1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:31,514 --> 00:00:36,070 Do you know when you, like you stub your toe and it really hurts so bad. 4 00:00:36,174 --> 00:00:40,488 That's what it feels, really badly when you squeeze... 5 00:00:40,592 --> 00:00:44,665 Like, remember those chair things that are bottom. 6 00:00:44,768 --> 00:00:46,839 And then if you put your foot under there, 7 00:00:46,943 --> 00:00:50,291 and then if somebody sits on it, it hurts so bad. 8 00:00:50,395 --> 00:00:53,674 It's like... it's like feeling like that, but madder 9 00:00:53,777 --> 00:00:55,538 and, like, really annoyed. 10 00:00:55,641 --> 00:00:58,610 When my dad died, I felt... 11 00:00:58,713 --> 00:01:02,338 Oh, yeah, blue... blue and red. 12 00:01:02,441 --> 00:01:04,961 That's what the colors... I forgot. 13 00:01:05,065 --> 00:01:08,930 That's sad. And then really mad is red. 14 00:01:09,034 --> 00:01:12,486 And then when they mix, it, like, is annoyed. 15 00:01:12,589 --> 00:01:16,248 Like, annoyed, mad and sad. 16 00:01:16,352 --> 00:01:18,285 So it's like purple, red and... blue. 17 00:01:25,844 --> 00:01:29,882 [wind, birds tweeting] 18 00:01:53,527 --> 00:01:55,494 [distant chatter] 19 00:02:12,511 --> 00:02:15,652 My name is Michael and my stepson passed away. 20 00:02:16,584 --> 00:02:19,311 I'm Jennifer, I'm one of the team coordinators. 21 00:02:20,001 --> 00:02:22,625 My name is CJ and my sister died. 22 00:02:22,728 --> 00:02:25,317 My name is Peter, my dad and mom died. 23 00:02:26,076 --> 00:02:28,665 My name is Angela, my husband Michael died. 24 00:02:28,769 --> 00:02:31,047 My name is Mikayla, my dad died. 25 00:02:31,151 --> 00:02:34,154 My name is Liv, my dad died. 26 00:02:34,257 --> 00:02:37,226 My name is Niamh and my husband died. 27 00:02:37,329 --> 00:02:39,952 My name's Evie and my dad died. 28 00:02:40,643 --> 00:02:42,127 Thank you everybody for sharing. 29 00:02:42,231 --> 00:02:44,854 So, now we're gonna start with our green group. 30 00:02:44,957 --> 00:02:47,132 [chatter] 31 00:02:58,385 --> 00:03:02,009 -Orange is here. -Alright everyone. 32 00:03:02,803 --> 00:03:07,877 Why don't we start by showing everybody what we do? 33 00:03:07,980 --> 00:03:11,881 So that our new friends can see how we start out our group. 34 00:03:11,984 --> 00:03:13,710 Would you like to start? 35 00:03:13,814 --> 00:03:17,507 So... you have the talking stick, 36 00:03:17,611 --> 00:03:21,822 you share your name, who you come with, 37 00:03:21,925 --> 00:03:23,893 and who died in your family 38 00:03:23,996 --> 00:03:28,553 and... what you did since last time you've been here, 39 00:03:28,656 --> 00:03:31,176 or just what you did in the summer. 40 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,455 And you can always pass if you need to. 41 00:03:35,663 --> 00:03:37,320 -Wanna start for us? -Sure. 42 00:03:37,424 --> 00:03:42,049 My name is Katlyn. My dad died and I'm here with my sister and my mom. 43 00:03:42,152 --> 00:03:48,228 And since last time I've been here, my sister got a phone, and it's not fair! 44 00:03:52,922 --> 00:03:57,616 My name is Chloe and my brother died. I come here with my mom and my dad. 45 00:04:01,689 --> 00:04:03,070 Come on. 46 00:04:03,173 --> 00:04:08,696 Hi. My name's Kimmy and my father died and I'll pass it. 47 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:10,974 OK. 48 00:04:11,078 --> 00:04:14,254 Nicky, you can pass if you don't want to talk. 49 00:04:18,258 --> 00:04:19,397 That's OK. 50 00:04:23,746 --> 00:04:27,336 We all remember what it was like to be new on our first night. 51 00:04:27,439 --> 00:04:30,270 -Do you guys remember? -Kind of. 52 00:04:31,029 --> 00:04:34,412 -I forgot. -Do you remember being nervous? 53 00:04:34,515 --> 00:04:36,690 -I remember that. -I forgot. 54 00:04:36,793 --> 00:04:40,625 I remember... [overlapping chatter] 55 00:04:40,728 --> 00:04:44,594 -It was crazy. -I remember that... 56 00:04:44,698 --> 00:04:47,045 it was like, Come on, we have to go to Good Grief", 57 00:04:47,148 --> 00:04:49,081 and I'm like, "What?" 58 00:04:49,185 --> 00:04:50,669 Cos I didn't know 59 00:04:50,773 --> 00:04:53,189 we had... 60 00:04:53,293 --> 00:04:55,571 And I was really confused. 61 00:05:01,611 --> 00:05:05,512 [overlapping chatter] 62 00:05:05,615 --> 00:05:09,964 Hey, guys, do you know where an "i" is? 63 00:05:10,068 --> 00:05:11,828 Nope. 64 00:05:13,692 --> 00:05:19,457 I need more paints. I need to prep more paints. 65 00:05:20,423 --> 00:05:23,668 I need a longer rope. I need a longer rope. 66 00:05:24,738 --> 00:05:28,086 You need a longer rope? Or we could tie another one to it. 67 00:05:28,189 --> 00:05:29,984 Nicky's crying. 68 00:05:31,365 --> 00:05:34,368 -Are you OK? -That's not a bad thing. 69 00:05:37,475 --> 00:05:40,236 -I'm not writing my name. -I'm writing. 70 00:05:40,340 --> 00:05:42,307 [overlapping chatter] 71 00:05:42,411 --> 00:05:45,759 OK, here you go. You're all tied. Let me see. 72 00:05:47,416 --> 00:05:49,556 It's a perfect fit! 73 00:05:52,006 --> 00:05:54,457 -We can make it bigger. -Wait, wait, wait. 74 00:05:55,941 --> 00:05:58,530 -Who is that for? -My mom. 75 00:05:58,634 --> 00:06:01,291 -I think I wanna do a... -What's her favorite color? 76 00:06:01,395 --> 00:06:02,983 -Blue. -Blue? 77 00:06:03,086 --> 00:06:07,436 -Light blue. -Her favorite is light blue. 78 00:06:07,539 --> 00:06:10,231 What's your favorite color? Um... black. 79 00:06:10,335 --> 00:06:12,579 Black? What's your favorite color? 80 00:06:13,649 --> 00:06:18,032 This is your favorite color? I love it. Very pretty. 81 00:06:18,136 --> 00:06:20,138 [overlapping chatter] 82 00:06:26,316 --> 00:06:28,491 -Wait... -Peter put his hand up. 83 00:06:28,595 --> 00:06:33,738 -Listen. This is listening, remember? -My name is Peter, my dad and mom died. 84 00:06:35,498 --> 00:06:38,846 My name is Liv and my dad died. 85 00:06:40,434 --> 00:06:42,056 Why do we come to Good Grief? 86 00:06:43,195 --> 00:06:46,095 Because everybody in this group has had someone die in their family. 87 00:06:46,198 --> 00:06:50,824 Has had person, people or two people, one people, people who've died, right? 88 00:06:52,446 --> 00:06:53,620 Yeah. 89 00:06:53,723 --> 00:06:55,622 Oliver, do you want to come hear the story? 90 00:06:55,725 --> 00:06:57,244 You want to hear our story, Oliver? 91 00:06:57,347 --> 00:07:01,455 "The puppy came from the coolest litter in town." 92 00:07:01,559 --> 00:07:05,321 "His friends didn't understand when he said his mom died." 93 00:07:06,115 --> 00:07:08,911 "So rather than cry, he told everyone a lie." 94 00:07:09,014 --> 00:07:11,500 "'Where is your mommy?' asked all of his friends." 95 00:07:12,397 --> 00:07:16,125 "He didn't like questions and at times he didn't even like his friends. 96 00:07:16,815 --> 00:07:21,095 "He thought it was time to go for a walk and find his friend Woodstock." 97 00:07:21,717 --> 00:07:26,307 "He told Woodstock. They were amazed to learn they both had grief." 98 00:07:26,411 --> 00:07:28,689 "I wish I had known I wasn't alone." 99 00:07:28,793 --> 00:07:30,415 -Can I ask a question? -Sure. 100 00:07:30,519 --> 00:07:33,591 -What does the word grief mean? -Good Grief. 101 00:07:33,694 --> 00:07:38,285 I know, but does grief mean? What kind of a feeling is grief? 102 00:07:38,388 --> 00:07:39,666 -Sad. -Sad. 103 00:07:39,769 --> 00:07:42,151 How else do you feel if you feel grief? 104 00:07:42,254 --> 00:07:46,189 Sad. Maybe... I feel grief. 105 00:07:46,293 --> 00:07:47,743 Yeah, you feel grief? 106 00:07:47,846 --> 00:07:50,608 What does it mean if somebody has died? They're never there. 107 00:07:50,711 --> 00:07:53,473 -Never there. -You never see them again. 108 00:07:53,576 --> 00:07:55,164 You never see them again. 109 00:08:00,410 --> 00:08:05,277 -I'm gonna be stuck with uncle CJ. -You're gonna be stuck with uncle CJ? 110 00:08:05,381 --> 00:08:06,555 Yeah. 111 00:08:29,543 --> 00:08:30,993 Look. 112 00:08:32,235 --> 00:08:35,722 So? What are we gonna say? What do you wanna say? 113 00:08:35,825 --> 00:08:36,826 Um... 114 00:08:36,930 --> 00:08:39,173 -"Mommy, Daddy, I miss you"? -Yeah. 115 00:08:39,277 --> 00:08:43,143 -"I love you? I love you forever?" -Yeah. 116 00:08:44,213 --> 00:08:45,663 [giggles] 117 00:08:49,459 --> 00:08:51,289 -I love you forever. -Yeah. 118 00:08:54,430 --> 00:08:55,431 Ready? 119 00:08:55,535 --> 00:09:00,125 -Wait. -[both] One, two, three. 120 00:09:00,229 --> 00:09:02,990 Let 'em go. Oh! 121 00:09:03,094 --> 00:09:07,201 No! There they go. Well there goes one. 122 00:09:08,582 --> 00:09:10,308 We got one in the tree. You want to get it? 123 00:09:10,411 --> 00:09:12,137 Yeah. 124 00:09:19,213 --> 00:09:20,767 -Oh. -Oh. Uh-oh. 125 00:09:22,044 --> 00:09:23,839 I don't think I'm that tall. 126 00:09:25,081 --> 00:09:26,082 Just... 127 00:09:27,912 --> 00:09:28,913 Hold on. 128 00:09:31,363 --> 00:09:32,744 Grab it. Grab the tree. 129 00:09:34,435 --> 00:09:35,747 -Got it! -Oh, you got it. 130 00:09:35,851 --> 00:09:37,300 Yeah. 131 00:09:37,404 --> 00:09:38,370 Good job. 132 00:09:38,474 --> 00:09:41,028 -We'll try again, alright? -Yeah. 133 00:09:41,132 --> 00:09:42,133 Go ahead. 134 00:09:48,449 --> 00:09:51,591 One, two, three. 135 00:09:53,006 --> 00:09:54,007 Ooh. 136 00:10:00,392 --> 00:10:02,843 That's the ones just hanging out for a little while. 137 00:10:02,947 --> 00:10:07,054 Once the wind changes direction, it'll let it go. Alright? 138 00:10:07,158 --> 00:10:11,611 -Yeah, probably mommy will get it anyway. -Yeah. It'll go to Mommy. 139 00:10:14,614 --> 00:10:20,585 No, no. One got stuck. It's the one for my mom. 140 00:10:21,482 --> 00:10:24,347 Mommy wanted her balloon to stay here with you for a little while. 141 00:10:24,831 --> 00:10:29,076 They still watch you and they still see you. 142 00:10:35,773 --> 00:10:37,740 My name is Peter, 143 00:10:37,844 --> 00:10:42,918 and my dad and mom died. And, um... 144 00:10:44,471 --> 00:10:48,613 My dad died from taking bad medicine. 145 00:10:48,717 --> 00:10:54,274 And my mom died because she got in a car accident. 146 00:11:06,666 --> 00:11:10,739 CJ, if you want... 147 00:11:10,842 --> 00:11:14,294 If you want, you could read a book to me. 148 00:11:14,397 --> 00:11:15,398 Sure. 149 00:11:16,710 --> 00:11:21,957 -"Wherever you are, my..." -Mm-hmm. 150 00:11:22,060 --> 00:11:25,926 -"...l-l... love..." -Mm-hmm. 151 00:11:26,030 --> 00:11:27,548 -"...will..." -Mm hm. 152 00:11:27,652 --> 00:11:29,205 -"...find..." -Mm hmm. 153 00:11:29,309 --> 00:11:30,310 "...you." 154 00:11:31,621 --> 00:11:33,209 -Mommy gave this to you? -Yeah. 155 00:11:33,313 --> 00:11:35,039 -OK. -My mom. 156 00:11:40,458 --> 00:11:43,668 " I wanted you more than you will ever know." 157 00:11:43,772 --> 00:11:47,603 "So I sent love to follow wherever you go." 158 00:11:48,293 --> 00:11:49,570 Alright. 159 00:11:50,986 --> 00:11:55,024 "So climb any mountain, climb up to the sky." 160 00:11:55,128 --> 00:11:57,855 "My love will find you, my love can fly." 161 00:11:58,925 --> 00:12:03,205 Kind of like the balloons, how your love flies with the balloon up to Mommy. 162 00:12:03,308 --> 00:12:04,447 -Uh-huh. -Right? 163 00:12:04,551 --> 00:12:07,761 -And Daddy. -Yep, mommy and Daddy. 164 00:12:08,693 --> 00:12:12,490 "And if someday you're lonely or someday you're sad, 165 00:12:12,593 --> 00:12:17,184 or you strike out at baseball or think you've been bad, 166 00:12:17,288 --> 00:12:20,843 just lift up your face, feel the wind in your hair." 167 00:12:20,947 --> 00:12:25,261 "That's me, my sweet baby. My love is right there." 168 00:12:27,781 --> 00:12:29,921 -That's a good one for you, right? -Yeah. 169 00:12:30,025 --> 00:12:33,649 Especially... this one. 170 00:12:35,927 --> 00:12:39,344 When you strike out at baseball. or miss the goal at soccer, 171 00:12:39,448 --> 00:12:41,519 you don't get mad at it. 172 00:12:41,622 --> 00:12:43,417 Alright. 173 00:12:44,694 --> 00:12:50,286 "Hold your head high and don't be afraid to march to the front of your own parade." 174 00:12:51,115 --> 00:12:55,947 "If you're still my small babe or you're all the way grown, 175 00:12:56,051 --> 00:12:59,399 my promise to you is you're never alone." 176 00:13:46,308 --> 00:13:47,757 [chatter] 177 00:13:47,861 --> 00:13:49,794 What were we talking about? 178 00:13:49,898 --> 00:13:55,489 We were talking about how you feel when you cry and what might make you cry. 179 00:13:56,111 --> 00:13:59,873 -It makes me s... S. -S being? 180 00:14:00,632 --> 00:14:03,532 -Sad! -Sad. Sad. 181 00:14:03,635 --> 00:14:06,500 How about you Mikayla? When you cry, how do you feel? 182 00:14:06,604 --> 00:14:08,744 -Nothing. -You feel nothing? 183 00:14:08,848 --> 00:14:12,265 -I don't want to talk about that. -You don't wanna talk about that? 184 00:14:12,368 --> 00:14:16,234 That Dad... that Dad are dead and Mom's dead 185 00:14:16,338 --> 00:14:18,650 because that will kind of make me cry. 186 00:14:18,754 --> 00:14:21,308 -That makes you cry. -It's OK to cry. 187 00:14:22,344 --> 00:14:25,519 What is that feeling Why do you cry? What's that feeling? 188 00:14:25,623 --> 00:14:32,595 Because sometimes when you... when you talk about, um... 189 00:14:32,699 --> 00:14:36,013 some... that your family died, 190 00:14:36,116 --> 00:14:38,981 um, sometimes you cry. 191 00:14:39,085 --> 00:14:44,642 -You cry because you feel... -Because... and I feel sad. 192 00:14:44,745 --> 00:14:45,885 You feel sad. 193 00:14:45,988 --> 00:14:49,371 And I don't really want to talk about it. 194 00:14:49,474 --> 00:14:53,789 -That's why, so I don't really wanna cry. -Yeah. 195 00:14:54,445 --> 00:15:00,037 Did you know sometimes when you cry, it makes your eyes clean. 196 00:15:00,140 --> 00:15:02,763 It makes your eyes clean? 197 00:15:03,972 --> 00:15:09,149 -It makes me feel happy when I cry. -It makes me feel sad. 198 00:15:09,253 --> 00:15:12,152 -It could be both, right? -Yeah, like happy tears. 199 00:15:12,256 --> 00:15:16,122 Sometimes you cry because you're happy and sometimes you cry because you're sad. 200 00:15:16,225 --> 00:15:17,330 Happy tears. 201 00:15:17,433 --> 00:15:20,436 [chatter] 202 00:15:26,408 --> 00:15:31,861 You gonna be the doctor, Peter? You gonna help... help Caroline? 203 00:15:33,001 --> 00:15:36,832 A patient. Your blood is turning into black. 204 00:15:36,936 --> 00:15:40,387 My blood is turning into black? Doctor, that does not sound good. 205 00:15:40,491 --> 00:15:42,769 -You die. -I might die. 206 00:15:42,872 --> 00:15:44,150 -It's bad. -It's bad? 207 00:15:44,253 --> 00:15:48,568 And you're going to die in... in a minute. 208 00:15:48,671 --> 00:15:53,538 That sounds terrible. You're going to die in one minute. 209 00:15:53,642 --> 00:15:55,540 I feel kind of scared. 210 00:16:03,376 --> 00:16:04,480 -OK. -Ready? 211 00:16:04,584 --> 00:16:07,207 -Are you guys going to yell at the end? -Ten. 212 00:16:07,311 --> 00:16:12,868 Nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, 213 00:16:12,972 --> 00:16:15,112 three, two ,one! 214 00:16:15,215 --> 00:16:17,355 [yelling] 215 00:16:23,775 --> 00:16:25,225 -I'm done. -I have one. 216 00:16:28,297 --> 00:16:30,092 -You have one, Nolan? -Yeah. 217 00:16:51,113 --> 00:16:52,804 Mom, read it. 218 00:16:52,908 --> 00:16:54,289 What does that say? 219 00:16:54,392 --> 00:16:58,189 -"I learned cursive." -Oh, cursive! 220 00:16:58,293 --> 00:17:03,194 -"It's boring and tiring." -It's boring and tiring. 221 00:17:03,298 --> 00:17:05,300 -It's great. -And then read this one. 222 00:17:05,403 --> 00:17:07,681 "I also went to the pool." 223 00:17:07,785 --> 00:17:12,928 "It was not very fun because you weren't there." 224 00:17:20,177 --> 00:17:21,695 It makes it look really cool. 225 00:18:16,129 --> 00:18:20,237 I have a book I have in my bedroom. 226 00:18:21,583 --> 00:18:23,067 Should I go get it? 227 00:18:27,727 --> 00:18:28,969 It's in this. 228 00:18:29,073 --> 00:18:30,039 Oh, yeah. 229 00:18:30,143 --> 00:18:31,972 I have a pink one. 230 00:18:32,076 --> 00:18:37,599 So, when he died, he, um... When he died, we had that party. 231 00:18:37,702 --> 00:18:41,465 Lots of people wrote down like notes in it. 232 00:18:41,568 --> 00:18:47,540 -Like letters. -Saying, "You're gonna be OK." 233 00:18:47,643 --> 00:18:49,128 Should I read one of them? 234 00:18:49,990 --> 00:18:53,442 Do Aunt Emmy? The first one. 235 00:18:53,546 --> 00:18:54,995 I'm gonna read... 236 00:18:56,583 --> 00:18:58,792 -Do you want me to read it? -You can read it if you want. 237 00:18:58,896 --> 00:19:03,349 "Nolan, I hope you always remember how much your daddy loved you." 238 00:19:03,452 --> 00:19:08,043 "He was such an amazing father..." That's true. 239 00:19:08,147 --> 00:19:11,909 "...and loved being with you and Nora." 240 00:19:12,012 --> 00:19:14,670 "He would play with you, 241 00:19:14,774 --> 00:19:20,400 and... you two would laugh like two kids." 242 00:19:20,504 --> 00:19:24,646 "Your dad... daddy even loved you enough 243 00:19:24,749 --> 00:19:29,547 to let you get your toes painted." [laughs] 244 00:19:30,548 --> 00:19:31,687 Um... 245 00:19:31,791 --> 00:19:35,829 "Nolan, my love for you and Nora is endless." 246 00:19:35,933 --> 00:19:38,177 "I am always here for you." 247 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:39,488 "Aunt Emmy." 248 00:19:41,249 --> 00:19:46,944 She writes different things in our book. We only got these because... yeah. 249 00:19:47,047 --> 00:19:48,670 Cos they felt bad for us. 250 00:19:52,812 --> 00:19:54,503 I'll read this one. 251 00:19:54,607 --> 00:19:58,645 "Nolan, you are such a smart, handsome guy just like your daddy." 252 00:19:58,749 --> 00:20:03,340 "You will never know how much he loves you and how proud you make him." 253 00:20:03,443 --> 00:20:06,964 "We cherished every moment with you 254 00:20:07,067 --> 00:20:10,139 and really enjoyed watching you play soccer." 255 00:20:10,243 --> 00:20:13,453 "Just remember daddy lives in... 256 00:20:13,557 --> 00:20:18,355 on... in... on in your heart forever." 257 00:20:18,458 --> 00:20:19,839 "I love you, Jen." 258 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:25,396 It was his last girlfriend, and at that night... 259 00:20:26,535 --> 00:20:31,091 ...they went to Red Lobster with her, um... 260 00:20:31,195 --> 00:20:36,890 No, his mom and, um, it was her last time seeing him. 261 00:20:36,994 --> 00:20:39,410 And then they got back to their house. 262 00:20:39,514 --> 00:20:44,035 They had an argument about his taxes and everything. 263 00:20:44,933 --> 00:20:50,870 -And then... and then... -The day after that, 264 00:20:50,973 --> 00:20:55,771 that night, he went over to his friend's house. 265 00:20:55,875 --> 00:20:59,672 They had like a party there, and his... one of the people there 266 00:20:59,775 --> 00:21:03,434 -gave him, like, something bad... -Like alcohol. 267 00:21:03,538 --> 00:21:05,954 ...or something, and he drank it. 268 00:21:06,057 --> 00:21:08,336 -And... -And came in on the couch. 269 00:21:08,439 --> 00:21:12,547 And he went to the couch and he, um... 270 00:21:12,650 --> 00:21:15,308 Fell asleep... ...fell asleep and didn't wake up. 271 00:21:16,551 --> 00:21:18,518 [dog barks] 272 00:21:25,422 --> 00:21:27,216 Hey, what do you want for Christmas? 273 00:21:28,148 --> 00:21:30,634 -A pony. That's what I want. -Sure. 274 00:21:30,737 --> 00:21:32,532 You're never gonna get it for Christmas. 275 00:21:32,636 --> 00:21:36,467 You got a saddle, but you didn't even get it. 276 00:21:36,571 --> 00:21:37,986 You got a picture of it. 277 00:21:39,712 --> 00:21:45,511 And I wanna get... a passport to go anywhere in the world. 278 00:21:45,614 --> 00:21:48,824 Yes, to go to Bora Bora, and I'll take you with me. 279 00:21:48,928 --> 00:21:49,894 You better. 280 00:21:49,998 --> 00:21:52,311 [distant chatter, dog whines] 281 00:21:55,590 --> 00:21:58,627 -Mom, we should get a lemur. -No! 282 00:21:58,731 --> 00:22:00,180 -A what? -A lemur. 283 00:22:00,284 --> 00:22:03,114 -You're never getting a ... -A lemur? 284 00:22:03,218 --> 00:22:06,601 Yeah. It'll be my best friend for life. 285 00:22:06,704 --> 00:22:10,708 In Rachel's house, those birds are really annoying. 286 00:22:12,434 --> 00:22:14,816 Yeah, I don't think I would want a bird. 287 00:22:14,919 --> 00:22:18,889 And, uh... guinea pigs are too loud. 288 00:22:18,992 --> 00:22:21,063 -Guinea pigs? -Yeah, at night. 289 00:22:21,167 --> 00:22:25,067 Cos they make noise at night. Uncle Dave had one. 290 00:22:25,896 --> 00:22:27,276 What about bunnies? 291 00:22:28,105 --> 00:22:29,589 -Bunnies? -Yeah. 292 00:22:29,693 --> 00:22:31,660 Bunnies could be... OK. 293 00:22:31,764 --> 00:22:34,283 What about a leprechaun? I mean a lemur. 294 00:22:34,387 --> 00:22:39,496 [laughs] I'm all about a leprechaun. That's the best idea. 295 00:22:39,599 --> 00:22:42,671 A leprechaun! True. 296 00:22:42,775 --> 00:22:44,466 True, [laughs] 297 00:23:02,070 --> 00:23:03,830 Stop, you're ruining it! 298 00:23:03,934 --> 00:23:06,315 [yells] 299 00:23:07,247 --> 00:23:09,457 OK. [yells] 300 00:23:12,563 --> 00:23:13,530 You give up? 301 00:23:18,017 --> 00:23:22,366 We told the ambulance driver, "It's an emergency, my dad's dying," 302 00:23:22,470 --> 00:23:26,094 and then she's like, "Listen, listen, it's fine. Dad's fine." 303 00:23:26,197 --> 00:23:31,306 And then she was a bit wrong, Daddy died. 304 00:23:31,410 --> 00:23:34,689 And then a nurse came up with stickers and candy. 305 00:23:34,792 --> 00:23:38,934 I was like... [gasps] "Stickers! 306 00:23:39,038 --> 00:23:40,764 And I was like, "Oh, I'll take a handful." 307 00:23:40,867 --> 00:23:43,180 And then Nicky was just like... 308 00:23:44,492 --> 00:23:47,391 He was, like, still next to Aunt Cindy. 309 00:23:47,495 --> 00:23:51,947 Then I, like, got some candy and I was like, "No, thanks," 310 00:23:52,051 --> 00:23:54,018 because I didn't know what it was. 311 00:23:54,122 --> 00:23:58,298 I thought it was, like, pills. I don't know. 312 00:23:58,402 --> 00:24:02,889 Then the nurse came in and said, "I'm so sorry, he's gone." 313 00:24:02,993 --> 00:24:06,272 And then my mom was like, "Daddy's in heaven with God." 314 00:24:06,375 --> 00:24:09,620 And I was like... I burst into tears again. 315 00:24:10,483 --> 00:24:15,937 Then we got home. And then we got some balloons, something like that, 316 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:20,251 and then we went to McDonald's so we can get some kids meals. 317 00:24:20,355 --> 00:24:22,219 Nicky was like, "Mm." 318 00:24:24,048 --> 00:24:26,292 And then that's it. 319 00:24:26,395 --> 00:24:29,329 Then it was bedtime, it came shortly. 320 00:24:30,848 --> 00:24:34,162 The end. It's a story. 321 00:24:35,543 --> 00:24:36,751 True story. 322 00:24:38,131 --> 00:24:40,306 That happens in the past. 323 00:24:40,789 --> 00:24:42,791 [rainfall] 324 00:24:57,254 --> 00:25:02,431 What makes you feel bad, sad, 325 00:25:02,535 --> 00:25:06,297 or embarrassed about your person dying? 326 00:25:08,161 --> 00:25:10,405 Sometimes we don't feel comfortable 327 00:25:10,509 --> 00:25:16,169 talking about, like, memories that make us cry., or that makes us sad. 328 00:25:16,273 --> 00:25:19,448 Alright, so sometimes we don't feel comfortable talking about things 329 00:25:19,552 --> 00:25:21,312 that make us sad, huh? 330 00:25:21,416 --> 00:25:25,731 Is there anything that you feel like you can't talk to your family about? 331 00:25:26,697 --> 00:25:30,321 I can't really say "die", it's "passed away". 332 00:25:30,425 --> 00:25:31,944 -OK. -It's sad. 333 00:25:32,047 --> 00:25:35,499 -Oh, yeah. -It's a sad word. 334 00:25:37,812 --> 00:25:39,952 [plays My Heart Will Go On on organ] 335 00:26:03,665 --> 00:26:06,357 Does anybody want yellow? 336 00:26:06,461 --> 00:26:08,981 -What color hair? -No, that one. 337 00:26:09,084 --> 00:26:11,224 Oh, one of these? Oh. OK. 338 00:26:11,328 --> 00:26:15,608 That's perfect cos my mom had a little bit of gold in her hair. 339 00:26:15,712 --> 00:26:18,887 I can put a little bit of gold. Do you want me to put a little bit of gold, hun? 340 00:26:18,991 --> 00:26:21,510 -Um, but's that's my dad. -Oh, this is your dad. 341 00:26:21,614 --> 00:26:24,652 Oh, we'll give you another plate for your mom. 342 00:26:24,755 --> 00:26:28,552 So, after our person in our family died, our family's all changed. 343 00:26:28,656 --> 00:26:33,384 So everybody here's family changed after your person died. 344 00:26:33,488 --> 00:26:35,732 -Oh, gosh. -Because guess what. 345 00:26:35,835 --> 00:26:38,286 I went to see my dad when he died. 346 00:26:38,389 --> 00:26:42,324 -You went to see your dad when he died. -I had to go to a church. 347 00:26:42,428 --> 00:26:45,914 -There was Halloween stuff. -Oh. 348 00:26:46,018 --> 00:26:48,330 Even there was a cross. 349 00:26:48,434 --> 00:26:51,402 There was a cross when you went to see your dad after he died? 350 00:26:51,506 --> 00:26:55,337 -Wait, did you see his actual body? -Yeah. 351 00:26:55,441 --> 00:26:58,202 -Yeah? -He wasn't wearing anything. 352 00:26:58,306 --> 00:27:02,241 -Yeah? -He was just wearing a vest, 353 00:27:02,344 --> 00:27:04,381 but not any shoes because he died. 354 00:27:04,484 --> 00:27:08,937 -He wasn't wearing shoes cos he died. -And he went in the grass. 355 00:27:09,041 --> 00:27:10,387 He went into the grass. 356 00:27:10,490 --> 00:27:12,147 I wanna put this on. 357 00:27:12,251 --> 00:27:14,253 Did you want one? What color did you want? 358 00:27:14,356 --> 00:27:15,530 Red. 359 00:27:16,842 --> 00:27:19,154 Peter, did you get to see your parents after they died? 360 00:27:19,258 --> 00:27:20,846 -Uh, no. -No. 361 00:27:20,949 --> 00:27:25,057 -Different families do different things. -But... and I never cried. 362 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,231 Not a crier. OK. 363 00:27:27,335 --> 00:27:30,269 Did you cry when your dad died? No? 364 00:27:30,372 --> 00:27:33,721 I cried when my mom died. 365 00:27:36,344 --> 00:27:38,726 Was you dad still there when your mom died? 366 00:27:38,829 --> 00:27:43,627 No. Because she got in a car accident. 367 00:27:43,731 --> 00:27:47,251 -He died in a different way. -How? 368 00:27:47,355 --> 00:27:49,633 He took bad medicine. 369 00:27:51,911 --> 00:27:54,500 -Can I have one more piece of red? -Yeah, sure, hun. 370 00:27:54,603 --> 00:27:57,676 It probably hurt when my mom died. 371 00:27:58,228 --> 00:28:02,853 -What do you think hurt? -Because she got in a car accident. 372 00:28:04,096 --> 00:28:06,995 So, who are you going to spend Christmas with? 373 00:28:09,446 --> 00:28:12,207 At my Gigi's house. 374 00:28:12,898 --> 00:28:15,555 Do you remember what color your mom's eyes were? 375 00:28:16,453 --> 00:28:18,110 I think blue. 376 00:28:18,213 --> 00:28:20,837 Blue. OK, so we have to look in there for blue eyes. 377 00:28:20,940 --> 00:28:23,598 -Actually, I think it's brown. -Brown eyes. 378 00:28:24,599 --> 00:28:27,050 -I bet you gave her lots of hugs. -Yeah. 379 00:28:30,536 --> 00:28:33,470 Your mom probably loved the hugs, right? 380 00:28:33,573 --> 00:28:35,368 Those hugs make you feel really strong. 381 00:28:35,472 --> 00:28:38,061 Who could you hug... who are you going to hug this year? 382 00:28:38,164 --> 00:28:39,856 I don't know. 383 00:28:50,314 --> 00:28:52,938 [yells] 384 00:28:53,041 --> 00:28:54,387 -Oh. -Oh. 385 00:28:54,491 --> 00:28:56,182 -He's dead. -He's dead. 386 00:28:56,286 --> 00:28:59,634 -And he got run over. -Is he dead? 387 00:28:59,738 --> 00:29:01,740 -And then... -What about the guy in the car? 388 00:29:01,843 --> 00:29:04,018 He got hurt because he was like... 389 00:29:04,570 --> 00:29:06,606 Oh, yeah. 390 00:29:08,850 --> 00:29:12,233 Everybody ready? Good night, good night, good night, good night! 391 00:29:12,336 --> 00:29:13,786 Thank you for cleaning up! 392 00:29:13,890 --> 00:29:17,721 -No, Peter's still playing! -Come on, Peter. 393 00:29:24,003 --> 00:29:26,385 Alright, everybody ready. Peter, ready? 394 00:29:26,488 --> 00:29:29,422 Let's go. You go. Thank you for coming, thank you. 395 00:29:29,526 --> 00:29:32,701 Let's go. Thank you everybody. 396 00:29:45,024 --> 00:29:46,163 -CJ? -What? 397 00:29:46,267 --> 00:29:48,234 -Help me. -Help you? 398 00:29:52,894 --> 00:29:55,448 -How? -However, you want, it's your tree. 399 00:29:56,208 --> 00:29:58,900 Wrap it around, top to bottom, bottom to top. 400 00:29:59,004 --> 00:30:01,213 I don't know how. 401 00:30:03,698 --> 00:30:05,665 [laughs] Yeah, that's it, that's how I do it. 402 00:30:05,769 --> 00:30:07,771 Just throw it on there. 403 00:30:09,531 --> 00:30:12,707 -Alright. And what's left, your star? -Yeah. 404 00:30:12,811 --> 00:30:15,606 -You gonna be able to reach that one? -Yeah, I guess. 405 00:30:15,710 --> 00:30:18,057 -Or do you want a chair? -I want a chair. 406 00:30:19,818 --> 00:30:21,958 Come on, bring it over this way, so you're closer. 407 00:30:32,485 --> 00:30:37,525 Bang, perfect. Mission accomplished. 408 00:30:39,147 --> 00:30:40,769 What kinda gimme some is that? 409 00:30:43,496 --> 00:30:44,843 [laughs] 410 00:30:46,016 --> 00:30:49,778 You want to go to... uh, over there to Mommy? 411 00:30:49,882 --> 00:30:51,021 Yeah. 412 00:30:51,125 --> 00:30:52,436 Alright. 413 00:30:52,540 --> 00:30:55,992 Ready, Freddy? All set? Tree's all done? 414 00:30:58,580 --> 00:31:00,755 -Stay right in the middle. -Right here? 415 00:31:00,859 --> 00:31:02,688 Yeah. Don't get close to the road. 416 00:31:04,483 --> 00:31:06,071 One, two, three. 417 00:31:06,174 --> 00:31:11,386 Where is Mommy's body? Is that Mommy's shape? 418 00:31:11,490 --> 00:31:13,457 No, that's where the tree was. 419 00:31:14,010 --> 00:31:16,667 -You gonna do Mommy first? -Yeah. 420 00:31:18,566 --> 00:31:24,883 I love you, Mommy, and I wish you haven't died. 421 00:31:24,986 --> 00:31:27,264 Merry Christmas. 422 00:31:28,438 --> 00:31:31,890 Daddy, I... 423 00:31:32,718 --> 00:31:35,617 I miss you and I... 424 00:31:35,721 --> 00:31:41,313 ...and... and I hope you fun... have fun. 425 00:31:41,416 --> 00:31:45,041 You two have fun in heaven together. 426 00:31:54,567 --> 00:31:58,330 -Daddy's going the other way. -He might know a shortcut, right? 427 00:31:58,433 --> 00:31:59,365 And beat Mommy there. 428 00:31:59,469 --> 00:32:02,299 Mommy's in space by now. 429 00:32:02,403 --> 00:32:03,404 You think so? 430 00:32:04,198 --> 00:32:07,201 Do you know what's behind the clouds? 431 00:32:08,754 --> 00:32:10,721 -The universe. -No. 432 00:32:10,825 --> 00:32:12,068 -What? -Heaven. 433 00:32:22,147 --> 00:32:25,944 -What's this for? -It's a Christmas candle for Mommy. 434 00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:28,947 Look. 435 00:32:30,017 --> 00:32:32,157 -It's a Christmas candle, right? -Yeah. 436 00:32:32,260 --> 00:32:36,437 It says, "You are always here with us." 437 00:32:36,540 --> 00:32:39,612 So, since it's a Christmas Candle 438 00:32:39,716 --> 00:32:41,752 and we're celebrating Christmas tomorrow, right? 439 00:32:41,856 --> 00:32:43,754 -Yeah. -I thought what we would do is, 440 00:32:43,858 --> 00:32:46,447 -we would light it here for Mommy. -Yeah. 441 00:32:46,550 --> 00:32:48,863 -Right? And then we bring it home. -Yeah. 442 00:32:48,967 --> 00:32:50,934 And light it today so she's at the Christmas, 443 00:32:51,038 --> 00:32:53,454 so it's like she's at the Christmas party with us. 444 00:32:53,557 --> 00:32:55,042 Oh, yeah! 445 00:32:55,145 --> 00:32:56,181 You ready, Freddy? 446 00:32:56,284 --> 00:32:59,667 Yeah, I can't even see the balloons anymore. 447 00:33:01,841 --> 00:33:03,982 Daddy took a shortcut. 448 00:33:05,362 --> 00:33:06,777 -OK? -Uh-huh. 449 00:33:08,572 --> 00:33:09,608 Uh-oh. 450 00:33:09,711 --> 00:33:11,368 Hopefully it's not too windy out. 451 00:33:12,576 --> 00:33:13,784 Oh. 452 00:33:22,414 --> 00:33:23,622 Oh, get over here. 453 00:33:24,657 --> 00:33:27,695 I want to find things for Mommy. 454 00:33:27,798 --> 00:33:29,835 I know, but I don't want you by the street. 455 00:33:30,974 --> 00:33:33,114 Or else I'll get runned over. 456 00:33:34,943 --> 00:33:38,740 And I'll die the same way as mommy did. 457 00:33:47,922 --> 00:33:50,580 -Oh, she got in a car accident. -I know. 458 00:33:51,891 --> 00:33:54,618 -So it's kind of like the same. -Yeah. 459 00:33:55,792 --> 00:33:58,208 I don't think we're gonna make it happen, captain. 460 00:34:01,418 --> 00:34:03,800 I can't do it dude. 461 00:34:09,254 --> 00:34:11,497 Yes! Yay! 462 00:34:11,601 --> 00:34:13,258 I don't know how long it's going to stay. 463 00:34:13,361 --> 00:34:15,018 OK. 464 00:34:15,122 --> 00:34:17,227 I don't know how long it's going to stay. 465 00:34:17,331 --> 00:34:18,332 Yeah. 466 00:34:18,435 --> 00:34:20,920 -We might get lucky. -OK. 467 00:34:39,732 --> 00:34:41,182 [camera clicks] 468 00:34:42,563 --> 00:34:44,841 -Perfect timing. Look at that. -Yes! 469 00:34:44,944 --> 00:34:46,636 Got the picture and the wind blew it out. 470 00:34:46,739 --> 00:34:51,019 That was probably Mommy blowing it out. Cos it's her candle, right? 471 00:34:51,123 --> 00:34:54,747 Yeah. She could do whatever she wants with it. 472 00:34:54,851 --> 00:34:59,338 Exactly. Cos it's hers, hers, hers. 473 00:34:59,442 --> 00:35:04,861 I think she's saying she want... she wants to be at the Christmas party. 474 00:35:06,207 --> 00:35:08,520 Doesn't Mommy always want to be at the Christmas party? 475 00:35:08,623 --> 00:35:09,969 Yeah. 476 00:35:10,073 --> 00:35:12,179 So I think you're absolutely right about that one. 477 00:35:13,835 --> 00:35:15,216 -Ready, kiddo? -Yep. 478 00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:17,943 -Alright. -OK. 479 00:35:18,046 --> 00:35:20,601 -Ready to go? -Yep. 480 00:35:20,704 --> 00:35:22,154 -OK. -Let's roll. 481 00:35:45,453 --> 00:35:46,420 Good work. 482 00:35:48,767 --> 00:35:50,251 This is so difficult. 483 00:35:50,355 --> 00:35:53,081 Why don't they give you chainsaws? 484 00:35:53,772 --> 00:35:55,083 [groans] 485 00:35:55,187 --> 00:35:57,500 -No you don't push... -I'm going to break this off. 486 00:35:59,467 --> 00:36:01,573 -Look. Look, look, look, look. -I'm doing it! 487 00:36:01,676 --> 00:36:04,403 Look. Can I just get started in a little group? 488 00:36:06,854 --> 00:36:07,993 See, like this? 489 00:36:08,096 --> 00:36:10,444 Push, pull. Push, pull. 490 00:36:13,309 --> 00:36:15,897 Yeah! There you go! 491 00:36:17,830 --> 00:36:21,109 -No more. Me next. -20 more. 492 00:36:21,213 --> 00:36:22,352 One... 493 00:36:22,456 --> 00:36:24,734 Let him come here real quick cos it's almost down. 494 00:36:24,837 --> 00:36:26,322 No, but wait! OK. 495 00:36:27,495 --> 00:36:29,187 Oh, no! 496 00:36:29,290 --> 00:36:32,190 Wait, look, it's still connected, right? No, no, no. 497 00:36:34,192 --> 00:36:36,366 No, Nolan's gonna do the end. 498 00:36:37,056 --> 00:36:39,058 You knocked it down. Yours knocked it down. 499 00:36:39,162 --> 00:36:40,991 Yeah, boy! 500 00:36:41,889 --> 00:36:43,684 Can I do it? 501 00:36:43,787 --> 00:36:44,961 You almost got it. 502 00:36:45,582 --> 00:36:49,897 -Yes! -Success! 503 00:36:50,346 --> 00:36:53,832 -Let's carry it back home. -[laughs] Yeah, right. 504 00:37:48,507 --> 00:37:51,717 Unsatisfying wrapping paper. 505 00:37:51,821 --> 00:37:54,962 Oh, no. I think it's awesome. 506 00:37:56,584 --> 00:37:58,068 Just what you wished for. 507 00:37:58,172 --> 00:38:01,555 Aww. And I love that you're my boy. 508 00:38:03,626 --> 00:38:04,937 I love you. 509 00:38:08,631 --> 00:38:11,358 -Back off. -Nolan, Nolan, Nolan. Nolan, Nolan. 510 00:38:11,461 --> 00:38:12,911 That may hurt. 511 00:38:20,298 --> 00:38:22,610 Hey, don't make me regret this. 512 00:38:24,716 --> 00:38:28,306 -Yeah. -Oh. It can all go... 513 00:38:28,409 --> 00:38:32,551 Wait. It can all go to kids that don't have any gifts. 514 00:38:32,655 --> 00:38:34,657 -Ow! -Nolan, don't do that. 515 00:38:40,525 --> 00:38:45,046 -Did you just throw it on there? -Yeah, I like the sound. 516 00:38:45,150 --> 00:38:48,326 [smoke alarm beeps] 517 00:39:04,687 --> 00:39:08,069 -What you working on, babe? -It's a diary. 518 00:39:13,592 --> 00:39:15,732 Can I open this? 519 00:39:23,602 --> 00:39:25,086 Can I open this? 520 00:39:25,190 --> 00:39:27,572 It's a hard Christmas this year, huh? 521 00:39:27,675 --> 00:39:33,750 "I am grateful, but my dad and grandma aren't here 522 00:39:33,854 --> 00:39:37,098 because they are in heaven." 523 00:39:37,202 --> 00:39:38,410 "So it's hard." 524 00:39:39,411 --> 00:39:41,448 "Anyway, my name's Nora Wood." 525 00:39:41,551 --> 00:39:47,039 "I am a animal lover. I love movies and shows." 526 00:39:47,143 --> 00:39:49,973 "The show that I watch is Riverdale." 527 00:39:50,077 --> 00:39:55,669 "People might think, oh, that's a bad show, but it makes me feel good." 528 00:39:56,877 --> 00:39:59,431 "Also, horses make me feel good." 529 00:40:09,683 --> 00:40:10,718 [smoke alarm beeps] 530 00:40:10,822 --> 00:40:12,030 -[groans] -See? 531 00:40:33,741 --> 00:40:38,712 -You can't look away. -[laughs] 532 00:40:44,994 --> 00:40:46,374 I will do it. 533 00:41:08,638 --> 00:41:14,126 Heaven is an invisible planet and it's pink. 534 00:41:14,230 --> 00:41:17,992 You can have a party there, 535 00:41:18,096 --> 00:41:22,997 or you can... you can play there. 536 00:41:23,101 --> 00:41:27,105 And everybody who died is there. 537 00:41:27,208 --> 00:41:33,111 And whatever is there... 538 00:41:33,214 --> 00:41:35,458 they turn into angels 539 00:41:35,562 --> 00:41:39,773 and they're still looking out for you, 540 00:41:39,876 --> 00:41:43,155 but you don't know they're there. 541 00:41:43,259 --> 00:41:49,161 They're always nice to you and... it's pink. 542 00:41:50,128 --> 00:41:55,754 You can see a flashing light. You can see anything of heaven. 543 00:41:57,135 --> 00:41:59,793 And my dad's in heaven. 544 00:42:06,627 --> 00:42:08,595 Why do you have to put that every day? 545 00:42:08,698 --> 00:42:11,770 So, like, it stays nice and neat. 546 00:42:13,807 --> 00:42:16,568 But I thought you put it on school days. 547 00:42:16,672 --> 00:42:20,054 School days, by the time we come home sometimes, 548 00:42:20,158 --> 00:42:22,367 I don't know what you did in school. 549 00:42:26,474 --> 00:42:29,581 -We do math every day. -And what else? 550 00:42:31,238 --> 00:42:34,793 -We don't do religion anymore. -Why not? 551 00:42:34,897 --> 00:42:39,004 Because... we're doing the Bible. 552 00:42:39,108 --> 00:42:40,316 OK. 553 00:42:40,419 --> 00:42:42,974 Oh, you're discussing the Bible stories, right? 554 00:42:43,077 --> 00:42:44,872 Yeah, and that's why we don't do religion. 555 00:42:44,976 --> 00:42:46,287 OK. 556 00:42:48,635 --> 00:42:49,981 What is this for? 557 00:42:50,084 --> 00:42:53,018 Well, I was going to use that. What do you think? You like it? 558 00:42:53,122 --> 00:42:55,469 Oh, boy. It's to the side. 559 00:42:55,573 --> 00:42:58,299 Right? [laughs] 560 00:42:58,403 --> 00:42:59,853 It's OK. 561 00:43:02,131 --> 00:43:05,168 -No. -Almost done. 562 00:43:15,351 --> 00:43:17,008 -Mommy? -Yes. 563 00:43:17,111 --> 00:43:21,253 Um ... why is the grass so big? 564 00:43:21,357 --> 00:43:24,705 -The plaques? -No, the grass. 565 00:43:24,809 --> 00:43:27,018 Why is it, like, spreading? 566 00:43:27,121 --> 00:43:29,607 Because it's Spring. 567 00:43:29,710 --> 00:43:35,440 So all the flowers, trees and grass start growing in Spring. 568 00:43:36,475 --> 00:43:40,618 Because Spring is... is a season for rain. 569 00:43:40,721 --> 00:43:44,242 Yes. And it rained the day daddy died. 570 00:43:44,345 --> 00:43:48,039 And it rained the day of his, um, funeral too. 571 00:43:48,142 --> 00:43:52,526 So it surprisingly, now we go to the cemetery and it's raining. 572 00:43:52,630 --> 00:43:54,114 -Good. -[laughsÑ 573 00:43:54,666 --> 00:43:55,805 That's good. 574 00:43:57,393 --> 00:43:59,050 Well, you remember what you learned in church? 575 00:43:59,153 --> 00:44:04,124 Pastor Spencer said absent from a body, presence with the Lord. Right? 576 00:44:04,227 --> 00:44:05,746 What's does that mean? 577 00:44:05,850 --> 00:44:11,200 That means when you bury someone, even though their body's there, 578 00:44:11,303 --> 00:44:13,271 that they still go to heaven. 579 00:44:13,374 --> 00:44:19,035 So, the body's there, you bury them, but they're with the Lord right now, 580 00:44:19,139 --> 00:44:20,485 they're in heaven. 581 00:44:22,211 --> 00:44:24,627 We're not gonna do back up Daddy. 582 00:44:24,731 --> 00:44:28,113 Huh? No, no, we're not going to dig up any cemeteries. 583 00:44:28,217 --> 00:44:29,494 -[laughs] -Good. 584 00:44:29,597 --> 00:44:34,154 OK. We're just going to go visit him, talk to him. 585 00:44:34,257 --> 00:44:36,639 Cos I'm sure he can hear us. 586 00:44:36,743 --> 00:44:41,437 How? How... how can he hear us if he doesn't talk? 587 00:44:41,540 --> 00:44:44,958 Well, you know when you pray, God hears you, right? 588 00:44:45,061 --> 00:44:46,338 Mm-hmm. 589 00:44:46,442 --> 00:44:49,341 So, Daddy's like an angel right now in heaven. 590 00:44:49,445 --> 00:44:51,550 So I'm sure he can hear us. 591 00:45:01,906 --> 00:45:06,289 -We have to find the willow section. -Where daddy is? 592 00:45:06,393 --> 00:45:09,016 -So, you're going to have to help me, OK? -OK. 593 00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:11,363 So y'all want me to find daddy's name? 594 00:45:11,467 --> 00:45:13,572 Yeah, but we have to get to the section first. 595 00:45:13,676 --> 00:45:14,677 OK. 596 00:45:15,367 --> 00:45:20,545 Will-low, will...willow. What does that say? 597 00:45:20,648 --> 00:45:24,445 That says chestnut section and linden section. 598 00:45:24,549 --> 00:45:27,207 -Linden? -So, this is willow, 599 00:45:27,310 --> 00:45:31,556 so now we're going to look for... daddy's plaque. 600 00:45:32,419 --> 00:45:35,560 -OK, it's not that one. -No, cos that one says Mom. 601 00:45:35,663 --> 00:45:38,701 -Yeah, because it will be a mommy. -Yeah. 602 00:45:38,805 --> 00:45:40,945 So, let's see... 603 00:45:41,048 --> 00:45:43,464 -Look. -Michael. 604 00:45:44,500 --> 00:45:47,814 Yes. This is where Daddy's buried. 605 00:45:48,573 --> 00:45:51,645 Oh, boy. Hi, Michael. 606 00:45:53,474 --> 00:45:57,444 Is this his phone number? Two zero, one, seven? 607 00:45:57,547 --> 00:46:00,067 No, that's the year he died, 2017. 608 00:46:00,171 --> 00:46:03,001 -Whoa, that's old. -Yes. 609 00:46:05,210 --> 00:46:07,834 -How old was he? -When he died? 610 00:46:07,937 --> 00:46:09,249 -Yeah. -53. 611 00:46:09,352 --> 00:46:12,977 -Well, that's really old. -No, that's not old! 612 00:46:46,976 --> 00:46:51,360 Remember when we first came in here there was a sign saying "Mom"? 613 00:46:51,463 --> 00:46:54,259 I don't know how a mom would die. 614 00:46:55,088 --> 00:46:56,227 How would a mom die? 615 00:46:56,330 --> 00:46:58,298 The same way a dad dies. 616 00:46:58,401 --> 00:46:59,989 -Different ways. -Sick? 617 00:47:00,093 --> 00:47:04,752 Yeah. There's some kids in your group that lost their mom. 618 00:47:04,856 --> 00:47:07,652 Some of them lost their mom and dad. 619 00:47:07,755 --> 00:47:09,481 -Let me tell you something. -Yes? 620 00:47:09,585 --> 00:47:12,968 -Peter. -What did he lose? 621 00:47:13,071 --> 00:47:14,314 Mom and dad. 622 00:47:14,417 --> 00:47:16,764 Yeah, there's another little girl who lost her sister. 623 00:47:16,868 --> 00:47:20,216 Yes, kids can even die. Yes. 624 00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,599 -Guess what. You... Guess what. -What? 625 00:47:23,702 --> 00:47:26,636 -Even grandmas can die. -I know. 626 00:47:50,005 --> 00:47:54,043 How's that going for us tonight? Peter? 627 00:47:54,147 --> 00:47:55,320 [kids yelling] 628 00:47:57,633 --> 00:47:59,290 The fox has something to say. 629 00:47:59,393 --> 00:48:03,018 Does the fox have something to say? What does the fox have to say? 630 00:48:03,811 --> 00:48:08,782 -My mommy died. -Oh, your Mommy died. Oh. 631 00:48:08,886 --> 00:48:11,543 -And my daddy. -And your daddy died. 632 00:48:11,647 --> 00:48:13,580 -And my uncles. -And your uncles. 633 00:48:13,683 --> 00:48:16,686 -And my grandmas. -And your grandmas? 634 00:48:18,688 --> 00:48:24,004 I was sad when my dad died because I got to saw him before he went in the ground. 635 00:48:24,108 --> 00:48:26,731 You got to see him before he went in the ground? 636 00:48:26,834 --> 00:48:27,835 Yeah. 637 00:48:27,939 --> 00:48:31,011 -He just got buried. -He got buried, yeah. 638 00:48:36,775 --> 00:48:41,815 OK. Is there anyone in your family that you really feel like 639 00:48:41,919 --> 00:48:45,957 you can talk to about stuff, about hard things that are going on? 640 00:48:46,061 --> 00:48:49,098 Well, I normally talk to my father a lot in my head, just like, 641 00:48:49,202 --> 00:48:54,069 "Hey... can you tell me this answer to my math problem?" 642 00:48:54,828 --> 00:48:57,072 It's like sort of cheating, but still. 643 00:48:59,281 --> 00:49:02,180 What do you think? Who do you feel like you can talk to in your family? 644 00:49:02,284 --> 00:49:04,320 -My dog. -Your dog? 645 00:49:04,424 --> 00:49:06,046 -What's your dog's name? -Seamus. 646 00:49:06,150 --> 00:49:08,117 Seamus. OK. 647 00:49:09,636 --> 00:49:11,949 You know, sometimes it really is good 648 00:49:12,052 --> 00:49:14,882 to talk to somebody who can't talk back to you, right? 649 00:49:14,986 --> 00:49:18,058 Because you can just tell them your feelings 650 00:49:18,162 --> 00:49:21,337 and they're not going to say, "Oh, don't feel that way," 651 00:49:21,441 --> 00:49:26,170 or, "You shouldn't feel that way," or, "Why are you still sad?" or... 652 00:49:26,273 --> 00:49:30,933 Some people go... Some people these days go to the graveyards 653 00:49:31,037 --> 00:49:35,973 and, um, talk to like someone that was in their family, 654 00:49:36,076 --> 00:49:38,044 even though, like, it's not alive. 655 00:49:38,147 --> 00:49:43,394 They leave the part of their skeleton in there, but their soul blows away. 656 00:49:43,497 --> 00:49:46,535 What's... What's a soul anyway? 657 00:49:46,638 --> 00:49:50,988 Oh, yeah. It's like... it's like a core, the main part of your body. 658 00:49:51,091 --> 00:49:54,992 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, when your heart stops, 659 00:49:55,095 --> 00:49:58,512 it goes it goes into the air and it goes to heaven. 660 00:49:59,272 --> 00:50:02,654 Well, some people think that when a person dies, 661 00:50:02,758 --> 00:50:09,006 part of their soul becomes part of you, part of whoever loved them. 662 00:50:31,062 --> 00:50:37,137 -What's inside the coffin? That... -[gasps] A unicorn! 663 00:50:37,241 --> 00:50:39,622 Oh, yeah? Mommy will save you. 664 00:50:39,726 --> 00:50:42,177 -Did you bury the unicorn? -Yeah. 665 00:50:45,801 --> 00:50:48,148 Let's just pretend that she's dead. 666 00:50:49,218 --> 00:50:52,980 Give me the unicorn! I want the unicorn! 667 00:50:53,602 --> 00:50:55,431 I want the unicorn! 668 00:50:55,535 --> 00:50:57,606 -This is a headstone. -Unicorn! Unicorn! 669 00:50:57,709 --> 00:50:59,953 Like in a cemetery. 670 00:51:01,782 --> 00:51:06,960 Do we want to do little puppet shows and have some puppets explains some feelings? 671 00:51:07,064 --> 00:51:08,306 OK. 672 00:51:08,962 --> 00:51:11,240 One, two, three, you're on. 673 00:51:11,344 --> 00:51:13,829 -[roars] -Scared. 674 00:51:13,932 --> 00:51:18,661 Yes. What happens when you're scared? What do you look like? 675 00:51:18,765 --> 00:51:20,353 Oh, yeah. That's good. 676 00:51:20,456 --> 00:51:24,115 When you're feeling scared, what might you need from somebody else 677 00:51:24,219 --> 00:51:26,428 and who could you go tell that you're scared? 678 00:51:26,531 --> 00:51:29,224 -Uh, Mommy. -Yeah. 679 00:51:32,261 --> 00:51:34,539 You gonna show us something, some feelings? 680 00:51:34,643 --> 00:51:36,817 -Yes, yes. -OK. OK. 681 00:51:43,410 --> 00:51:45,447 -What do you guys think? -Sad? 682 00:51:45,550 --> 00:51:47,104 I was wondering about sad. 683 00:51:47,207 --> 00:51:50,348 Peter, is your puppet... Is your puppets sad? 684 00:51:50,452 --> 00:51:52,557 -No. -What is it? 685 00:51:52,661 --> 00:51:55,215 -Shy. -Shy? 686 00:51:56,078 --> 00:51:59,495 -Maybe he's scared. -Scary? 687 00:51:59,599 --> 00:52:01,290 -Yes. -Is it happy? 688 00:52:01,394 --> 00:52:03,982 -Is it happy? -Sad? 689 00:52:04,086 --> 00:52:04,914 No. 690 00:52:05,605 --> 00:52:07,883 Give us a hint. You gotta give us something, Peter. 691 00:52:07,986 --> 00:52:10,092 I'm not giving you a single hint. 692 00:52:10,196 --> 00:52:13,785 Mr Bear, we can't help you if we don't know how you're feeling. 693 00:52:13,889 --> 00:52:16,029 -Do you give up? -Yes, we... 694 00:52:16,133 --> 00:52:20,033 -I'm sorry, what about you guys? -I was confused. 695 00:52:20,137 --> 00:52:22,656 -Oh! -Confused. 696 00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:25,556 I was looking for something. I was, like, drinking. 697 00:52:25,659 --> 00:52:29,974 -Oh, you were confused. -That was good. 698 00:52:34,530 --> 00:52:36,498 -Extra, extra bubbles. -OK. 699 00:52:36,601 --> 00:52:38,741 -But be careful. -Alight. 700 00:52:38,845 --> 00:52:40,985 The pipe... pipe right here. 701 00:52:41,088 --> 00:52:42,676 You're gonna... Watch your feet. 702 00:52:42,780 --> 00:52:45,955 -Wanna rip the first bag open? -Uh, yeah. 703 00:52:46,784 --> 00:52:49,994 -Stick the shovel in and rip the paper. -There you go. 704 00:52:50,097 --> 00:52:52,410 -[grunts] -Go for the middle. 705 00:52:52,514 --> 00:52:54,171 OK. [grunts] 706 00:52:54,274 --> 00:52:58,382 Two hands. One hand on top, Other hand up higher. 707 00:52:59,693 --> 00:53:00,694 [grunts] 708 00:53:00,798 --> 00:53:03,352 -Got it. -Yeah. 709 00:53:03,456 --> 00:53:04,767 Ready? 710 00:53:09,669 --> 00:53:15,192 -Wait. Is this a tire from Mommy? -No. 711 00:53:16,883 --> 00:53:20,024 I'm keeping it just in case it is. 712 00:53:24,649 --> 00:53:27,514 Hopefully I don't... 713 00:53:30,862 --> 00:53:32,657 I miss Mommy. 714 00:53:41,183 --> 00:53:44,738 Did you know, um, the earth moves slowly? 715 00:53:44,842 --> 00:53:47,085 -That's why we don't jiggle. -Yeah? 716 00:53:47,189 --> 00:53:49,847 -What makes wind? -Wind? 717 00:53:49,950 --> 00:53:51,918 -Yeah. -Air currents. 718 00:53:52,021 --> 00:53:55,024 -What makes air? -Oxygen. 719 00:53:55,715 --> 00:53:58,235 Um, can I tell you something, Tamika? 720 00:53:59,408 --> 00:54:01,168 Tag. 721 00:54:01,272 --> 00:54:03,585 Hey, hey, hey. No, no, no, no, no. We're not playing tag on the street, come on. 722 00:54:14,078 --> 00:54:17,357 It says, "Penny's spooning, but that's OK. 22, trampoline." 723 00:54:17,461 --> 00:54:19,186 I... I like the green one. 724 00:54:19,290 --> 00:54:22,086 This one? OK, we can bring that one. 725 00:54:22,949 --> 00:54:25,054 So, we'll do this one, the green one that you like? 726 00:54:25,158 --> 00:54:28,092 -Are you crying? -Yeah. 727 00:54:31,647 --> 00:54:33,270 I miss her. 728 00:56:51,891 --> 00:56:55,895 Can I just take a picture of me... of me and Grandma? 729 00:56:55,998 --> 00:56:57,655 -OK. -Get in. 730 00:57:00,347 --> 00:57:03,765 I'm gonna put it back where it was. 731 00:57:09,633 --> 00:57:11,600 That's it. That's what I took. 732 00:57:11,704 --> 00:57:14,431 These are all pictures you took? 733 00:57:14,534 --> 00:57:16,053 Oh, my. 734 00:57:16,156 --> 00:57:17,779 There's more. 735 00:57:17,882 --> 00:57:19,159 You don't see Grandma. 736 00:57:19,263 --> 00:57:21,886 Yeah, I got one with Grandma. 737 00:57:21,990 --> 00:57:25,303 Yes. OK, that's a nice one. 738 00:57:27,616 --> 00:57:29,238 You took a lot of pictures. 739 00:57:29,342 --> 00:57:31,482 I know. 740 00:57:33,726 --> 00:57:36,729 I would say that was the last Father's Day we had. 741 00:57:36,832 --> 00:57:38,455 -With Daddy. -Yeah. 742 00:57:40,905 --> 00:57:42,907 Oh. 743 00:57:47,947 --> 00:57:52,089 All people spend their Father's Day with their dads. 744 00:57:52,192 --> 00:57:56,058 But if you don't have a dad, you can't spend a Father's Day with him. 745 00:57:56,162 --> 00:57:57,646 -Yes, we can. -How? 746 00:57:57,750 --> 00:58:00,615 With a uncle, only somebody who's a boy. 747 00:58:00,718 --> 00:58:04,653 OK, so you have to look for an uncle or a grandfather. 748 00:58:05,792 --> 00:58:07,484 OK. 749 00:58:21,187 --> 00:58:25,225 ♪ Shine 750 00:58:25,329 --> 00:58:27,883 ♪ On me 751 00:58:29,402 --> 00:58:33,717 ♪ Shine 752 00:58:34,752 --> 00:58:37,893 ♪ On me 753 00:58:39,239 --> 00:58:42,519 ♪ Let the light 754 00:58:44,141 --> 00:58:48,835 ♪ From the lighthouse 755 00:58:49,491 --> 00:58:52,252 ♪ Shine 756 00:58:53,391 --> 00:58:57,361 ♪ On 757 00:58:57,982 --> 00:59:01,503 ♪ Me 758 00:59:02,987 --> 00:59:08,545 ♪ Oh, shine 759 00:59:09,856 --> 00:59:13,653 ♪ On me 760 00:59:13,757 --> 00:59:15,379 ♪ Oh, oh 761 00:59:15,482 --> 00:59:19,383 ♪ Shine, shine 762 00:59:19,486 --> 00:59:23,352 ♪ On me 763 00:59:24,491 --> 00:59:27,702 ♪ Let the light 764 00:59:28,185 --> 00:59:32,983 ♪ From the lighthouse 765 00:59:33,086 --> 00:59:36,849 ♪ Shine 766 00:59:38,816 --> 00:59:43,476 ♪ Oh, on me 767 00:59:45,098 --> 00:59:46,824 Bless you. 768 00:59:47,929 --> 00:59:49,931 [birdsong] 769 00:59:54,245 --> 00:59:56,869 First we have our Green group. 770 00:59:58,284 --> 00:59:59,768 OK, then we have orange. 771 00:59:59,872 --> 01:00:02,495 OK, so you're gonna go with these guys, OK? 772 01:00:02,599 --> 01:00:05,360 There you go. There's your facilitators. 773 01:00:05,463 --> 01:00:07,017 Head down. 774 01:00:10,054 --> 01:00:11,884 Then we have the blue group. 775 01:00:13,230 --> 01:00:17,165 We have a new friend today. George. 776 01:00:17,268 --> 01:00:18,925 Hi, George. 777 01:00:19,029 --> 01:00:21,687 I'm George. Um... 778 01:00:22,101 --> 01:00:26,415 Um, my dad... well, also named George, died. 779 01:00:27,002 --> 01:00:31,593 And I came here with my sister and my mom. 780 01:00:32,042 --> 01:00:33,422 OK. Great. 781 01:00:33,526 --> 01:00:36,978 So, we've been talking a lot about feelings recently. 782 01:00:37,081 --> 01:00:40,395 Can anybody tell us some feelings that we've talked about? 783 01:00:40,498 --> 01:00:43,122 -I'm guessing you talked about sadness. -We did. 784 01:00:43,225 --> 01:00:46,366 Can anybody think about something that might make them sad? 785 01:00:47,126 --> 01:00:52,165 Remembering that person and wanting to be with them again. 786 01:00:52,269 --> 01:00:53,684 Mm-hmm. 787 01:00:54,547 --> 01:00:55,686 Anybody else? 788 01:00:56,618 --> 01:00:58,516 -Angry? -Angry. 789 01:00:58,620 --> 01:01:01,002 Angry. What's something that might make us feel angry? 790 01:01:01,105 --> 01:01:02,866 Um... 791 01:01:02,969 --> 01:01:07,871 To think of, like, why they had to, like, like, you know... pass away. 792 01:01:07,974 --> 01:01:08,975 Mm-hmm. 793 01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:11,150 Yes. 794 01:01:11,253 --> 01:01:12,496 Uh, mad. 795 01:01:12,599 --> 01:01:14,325 What would make you mad? 796 01:01:14,429 --> 01:01:18,364 If... someone made fun of... 797 01:01:18,467 --> 01:01:23,403 someone made fun of your person that passed away. 798 01:01:23,507 --> 01:01:25,302 Does that happen? Has that happened to you? 799 01:01:25,958 --> 01:01:28,305 -It's happened to me so many times. -Really? 800 01:01:28,408 --> 01:01:31,170 Like, the worst time it's happened, they said so many mean things, 801 01:01:31,273 --> 01:01:34,104 I had no choice but to ignore them cos it was online. 802 01:01:34,207 --> 01:01:37,003 It was online? Yeah. 803 01:01:38,315 --> 01:01:39,488 Ooh... 804 01:01:42,422 --> 01:01:44,114 We're going to make a book today. 805 01:01:44,217 --> 01:01:50,292 Teaching people, other kids, what it's like to have a loss in your life, 806 01:01:50,396 --> 01:01:52,260 to have somebody die in your life 807 01:01:52,363 --> 01:01:54,538 and things that you wish that they knew. 808 01:01:58,059 --> 01:02:02,097 [indistinct chatter] 809 01:02:03,098 --> 01:02:05,066 What happened to your dad, was he sick? 810 01:02:06,101 --> 01:02:07,896 Sort of, but not really. 811 01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:10,105 What about you? Was your dad sick? 812 01:02:10,209 --> 01:02:11,624 Kind of. 813 01:02:19,045 --> 01:02:20,840 [crying] I miss Daddy. 814 01:02:24,844 --> 01:02:26,777 Did your dad die recently, George? 815 01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:33,335 He died in, like... March. 816 01:02:33,439 --> 01:02:38,202 That's very recent. You guys remember when it was super recent? When your dad die? 817 01:02:38,306 --> 01:02:40,860 Like, six months ago maybe. 818 01:02:40,964 --> 01:02:44,346 -Six months ago? -October 4th 2016. 819 01:02:44,450 --> 01:02:46,279 I miss Daddy. 820 01:02:47,177 --> 01:02:53,459 I miss him. I just wish I could spend more time with him. 821 01:02:57,981 --> 01:03:00,673 -Do you want us to talk about it, George? -Yeah. 822 01:03:00,777 --> 01:03:03,400 That's what your here for, honey. 823 01:03:03,503 --> 01:03:06,472 These boys have been through the same thing you've been through. 824 01:03:06,575 --> 01:03:07,922 That's why we're here. 825 01:03:08,025 --> 01:03:09,993 You want to... You want to step into this little room 826 01:03:10,096 --> 01:03:13,030 so the three of us can talk about it? Let's go do that. 827 01:03:21,245 --> 01:03:25,008 [indistinct chatter] 828 01:03:32,118 --> 01:03:36,536 To be honest, I don't understand, like, when people come in my room 829 01:03:36,640 --> 01:03:38,124 and ask if I'm OK. 830 01:03:38,228 --> 01:03:43,509 Cos I don't... I don't really expect myself to say no, 831 01:03:43,612 --> 01:03:46,029 cos I... I always say I'm fine. 832 01:03:46,615 --> 01:03:49,032 What would they do if I said no? 833 01:03:51,068 --> 01:03:54,002 [grunting] 834 01:03:58,800 --> 01:04:01,216 -He's evacuating! -Sorry, buddy. 835 01:04:05,669 --> 01:04:08,223 -You guys like the volcano room? -Yes. 836 01:04:08,327 --> 01:04:09,811 -You do? -I love it! 837 01:04:45,364 --> 01:04:47,331 "Owen is a 14-year-old." 838 01:04:47,435 --> 01:04:51,611 "One day, Owen's dad has an accident and hits his head." 839 01:04:51,715 --> 01:04:55,167 "Owen gets to visit his dad at the hospital." 840 01:04:55,270 --> 01:04:59,585 "Unfortunately, Owen's Dad didn't get better and he died." 841 01:05:00,275 --> 01:05:05,004 "Owen didn't know what to do. All he felt was sad and mad." 842 01:05:05,108 --> 01:05:09,388 "He tried to be happy for his mom so she doesn't get sad." 843 01:05:10,354 --> 01:05:14,772 "My friends don't understand how I feel, but they try to help." 844 01:05:14,876 --> 01:05:16,843 That was excellent. 845 01:05:27,164 --> 01:05:30,305 Who remembers going back to school after their person died? 846 01:05:30,409 --> 01:05:33,619 When I came back to school, everybody wanted to be friends all of a sudden. 847 01:05:33,722 --> 01:05:35,207 Just like best friends. 848 01:05:35,310 --> 01:05:37,519 -They felt bad for you. -Yeah, exactly. 849 01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:43,318 When I started this school year, we all had to say who was in our family. 850 01:05:43,422 --> 01:05:46,459 And it was really hard to speak up because I didn't know 851 01:05:46,563 --> 01:05:49,428 what other kids would say or think. 852 01:05:49,531 --> 01:05:54,157 Because they don't know, um, like, what I'm going through 853 01:05:54,260 --> 01:05:57,194 and the emotions that I'm feeling, but I don't know how to tell them that 854 01:05:57,298 --> 01:06:02,165 because it's... yeah, because sometimes it's hard to describe 855 01:06:02,268 --> 01:06:04,581 when you have a challenge or something like that. 856 01:06:05,030 --> 01:06:09,206 This kid made me cry because they kept talking about how they have a father. 857 01:06:09,310 --> 01:06:11,519 Yes! It's like they brag about it. 858 01:06:11,622 --> 01:06:17,628 There was a note that says, "To Aliyah, I'm happy I have a father and you don't." 859 01:06:17,732 --> 01:06:21,322 -It's amazing how people can be, right? -Mm-hmm. 860 01:06:21,425 --> 01:06:25,084 Sometimes at school we may have, like, Fathers Day and a Mothers Day. 861 01:06:25,188 --> 01:06:26,396 Last year... 862 01:06:26,499 --> 01:06:30,262 One of the questions and the thing was like, um... 863 01:06:31,228 --> 01:06:34,128 "What is, like, the recent... recent thing..." 864 01:06:34,231 --> 01:06:38,132 "What is the most recent thing you've done with your dad?" 865 01:06:38,235 --> 01:06:42,515 And I said, "I don't know. I can't remember." 866 01:06:43,137 --> 01:06:46,278 [indistinct chatter from TV] 867 01:07:02,604 --> 01:07:04,020 -Honey? -Yeah. 868 01:07:04,123 --> 01:07:07,092 -Can you... turn? -Why? 869 01:07:07,195 --> 01:07:09,956 Because I'm talking to you. 870 01:07:14,168 --> 01:07:19,518 The beginning of July, July 4th, we're gonna go to New York 871 01:07:19,621 --> 01:07:24,419 and we're... we're gonna put, um, Daddy and Grandma's ashes. 872 01:07:25,765 --> 01:07:27,250 -Where? -We're gonna bury 'em. 873 01:07:28,596 --> 01:07:30,046 You'll have some. 874 01:07:34,119 --> 01:07:36,121 What do you think about that? 875 01:07:36,742 --> 01:07:38,192 -City? -What do you think... 876 01:07:38,295 --> 01:07:41,781 No, not New York City. Upstate New York. 877 01:07:46,993 --> 01:07:50,342 What do you think about that, having a place to go and see him? 878 01:07:50,445 --> 01:07:54,035 Or would you rather just have all the ashes at home? 879 01:07:55,312 --> 01:07:56,658 Mm... 880 01:07:58,143 --> 01:08:00,835 -I know where I'd put them. -Where? 881 01:08:00,938 --> 01:08:04,735 -Las Vegas. -Las Vegas! 882 01:08:04,839 --> 01:08:06,082 -Uh-huh. -Why? 883 01:08:06,185 --> 01:08:08,808 -So we can go there. -[laughs] 884 01:08:08,912 --> 01:08:11,742 -Oh, just so you can go? -Yeah. 885 01:08:12,467 --> 01:08:13,848 -Well, then... -Maybe Bora Bora. 886 01:08:13,951 --> 01:08:15,436 There you go. 887 01:08:15,539 --> 01:08:19,095 Let's take him to the Maldives. 888 01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:40,288 -What's your favorite memory of Dad? -Um... tickle monster. 889 01:08:41,013 --> 01:08:42,463 -Tickle monster? -Mm-hmm. 890 01:08:42,566 --> 01:08:45,742 You know, one of my favorite pictures is him giving you and Nora 891 01:08:45,845 --> 01:08:50,747 a... a horse ride on his back. 892 01:08:50,850 --> 01:08:52,645 At grandma's house. 893 01:08:52,749 --> 01:08:54,406 Don't remember that. 894 01:09:00,032 --> 01:09:02,966 You don't like to talk about it as much as your sister, huh? 895 01:09:03,069 --> 01:09:04,588 -No. -Why? 896 01:09:04,692 --> 01:09:06,245 -Cos. -Cos why? 897 01:09:06,349 --> 01:09:09,559 -People ask a lot of questions. -Yeah, but what about with just me? 898 01:09:09,662 --> 01:09:12,113 You don't even really talk about it with me. 899 01:09:12,217 --> 01:09:13,908 -No. -Why? 900 01:09:14,011 --> 01:09:15,323 Because. 901 01:09:16,566 --> 01:09:18,361 -Does it make you sad? -Yeah. 902 01:09:18,464 --> 01:09:22,848 Or are you just... you're just at a place where you're OK? 903 01:09:22,951 --> 01:09:24,608 Uh... I don't know. 904 01:09:27,508 --> 01:09:29,682 Do you talk about it with your friends at school? 905 01:09:29,786 --> 01:09:31,236 Well, sometimes. 906 01:09:31,339 --> 01:09:35,550 -What do you say when people ask you? -Sometimes I just walk away. 907 01:09:43,696 --> 01:09:47,459 Do you feel like it's a hassle that you've got to deal with this? 908 01:09:47,562 --> 01:09:50,462 Sometimes. Yes, it made it over! 909 01:09:54,224 --> 01:09:57,365 -You just want to be a kid and go on? -Mm-hmm. 910 01:10:26,429 --> 01:10:28,085 Tell me something that's a strength. 911 01:10:28,189 --> 01:10:33,884 Something that makes you able to handle things when you don't feel so good. 912 01:10:37,509 --> 01:10:38,820 Uh... 913 01:10:38,924 --> 01:10:39,925 Uh... 914 01:10:40,028 --> 01:10:44,101 I have a great superpower that... 915 01:10:44,205 --> 01:10:46,863 that I kind of get through it when I cry. 916 01:10:48,140 --> 01:10:51,626 -So your superpower is crying. -Yeah. 917 01:10:52,731 --> 01:10:56,700 I think that's a great superpower. 918 01:11:00,635 --> 01:11:03,155 -Why are you using so much pink? -I'm gonna mix colors. 919 01:11:03,259 --> 01:11:04,743 I have a whole thing of pink. 920 01:11:05,571 --> 01:11:07,780 Let's see what happens if I mix colors. 921 01:11:25,729 --> 01:11:28,767 -Oh, I just defeated you. -Oh, I think I just gave a super punch. 922 01:11:28,870 --> 01:11:31,148 -No, I just... -I think I gave a super punch. 923 01:11:31,252 --> 01:11:33,668 No, I just did that. 924 01:11:35,463 --> 01:11:36,878 Die! 925 01:11:36,982 --> 01:11:38,570 Yes. I'm going to kick his butt. 926 01:11:38,673 --> 01:11:42,539 Oh, I'm going to kill you! I'm going to kill you! 927 01:11:43,057 --> 01:11:45,301 Oh, yes. Thank you, thank you, CJ! 928 01:11:45,404 --> 01:11:49,028 -What did I do? -You gave me my um, my shield. 929 01:11:49,132 --> 01:11:51,479 -Oh, awesome. -That's really important. 930 01:12:00,937 --> 01:12:01,972 Ow. 931 01:12:05,321 --> 01:12:08,116 -This is Earth. -So, where do you want Earth? 932 01:12:08,220 --> 01:12:09,842 Hmm... 933 01:12:15,848 --> 01:12:18,506 -Right there. Right there. -Right here? 934 01:12:20,370 --> 01:12:21,337 Alright, let go. 935 01:12:21,440 --> 01:12:24,754 No. Go ahead, try again. 936 01:12:26,100 --> 01:12:29,828 -Maybe if we don't let it spin. -OK. 937 01:12:29,931 --> 01:12:32,693 You think so? Or your arm are getting tired? 938 01:12:32,796 --> 01:12:34,350 -My arms are getting tired. -[laughs] 939 01:12:34,453 --> 01:12:37,283 I'll hold on to it forever! 940 01:12:38,146 --> 01:12:40,114 -If I have to. -Alright, let go. 941 01:12:40,217 --> 01:12:42,358 -Yes! -Alright. We got Earth. 942 01:12:43,807 --> 01:12:46,500 What do you think that planet is? 943 01:12:46,603 --> 01:12:49,503 Um, I'm not sure of all the planet's names. 944 01:12:49,606 --> 01:12:53,679 You probably know 'em better than I do. I don't know really nothing about planets. 945 01:12:53,783 --> 01:12:56,199 I can tell you anything you wanna know about sports though. 946 01:12:56,302 --> 01:12:58,581 -And politics and religion. -What's politics? 947 01:12:58,684 --> 01:13:01,756 [laughs] You'll learn when you're older. 948 01:13:01,860 --> 01:13:03,655 There you go, you're all set, champ. 949 01:13:04,172 --> 01:13:07,175 You got your solar system aligned. 950 01:13:07,279 --> 01:13:08,936 I guess I can go to bed now. 951 01:13:09,039 --> 01:13:11,490 -No, I guess you have to go to bed now. -Yes. 952 01:13:11,594 --> 01:13:13,389 Alright. Where's Teddy? 953 01:13:13,492 --> 01:13:15,183 -He's down there. -Bang, bang. 954 01:13:15,287 --> 01:13:16,978 What blanket you want? 955 01:13:18,463 --> 01:13:20,603 -This one. -Alright. 956 01:13:21,500 --> 01:13:24,020 That's that. Night-night. 957 01:13:26,471 --> 01:13:28,990 I love you. See you in the morning. 958 01:13:41,520 --> 01:13:45,041 And when you're mad at something, you could do this! 959 01:13:47,388 --> 01:13:48,803 [screaming] 960 01:13:51,288 --> 01:13:53,877 -This is a terrible way to die. -[screams] 961 01:13:53,981 --> 01:13:58,848 Nolan! Why doesn't someone just squeeze you? That's a terrible way to die. 962 01:14:00,401 --> 01:14:03,611 OK, let's go, Nora. 963 01:14:05,889 --> 01:14:07,063 I can't. Goodbye. 964 01:14:08,236 --> 01:14:11,067 Exploring the wilderness with Nolan. 965 01:14:13,310 --> 01:14:15,451 -Goodbye! -Goodbye. 966 01:14:48,794 --> 01:14:53,419 Nora! I made it! Mom, I made it! 967 01:14:53,523 --> 01:14:56,008 -You did? -Yeah, I made it across. 968 01:15:03,015 --> 01:15:04,361 [applause] 969 01:15:04,465 --> 01:15:09,850 As so many of you know, grief is something that is accompanied by 970 01:15:09,953 --> 01:15:14,889 as much loneliness and isolation as sadness. 971 01:15:14,993 --> 01:15:19,238 But today, today grief comes out of the shadows 972 01:15:19,342 --> 01:15:24,623 because you're surrounded by 1,200 of people who support you. 973 01:15:24,727 --> 01:15:28,351 So thank you all for being in this place right now. 974 01:15:28,454 --> 01:15:30,111 [cheering, applause] 975 01:15:30,215 --> 01:15:34,978 One, two, three. [cheering] 976 01:15:35,082 --> 01:15:36,566 Walk! 977 01:16:43,150 --> 01:16:47,568 [yelling, laughter] 978 01:16:48,604 --> 01:16:50,640 [screaming] 979 01:17:18,392 --> 01:17:21,567 -I got it! -Yeah, I see! 980 01:17:25,019 --> 01:17:26,814 How do you celebrate when you score? 981 01:17:26,918 --> 01:17:29,610 GOAL! 982 01:17:30,542 --> 01:17:32,682 -Whoo! -GOAL! 983 01:17:32,786 --> 01:17:33,752 Whoo! 984 01:17:34,546 --> 01:17:36,824 "I am life." 985 01:17:36,928 --> 01:17:40,103 " I am life just as death is death." 986 01:17:40,207 --> 01:17:41,104 "I am life." 987 01:17:41,208 --> 01:17:44,383 "It's me who sets everything in motion." 988 01:17:45,315 --> 01:17:49,561 "I plant seeds and water all that grows." 989 01:17:51,770 --> 01:17:53,772 -Can I read? -Sure. 990 01:17:53,876 --> 01:17:57,811 "I am in everything that breathes and in every creature with a heart 991 01:17:57,914 --> 01:17:59,813 that creates a rhythm of its own." 992 01:17:59,916 --> 01:18:05,128 "Hearts that that can drum with fear or be filled with joy." 993 01:18:05,232 --> 01:18:09,788 "Hearts that need to receive love in order to give love." 994 01:18:09,892 --> 01:18:13,654 "When death comes, I'm always there." 995 01:18:13,758 --> 01:18:17,347 "We live on the earth together." 996 01:18:17,451 --> 01:18:20,281 That's death. That's death. 997 01:18:20,385 --> 01:18:22,870 Cos he's black, it's dark. 998 01:18:22,974 --> 01:18:27,012 But he's somehow riding a great bike. 999 01:18:28,462 --> 01:18:29,912 What else is there? 1000 01:18:30,015 --> 01:18:31,499 There's life. 1001 01:18:32,777 --> 01:18:36,504 -There's life. And they're flying kites. -Right next to death. 1002 01:18:36,608 --> 01:18:37,609 Yeah. 1003 01:18:38,403 --> 01:18:42,096 "I can fill you with love, even though everyone you know is gone." 1004 01:18:43,304 --> 01:18:46,273 "I will be there to remind you 1005 01:18:46,376 --> 01:18:48,793 just how precious you are." 1006 01:18:48,896 --> 01:18:53,763 "Because in the whole wide world, there is only..." 1007 01:18:55,523 --> 01:18:56,939 "...one of you." 1008 01:18:57,042 --> 01:19:00,701 "And every day, you can show the world who you are." 1009 01:19:01,633 --> 01:19:03,359 I like that story. 1010 01:19:05,464 --> 01:19:06,742 Give me a kiss. 1011 01:19:09,158 --> 01:19:13,403 [laughter] 1012 01:19:13,507 --> 01:19:16,096 But there is no laughing. 1013 01:19:17,028 --> 01:19:19,306 Maybe I'll just sleep here tonight. 1014 01:19:19,409 --> 01:19:24,587 Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. [laughter] 1015 01:19:25,450 --> 01:19:28,142 Are you scared? Are you scared, little boy? 1016 01:19:30,075 --> 01:19:33,389 Get him. Get him! Get his feet! 1017 01:19:36,495 --> 01:19:39,326 Tickle monster! 1018 01:19:55,721 --> 01:19:59,035 We're just gonna paint to get it out. 1019 01:19:59,139 --> 01:20:02,280 -Oh, that's so cold. -What color do you want? 1020 01:20:02,383 --> 01:20:05,145 -Yeah, it is. -Is it cold? 1021 01:20:05,248 --> 01:20:08,148 -So, does this feel good? -[all]Yeah. 1022 01:20:08,251 --> 01:20:09,218 -Yeah? -Yes. 1023 01:20:10,598 --> 01:20:12,704 Oh! 1024 01:20:13,601 --> 01:20:16,087 Whoa! Look at the fingerprints. 1025 01:20:16,950 --> 01:20:18,744 -Wow. -Look at this guy. 1026 01:20:18,848 --> 01:20:20,816 What's that guy? 1027 01:20:20,919 --> 01:20:24,854 Oh, those colored me brown! 1028 01:20:25,821 --> 01:20:28,651 -There's only a little blue! -I know. 1029 01:20:28,754 --> 01:20:30,722 There's no more blue! 1030 01:20:30,826 --> 01:20:33,069 None? Maybe at the bottom. 1031 01:21:13,178 --> 01:21:14,317 [chatter] 1032 01:21:14,421 --> 01:21:18,080 We have one, two, three, 1033 01:21:18,183 --> 01:21:21,152 four families that are closing tonight. 1034 01:21:21,704 --> 01:21:26,122 Thank you for sharing your love and your story with us. 1035 01:21:26,951 --> 01:21:30,299 We in this room all know that grief happens in waves. 1036 01:21:30,402 --> 01:21:34,027 Sometimes you're up. Sometimes you're down. 1037 01:21:34,613 --> 01:21:39,791 So... just remember when you're riding that wave, do the buggy, 1038 01:21:39,895 --> 01:21:41,482 keep riding that wave. 1039 01:21:41,586 --> 01:21:46,591 Don't give up, and just know that when the shore line recedes, 1040 01:21:46,694 --> 01:21:49,870 around you there's going to be the beautiful memories that you have 1041 01:21:49,974 --> 01:21:53,667 of the person that you loved and that you are that beautiful something 1042 01:21:53,770 --> 01:21:55,772 that your person left behind. 1043 01:21:55,876 --> 01:21:58,223 God bless you all. Thank you so much for Good Grief. 1044 01:21:58,327 --> 01:22:00,743 [applause] 1045 01:23:15,128 --> 01:23:17,268 [cheering, applause] 1046 01:23:39,773 --> 01:23:42,879 -Ladies and gentlemen... -Mom, get ready! 1047 01:23:43,846 --> 01:23:45,572 -Start lighting your lanterns. -Yes!