792
01:09:20.697 --> 01:09:22.857
that its too much for you to bare.

1793
01:09:22.857 --> 01:09:25.724
Because this is not your battle.

1794
01:09:25.724 --> 01:09:28.364
Honey this battle belongs to the lord.

1795
01:09:28.364 --> 01:09:30.197
- But what about Stan?

1796
01:09:31.113 --> 01:09:33.280
You know like, I have you.

1797
01:09:35.567 --> 01:09:38.374
Here you're talking to
me and you helping me

1798
01:09:38.374 --> 01:09:40.874
but who, who's gonna help him?

1799
01:09:42.439 --> 01:09:43.439
Who's gonna.

1800
01:09:45.874 --> 01:09:48.130
Who's gonna be there for him?

1801
01:09:48.130 --> 01:09:50.879
- Well that's your next prayer.

1802
01:09:50.879 --> 01:09:52.079
Okay?

1803
01:09:52.079 --> 01:09:53.737
You need to start to pray and ask God

1804
01:09:53.737 --> 01:09:55.932
to send him someone into his life

1805
01:09:55.932 --> 01:09:59.375
who can speak godly wisdom to him.

1806
01:09:59.375 --> 01:10:00.354
Okay?

1807
01:10:00.354 --> 01:10:01.187
- Yeah.

1808
01:10:01.187 --> 01:10:02.831
- And you know what?

1809
01:10:02.831 --> 01:10:05.484
I want you to take this journal

1810
01:10:05.484 --> 01:10:07.391
and I want you to write your thoughts

1811
01:10:07.391 --> 01:10:10.210
in this journal every single day.

1812
01:10:10.210 --> 01:10:14.830
And anytime God answers a
prayer, write that in here too.

1813
01:10:14.830 --> 01:10:15.830
- Thank you.

1814
01:10:16.735 --> 01:10:18.982
- Well sweetheart, we all could

1815
01:10:18.982 --> 01:10:21.116
use a little guardian angel sometimes.

1816
01:10:21.116 --> 01:10:23.866
(dramatic music)

1817
01:10:25.270 --> 01:10:26.103
- Scott.

1818
01:10:27.026 --> 01:10:30.844
You've been quiet the whole
ride here, what's wrong?

1819
01:10:30.844 --> 01:10:32.991
- One minute you're
talking about a divorce.

1820
01:10:32.991 --> 01:10:35.513
Now you got us in a counseling
session with a pastor.

1821
01:10:35.513 --> 01:10:38.956
I don't even know him, you don't either.

1822
01:10:38.956 --> 01:10:39.789
- You remember I told you

1823
01:10:39.789 --> 01:10:41.522
I was going to the book clubs, right?

1824
01:10:41.522 --> 01:10:43.084
- Said something about it.

1825
01:10:43.084 --> 01:10:45.403
- Well they've actually been helping.

1826
01:10:45.403 --> 01:10:49.986
And I just, looks lets just,
we'll talk about it later.

1827
01:10:53.120 --> 01:10:54.214
- Hello, Scott and Susan.

1828
01:10:54.214 --> 01:10:55.596
Very nice to meet you both.

1829
01:10:55.596 --> 01:10:58.502
- Nice to meet you too pastor.

1830
01:10:58.502 --> 01:11:01.175
So the reason that I
arranged this session is

1831
01:11:01.175 --> 01:11:03.026
because my husband and I,

1832
01:11:03.026 --> 01:11:06.822
Scott we're currently
going through a divorce.

1833
01:11:06.822 --> 01:11:07.897
- [Pastor] Okay.

1834
01:11:07.897 --> 01:11:09.986
- However, we're still
living in the same home.

1835
01:11:09.986 --> 01:11:10.854
- Okay, all right.

1836
01:11:10.854 --> 01:11:11.938
So share with me some

1837
01:11:11.938 --> 01:11:14.721
of the details and background information.

1838
01:11:14.721 --> 01:11:15.634
- Sure.

1839
01:11:15.634 --> 01:11:18.476
So Scott and I have been
married for four years.

1840
01:11:18.476 --> 01:11:20.252
I was a customer service representative

1841
01:11:20.252 --> 01:11:24.514
at a rental car company and
he was a frequent customer.

1842
01:11:24.514 --> 01:11:28.647
He asked me out one day,
but I wasn't interested.

1843
01:11:28.647 --> 01:11:30.460
- You wasn't interested?

1844
01:11:30.460 --> 01:11:33.087
- No, initially I wasn't
interested Scott, you know that.

1845
01:11:33.087 --> 01:11:34.863
- Yeah, yeah okay.

1846
01:11:34.863 --> 01:11:37.046
- However, he was very persistent.

1847
01:11:37.046 --> 01:11:40.166
So I finally gave in
and we went to dinner.

1848
01:11:40.166 --> 01:11:42.914
He was such a gentleman.

1849
01:11:42.914 --> 01:11:45.628
He wowed me with his conversation

1850
01:11:45.628 --> 01:11:47.330
and things were really great.

1851
01:11:47.330 --> 01:11:48.364
I mean, we started spending more

1852
01:11:48.364 --> 01:11:50.918
and more time together and we clicked,

1853
01:11:50.918 --> 01:11:53.561
almost a perfect relationship.

1854
01:11:53.561 --> 01:11:55.311
Until things changed.

1855
01:11:56.278 --> 01:11:57.958
After he cheated.

1856
01:11:57.958 --> 01:11:59.961
- You would just skip to some
cheating stuff, wouldn't you?

1857
01:11:59.961 --> 01:12:01.532
- But that is what happened.

1858
01:12:01.532 --> 01:12:04.425
- No things changed way before I cheated.

1859
01:12:04.425 --> 01:12:07.270
You act like you can't just get past it.

1860
01:12:07.270 --> 01:12:09.337
Like I said, I did it.

1861
01:12:09.337 --> 01:12:12.489
She forgave me, now she's
still just going on with it.

1862
01:12:12.489 --> 01:12:14.806
Like I said, man, things
changed way before I cheated.

1863
01:12:14.806 --> 01:12:16.246
- What changed Scott?

1864
01:12:16.246 --> 01:12:17.686
- Everything.

1865
01:12:17.686 --> 01:12:20.470
We had way more sex before we
got married than we do now.

1866
01:12:20.470 --> 01:12:22.172
- And I wasn't saved then either.

1867
01:12:22.172 --> 01:12:23.673
- What does that have to do with anything?

1868
01:12:23.673 --> 01:12:24.506
- Everything.

1869
01:12:24.506 --> 01:12:25.798
- Saved women can't have sex?

1870
01:12:25.798 --> 01:12:27.115
- Whatever.

1871
01:12:27.115 --> 01:12:29.458
- When it's time for intimacy,
she used to come to bed,

1872
01:12:29.458 --> 01:12:31.772
looking all sexy and beautiful.

1873
01:12:31.772 --> 01:12:33.945
Now she come to bed all wrapped up

1874
01:12:33.945 --> 01:12:35.937
with this helmet looking thing on,

1875
01:12:35.937 --> 01:12:37.417
looking like a linebacker.

1876
01:12:37.417 --> 01:12:39.010
- A linebacker what?

1877
01:12:39.010 --> 01:12:40.210
Seriously?

1878
01:12:40.210 --> 01:12:42.298
You're not looking to hot yourself.

1879
01:12:42.298 --> 01:12:44.001
- She only look like
this when she going out,

1880
01:12:44.001 --> 01:12:45.316
she don't look like this all the time.

1881
01:12:45.316 --> 01:12:47.412
Like when we at home,
she don't look like this.

1882
01:12:47.412 --> 01:12:49.745
This aint the same woman in the crib.

1883
01:12:49.745 --> 01:12:51.242
You have no sex appeal at the crib,

1884
01:12:51.242 --> 01:12:53.919
but you go out you looking all good.

1885
01:12:53.919 --> 01:12:57.764
- I am so sorry, clearly
we can never resolve

1886
01:12:57.764 --> 01:13:01.050
anything because it always
ends up in argument.

1887
01:13:01.050 --> 01:13:02.682
We obviously need some help.

1888
01:13:02.682 --> 01:13:05.015
- Yeah, she needs some help.

1889
01:13:05.994 --> 01:13:06.919
- God.

1890
01:13:06.919 --> 01:13:09.812
- Scott, Susan, what I
hear right now is nothing

1891
01:13:09.812 --> 01:13:13.753
that I don't hear on
an every session basis

1892
01:13:13.753 --> 01:13:15.802
as I counsel lots of couples.

1893
01:13:15.802 --> 01:13:17.196
Scott I'm a start with you.

1894
01:13:17.196 --> 01:13:20.390
As the husband and in
Gods order he's made you

1895
01:13:20.390 --> 01:13:22.640
the leader of your marriage

1896
01:13:23.729 --> 01:13:26.788
and for you the two things
you need to focus on

1897
01:13:26.788 --> 01:13:30.801
is protecting and providing for your wife.

1898
01:13:30.801 --> 01:13:31.828
And unfortunately what happens

1899
01:13:31.828 --> 01:13:34.562
in infidelity is that you broke trust.

1900
01:13:34.562 --> 01:13:38.283
And once you break trust its
difficult to get it back.

1901
01:13:38.283 --> 01:13:42.292
Because trust is not given
Scott, its actually earned.

1902
01:13:42.292 --> 01:13:44.715
And trust is time tested

1903
01:13:44.715 --> 01:13:47.880
and in order for it to
be earned, you got to get

1904
01:13:47.880 --> 01:13:49.462
to a point where you give her what

1905
01:13:49.462 --> 01:13:53.129
she needs and not what
you want her to have.

1906
01:13:54.408 --> 01:13:56.712
And Susan as it relates
to your faithfulness

1907
01:13:56.712 --> 01:13:59.124
God puts a tremendous,
big responsibility on

1908
01:13:59.124 --> 01:14:02.747
the wife to care for her
husbands needs as well.

1909
01:14:02.747 --> 01:14:06.489
And so as it relates to
you, listen to Scott.

1910
01:14:06.489 --> 01:14:08.522
What I hear form Scott is not anything

1911
01:14:08.522 --> 01:14:11.692
out of the ordinary that I
hear from men all the time.

1912
01:14:11.692 --> 01:14:13.969
What he wants is to enjoy his wife,

1913
01:14:13.969 --> 01:14:15.771
and the way God has set things up,

1914
01:14:15.771 --> 01:14:19.646
he can only enjoy that
level of intimacy with you

1915
01:14:19.646 --> 01:14:21.366
and with you alone.

1916
01:14:21.366 --> 01:14:23.862
Scott and Susan are you
both willing to put forth

1917
01:14:23.862 --> 01:14:28.862
the effort that's needed in
order for this marriage to work?

1918
01:14:28.923 --> 01:14:29.756
- Yeah.

1919
01:14:29.756 --> 01:14:30.835
- Yes.

1920
01:14:30.835 --> 01:14:35.125
- Okay, well if you are, if
you would mind joining hands.

1921
01:14:35.125 --> 01:14:37.230
We'll touch and agree together

1922
01:14:37.230 --> 01:14:40.194
and I go before the lord in prayer.

1923
01:14:40.194 --> 01:14:42.465
Lord God, we thank you for our time today.

1924
01:14:42.465 --> 01:14:45.214
We thank you for speaking
specifically to my heart

1925
01:14:45.214 --> 01:14:49.797
about what you wanted both
Scott and Susan to hear God.

1926
01:14:53.316 --> 01:14:54.400
- Hey.

1927
01:14:54.400 --> 01:14:56.698
You finished with the microwave?

1928
01:14:56.698 --> 01:14:57.615
- Yeah bru.

1929
01:15:02.426 --> 01:15:03.505
Hey man, let me get that man.

1930
01:15:03.505 --> 01:15:07.005
I don't even like my food that hot anyway.

1931
01:15:10.404 --> 01:15:12.840
- Man, guess what Gary just made him do.

1932
01:15:12.840 --> 01:15:13.673
- What?

1933
01:15:13.673 --> 01:15:14.506
- He was at the microwave,

1934
01:15:14.506 --> 01:15:15.339
Gary made him take his food out

1935
01:15:15.339 --> 01:15:16.858
the microwave and it wasn't
even done warming up.

1936
01:15:16.858 --> 01:15:18.010
- Stop it bro.

1937
01:15:18.010 --> 01:15:19.858
- You letting Gary take your lunch money.

1938
01:15:19.858 --> 01:15:21.058
(men chuckling)

1939
01:15:21.058 --> 01:15:23.644
- Real funny man, aint
nobody scared of no Gary.

1940
01:15:23.644 --> 01:15:24.637
- What's wrong with you boy?

1941
01:15:24.637 --> 01:15:28.155
Why he sitting all up with is
tail tucked between his leg?

1942
01:15:28.155 --> 01:15:29.322
You all right?

1943
01:15:30.897 --> 01:15:33.209
- Hey look bruh, I left Kelly man.

1944
01:15:33.209 --> 01:15:34.042
- What?

1945
01:15:34.042 --> 01:15:34.875
- Say what?

1946
01:15:34.875 --> 01:15:36.097
- What?

1947
01:15:36.097 --> 01:15:38.759
- I just couldn't do
it no more, so I left.

1948
01:15:38.759 --> 01:15:41.821
- So y'all thinking
about getting a divorce?

1949
01:15:41.821 --> 01:15:43.751
- Listen, man, she said out her own mouth

1950
01:15:43.751 --> 01:15:45.804
the other day that she deserved better

1951
01:15:45.804 --> 01:15:48.013
and she fed up with me
and I'm fed up with her.

1952
01:15:48.013 --> 01:15:49.428
- Well I know what you shouldn't be doing

1953
01:15:49.428 --> 01:15:51.697
is sitting here and beating
up yourself about it.

1954
01:15:51.697 --> 01:15:54.013
I mean, from everything you're saying,

1955
01:15:54.013 --> 01:15:55.121
if she didn't change too much for you

1956
01:15:55.121 --> 01:15:56.689
and you can't deal with it,

1957
01:15:56.689 --> 01:15:58.244
then you need to do what you need to do,

1958
01:15:58.244 --> 01:16:00.877
but our break almost over,

1959
01:16:00.877 --> 01:16:03.096
you know, we only get 30 minutes.

1960
01:16:03.096 --> 01:16:06.490
We outta here and I'll see
you later. Mr. Stevenson, sir.

1961
01:16:06.490 --> 01:16:09.323
(chairs scraping)

1962
01:16:20.368 --> 01:16:22.326
- What's up Stan?

1963
01:16:22.326 --> 01:16:23.466
- What's going on with you?

1964
01:16:23.466 --> 01:16:25.985
- You mind if I sit here for
a minute and rap with you?

1965
01:16:25.985 --> 01:16:27.068
- Not at all.

1966
01:16:28.135 --> 01:16:29.741
- I don't mean to get
in your business man,

1967
01:16:29.741 --> 01:16:31.204
but I couldn't help but to overhear

1968
01:16:31.204 --> 01:16:34.231
your conversation with your guys right.

1969
01:16:34.231 --> 01:16:36.151
And I have some advice for you.

1970
01:16:36.151 --> 01:16:38.337
- All right, what's up what's that?

1971
01:16:38.337 --> 01:16:42.036
- Your story, it reminds
me so much of my own bro.

1972
01:16:42.036 --> 01:16:43.885
But you see the only difference is

1973
01:16:43.885 --> 01:16:46.476
it was me that gave my life to God

1974
01:16:46.476 --> 01:16:48.877
and my wife stayed out of the world.

1975
01:16:48.877 --> 01:16:49.968
- Hey man, that's crazy.

1976
01:16:49.968 --> 01:16:53.472
Like that's the exact
way that I feel, man.

1977
01:16:53.472 --> 01:16:56.640
- Let me ask you something Stan.

1978
01:16:56.640 --> 01:17:00.733
Have you ever asked
your wife how she feels?

1979
01:17:00.733 --> 01:17:02.160
- Be honest with you I haven't.

1980
01:17:02.160 --> 01:17:03.366
Like there ain't no reason to

1981
01:17:03.366 --> 01:17:05.430
cause I already know how she feel man.

1982
01:17:05.430 --> 01:17:06.319
Look, check this out.

1983
01:17:06.319 --> 01:17:09.199
When I say to my wife, like
she has completely changed,

1984
01:17:09.199 --> 01:17:10.614
like, I mean it.

1985
01:17:10.614 --> 01:17:13.078
Me and my wife, we used
to do everything together,

1986
01:17:13.078 --> 01:17:16.137
go to the clubs, party,
hang out, drink, smoke

1987
01:17:16.137 --> 01:17:17.735
or whatever the case may be.

1988
01:17:17.735 --> 01:17:21.898
But now she is totally
different man and I mean that.

1989
01:17:21.898 --> 01:17:25.089
- You know, I met my wife in the club,

1990
01:17:25.089 --> 01:17:29.639
but I was deep in the dope
gang, running the streets.

1991
01:17:29.639 --> 01:17:33.092
But then I went to the
penitentiary for seven years

1992
01:17:33.092 --> 01:17:36.118
and that's when I gave my life to God.

1993
01:17:36.118 --> 01:17:37.651
You know, man, my wife hung in there

1994
01:17:37.651 --> 01:17:40.954
with me the whole time I was locked up.

1995
01:17:40.954 --> 01:17:42.202
But you know she thought I was playing

1996
01:17:42.202 --> 01:17:44.113
because that's what brothers do.

1997
01:17:44.113 --> 01:17:47.113
When they go to jail, they find God.

1998
01:17:48.065 --> 01:17:50.585
And when they get out,
they leave God in there.

1999
01:17:50.585 --> 01:17:53.919
- We all know them kind, now don't we?.

2000
01:17:53.919 --> 01:17:55.854
- That wasn't the case with me.

2001
01:17:55.854 --> 01:17:57.021
I was serious.

2002
01:17:57.910 --> 01:18:02.226
When I came home, I was
a completely changed man.

2003
01:18:02.226 --> 01:18:04.998
And when she saw this change in me bro,

2004
01:18:04.998 --> 01:18:06.662
she thought I was trying to be a preacher,

2005
01:18:06.662 --> 01:18:08.674
but I'm like, baby, no, I'm
just trying to, you know,

2006
01:18:08.674 --> 01:18:10.674
I'm just living for God,

2007
01:18:11.771 --> 01:18:12.643
but she didn't want to hear it.

2008
01:18:12.643 --> 01:18:14.331
She thought she be getting
in the way of my calling.

2009
01:18:14.331 --> 01:18:15.331
So she left.

2010
01:18:16.869 --> 01:18:17.752
- That's crazy, man.

2011
01:18:17.752 --> 01:18:20.325
Like that's the exact
same way that I feel.

2012
01:18:20.325 --> 01:18:22.097
Like don't get me wrong or nothing.

2013
01:18:22.097 --> 01:18:24.502
I love the new woman that Kelly becoming.

2014
01:18:24.502 --> 01:18:27.504
But then again, I just feel
like she deserves better.

2015
01:18:27.504 --> 01:18:29.415
And I can't give her that right now, man.

2016
01:18:29.415 --> 01:18:32.080
- Stan what you mean, bro?

2017
01:18:32.080 --> 01:18:35.696
You can't be that better for your wife?

2018
01:18:35.696 --> 01:18:36.904
- Hey look Gary I aint
gonna even lie to ya.

2019
01:18:36.904 --> 01:18:40.831
I don't even know if I
can or a how to be it.

2020
01:18:40.831 --> 01:18:43.498
- Stan, listen man can't you see

2021
01:18:44.976 --> 01:18:47.296
that's just the enemy's
way of distracting you

2022
01:18:47.296 --> 01:18:49.590
for what all God called you to be.

2023
01:18:49.590 --> 01:18:52.814
See, look, when you give your life to God,

2024
01:18:52.814 --> 01:18:55.385
he becomes your GPS system

2025
01:18:55.385 --> 01:18:56.961
and all you got to do bro,

2026
01:18:56.961 --> 01:18:58.628
is just be obedient to his voice.

2027
01:18:58.628 --> 01:18:59.545
He got you.

2028
01:19:01.115 --> 01:19:02.976
- Hey man, that's deep.

2029
01:19:02.976 --> 01:19:03.809
Hey well tell me something,

2030
01:19:03.809 --> 01:19:04.749
so how long have you and your wife,

2031
01:19:04.749 --> 01:19:07.029
y'all been divorced now?

2032
01:19:07.029 --> 01:19:09.568
- Stan, I can happily say me and my wife

2033
01:19:09.568 --> 01:19:13.153
have been back together
now four and a half years.

2034
01:19:13.153 --> 01:19:14.664
Let me ask you a question.

2035
01:19:14.664 --> 01:19:17.028
You ever heard of this
lady named Minister Norton?

2036
01:19:17.028 --> 01:19:18.720
- Have I heard of Minister Norton?

2037
01:19:18.720 --> 01:19:21.930
Yes, man like that's
all my wife listen to,

2038
01:19:21.930 --> 01:19:24.021
all day, all night.

2039
01:19:24.021 --> 01:19:26.312
- My wife is Minister Norton.

2040
01:19:26.312 --> 01:19:27.518
- Straight up?

2041
01:19:27.518 --> 01:19:30.493
That's great man, that's
a small world man.

2042
01:19:30.493 --> 01:19:34.126
- But listen, bro, let
me tell you what we did.

2043
01:19:34.126 --> 01:19:36.622
My pastor wrote this book.

2044
01:19:36.622 --> 01:19:40.158
It's called The Marriage
Cup and The Covenant.

2045
01:19:40.158 --> 01:19:42.325
I got a copy of that book.

2046
01:19:43.174 --> 01:19:45.656
I really would like for you to read it

2047
01:19:45.656 --> 01:19:48.998
and prayerfully, it'll help
you understand what God

2048
01:19:48.998 --> 01:19:52.714
ordained married to be and not to be.

2049
01:19:52.714 --> 01:19:54.378
Don't take for granted,

2050
01:19:54.378 --> 01:19:58.211
your wife praying and
her faithfulness to God.

2051
01:19:59.606 --> 01:20:03.939
I'm gonna keep you and your
situation in my prayers.

2052
01:20:05.282 --> 01:20:07.586
- All right Gary man,
I appreciate that, bro.

2053
01:20:07.586 --> 01:20:08.646
- No problem.

2054
01:20:08.646 --> 01:20:11.396
(dramatic music)

2055
01:20:16.023 --> 01:20:17.888
- [Julie] Ladies, I promise as soon

2056
01:20:17.888 --> 01:20:21.221
as Ebony gets here, we will get started.

2057
01:20:23.543 --> 01:20:24.739
- Yall, I'm so sorry.

2058
01:20:24.739 --> 01:20:27.301
I couldn't find my keys no where.

2059
01:20:27.301 --> 01:20:28.134
- Oh my God, girl.

2060
01:20:28.134 --> 01:20:30.716
You lose those keys more
than anybody I know.

2061
01:20:30.716 --> 01:20:32.865
- Girl, we're gonna get you
one of them clap things.

2062
01:20:32.865 --> 01:20:36.478
- Girl no, what I need it that
shirt, better late than ugly.

2063
01:20:36.478 --> 01:20:37.867
I shouldn't even be here.

2064
01:20:37.867 --> 01:20:39.397
- Let's get started.

2065
01:20:39.397 --> 01:20:40.888
- I ain't all the only
one y'all waiting on

2066
01:20:40.888 --> 01:20:42.216
I see, where Kelly at?

2067
01:20:42.216 --> 01:20:44.216
- Well, just between us.

2068
01:20:46.104 --> 01:20:47.779
Kelly called me the other day

2069
01:20:47.779 --> 01:20:49.639
and she asked me to pray with her

2070
01:20:49.639 --> 01:20:51.936
and she also asked me not to say anything

2071
01:20:51.936 --> 01:20:54.307
but I figured since we're all girls,

2072
01:20:54.307 --> 01:20:59.307
we all could just pray
together about her situation.

2073
01:20:59.393 --> 01:21:01.276
- [All] What situation?

2074
01:21:01.276 --> 01:21:02.576
- Don't say nothing y'all.

2075
01:21:02.576 --> 01:21:03.591
- [Woman] Okay.

2076
01:21:03.591 --> 01:21:05.091
- Stan left Kelly.

2077
01:21:05.997 --> 01:21:07.319
- [All] What?

2078
01:21:07.319 --> 01:21:08.152
- Are you serious?

2079
01:21:08.152 --> 01:21:08.985
- Yes.

2080
01:21:08.985 --> 01:21:12.815
- Girl wait a minute,
you mean Kelly left Stan?

2081
01:21:12.815 --> 01:21:15.207
- Stan left Kelly, and check this out,

2082
01:21:15.207 --> 01:21:17.897
he said he didn't want
to be with her anymore

2083
01:21:17.897 --> 01:21:19.912
because he's not ready to change

2084
01:21:19.912 --> 01:21:22.057
his life the same way that she had.

2085
01:21:22.057 --> 01:21:23.357
- You know what, I don't feel

2086
01:21:23.357 --> 01:21:25.167
sorry for her, that what she get.

2087
01:21:25.167 --> 01:21:27.569
- Why would say such a thing?

2088
01:21:27.569 --> 01:21:30.027
- Girl look, I told Kelly a long time ago

2089
01:21:30.027 --> 01:21:31.989
that their relationship
was not gonna work.

2090
01:21:31.989 --> 01:21:33.861
She's so submissive.

2091
01:21:33.861 --> 01:21:37.567
The bible says this,
and the bible says that,

2092
01:21:37.567 --> 01:21:40.101
girl that stuff is for women
back in the bible days,

2093
01:21:40.101 --> 01:21:41.638
that is not for women today.

2094
01:21:41.638 --> 01:21:43.146
(women chatters)

2095
01:21:43.146 --> 01:21:44.630
- Girl look, I stopped by the other day

2096
01:21:44.630 --> 01:21:47.220
because she hadn't been
answering the phone for me.

2097
01:21:47.220 --> 01:21:49.387
Girl, Stan and his potnas had just left,

2098
01:21:49.387 --> 01:21:51.626
girl they had stuff everywhere.

2099
01:21:51.626 --> 01:21:55.192
- I remember a time when
Stan was laid off from work.

2100
01:21:55.192 --> 01:21:58.722
- Girl, Stan used to always be laid off.

2101
01:21:58.722 --> 01:22:01.090
- I called Kelly just to
ask her if she can loan me

2102
01:22:01.090 --> 01:22:03.930
some money until Friday when I got paid.

2103
01:22:03.930 --> 01:22:08.510
- Oh, James and Julie
needed to borrow money? Hmm

2104
01:22:08.510 --> 01:22:10.056
- Be quiet Ebony.

2105
01:22:10.056 --> 01:22:14.736
Y'all know she told me to
let her discuss it with Stan?

2106
01:22:14.736 --> 01:22:17.221
- That's probably why she
was so mad last week when

2107
01:22:17.221 --> 01:22:20.574
she told Ebony she wasn't
taking the book seriously.

2108
01:22:20.574 --> 01:22:23.187
- Right, talking about some, Ebony,

2109
01:22:23.187 --> 01:22:26.463
we all agreed not to take
this journey lightly.

2110
01:22:26.463 --> 01:22:27.296
- Stop.

2111
01:22:28.152 --> 01:22:31.091
- You ladies ought to
be ashamed of yourselves

2112
01:22:31.091 --> 01:22:33.886
and you all are supposed
to be her friends?

2113
01:22:33.886 --> 01:22:36.149
And you, she told you something

2114
01:22:36.149 --> 01:22:39.789
in confidence so that
you can pray for her.

2115
01:22:39.789 --> 01:22:42.908
Not broadcast her business to everybody.

2116
01:22:42.908 --> 01:22:46.691
Kelly is going through a dark
season in her life right now.

2117
01:22:46.691 --> 01:22:50.395
And all you all can do is sit
around and talk about her?

2118
01:22:50.395 --> 01:22:54.000
You may say that the
word is for the old days,

2119
01:22:54.000 --> 01:22:57.638
but honestly I have never
seen the righteous forsaken.

2120
01:22:57.638 --> 01:22:59.848
And it's working in my life.

2121
01:22:59.848 --> 01:23:01.672
If you all are her friends,

2122
01:23:01.672 --> 01:23:03.974
she definitely don't need enemies.

2123
01:23:03.974 --> 01:23:06.807
(dramatic music)

2124
01:23:09.299 --> 01:23:10.382
- Who is she?

2125
01:23:11.435 --> 01:23:13.140
Girl anyway, she don't come around here

2126
01:23:13.140 --> 01:23:14.789
and try to tell us how
we discuss our friend.

2127
01:23:14.789 --> 01:23:18.302
Kelly is our friend and she
the new kid on the block.

2128
01:23:18.302 --> 01:23:21.719
Anyway onto the next chapter of the book.

2129
01:23:22.816 --> 01:23:23.899
Girl please.

2130
01:23:25.286 --> 01:23:27.953
Oh, there's power in submission.

2131
01:23:28.825 --> 01:23:31.478
I guess Kelly found out
all about that power huh?

2132
01:23:31.478 --> 01:23:32.311
- Ebony.

2133
01:23:33.433 --> 01:23:35.472
I feel horrible.

2134
01:23:35.472 --> 01:23:36.639
Susan's right.

2135
01:23:39.731 --> 01:23:43.033
We should just pray for Kelly.

2136
01:23:43.033 --> 01:23:46.307
Man, I know this is gotta be hurting her.

2137
01:23:46.307 --> 01:23:49.436
(phone ringing)

2138
01:23:49.436 --> 01:23:50.531
- This is Kelly.

2139
01:23:50.531 --> 01:23:51.364
- Put her on speaker.

2140
01:23:51.364 --> 01:23:52.197
- No, sh.

2141
01:23:55.021 --> 01:23:55.854
Hello?

2142
01:23:57.661 --> 01:23:58.494
Oh honey.

2143
01:23:59.785 --> 01:24:01.683
Okay sweetie, yeah.

2144
01:24:01.683 --> 01:24:03.116
Yeah, okay, yup.

2145
01:24:03.116 --> 01:24:04.074
I'm on my way.

2146
01:24:04.074 --> 01:24:04.907
- What's going on?

2147
01:24:04.907 --> 01:24:06.456
- What she say?

2148
01:24:06.456 --> 01:24:08.004
What did she say.

2149
01:24:08.004 --> 01:24:11.504
- Candice, first we need to know, Candice.

2150
01:24:18.111 --> 01:24:19.611
- This is not you.

2151
01:24:20.763 --> 01:24:23.368
Have you even left the house?

2152
01:24:23.368 --> 01:24:25.785
- I can't eat, I can't sleep.

2153
01:24:27.874 --> 01:24:29.457
I can't do nothing.

2154
01:24:31.477 --> 01:24:33.326
Candice, why did it end up like this?

2155
01:24:33.326 --> 01:24:36.946
Like this is not supposed
to be the end result.

2156
01:24:36.946 --> 01:24:38.914
(door knocking)

2157
01:24:38.914 --> 01:24:40.195
Oh my God!

2158
01:24:40.195 --> 01:24:41.028
- Are you sure?

2159
01:24:41.028 --> 01:24:42.195
- [Kelly] Yes.

2160
01:24:44.167 --> 01:24:46.711
What are you guys doing here?

2161
01:24:46.711 --> 01:24:49.362
- Kelly, we came over as soon
as we heard what happened.

2162
01:24:49.362 --> 01:24:50.741
How could he just walk out of your life

2163
01:24:50.741 --> 01:24:52.962
like this as good as you've been to him?

2164
01:24:52.962 --> 01:24:54.331
Where is he at?

2165
01:24:54.331 --> 01:24:56.434
Matter of fact, where's his clothes at?

2166
01:24:56.434 --> 01:24:59.157
- Sweetheart I am so sorry.

2167
01:24:59.157 --> 01:25:01.736
Is there anything I can do?

2168
01:25:01.736 --> 01:25:04.736
- No, there's nothing nobody can do.

2169
01:25:06.789 --> 01:25:09.887
Look, I'm just going to
continue to pray for him.

2170
01:25:09.887 --> 01:25:10.847
- Okay, hold on.

2171
01:25:10.847 --> 01:25:13.378
Enough is enough, you mean to tell me

2172
01:25:13.378 --> 01:25:15.077
that you still want to pray for this man

2173
01:25:15.077 --> 01:25:17.973
after he walked out of
your life that easy Kelly?

2174
01:25:17.973 --> 01:25:20.805
Girl you saved now, God
has a better husband

2175
01:25:20.805 --> 01:25:22.341
in store for you, someone that's saved

2176
01:25:22.341 --> 01:25:24.277
and not still out here in these streets.

2177
01:25:24.277 --> 01:25:27.087
- Maybe Stan is a stumbling
blocking in your way

2178
01:25:27.087 --> 01:25:29.295
and God just had to remove him.

2179
01:25:29.295 --> 01:25:30.375
- You Know what Kelly, we have

2180
01:25:30.375 --> 01:25:32.643
been through a lot of things together

2181
01:25:32.643 --> 01:25:36.317
and I have just never seen
you play this role before.

2182
01:25:36.317 --> 01:25:37.712
- [Julie] Never.

2183
01:25:37.712 --> 01:25:40.351
- The submitting, and that loyalty stuff,

2184
01:25:40.351 --> 01:25:43.689
you know men now a days,
they take that for granted.

2185
01:25:43.689 --> 01:25:45.309
- I know you said that God told

2186
01:25:45.309 --> 01:25:47.018
you your marriage would work,

2187
01:25:47.018 --> 01:25:49.094
but clearly he isn't speaking of this one.

2188
01:25:49.094 --> 01:25:50.096
- [Ebony] Couldn't have been.

2189
01:25:50.096 --> 01:25:52.442
- There is nothing in scripture

2190
01:25:52.442 --> 01:25:56.376
that says to be this way only
if your husband is saved.

2191
01:25:56.376 --> 01:25:58.993
Yes, God did tell my marriage would work,

2192
01:25:58.993 --> 01:26:01.552
thank you for reminding me of that Tasha.

2193
01:26:01.552 --> 01:26:04.144
Look, if God said it I'm gonna believe him

2194
01:26:04.144 --> 01:26:06.644
because it shall come to pass.

2195
01:26:07.994 --> 01:26:11.744
You know what, I'm going
through a real rough

2196
01:26:13.015 --> 01:26:15.181
time right now and the last thing

2197
01:26:15.181 --> 01:26:18.039
I need around me is non believers.

2198
01:26:18.039 --> 01:26:18.872
Look.

2199
01:26:18.872 --> 01:26:19.705
- No.

2200
01:26:19.705 --> 01:26:21.456
- Please, y'all just let yourselves out.

2201
01:26:21.456 --> 01:26:23.395
- You can be a fool all
you want, don't call me.

2202
01:26:23.395 --> 01:26:25.453
- Ebony get out of my house.

2203
01:26:25.453 --> 01:26:26.703
- I'm so sorry.

2204
01:26:30.192 --> 01:26:35.192
♪ Oh I know if I leave ♪

2205
01:26:35.471 --> 01:26:39.405
♪ I'll take a chance at being alone ♪

2206
01:26:39.405 --> 01:26:44.405
♪And honestly I'm afraid cause
I don't wanna live that way♪

2207
01:26:46.167 --> 01:26:50.064
♪ See late at night
when you hold me close ♪

2208
01:26:50.064 --> 01:26:52.704
♪ Baby I feel so safe ♪

2209
01:26:52.704 --> 01:26:56.583
♪ And its a cold cruel world out there ♪

2210
01:26:56.583 --> 01:27:01.583
♪ And baby I'm leaning on faith ♪

2211
01:27:02.570 --> 01:27:05.703
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2212
01:27:05.703 --> 01:27:09.328
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2213
01:27:09.328 --> 01:27:12.700
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2214
01:27:12.700 --> 01:27:16.336
♪ Can we get to love baby ♪

2215
01:27:16.336 --> 01:27:19.948
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2216
01:27:19.948 --> 01:27:23.094
♪ Get to love ♪

2217
01:27:23.094 --> 01:27:26.132
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2218
01:27:26.132 --> 01:27:30.494
♪ Can we get to love ♪

2219
01:27:30.494 --> 01:27:33.998
♪ Can we get to, get to love ♪

2220
01:27:33.998 --> 01:27:34.958
♪ Can we get to ♪

2221
01:27:34.958 --> 01:27:37.272
- Y'all I just feel so bad for Kelly.

2222
01:27:37.272 --> 01:27:38.880
- Girl so do I.

2223
01:27:38.880 --> 01:27:40.875
Y'all know this is the
first time that Stan's

2224
01:27:40.875 --> 01:27:43.048
not here for her
companies Christmas party?

2225
01:27:43.048 --> 01:27:45.256
- She seems to be holding
up pretty good though.

2226
01:27:45.256 --> 01:27:47.009
- Girl you know how it is.

2227
01:27:47.009 --> 01:27:48.568
She is in the presence of company,

2228
01:27:48.568 --> 01:27:50.008
she got to put on her game face.

2229
01:27:50.008 --> 01:27:50.841
- That's true.

2230
01:27:50.841 --> 01:27:53.825
- Why are y'all over here
looking all gloomy in the face?

2231
01:27:53.825 --> 01:27:57.137
I mean come on, its Christmas
eve, snap out of it already.

2232
01:27:57.137 --> 01:28:00.408
- Ebony, we're just really
feeling sad for Kelly right now.

2233
01:28:00.408 --> 01:28:02.552
- Girl, feeling sorry for Kelly for what?

2234
01:28:02.552 --> 01:28:05.012
- You know this is her favorite holiday

2235
01:28:05.012 --> 01:28:06.907
and Stan's not even here with her.

2236
01:28:06.907 --> 01:28:09.426
- Girl, well whatever, life goes on.

2237
01:28:09.426 --> 01:28:11.170
And anyway from my understanding,

2238
01:28:11.170 --> 01:28:12.620
wasn't she just praying and asking

2239
01:28:12.620 --> 01:28:14.913
God for a new husband for Christmas?

2240
01:28:14.913 --> 01:28:17.553
And girl with all these fine,

2241
01:28:17.553 --> 01:28:19.717
successful men in here, girl,

2242
01:28:19.717 --> 01:28:21.492
she might be getting her prayers answered.

2243
01:28:21.492 --> 01:28:24.202
- Goodness Ebony just stop.

2244
01:28:24.202 --> 01:28:26.948
- Oh Lord, here come Ms suchy much.

2245
01:28:26.948 --> 01:28:29.044
- She looks so beautiful.

2246
01:28:29.044 --> 01:28:30.266
- Must be her husband.

2247
01:28:30.266 --> 01:28:32.212
- I just love when marriages work out.

2248
01:28:32.212 --> 01:28:34.629
- Girl, I need another drink.

2249
01:28:36.196 --> 01:28:37.029
- Hey Scott.

2250
01:28:37.029 --> 01:28:37.862
- What's up.

2251
01:28:37.862 --> 01:28:39.603
- Man this is my beautiful wife Susan.

2252
01:28:39.603 --> 01:28:41.769
- Nice to meet you Susan.

2253
01:28:41.769 --> 01:28:43.901
That's Donte, and that's my man James.

2254
01:28:43.901 --> 01:28:44.843
- Nice to meet you.

2255
01:28:44.843 --> 01:28:46.291
- Pleasure to meet you all.

2256
01:28:46.291 --> 01:28:48.860
Babe, I'm gonna go to the
rest room, be right back.

2257
01:28:48.860 --> 01:28:51.888
- All right, okay, all right.

2258
01:28:51.888 --> 01:28:55.392
- Good God, please tell
me she got a sister.

2259
01:28:55.392 --> 01:28:58.092
A cousin, friend, anybody.

2260
01:28:58.092 --> 01:29:00.492
- Gentlemen, gentlemen, have we purchased

2261
01:29:00.492 --> 01:29:02.857
our raffle tickets yet?

2262
01:29:02.857 --> 01:29:05.038
- No sweetie I haven't, my name is Steve.

2263
01:29:05.038 --> 01:29:05.952
- [Woman] Steve.

2264
01:29:05.952 --> 01:29:06.785
- How much are they?

2265
01:29:06.785 --> 01:29:09.726
- Only one for 150, and five for 600.

2266
01:29:09.726 --> 01:29:12.739
- No sweetie, one for 150, five for 600?

2267
01:29:12.739 --> 01:29:14.335
No, I'm talking about the raffle tickets.

2268
01:29:14.335 --> 01:29:15.836
- And so am I.

2269
01:29:15.836 --> 01:29:18.138
- My wife already purchased
our tickets, so thank you.

2270
01:29:18.138 --> 01:29:19.950
- You must be James.

2271
01:29:19.950 --> 01:29:20.783
- I am.

2272
01:29:20.783 --> 01:29:21.616
- Julies husband.

2273
01:29:21.616 --> 01:29:22.861
- Nice to meet you.

2274
01:29:22.861 --> 01:29:24.361
- Nice to meet you.

2275
01:29:24.361 --> 01:29:25.296
- You as well.

2276
01:29:25.296 --> 01:29:28.570
- And thank you so much for
that annual contribution.

2277
01:29:28.570 --> 01:29:32.294
- Listen we're blessed to be a blessing.

2278
01:29:32.294 --> 01:29:34.886
- Raffle tickets, we sell raffle tickets.

2279
01:29:34.886 --> 01:29:36.969
- Oh my God, fellahs, hi.

2280
01:29:38.627 --> 01:29:41.049
You don't know how
happy I am to see y'all,

2281
01:29:41.049 --> 01:29:42.944
thank you so much for
coming again this year.

2282
01:29:42.944 --> 01:29:45.015
- Of course, why wouldn't
you think we wanna come?

2283
01:29:45.015 --> 01:29:46.736
- Well you know, things
have been kinda crazy

2284
01:29:46.736 --> 01:29:48.800
and given the circumstances,
I just wasn't sure.

2285
01:29:48.800 --> 01:29:53.146
- Hey Kelly, you and Stan are our friends

2286
01:29:53.146 --> 01:29:55.412
and we're going to support
you all no matter what, okay?

2287
01:29:55.412 --> 01:29:58.957
- Oh, Donte, Thank you, that is so sweet.

2288
01:29:58.957 --> 01:30:00.612
Thank you, I appreciate that.

2289
01:30:00.612 --> 01:30:01.466
- Hey Kelly.

2290
01:30:01.466 --> 01:30:02.299
- Yeah?

2291
01:30:02.299 --> 01:30:03.767
- Stan normally volunteer
for the raffle auction

2292
01:30:03.767 --> 01:30:06.020
every year, so who gonna do it this year?

2293
01:30:06.020 --> 01:30:07.715
- I asked my daddy to it.

2294
01:30:07.715 --> 01:30:09.293
- Man, your dad is old.

2295
01:30:09.293 --> 01:30:11.283
- Henry don't clown my
daddy, I know it won't

2296
01:30:11.283 --> 01:30:14.032
be like last time, but
trust me it'll be fine.

2297
01:30:14.032 --> 01:30:15.653
- Excuse me, hi everyone.

2298
01:30:15.653 --> 01:30:17.914
Would you excuse Mrs.
Stevenson for just a second,

2299
01:30:17.914 --> 01:30:20.349
we're gonna go ahead and get
started with the raffles.

2300
01:30:20.349 --> 01:30:22.138
- Okay, I'll catch up with
you guys later, all right?

2301
01:30:22.138 --> 01:30:22.971
- All right.

2302
01:30:22.971 --> 01:30:23.804
- Later Kelly.

2303
01:30:23.804 --> 01:30:24.637
- See you.

2304
01:30:24.637 --> 01:30:25.594
- Call her daddy old?

2305
01:30:25.594 --> 01:30:27.094
- I'm just saying.

2306
01:30:28.212 --> 01:30:29.436
Just saying man.

2307
01:30:29.436 --> 01:30:31.198
- If I can have everyone's
attention please,

2308
01:30:31.198 --> 01:30:33.120
we're gonna start our raffle drawing now.

2309
01:30:33.120 --> 01:30:36.287
(audience applauding)

2310
01:30:37.620 --> 01:30:38.784
- Oh hey Susan.

2311
01:30:38.784 --> 01:30:40.464
- Julie, how are you?

2312
01:30:40.464 --> 01:30:42.659
- I am ready for my bundle of joy.

2313
01:30:42.659 --> 01:30:44.848
- I see, how adorable.

2314
01:30:44.848 --> 01:30:46.155
- Thank you.

2315
01:30:46.155 --> 01:30:48.461
Susan, I really wanted to apologize

2316
01:30:48.461 --> 01:30:51.472
for how we acted at our
last book club meeting.

2317
01:30:51.472 --> 01:30:54.125
We have all acknowledged
that we were wrong,

2318
01:30:54.125 --> 01:30:56.210
and we've even apologized to Kelly.

2319
01:30:56.210 --> 01:30:58.384
- That's so good to hear because honestly

2320
01:30:58.384 --> 01:31:01.608
the apology to Kelly is
what's most important.

2321
01:31:01.608 --> 01:31:04.698
I mean you guys have known
her far longer than I have

2322
01:31:04.698 --> 01:31:06.260
and I just, I was shocked to hear

2323
01:31:06.260 --> 01:31:07.830
you guys speak of her in that manner.

2324
01:31:07.830 --> 01:31:08.663
That's all.

2325
01:31:08.663 --> 01:31:10.327
- Oh my God, we shouldn't have,

2326
01:31:10.327 --> 01:31:12.810
and I promise we will never do so again.

2327
01:31:12.810 --> 01:31:15.064
- We're good girl, because true,

2328
01:31:15.064 --> 01:31:18.813
genuine friendship is so
hard to find these days,

2329
01:31:18.813 --> 01:31:21.716
and Julie you all really
do have something special.

2330
01:31:21.716 --> 01:31:22.832
- Thank you Susan.

2331
01:31:22.832 --> 01:31:23.888
- Your welcome.

2332
01:31:23.888 --> 01:31:25.844
- And I see that you and hubby

2333
01:31:25.844 --> 01:31:28.173
has decided to work things out.

2334
01:31:28.173 --> 01:31:30.477
- We have and let's just say,

2335
01:31:30.477 --> 01:31:33.176
I'm a adjusting the
temperature in my environment.

2336
01:31:33.176 --> 01:31:35.724
- Well okay, girl that is
what I'm talking about.

2337
01:31:35.724 --> 01:31:37.161
- Yes.

2338
01:31:37.161 --> 01:31:38.457
- Congratulations girl.

2339
01:31:38.457 --> 01:31:39.538
- Thank you girl.

2340
01:31:39.538 --> 01:31:42.205
(both laughing)

2341
01:31:45.609 --> 01:31:47.725
- Kelly, what's wrong?

2342
01:31:47.725 --> 01:31:48.902
- Sorry.

2343
01:31:48.902 --> 01:31:51.052
It's just not the same
without him being here.

2344
01:31:51.052 --> 01:31:52.949
I miss him so much Susan.

2345
01:31:52.949 --> 01:31:54.437
- I'm so sorry Kelly.

2346
01:31:54.437 --> 01:31:56.309
You are such a strong woman.

2347
01:31:56.309 --> 01:31:59.709
- You are but you don't
have to be strong for us.

2348
01:31:59.709 --> 01:32:01.220
- Susan's right.

2349
01:32:01.220 --> 01:32:03.755
We all have our breaking point.

2350
01:32:03.755 --> 01:32:05.825
But listen, we're are your girls.

2351
01:32:05.825 --> 01:32:09.075
So it is okay not to be okay sometimes.

2352
01:32:10.681 --> 01:32:13.681
- I mean, you know I've been praying

2353
01:32:15.572 --> 01:32:17.655
and asking God to help me

2354
01:32:19.172 --> 01:32:22.362
because I thought it was
going to be different.

2355
01:32:22.362 --> 01:32:25.465
I didn't know it was going
to turn out like this.

2356
01:32:25.465 --> 01:32:26.457
- [Susan] Oh Kelly.

2357
01:32:26.457 --> 01:32:28.554
- Look at me, I'm alone.

2358
01:32:28.554 --> 01:32:29.887
- No you're not.

2359
01:32:30.775 --> 01:32:32.882
Listen, listen to me.

2360
01:32:32.882 --> 01:32:34.921
I don't care how it looks.

2361
01:32:34.921 --> 01:32:36.377
You keep trusting God

2362
01:32:36.377 --> 01:32:38.967
and you believe that
whatever your heart desires,

2363
01:32:38.967 --> 01:32:43.088
if it is in God's will,
he will give it to you.

2364
01:32:43.088 --> 01:32:46.150
Kelly you were there for
me in my darkest season.

2365
01:32:46.150 --> 01:32:47.921
and I'm going to be here for you in yours.

2366
01:32:47.921 --> 01:32:49.921
- Yes, we all are Kelly.

2367
01:32:51.074 --> 01:32:54.259
- Girl, just to shed a little light,

2368
01:32:54.259 --> 01:32:55.457
didn't you just pray

2369
01:32:55.457 --> 01:32:57.878
and ask God for a new
husband for Christmas?

2370
01:32:57.878 --> 01:33:01.326
And girl with all these fine men in here.

2371
01:33:01.326 --> 01:33:04.435
You better dry your face and
come get your prayers answered.

2372
01:33:04.435 --> 01:33:06.018
- Oh my God, Ebony.

2373
01:33:07.062 --> 01:33:08.645
Girl you are crazy.

2374
01:33:09.662 --> 01:33:13.425
I can always depend on
you for a good laugh.

2375
01:33:13.425 --> 01:33:15.701
I really appreciate y'all.

2376
01:33:15.701 --> 01:33:19.712
I do, you're my girls and I don't know how

2377
01:33:19.712 --> 01:33:22.897
I would have gotten
through this without y'all.

2378
01:33:22.897 --> 01:33:24.199
I love you all so much.

2379
01:33:24.199 --> 01:33:26.116
- [All] We love you too.

2380
01:33:29.476 --> 01:33:31.309
- Thank y'all so much.

2381
01:33:32.792 --> 01:33:34.462
- Kelly, you need to get out here,

2382
01:33:34.462 --> 01:33:37.281
you need to see this,
come on y'all, let's go.

2383
01:33:37.281 --> 01:33:39.393
- What in the world, Renee, hold on.

2384
01:33:39.393 --> 01:33:41.086
What's going on?

2385
01:33:41.086 --> 01:33:44.919
- All right and the last
ticket number is 311.

2386
01:33:46.712 --> 01:33:47.545
307.

2387
01:33:48.395 --> 01:33:49.931
- [Woman] That's me!

2388
01:33:49.931 --> 01:33:50.962
(audience applauding)

2389
01:33:50.962 --> 01:33:53.497
- All right, all right, all right.

2390
01:33:53.497 --> 01:33:55.055
That's it, that's it, that's it.

2391
01:33:55.055 --> 01:33:56.515
You got it, you got it.

2392
01:33:56.515 --> 01:33:57.638
All right, make sure you check

2393
01:33:57.638 --> 01:34:00.922
with Mary to get your prize
at the end of the night.

2394
01:34:00.922 --> 01:34:04.159
And to the rest of y'all we
appreciate y'all for coming out,

2395
01:34:04.159 --> 01:34:05.436
thanks for the support

2396
01:34:05.436 --> 01:34:08.786
because this event is
very, very dear to my wife

2397
01:34:08.786 --> 01:34:10.169
so we appreciate y'all, now party on,

2398
01:34:10.169 --> 01:34:12.839
and, a Merry Christmas to y'all.

2399
01:34:12.839 --> 01:34:13.672
(audience applauding)

2400
01:34:13.672 --> 01:34:15.382
- Girl see, I told you he was here.

2401
01:34:15.382 --> 01:34:16.434
What you gonna do?

2402
01:34:16.434 --> 01:34:19.360
(audience applauding)

2403
01:34:19.360 --> 01:34:21.573
- Can't believe he came.

2404
01:34:21.573 --> 01:34:24.573
(people chattering)

2405
01:34:27.258 --> 01:34:28.216
- What's up with it?

2406
01:34:28.216 --> 01:34:29.633
- Catch up with yall in a minute.

2407
01:34:32.823 --> 01:34:34.672
Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson.

2408
01:34:34.672 --> 01:34:36.997
- Stan what are you doing here?

2409
01:34:36.997 --> 01:34:39.665
- Hey, what am I not welcome this year?

2410
01:34:39.665 --> 01:34:41.007
Well I did say I would be

2411
01:34:41.007 --> 01:34:43.511
the raffle ticket announcer, right?

2412
01:34:43.511 --> 01:34:45.220
So I'm just here to honor that.

2413
01:34:45.220 --> 01:34:46.389
And plus besides, you
know this party wouldn't

2414
01:34:46.389 --> 01:34:50.442
be nothing without old Stan the man right?

2415
01:34:50.442 --> 01:34:52.695
- Is that the only reason why you came.

2416
01:34:52.695 --> 01:34:56.963
- Of course, what other
reason would I be here?

2417
01:34:56.963 --> 01:34:59.837
- Thanks for honoring your commitment.

2418
01:34:59.837 --> 01:35:04.023
- Kelly, Kelly, sweetheart,
sweetheart, I'm kidding.

2419
01:35:04.023 --> 01:35:05.940
Seriously, I miss you.

2420
01:35:07.238 --> 01:35:10.237
- I um, You do?

2421
01:35:10.237 --> 01:35:11.706
- I do.

2422
01:35:11.706 --> 01:35:14.621
And I have some things
I'd like to say to you.

2423
01:35:14.621 --> 01:35:16.001
- I'm listening.

2424
01:35:16.001 --> 01:35:18.125
- Can we step outside.

2425
01:35:18.125 --> 01:35:19.770
- Sure.

2426
01:35:19.770 --> 01:35:20.770
- After you.

2427
01:35:22.858 --> 01:35:24.324
- So why did you have to bring me

2428
01:35:24.324 --> 01:35:26.436
out here to talk, it's freezing.

2429
01:35:26.436 --> 01:35:27.549
- Look, I know babe, I just wanted

2430
01:35:27.549 --> 01:35:29.111
to get you away from the noise.

2431
01:35:29.111 --> 01:35:30.119
I just got a few things on my chest

2432
01:35:30.119 --> 01:35:31.823
I wanted to get off, that's all.

2433
01:35:31.823 --> 01:35:33.156
- I'm listening.

2434
01:35:34.446 --> 01:35:35.988
- All right so Kelly.

2435
01:35:35.988 --> 01:35:39.386
Never in a million years,
would I have thought

2436
01:35:39.386 --> 01:35:41.476
that my mindset would change
the way they that it did

2437
01:35:41.476 --> 01:35:43.661
like in the short span of time.

2438
01:35:43.661 --> 01:35:45.546
you know the same week that I had left

2439
01:35:45.546 --> 01:35:49.313
this guy, my job, he had
sat down, spoke to me

2440
01:35:49.313 --> 01:35:50.874
and he I gave him this book to read,

2441
01:35:50.874 --> 01:35:52.554
he invited me to come out to his church.

2442
01:35:52.554 --> 01:35:53.387
- Okay.

2443
01:35:53.387 --> 01:35:54.220
- Now the name of the book is called

2444
01:35:54.220 --> 01:35:55.732
The Marriage Cup and The Covenant.

2445
01:35:55.732 --> 01:35:57.821
- Oh wait, hold on.

2446
01:35:57.821 --> 01:35:58.957
You mean to tell me the
book I've been trying

2447
01:35:58.957 --> 01:36:01.713
to get you to read with me Stan?

2448
01:36:01.713 --> 01:36:04.076
- I knew that book had sounded familiar.

2449
01:36:04.076 --> 01:36:04.909
- Oh my God.

2450
01:36:04.909 --> 01:36:06.343
It's too cold for you to be playing.

2451
01:36:06.343 --> 01:36:08.318
- Hey well everything happens
in God's timing right.

2452
01:36:08.318 --> 01:36:09.310
- You right.

2453
01:36:09.310 --> 01:36:10.470
- So anyway like I was saying,

2454
01:36:10.470 --> 01:36:12.550
like the book is so powerful Kelly.

2455
01:36:12.550 --> 01:36:14.391
You know, you read the book

2456
01:36:14.391 --> 01:36:17.277
but what got me is the way
they speak on the roles

2457
01:36:17.277 --> 01:36:19.654
and responsibility of
a husband and a wife.

2458
01:36:19.654 --> 01:36:20.487
- Yeah.

2459
01:36:20.487 --> 01:36:21.930
- And when I was reading the
part about a wife, Kelly,

2460
01:36:21.930 --> 01:36:23.407
like you was doing everything that

2461
01:36:23.407 --> 01:36:25.677
you were supposed to do in
our marriage, it was me.

2462
01:36:25.677 --> 01:36:26.797
Like I wasn't leading the way

2463
01:36:26.797 --> 01:36:29.168
I should have been leading you.

2464
01:36:29.168 --> 01:36:31.956
So, but anyway, the crazy part

2465
01:36:31.956 --> 01:36:34.925
about it is the author
of the book is actually

2466
01:36:34.925 --> 01:36:37.530
the pastor of the church the
guy invited me to go out to.

2467
01:36:37.530 --> 01:36:38.965
- Wow, did you go?

2468
01:36:38.965 --> 01:36:40.245
- Yes, I had to go, like,

2469
01:36:40.245 --> 01:36:42.715
cause I had to speak to
him like, personally,

2470
01:36:42.715 --> 01:36:44.755
like in that very moment,

2471
01:36:44.755 --> 01:36:49.115
and I really understood
my role more as a husband.

2472
01:36:49.115 --> 01:36:51.034
So I even joined the church.

2473
01:36:51.034 --> 01:36:52.992
- Wait a minute, you
joined the church Stan?

2474
01:36:52.992 --> 01:36:54.721
- Yes I joined the church.

2475
01:36:54.721 --> 01:36:56.643
That's not even the crazy part about it.

2476
01:36:56.643 --> 01:36:59.640
- What's the crazy part Stan?

2477
01:36:59.640 --> 01:37:02.602
- I gave my life to Christ Kelly.

2478
01:37:02.602 --> 01:37:04.202
- Wait a minute.

2479
01:37:04.202 --> 01:37:05.784
You gave your life to Christ?

2480
01:37:05.784 --> 01:37:06.853
- Yes.

2481
01:37:06.853 --> 01:37:07.686
- Really?

2482
01:37:07.686 --> 01:37:08.519
- I did.

2483
01:37:08.519 --> 01:37:09.424
- Baby, that's so good.

2484
01:37:09.424 --> 01:37:12.473
- To be honest, like the
real reason I'm here Kelly is

2485
01:37:12.473 --> 01:37:14.853
because on this past Sunday

2486
01:37:14.853 --> 01:37:17.152
the message was about forgiveness.

2487
01:37:17.152 --> 01:37:19.504
So I just simply came here and
ask you for your forgiveness.

2488
01:37:19.504 --> 01:37:20.653
- I forgive you.

2489
01:37:20.653 --> 01:37:24.520
- And if you don't want to
forgive me, I totally get that.

2490
01:37:24.520 --> 01:37:26.243
- I forgive you.

2491
01:37:26.243 --> 01:37:27.883
- You do?

2492
01:37:27.883 --> 01:37:30.216
- I said I forgive you baby.

2493
01:37:31.508 --> 01:37:33.443
Merry Christmas, Mr. Stevenson.

2494
01:37:33.443 --> 01:37:35.538
- Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson.

2495
01:37:35.538 --> 01:37:37.246
(dramatic music)

2496
01:37:37.246 --> 01:37:38.079
Thank you Jesus.

2497
01:37:38.079 --> 01:37:40.227
(dramatic music)

2498
01:37:40.227 --> 01:37:41.144
- [All] Aw.

2499
01:37:42.680 --> 01:37:43.513
- Oh my God.

2500
01:37:43.513 --> 01:37:44.945
- [All] Merry Christmas.

2501
01:37:44.945 --> 01:37:47.695
(people yelling)

2502
01:37:58.410 --> 01:38:01.160
(dramatic music)

2503
01:38:04.450 --> 01:38:07.117
- Antwan, it reads, do understand

2504
01:38:08.549 --> 01:38:12.882
that forgiveness and trust
are two different things.

2505
01:38:14.308 --> 01:38:16.550
Just because you might forgive,

2506
01:38:16.550 --> 01:38:21.448
does not mean trust is going
to automatically be restored.

2507
01:38:21.448 --> 01:38:23.448
I really like this book.

2508
01:38:24.901 --> 01:38:26.312
Learning your husband's style

2509
01:38:26.312 --> 01:38:28.895
of communicating is beneficial.

2510
01:38:29.780 --> 01:38:31.930
- That's what I'm talking
about right there.

2511
01:38:31.930 --> 01:38:33.013
Keep reading!

2512
01:38:34.014 --> 01:38:35.900
Nah, nah, here, I'll read.

2513
01:38:35.900 --> 01:38:37.232
It said learning your husband's

2514
01:38:37.232 --> 01:38:40.069
style of communicating is beneficial.

2515
01:38:40.069 --> 01:38:42.688
Okay, every man is not the same.

2516
01:38:42.688 --> 01:38:45.717
However, one thing they all have in common

2517
01:38:45.717 --> 01:38:49.214
is that they all want to be respected.

2518
01:38:49.214 --> 01:38:51.478
Speaking to him as if he is

2519
01:38:51.478 --> 01:38:54.702
a child will not be received very well.

2520
01:38:54.702 --> 01:38:56.008
Amen to that.

2521
01:38:56.008 --> 01:39:00.654
Many times we, y'all have
a valid point and are right

2522
01:39:00.654 --> 01:39:02.854
in what y'all are trying to communicate,

2523
01:39:02.854 --> 01:39:06.119
conversely, meaning at the same time,

2524
01:39:06.119 --> 01:39:08.187
the way y'all communicate at times

2525
01:39:08.187 --> 01:39:10.354
is where the challenge is.

2526
01:39:11.270 --> 01:39:14.054
This is one heck of an author.

2527
01:39:14.054 --> 01:39:15.406
Where's your highlighter?

2528
01:39:15.406 --> 01:39:18.073
(upbeat music)

2529
01:41:49.716 --> 01:41:52.466
(Kelly knocking)

2530
01:41:55.040 --> 01:41:56.457
- Mrs. Anderson?

2531
01:41:58.316 --> 01:41:59.149
Hello?

2532
01:42:06.955 --> 01:42:08.363
- Excuse me.

2533
01:42:08.363 --> 01:42:10.859
Are you the lady that lives downstairs?

2534
01:42:10.859 --> 01:42:12.860
- Yes, hi, I'm Kelly Stevenson.

2535
01:42:12.860 --> 01:42:14.159
- Are you okay?

2536
01:42:14.159 --> 01:42:16.931
- Yes, I'm just looking for Mrs. Anderson.

2537
01:42:16.931 --> 01:42:18.031
Her apartment is empty

2538
01:42:18.031 --> 01:42:19.539
and she didn't tell me she was moving.

2539
01:42:19.539 --> 01:42:20.847
- I'm sorry, who?

2540
01:42:20.847 --> 01:42:23.222
- Mrs. Anderson, she lives here.

2541
01:42:23.222 --> 01:42:26.734
- No, this apartment has been
vacant now for over a year.

2542
01:42:26.734 --> 01:42:27.799
- Excuse me?

2543
01:42:27.799 --> 01:42:31.815
- No one has lived here in over a year.

2544
01:42:31.815 --> 01:42:34.260
- Okay, so it couldn't
have possibly been vacant

2545
01:42:34.260 --> 01:42:36.865
because I've spent time with her here

2546
01:42:36.865 --> 01:42:40.904
talking many times over this past year.

2547
01:42:40.904 --> 01:42:43.000
- No, Mrs. Stevenson, right?

2548
01:42:43.000 --> 01:42:43.833
- Yes.

2549
01:42:43.833 --> 01:42:44.666
- Okay.

2550
01:42:44.666 --> 01:42:46.184
Mrs. Stevenson, you may want

2551
01:42:46.184 --> 01:42:48.250
to give the leasing office a call.

2552
01:42:48.250 --> 01:42:50.945
I know it's the holidays, so
you may have to wait a week,

2553
01:42:50.945 --> 01:42:53.587
but give them the call, they may be able

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01:42:53.587 --> 01:42:55.170
to help you out with the situation.

2555
01:42:55.170 --> 01:42:58.601
- Okay, but I know I'm not crazy.

2556
01:42:58.601 --> 01:43:01.690
Are you 100% certain that no one has lived

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01:43:01.690 --> 01:43:03.455
in this apartment in the past year?

2558
01:43:03.455 --> 01:43:05.955
- I am 200% certain dear.

2559
01:43:07.591 --> 01:43:11.128
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

2560
01:43:11.128 --> 01:43:14.418
(upbeat music)

2561
01:43:14.418 --> 01:43:17.168
- Wow, God you are truly amazing.

2562
01:43:19.407 --> 01:43:22.074
(upbeat music)