WEBVTT FILE 1 00:00:02.000 --> 00:00:07.000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:13.000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:31.514 --> 00:00:36.070 Do you know when you, like you stub your toe and it really hurts so bad. 4 00:00:36.174 --> 00:00:40.488 That's what it feels, really badly when you squeeze... 5 00:00:40.592 --> 00:00:44.665 Like, remember those chair things that are bottom. 6 00:00:44.768 --> 00:00:46.839 And then if you put your foot under there, 7 00:00:46.943 --> 00:00:50.291 and then if somebody sits on it, it hurts so bad. 8 00:00:50.395 --> 00:00:53.674 It's like... it's like feeling like that, but madder 9 00:00:53.777 --> 00:00:55.538 and, like, really annoyed. 10 00:00:55.641 --> 00:00:58.610 When my dad died, I felt... 11 00:00:58.713 --> 00:01:02.338 Oh, yeah, blue... blue and red. 12 00:01:02.441 --> 00:01:04.961 That's what the colors... I forgot. 13 00:01:05.065 --> 00:01:08.930 That's sad. And then really mad is red. 14 00:01:09.034 --> 00:01:12.486 And then when they mix, it, like, is annoyed. 15 00:01:12.589 --> 00:01:16.248 Like, annoyed, mad and sad. 16 00:01:16.352 --> 00:01:18.285 So it's like purple, red and... blue. 17 00:01:25.844 --> 00:01:29.882 [wind, birds tweeting] 18 00:01:53.527 --> 00:01:55.494 [distant chatter] 19 00:02:12.511 --> 00:02:15.652 My name is Michael and my stepson passed away. 20 00:02:16.584 --> 00:02:19.311 I'm Jennifer, I'm one of the team coordinators. 21 00:02:20.001 --> 00:02:22.625 My name is CJ and my sister died. 22 00:02:22.728 --> 00:02:25.317 My name is Peter, my dad and mom died. 23 00:02:26.076 --> 00:02:28.665 My name is Angela, my husband Michael died. 24 00:02:28.769 --> 00:02:31.047 My name is Mikayla, my dad died. 25 00:02:31.151 --> 00:02:34.154 My name is Liv, my dad died. 26 00:02:34.257 --> 00:02:37.226 My name is Niamh and my husband died. 27 00:02:37.329 --> 00:02:39.952 My name's Evie and my dad died. 28 00:02:40.643 --> 00:02:42.127 Thank you everybody for sharing. 29 00:02:42.231 --> 00:02:44.854 So, now we're gonna start with our green group. 30 00:02:44.957 --> 00:02:47.132 [chatter] 31 00:02:58.385 --> 00:03:02.009 -Orange is here. -Alright everyone. 32 00:03:02.803 --> 00:03:07.877 Why don't we start by showing everybody what we do? 33 00:03:07.980 --> 00:03:11.881 So that our new friends can see how we start out our group. 34 00:03:11.984 --> 00:03:13.710 Would you like to start? 35 00:03:13.814 --> 00:03:17.507 So... you have the talking stick, 36 00:03:17.611 --> 00:03:21.822 you share your name, who you come with, 37 00:03:21.925 --> 00:03:23.893 and who died in your family 38 00:03:23.996 --> 00:03:28.553 and... what you did since last time you've been here, 39 00:03:28.656 --> 00:03:31.176 or just what you did in the summer. 40 00:03:31.280 --> 00:03:34.455 And you can always pass if you need to. 41 00:03:35.663 --> 00:03:37.320 -Wanna start for us? -Sure. 42 00:03:37.424 --> 00:03:42.049 My name is Katlyn. My dad died and I'm here with my sister and my mom. 43 00:03:42.152 --> 00:03:48.228 And since last time I've been here, my sister got a phone, and it's not fair! 44 00:03:52.922 --> 00:03:57.616 My name is Chloe and my brother died. I come here with my mom and my dad. 45 00:04:01.689 --> 00:04:03.070 Come on. 46 00:04:03.173 --> 00:04:08.696 Hi. My name's Kimmy and my father died and I'll pass it. 47 00:04:08.800 --> 00:04:10.974 OK. 48 00:04:11.078 --> 00:04:14.254 Nicky, you can pass if you don't want to talk. 49 00:04:18.258 --> 00:04:19.397 That's OK. 50 00:04:23.746 --> 00:04:27.336 We all remember what it was like to be new on our first night. 51 00:04:27.439 --> 00:04:30.270 -Do you guys remember? -Kind of. 52 00:04:31.029 --> 00:04:34.412 -I forgot. -Do you remember being nervous? 53 00:04:34.515 --> 00:04:36.690 -I remember that. -I forgot. 54 00:04:36.793 --> 00:04:40.625 I remember... [overlapping chatter] 55 00:04:40.728 --> 00:04:44.594 -It was crazy. -I remember that... 56 00:04:44.698 --> 00:04:47.045 it was like, Come on, we have to go to Good Grief", 57 00:04:47.148 --> 00:04:49.081 and I'm like, "What?" 58 00:04:49.185 --> 00:04:50.669 Cos I didn't know 59 00:04:50.773 --> 00:04:53.189 we had... 60 00:04:53.293 --> 00:04:55.571 And I was really confused. 61 00:05:01.611 --> 00:05:05.512 [overlapping chatter] 62 00:05:05.615 --> 00:05:09.964 Hey, guys, do you know where an "i" is? 63 00:05:10.068 --> 00:05:11.828 Nope. 64 00:05:13.692 --> 00:05:19.457 I need more paints. I need to prep more paints. 65 00:05:20.423 --> 00:05:23.668 I need a longer rope. I need a longer rope. 66 00:05:24.738 --> 00:05:28.086 You need a longer rope? Or we could tie another one to it. 67 00:05:28.189 --> 00:05:29.984 Nicky's crying. 68 00:05:31.365 --> 00:05:34.368 -Are you OK? -That's not a bad thing. 69 00:05:37.475 --> 00:05:40.236 -I'm not writing my name. -I'm writing. 70 00:05:40.340 --> 00:05:42.307 [overlapping chatter] 71 00:05:42.411 --> 00:05:45.759 OK, here you go. You're all tied. Let me see. 72 00:05:47.416 --> 00:05:49.556 It's a perfect fit! 73 00:05:52.006 --> 00:05:54.457 -We can make it bigger. -Wait, wait, wait. 74 00:05:55.941 --> 00:05:58.530 -Who is that for? -My mom. 75 00:05:58.634 --> 00:06:01.291 -I think I wanna do a... -What's her favorite color? 76 00:06:01.395 --> 00:06:02.983 -Blue. -Blue? 77 00:06:03.086 --> 00:06:07.436 -Light blue. -Her favorite is light blue. 78 00:06:07.539 --> 00:06:10.231 What's your favorite color? Um... black. 79 00:06:10.335 --> 00:06:12.579 Black? What's your favorite color? 80 00:06:13.649 --> 00:06:18.032 This is your favorite color? I love it. Very pretty. 81 00:06:18.136 --> 00:06:20.138 [overlapping chatter] 82 00:06:26.316 --> 00:06:28.491 -Wait... -Peter put his hand up. 83 00:06:28.595 --> 00:06:33.738 -Listen. This is listening, remember? -My name is Peter, my dad and mom died. 84 00:06:35.498 --> 00:06:38.846 My name is Liv and my dad died. 85 00:06:40.434 --> 00:06:42.056 Why do we come to Good Grief? 86 00:06:43.195 --> 00:06:46.095 Because everybody in this group has had someone die in their family. 87 00:06:46.198 --> 00:06:50.824 Has had person, people or two people, one people, people who've died, right? 88 00:06:52.446 --> 00:06:53.620 Yeah. 89 00:06:53.723 --> 00:06:55.622 Oliver, do you want to come hear the story? 90 00:06:55.725 --> 00:06:57.244 You want to hear our story, Oliver? 91 00:06:57.347 --> 00:07:01.455 "The puppy came from the coolest litter in town." 92 00:07:01.559 --> 00:07:05.321 "His friends didn't understand when he said his mom died." 93 00:07:06.115 --> 00:07:08.911 "So rather than cry, he told everyone a lie." 94 00:07:09.014 --> 00:07:11.500 "'Where is your mommy?' asked all of his friends." 95 00:07:12.397 --> 00:07:16.125 "He didn't like questions and at times he didn't even like his friends. 96 00:07:16.815 --> 00:07:21.095 "He thought it was time to go for a walk and find his friend Woodstock." 97 00:07:21.717 --> 00:07:26.307 "He told Woodstock. They were amazed to learn they both had grief." 98 00:07:26.411 --> 00:07:28.689 "I wish I had known I wasn't alone." 99 00:07:28.793 --> 00:07:30.415 -Can I ask a question? -Sure. 100 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:33.591 -What does the word grief mean? -Good Grief. 101 00:07:33.694 --> 00:07:38.285 I know, but does grief mean? What kind of a feeling is grief? 102 00:07:38.388 --> 00:07:39.666 -Sad. -Sad. 103 00:07:39.769 --> 00:07:42.151 How else do you feel if you feel grief? 104 00:07:42.254 --> 00:07:46.189 Sad. Maybe... I feel grief. 105 00:07:46.293 --> 00:07:47.743 Yeah, you feel grief? 106 00:07:47.846 --> 00:07:50.608 What does it mean if somebody has died? They're never there. 107 00:07:50.711 --> 00:07:53.473 -Never there. -You never see them again. 108 00:07:53.576 --> 00:07:55.164 You never see them again. 109 00:08:00.410 --> 00:08:05.277 -I'm gonna be stuck with uncle CJ. -You're gonna be stuck with uncle CJ? 110 00:08:05.381 --> 00:08:06.555 Yeah. 111 00:08:29.543 --> 00:08:30.993 Look. 112 00:08:32.235 --> 00:08:35.722 So? What are we gonna say? What do you wanna say? 113 00:08:35.825 --> 00:08:36.826 Um... 114 00:08:36.930 --> 00:08:39.173 -"Mommy, Daddy, I miss you"? -Yeah. 115 00:08:39.277 --> 00:08:43.143 -"I love you? I love you forever?" -Yeah. 116 00:08:44.213 --> 00:08:45.663 [giggles] 117 00:08:49.459 --> 00:08:51.289 -I love you forever. -Yeah. 118 00:08:54.430 --> 00:08:55.431 Ready? 119 00:08:55.535 --> 00:09:00.125 -Wait. -[both] One, two, three. 120 00:09:00.229 --> 00:09:02.990 Let 'em go. Oh! 121 00:09:03.094 --> 00:09:07.201 No! There they go. Well there goes one. 122 00:09:08.582 --> 00:09:10.308 We got one in the tree. You want to get it? 123 00:09:10.411 --> 00:09:12.137 Yeah. 124 00:09:19.213 --> 00:09:20.767 -Oh. -Oh. Uh-oh. 125 00:09:22.044 --> 00:09:23.839 I don't think I'm that tall. 126 00:09:25.081 --> 00:09:26.082 Just... 127 00:09:27.912 --> 00:09:28.913 Hold on. 128 00:09:31.363 --> 00:09:32.744 Grab it. Grab the tree. 129 00:09:34.435 --> 00:09:35.747 -Got it! -Oh, you got it. 130 00:09:35.851 --> 00:09:37.300 Yeah. 131 00:09:37.404 --> 00:09:38.370 Good job. 132 00:09:38.474 --> 00:09:41.028 -We'll try again, alright? -Yeah. 133 00:09:41.132 --> 00:09:42.133 Go ahead. 134 00:09:48.449 --> 00:09:51.591 One, two, three. 135 00:09:53.006 --> 00:09:54.007 Ooh. 136 00:10:00.392 --> 00:10:02.843 That's the ones just hanging out for a little while. 137 00:10:02.947 --> 00:10:07.054 Once the wind changes direction, it'll let it go. Alright? 138 00:10:07.158 --> 00:10:11.611 -Yeah, probably mommy will get it anyway. -Yeah. It'll go to Mommy. 139 00:10:14.614 --> 00:10:20.585 No, no. One got stuck. It's the one for my mom. 140 00:10:21.482 --> 00:10:24.347 Mommy wanted her balloon to stay here with you for a little while. 141 00:10:24.831 --> 00:10:29.076 They still watch you and they still see you. 142 00:10:35.773 --> 00:10:37.740 My name is Peter, 143 00:10:37.844 --> 00:10:42.918 and my dad and mom died. And, um... 144 00:10:44.471 --> 00:10:48.613 My dad died from taking bad medicine. 145 00:10:48.717 --> 00:10:54.274 And my mom died because she got in a car accident. 146 00:11:06.666 --> 00:11:10.739 CJ, if you want... 147 00:11:10.842 --> 00:11:14.294 If you want, you could read a book to me. 148 00:11:14.397 --> 00:11:15.398 Sure. 149 00:11:16.710 --> 00:11:21.957 -"Wherever you are, my..." -Mm-hmm. 150 00:11:22.060 --> 00:11:25.926 -"...l-l... love..." -Mm-hmm. 151 00:11:26.030 --> 00:11:27.548 -"...will..." -Mm hm. 152 00:11:27.652 --> 00:11:29.205 -"...find..." -Mm hmm. 153 00:11:29.309 --> 00:11:30.310 "...you." 154 00:11:31.621 --> 00:11:33.209 -Mommy gave this to you? -Yeah. 155 00:11:33.313 --> 00:11:35.039 -OK. -My mom. 156 00:11:40.458 --> 00:11:43.668 " I wanted you more than you will ever know." 157 00:11:43.772 --> 00:11:47.603 "So I sent love to follow wherever you go." 158 00:11:48.293 --> 00:11:49.570 Alright. 159 00:11:50.986 --> 00:11:55.024 "So climb any mountain, climb up to the sky." 160 00:11:55.128 --> 00:11:57.855 "My love will find you, my love can fly." 161 00:11:58.925 --> 00:12:03.205 Kind of like the balloons, how your love flies with the balloon up to Mommy. 162 00:12:03.308 --> 00:12:04.447 -Uh-huh. -Right? 163 00:12:04.551 --> 00:12:07.761 -And Daddy. -Yep, mommy and Daddy. 164 00:12:08.693 --> 00:12:12.490 "And if someday you're lonely or someday you're sad, 165 00:12:12.593 --> 00:12:17.184 or you strike out at baseball or think you've been bad, 166 00:12:17.288 --> 00:12:20.843 just lift up your face, feel the wind in your hair." 167 00:12:20.947 --> 00:12:25.261 "That's me, my sweet baby. My love is right there." 168 00:12:27.781 --> 00:12:29.921 -That's a good one for you, right? -Yeah. 169 00:12:30.025 --> 00:12:33.649 Especially... this one. 170 00:12:35.927 --> 00:12:39.344 When you strike out at baseball. or miss the goal at soccer, 171 00:12:39.448 --> 00:12:41.519 you don't get mad at it. 172 00:12:41.622 --> 00:12:43.417 Alright. 173 00:12:44.694 --> 00:12:50.286 "Hold your head high and don't be afraid to march to the front of your own parade." 174 00:12:51.115 --> 00:12:55.947 "If you're still my small babe or you're all the way grown, 175 00:12:56.051 --> 00:12:59.399 my promise to you is you're never alone." 176 00:13:46.308 --> 00:13:47.757 [chatter] 177 00:13:47.861 --> 00:13:49.794 What were we talking about? 178 00:13:49.898 --> 00:13:55.489 We were talking about how you feel when you cry and what might make you cry. 179 00:13:56.111 --> 00:13:59.873 -It makes me s... S. -S being? 180 00:14:00.632 --> 00:14:03.532 -Sad! -Sad. Sad. 181 00:14:03.635 --> 00:14:06.500 How about you Mikayla? When you cry, how do you feel? 182 00:14:06.604 --> 00:14:08.744 -Nothing. -You feel nothing? 183 00:14:08.848 --> 00:14:12.265 -I don't want to talk about that. -You don't wanna talk about that? 184 00:14:12.368 --> 00:14:16.234 That Dad... that Dad are dead and Mom's dead 185 00:14:16.338 --> 00:14:18.650 because that will kind of make me cry. 186 00:14:18.754 --> 00:14:21.308 -That makes you cry. -It's OK to cry. 187 00:14:22.344 --> 00:14:25.519 What is that feeling Why do you cry? What's that feeling? 188 00:14:25.623 --> 00:14:32.595 Because sometimes when you... when you talk about, um... 189 00:14:32.699 --> 00:14:36.013 some... that your family died, 190 00:14:36.116 --> 00:14:38.981 um, sometimes you cry. 191 00:14:39.085 --> 00:14:44.642 -You cry because you feel... -Because... and I feel sad. 192 00:14:44.745 --> 00:14:45.885 You feel sad. 193 00:14:45.988 --> 00:14:49.371 And I don't really want to talk about it. 194 00:14:49.474 --> 00:14:53.789 -That's why, so I don't really wanna cry. -Yeah. 195 00:14:54.445 --> 00:15:00.037 Did you know sometimes when you cry, it makes your eyes clean. 196 00:15:00.140 --> 00:15:02.763 It makes your eyes clean? 197 00:15:03.972 --> 00:15:09.149 -It makes me feel happy when I cry. -It makes me feel sad. 198 00:15:09.253 --> 00:15:12.152 -It could be both, right? -Yeah, like happy tears. 199 00:15:12.256 --> 00:15:16.122 Sometimes you cry because you're happy and sometimes you cry because you're sad. 200 00:15:16.225 --> 00:15:17.330 Happy tears. 201 00:15:17.433 --> 00:15:20.436 [chatter] 202 00:15:26.408 --> 00:15:31.861 You gonna be the doctor, Peter? You gonna help... help Caroline? 203 00:15:33.001 --> 00:15:36.832 A patient. Your blood is turning into black. 204 00:15:36.936 --> 00:15:40.387 My blood is turning into black? Doctor, that does not sound good. 205 00:15:40.491 --> 00:15:42.769 -You die. -I might die. 206 00:15:42.872 --> 00:15:44.150 -It's bad. -It's bad? 207 00:15:44.253 --> 00:15:48.568 And you're going to die in... in a minute. 208 00:15:48.671 --> 00:15:53.538 That sounds terrible. You're going to die in one minute. 209 00:15:53.642 --> 00:15:55.540 I feel kind of scared. 210 00:16:03.376 --> 00:16:04.480 -OK. -Ready? 211 00:16:04.584 --> 00:16:07.207 -Are you guys going to yell at the end? -Ten. 212 00:16:07.311 --> 00:16:12.868 Nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, 213 00:16:12.972 --> 00:16:15.112 three, two ,one! 214 00:16:15.215 --> 00:16:17.355 [yelling] 215 00:16:23.775 --> 00:16:25.225 -I'm done. -I have one. 216 00:16:28.297 --> 00:16:30.092 -You have one, Nolan? -Yeah. 217 00:16:51.113 --> 00:16:52.804 Mom, read it. 218 00:16:52.908 --> 00:16:54.289 What does that say? 219 00:16:54.392 --> 00:16:58.189 -"I learned cursive." -Oh, cursive! 220 00:16:58.293 --> 00:17:03.194 -"It's boring and tiring." -It's boring and tiring. 221 00:17:03.298 --> 00:17:05.300 -It's great. -And then read this one. 222 00:17:05.403 --> 00:17:07.681 "I also went to the pool." 223 00:17:07.785 --> 00:17:12.928 "It was not very fun because you weren't there." 224 00:17:20.177 --> 00:17:21.695 It makes it look really cool. 225 00:18:16.129 --> 00:18:20.237 I have a book I have in my bedroom. 226 00:18:21.583 --> 00:18:23.067 Should I go get it? 227 00:18:27.727 --> 00:18:28.969 It's in this. 228 00:18:29.073 --> 00:18:30.039 Oh, yeah. 229 00:18:30.143 --> 00:18:31.972 I have a pink one. 230 00:18:32.076 --> 00:18:37.599 So, when he died, he, um... When he died, we had that party. 231 00:18:37.702 --> 00:18:41.465 Lots of people wrote down like notes in it. 232 00:18:41.568 --> 00:18:47.540 -Like letters. -Saying, "You're gonna be OK." 233 00:18:47.643 --> 00:18:49.128 Should I read one of them? 234 00:18:49.990 --> 00:18:53.442 Do Aunt Emmy? The first one. 235 00:18:53.546 --> 00:18:54.995 I'm gonna read... 236 00:18:56.583 --> 00:18:58.792 -Do you want me to read it? -You can read it if you want. 237 00:18:58.896 --> 00:19:03.349 "Nolan, I hope you always remember how much your daddy loved you." 238 00:19:03.452 --> 00:19:08.043 "He was such an amazing father..." That's true. 239 00:19:08.147 --> 00:19:11.909 "...and loved being with you and Nora." 240 00:19:12.012 --> 00:19:14.670 "He would play with you, 241 00:19:14.774 --> 00:19:20.400 and... you two would laugh like two kids." 242 00:19:20.504 --> 00:19:24.646 "Your dad... daddy even loved you enough 243 00:19:24.749 --> 00:19:29.547 to let you get your toes painted." [laughs] 244 00:19:30.548 --> 00:19:31.687 Um... 245 00:19:31.791 --> 00:19:35.829 "Nolan, my love for you and Nora is endless." 246 00:19:35.933 --> 00:19:38.177 "I am always here for you." 247 00:19:38.280 --> 00:19:39.488 "Aunt Emmy." 248 00:19:41.249 --> 00:19:46.944 She writes different things in our book. We only got these because... yeah. 249 00:19:47.047 --> 00:19:48.670 Cos they felt bad for us. 250 00:19:52.812 --> 00:19:54.503 I'll read this one. 251 00:19:54.607 --> 00:19:58.645 "Nolan, you are such a smart, handsome guy just like your daddy." 252 00:19:58.749 --> 00:20:03.340 "You will never know how much he loves you and how proud you make him." 253 00:20:03.443 --> 00:20:06.964 "We cherished every moment with you 254 00:20:07.067 --> 00:20:10.139 and really enjoyed watching you play soccer." 255 00:20:10.243 --> 00:20:13.453 "Just remember daddy lives in... 256 00:20:13.557 --> 00:20:18.355 on... in... on in your heart forever." 257 00:20:18.458 --> 00:20:19.839 "I love you, Jen." 258 00:20:20.840 --> 00:20:25.396 It was his last girlfriend, and at that night... 259 00:20:26.535 --> 00:20:31.091 ...they went to Red Lobster with her, um... 260 00:20:31.195 --> 00:20:36.890 No, his mom and, um, it was her last time seeing him. 261 00:20:36.994 --> 00:20:39.410 And then they got back to their house. 262 00:20:39.514 --> 00:20:44.035 They had an argument about his taxes and everything. 263 00:20:44.933 --> 00:20:50.870 -And then... and then... -The day after that, 264 00:20:50.973 --> 00:20:55.771 that night, he went over to his friend's house. 265 00:20:55.875 --> 00:20:59.672 They had like a party there, and his... one of the people there 266 00:20:59.775 --> 00:21:03.434 -gave him, like, something bad... -Like alcohol. 267 00:21:03.538 --> 00:21:05.954 ...or something, and he drank it. 268 00:21:06.057 --> 00:21:08.336 -And... -And came in on the couch. 269 00:21:08.439 --> 00:21:12.547 And he went to the couch and he, um... 270 00:21:12.650 --> 00:21:15.308 Fell asleep... ...fell asleep and didn't wake up. 271 00:21:16.551 --> 00:21:18.518 [dog barks] 272 00:21:25.422 --> 00:21:27.216 Hey, what do you want for Christmas? 273 00:21:28.148 --> 00:21:30.634 -A pony. That's what I want. -Sure. 274 00:21:30.737 --> 00:21:32.532 You're never gonna get it for Christmas. 275 00:21:32.636 --> 00:21:36.467 You got a saddle, but you didn't even get it. 276 00:21:36.571 --> 00:21:37.986 You got a picture of it. 277 00:21:39.712 --> 00:21:45.511 And I wanna get... a passport to go anywhere in the world. 278 00:21:45.614 --> 00:21:48.824 Yes, to go to Bora Bora, and I'll take you with me. 279 00:21:48.928 --> 00:21:49.894 You better. 280 00:21:49.998 --> 00:21:52.311 [distant chatter, dog whines] 281 00:21:55.590 --> 00:21:58.627 -Mom, we should get a lemur. -No! 282 00:21:58.731 --> 00:22:00.180 -A what? -A lemur. 283 00:22:00.284 --> 00:22:03.114 -You're never getting a ... -A lemur? 284 00:22:03.218 --> 00:22:06.601 Yeah. It'll be my best friend for life. 285 00:22:06.704 --> 00:22:10.708 In Rachel's house, those birds are really annoying. 286 00:22:12.434 --> 00:22:14.816 Yeah, I don't think I would want a bird. 287 00:22:14.919 --> 00:22:18.889 And, uh... guinea pigs are too loud. 288 00:22:18.992 --> 00:22:21.063 -Guinea pigs? -Yeah, at night. 289 00:22:21.167 --> 00:22:25.067 Cos they make noise at night. Uncle Dave had one. 290 00:22:25.896 --> 00:22:27.276 What about bunnies? 291 00:22:28.105 --> 00:22:29.589 -Bunnies? -Yeah. 292 00:22:29.693 --> 00:22:31.660 Bunnies could be... OK. 293 00:22:31.764 --> 00:22:34.283 What about a leprechaun? I mean a lemur. 294 00:22:34.387 --> 00:22:39.496 [laughs] I'm all about a leprechaun. That's the best idea. 295 00:22:39.599 --> 00:22:42.671 A leprechaun! True. 296 00:22:42.775 --> 00:22:44.466 True, [laughs] 297 00:23:02.070 --> 00:23:03.830 Stop, you're ruining it! 298 00:23:03.934 --> 00:23:06.315 [yells] 299 00:23:07.247 --> 00:23:09.457 OK. [yells] 300 00:23:12.563 --> 00:23:13.530 You give up? 301 00:23:18.017 --> 00:23:22.366 We told the ambulance driver, "It's an emergency, my dad's dying," 302 00:23:22.470 --> 00:23:26.094 and then she's like, "Listen, listen, it's fine. Dad's fine." 303 00:23:26.197 --> 00:23:31.306 And then she was a bit wrong, Daddy died. 304 00:23:31.410 --> 00:23:34.689 And then a nurse came up with stickers and candy. 305 00:23:34.792 --> 00:23:38.934 I was like... [gasps] "Stickers! 306 00:23:39.038 --> 00:23:40.764 And I was like, "Oh, I'll take a handful." 307 00:23:40.867 --> 00:23:43.180 And then Nicky was just like... 308 00:23:44.492 --> 00:23:47.391 He was, like, still next to Aunt Cindy. 309 00:23:47.495 --> 00:23:51.947 Then I, like, got some candy and I was like, "No, thanks," 310 00:23:52.051 --> 00:23:54.018 because I didn't know what it was. 311 00:23:54.122 --> 00:23:58.298 I thought it was, like, pills. I don't know. 312 00:23:58.402 --> 00:24:02.889 Then the nurse came in and said, "I'm so sorry, he's gone." 313 00:24:02.993 --> 00:24:06.272 And then my mom was like, "Daddy's in heaven with God." 314 00:24:06.375 --> 00:24:09.620 And I was like... I burst into tears again. 315 00:24:10.483 --> 00:24:15.937 Then we got home. And then we got some balloons, something like that, 316 00:24:16.040 --> 00:24:20.251 and then we went to McDonald's so we can get some kids meals. 317 00:24:20.355 --> 00:24:22.219 Nicky was like, "Mm." 318 00:24:24.048 --> 00:24:26.292 And then that's it. 319 00:24:26.395 --> 00:24:29.329 Then it was bedtime, it came shortly. 320 00:24:30.848 --> 00:24:34.162 The end. It's a story. 321 00:24:35.543 --> 00:24:36.751 True story. 322 00:24:38.131 --> 00:24:40.306 That happens in the past. 323 00:24:40.789 --> 00:24:42.791 [rainfall] 324 00:24:57.254 --> 00:25:02.431 What makes you feel bad, sad, 325 00:25:02.535 --> 00:25:06.297 or embarrassed about your person dying? 326 00:25:08.161 --> 00:25:10.405 Sometimes we don't feel comfortable 327 00:25:10.509 --> 00:25:16.169 talking about, like, memories that make us cry., or that makes us sad. 328 00:25:16.273 --> 00:25:19.448 Alright, so sometimes we don't feel comfortable talking about things 329 00:25:19.552 --> 00:25:21.312 that make us sad, huh? 330 00:25:21.416 --> 00:25:25.731 Is there anything that you feel like you can't talk to your family about? 331 00:25:26.697 --> 00:25:30.321 I can't really say "die", it's "passed away". 332 00:25:30.425 --> 00:25:31.944 -OK. -It's sad. 333 00:25:32.047 --> 00:25:35.499 -Oh, yeah. -It's a sad word. 334 00:25:37.812 --> 00:25:39.952 [plays My Heart Will Go On on organ] 335 00:26:03.665 --> 00:26:06.357 Does anybody want yellow? 336 00:26:06.461 --> 00:26:08.981 -What color hair? -No, that one. 337 00:26:09.084 --> 00:26:11.224 Oh, one of these? Oh. OK. 338 00:26:11.328 --> 00:26:15.608 That's perfect cos my mom had a little bit of gold in her hair. 339 00:26:15.712 --> 00:26:18.887 I can put a little bit of gold. Do you want me to put a little bit of gold, hun? 340 00:26:18.991 --> 00:26:21.510 -Um, but's that's my dad. -Oh, this is your dad. 341 00:26:21.614 --> 00:26:24.652 Oh, we'll give you another plate for your mom. 342 00:26:24.755 --> 00:26:28.552 So, after our person in our family died, our family's all changed. 343 00:26:28.656 --> 00:26:33.384 So everybody here's family changed after your person died. 344 00:26:33.488 --> 00:26:35.732 -Oh, gosh. -Because guess what. 345 00:26:35.835 --> 00:26:38.286 I went to see my dad when he died. 346 00:26:38.389 --> 00:26:42.324 -You went to see your dad when he died. -I had to go to a church. 347 00:26:42.428 --> 00:26:45.914 -There was Halloween stuff. -Oh. 348 00:26:46.018 --> 00:26:48.330 Even there was a cross. 349 00:26:48.434 --> 00:26:51.402 There was a cross when you went to see your dad after he died? 350 00:26:51.506 --> 00:26:55.337 -Wait, did you see his actual body? -Yeah. 351 00:26:55.441 --> 00:26:58.202 -Yeah? -He wasn't wearing anything. 352 00:26:58.306 --> 00:27:02.241 -Yeah? -He was just wearing a vest, 353 00:27:02.344 --> 00:27:04.381 but not any shoes because he died. 354 00:27:04.484 --> 00:27:08.937 -He wasn't wearing shoes cos he died. -And he went in the grass. 355 00:27:09.041 --> 00:27:10.387 He went into the grass. 356 00:27:10.490 --> 00:27:12.147 I wanna put this on. 357 00:27:12.251 --> 00:27:14.253 Did you want one? What color did you want? 358 00:27:14.356 --> 00:27:15.530 Red. 359 00:27:16.842 --> 00:27:19.154 Peter, did you get to see your parents after they died? 360 00:27:19.258 --> 00:27:20.846 -Uh, no. -No. 361 00:27:20.949 --> 00:27:25.057 -Different families do different things. -But... and I never cried. 362 00:27:25.160 --> 00:27:27.231 Not a crier. OK. 363 00:27:27.335 --> 00:27:30.269 Did you cry when your dad died? No? 364 00:27:30.372 --> 00:27:33.721 I cried when my mom died. 365 00:27:36.344 --> 00:27:38.726 Was you dad still there when your mom died? 366 00:27:38.829 --> 00:27:43.627 No. Because she got in a car accident. 367 00:27:43.731 --> 00:27:47.251 -He died in a different way. -How? 368 00:27:47.355 --> 00:27:49.633 He took bad medicine. 369 00:27:51.911 --> 00:27:54.500 -Can I have one more piece of red? -Yeah, sure, hun. 370 00:27:54.603 --> 00:27:57.676 It probably hurt when my mom died. 371 00:27:58.228 --> 00:28:02.853 -What do you think hurt? -Because she got in a car accident. 372 00:28:04.096 --> 00:28:06.995 So, who are you going to spend Christmas with? 373 00:28:09.446 --> 00:28:12.207 At my Gigi's house. 374 00:28:12.898 --> 00:28:15.555 Do you remember what color your mom's eyes were? 375 00:28:16.453 --> 00:28:18.110 I think blue. 376 00:28:18.213 --> 00:28:20.837 Blue. OK, so we have to look in there for blue eyes. 377 00:28:20.940 --> 00:28:23.598 -Actually, I think it's brown. -Brown eyes. 378 00:28:24.599 --> 00:28:27.050 -I bet you gave her lots of hugs. -Yeah. 379 00:28:30.536 --> 00:28:33.470 Your mom probably loved the hugs, right? 380 00:28:33.573 --> 00:28:35.368 Those hugs make you feel really strong. 381 00:28:35.472 --> 00:28:38.061 Who could you hug... who are you going to hug this year? 382 00:28:38.164 --> 00:28:39.856 I don't know. 383 00:28:50.314 --> 00:28:52.938 [yells] 384 00:28:53.041 --> 00:28:54.387 -Oh. -Oh. 385 00:28:54.491 --> 00:28:56.182 -He's dead. -He's dead. 386 00:28:56.286 --> 00:28:59.634 -And he got run over. -Is he dead? 387 00:28:59.738 --> 00:29:01.740 -And then... -What about the guy in the car? 388 00:29:01.843 --> 00:29:04.018 He got hurt because he was like... 389 00:29:04.570 --> 00:29:06.606 Oh, yeah. 390 00:29:08.850 --> 00:29:12.233 Everybody ready? Good night, good night, good night, good night! 391 00:29:12.336 --> 00:29:13.786 Thank you for cleaning up! 392 00:29:13.890 --> 00:29:17.721 -No, Peter's still playing! -Come on, Peter. 393 00:29:24.003 --> 00:29:26.385 Alright, everybody ready. Peter, ready? 394 00:29:26.488 --> 00:29:29.422 Let's go. You go. Thank you for coming, thank you. 395 00:29:29.526 --> 00:29:32.701 Let's go. Thank you everybody. 396 00:29:45.024 --> 00:29:46.163 -CJ? -What? 397 00:29:46.267 --> 00:29:48.234 -Help me. -Help you? 398 00:29:52.894 --> 00:29:55.448 -How? -However, you want, it's your tree. 399 00:29:56.208 --> 00:29:58.900 Wrap it around, top to bottom, bottom to top. 400 00:29:59.004 --> 00:30:01.213 I don't know how. 401 00:30:03.698 --> 00:30:05.665 [laughs] Yeah, that's it, that's how I do it. 402 00:30:05.769 --> 00:30:07.771 Just throw it on there. 403 00:30:09.531 --> 00:30:12.707 -Alright. And what's left, your star? -Yeah. 404 00:30:12.811 --> 00:30:15.606 -You gonna be able to reach that one? -Yeah, I guess. 405 00:30:15.710 --> 00:30:18.057 -Or do you want a chair? -I want a chair. 406 00:30:19.818 --> 00:30:21.958 Come on, bring it over this way, so you're closer. 407 00:30:32.485 --> 00:30:37.525 Bang, perfect. Mission accomplished. 408 00:30:39.147 --> 00:30:40.769 What kinda gimme some is that? 409 00:30:43.496 --> 00:30:44.843 [laughs] 410 00:30:46.016 --> 00:30:49.778 You want to go to... uh, over there to Mommy? 411 00:30:49.882 --> 00:30:51.021 Yeah. 412 00:30:51.125 --> 00:30:52.436 Alright. 413 00:30:52.540 --> 00:30:55.992 Ready, Freddy? All set? Tree's all done? 414 00:30:58.580 --> 00:31:00.755 -Stay right in the middle. -Right here? 415 00:31:00.859 --> 00:31:02.688 Yeah. Don't get close to the road. 416 00:31:04.483 --> 00:31:06.071 One, two, three. 417 00:31:06.174 --> 00:31:11.386 Where is Mommy's body? Is that Mommy's shape? 418 00:31:11.490 --> 00:31:13.457 No, that's where the tree was. 419 00:31:14.010 --> 00:31:16.667 -You gonna do Mommy first? -Yeah. 420 00:31:18.566 --> 00:31:24.883 I love you, Mommy, and I wish you haven't died. 421 00:31:24.986 --> 00:31:27.264 Merry Christmas. 422 00:31:28.438 --> 00:31:31.890 Daddy, I... 423 00:31:32.718 --> 00:31:35.617 I miss you and I... 424 00:31:35.721 --> 00:31:41.313 ...and... and I hope you fun... have fun. 425 00:31:41.416 --> 00:31:45.041 You two have fun in heaven together. 426 00:31:54.567 --> 00:31:58.330 -Daddy's going the other way. -He might know a shortcut, right? 427 00:31:58.433 --> 00:31:59.365 And beat Mommy there. 428 00:31:59.469 --> 00:32:02.299 Mommy's in space by now. 429 00:32:02.403 --> 00:32:03.404 You think so? 430 00:32:04.198 --> 00:32:07.201 Do you know what's behind the clouds? 431 00:32:08.754 --> 00:32:10.721 -The universe. -No. 432 00:32:10.825 --> 00:32:12.068 -What? -Heaven. 433 00:32:22.147 --> 00:32:25.944 -What's this for? -It's a Christmas candle for Mommy. 434 00:32:26.945 --> 00:32:28.947 Look. 435 00:32:30.017 --> 00:32:32.157 -It's a Christmas candle, right? -Yeah. 436 00:32:32.260 --> 00:32:36.437 It says, "You are always here with us." 437 00:32:36.540 --> 00:32:39.612 So, since it's a Christmas Candle 438 00:32:39.716 --> 00:32:41.752 and we're celebrating Christmas tomorrow, right? 439 00:32:41.856 --> 00:32:43.754 -Yeah. -I thought what we would do is, 440 00:32:43.858 --> 00:32:46.447 -we would light it here for Mommy. -Yeah. 441 00:32:46.550 --> 00:32:48.863 -Right? And then we bring it home. -Yeah. 442 00:32:48.967 --> 00:32:50.934 And light it today so she's at the Christmas, 443 00:32:51.038 --> 00:32:53.454 so it's like she's at the Christmas party with us. 444 00:32:53.557 --> 00:32:55.042 Oh, yeah! 445 00:32:55.145 --> 00:32:56.181 You ready, Freddy? 446 00:32:56.284 --> 00:32:59.667 Yeah, I can't even see the balloons anymore. 447 00:33:01.841 --> 00:33:03.982 Daddy took a shortcut. 448 00:33:05.362 --> 00:33:06.777 -OK? -Uh-huh. 449 00:33:08.572 --> 00:33:09.608 Uh-oh. 450 00:33:09.711 --> 00:33:11.368 Hopefully it's not too windy out. 451 00:33:12.576 --> 00:33:13.784 Oh. 452 00:33:22.414 --> 00:33:23.622 Oh, get over here. 453 00:33:24.657 --> 00:33:27.695 I want to find things for Mommy. 454 00:33:27.798 --> 00:33:29.835 I know, but I don't want you by the street. 455 00:33:30.974 --> 00:33:33.114 Or else I'll get runned over. 456 00:33:34.943 --> 00:33:38.740 And I'll die the same way as mommy did. 457 00:33:47.922 --> 00:33:50.580 -Oh, she got in a car accident. -I know. 458 00:33:51.891 --> 00:33:54.618 -So it's kind of like the same. -Yeah. 459 00:33:55.792 --> 00:33:58.208 I don't think we're gonna make it happen, captain. 460 00:34:01.418 --> 00:34:03.800 I can't do it dude. 461 00:34:09.254 --> 00:34:11.497 Yes! Yay! 462 00:34:11.601 --> 00:34:13.258 I don't know how long it's going to stay. 463 00:34:13.361 --> 00:34:15.018 OK. 464 00:34:15.122 --> 00:34:17.227 I don't know how long it's going to stay. 465 00:34:17.331 --> 00:34:18.332 Yeah. 466 00:34:18.435 --> 00:34:20.920 -We might get lucky. -OK. 467 00:34:39.732 --> 00:34:41.182 [camera clicks] 468 00:34:42.563 --> 00:34:44.841 -Perfect timing. Look at that. -Yes! 469 00:34:44.944 --> 00:34:46.636 Got the picture and the wind blew it out. 470 00:34:46.739 --> 00:34:51.019 That was probably Mommy blowing it out. Cos it's her candle, right? 471 00:34:51.123 --> 00:34:54.747 Yeah. She could do whatever she wants with it. 472 00:34:54.851 --> 00:34:59.338 Exactly. Cos it's hers, hers, hers. 473 00:34:59.442 --> 00:35:04.861 I think she's saying she want... she wants to be at the Christmas party. 474 00:35:06.207 --> 00:35:08.520 Doesn't Mommy always want to be at the Christmas party? 475 00:35:08.623 --> 00:35:09.969 Yeah. 476 00:35:10.073 --> 00:35:12.179 So I think you're absolutely right about that one. 477 00:35:13.835 --> 00:35:15.216 -Ready, kiddo? -Yep. 478 00:35:15.320 --> 00:35:17.943 -Alright. -OK. 479 00:35:18.046 --> 00:35:20.601 -Ready to go? -Yep. 480 00:35:20.704 --> 00:35:22.154 -OK. -Let's roll. 481 00:35:45.453 --> 00:35:46.420 Good work. 482 00:35:48.767 --> 00:35:50.251 This is so difficult. 483 00:35:50.355 --> 00:35:53.081 Why don't they give you chainsaws? 484 00:35:53.772 --> 00:35:55.083 [groans] 485 00:35:55.187 --> 00:35:57.500 -No you don't push... -I'm going to break this off. 486 00:35:59.467 --> 00:36:01.573 -Look. Look, look, look, look. -I'm doing it! 487 00:36:01.676 --> 00:36:04.403 Look. Can I just get started in a little group? 488 00:36:06.854 --> 00:36:07.993 See, like this? 489 00:36:08.096 --> 00:36:10.444 Push, pull. Push, pull. 490 00:36:13.309 --> 00:36:15.897 Yeah! There you go! 491 00:36:17.830 --> 00:36:21.109 -No more. Me next. -20 more. 492 00:36:21.213 --> 00:36:22.352 One... 493 00:36:22.456 --> 00:36:24.734 Let him come here real quick cos it's almost down. 494 00:36:24.837 --> 00:36:26.322 No, but wait! OK. 495 00:36:27.495 --> 00:36:29.187 Oh, no! 496 00:36:29.290 --> 00:36:32.190 Wait, look, it's still connected, right? No, no, no. 497 00:36:34.192 --> 00:36:36.366 No, Nolan's gonna do the end. 498 00:36:37.056 --> 00:36:39.058 You knocked it down. Yours knocked it down. 499 00:36:39.162 --> 00:36:40.991 Yeah, boy! 500 00:36:41.889 --> 00:36:43.684 Can I do it? 501 00:36:43.787 --> 00:36:44.961 You almost got it. 502 00:36:45.582 --> 00:36:49.897 -Yes! -Success! 503 00:36:50.346 --> 00:36:53.832 -Let's carry it back home. -[laughs] Yeah, right. 504 00:37:48.507 --> 00:37:51.717 Unsatisfying wrapping paper. 505 00:37:51.821 --> 00:37:54.962 Oh, no. I think it's awesome. 506 00:37:56.584 --> 00:37:58.068 Just what you wished for. 507 00:37:58.172 --> 00:38:01.555 Aww. And I love that you're my boy. 508 00:38:03.626 --> 00:38:04.937 I love you. 509 00:38:08.631 --> 00:38:11.358 -Back off. -Nolan, Nolan, Nolan. Nolan, Nolan. 510 00:38:11.461 --> 00:38:12.911 That may hurt. 511 00:38:20.298 --> 00:38:22.610 Hey, don't make me regret this. 512 00:38:24.716 --> 00:38:28.306 -Yeah. -Oh. It can all go... 513 00:38:28.409 --> 00:38:32.551 Wait. It can all go to kids that don't have any gifts. 514 00:38:32.655 --> 00:38:34.657 -Ow! -Nolan, don't do that. 515 00:38:40.525 --> 00:38:45.046 -Did you just throw it on there? -Yeah, I like the sound. 516 00:38:45.150 --> 00:38:48.326 [smoke alarm beeps] 517 00:39:04.687 --> 00:39:08.069 -What you working on, babe? -It's a diary. 518 00:39:13.592 --> 00:39:15.732 Can I open this? 519 00:39:23.602 --> 00:39:25.086 Can I open this? 520 00:39:25.190 --> 00:39:27.572 It's a hard Christmas this year, huh? 521 00:39:27.675 --> 00:39:33.750 "I am grateful, but my dad and grandma aren't here 522 00:39:33.854 --> 00:39:37.098 because they are in heaven." 523 00:39:37.202 --> 00:39:38.410 "So it's hard." 524 00:39:39.411 --> 00:39:41.448 "Anyway, my name's Nora Wood." 525 00:39:41.551 --> 00:39:47.039 "I am a animal lover. I love movies and shows." 526 00:39:47.143 --> 00:39:49.973 "The show that I watch is Riverdale." 527 00:39:50.077 --> 00:39:55.669 "People might think, oh, that's a bad show, but it makes me feel good." 528 00:39:56.877 --> 00:39:59.431 "Also, horses make me feel good." 529 00:40:09.683 --> 00:40:10.718 [smoke alarm beeps] 530 00:40:10.822 --> 00:40:12.030 -[groans] -See? 531 00:40:33.741 --> 00:40:38.712 -You can't look away. -[laughs] 532 00:40:44.994 --> 00:40:46.374 I will do it. 533 00:41:08.638 --> 00:41:14.126 Heaven is an invisible planet and it's pink. 534 00:41:14.230 --> 00:41:17.992 You can have a party there, 535 00:41:18.096 --> 00:41:22.997 or you can... you can play there. 536 00:41:23.101 --> 00:41:27.105 And everybody who died is there. 537 00:41:27.208 --> 00:41:33.111 And whatever is there... 538 00:41:33.214 --> 00:41:35.458 they turn into angels 539 00:41:35.562 --> 00:41:39.773 and they're still looking out for you, 540 00:41:39.876 --> 00:41:43.155 but you don't know they're there. 541 00:41:43.259 --> 00:41:49.161 They're always nice to you and... it's pink. 542 00:41:50.128 --> 00:41:55.754 You can see a flashing light. You can see anything of heaven. 543 00:41:57.135 --> 00:41:59.793 And my dad's in heaven. 544 00:42:06.627 --> 00:42:08.595 Why do you have to put that every day? 545 00:42:08.698 --> 00:42:11.770 So, like, it stays nice and neat. 546 00:42:13.807 --> 00:42:16.568 But I thought you put it on school days. 547 00:42:16.672 --> 00:42:20.054 School days, by the time we come home sometimes, 548 00:42:20.158 --> 00:42:22.367 I don't know what you did in school. 549 00:42:26.474 --> 00:42:29.581 -We do math every day. -And what else? 550 00:42:31.238 --> 00:42:34.793 -We don't do religion anymore. -Why not? 551 00:42:34.897 --> 00:42:39.004 Because... we're doing the Bible. 552 00:42:39.108 --> 00:42:40.316 OK. 553 00:42:40.419 --> 00:42:42.974 Oh, you're discussing the Bible stories, right? 554 00:42:43.077 --> 00:42:44.872 Yeah, and that's why we don't do religion. 555 00:42:44.976 --> 00:42:46.287 OK. 556 00:42:48.635 --> 00:42:49.981 What is this for? 557 00:42:50.084 --> 00:42:53.018 Well, I was going to use that. What do you think? You like it? 558 00:42:53.122 --> 00:42:55.469 Oh, boy. It's to the side. 559 00:42:55.573 --> 00:42:58.299 Right? [laughs] 560 00:42:58.403 --> 00:42:59.853 It's OK. 561 00:43:02.131 --> 00:43:05.168 -No. -Almost done. 562 00:43:15.351 --> 00:43:17.008 -Mommy? -Yes. 563 00:43:17.111 --> 00:43:21.253 Um ... why is the grass so big? 564 00:43:21.357 --> 00:43:24.705 -The plaques? -No, the grass. 565 00:43:24.809 --> 00:43:27.018 Why is it, like, spreading? 566 00:43:27.121 --> 00:43:29.607 Because it's Spring. 567 00:43:29.710 --> 00:43:35.440 So all the flowers, trees and grass start growing in Spring. 568 00:43:36.475 --> 00:43:40.618 Because Spring is... is a season for rain. 569 00:43:40.721 --> 00:43:44.242 Yes. And it rained the day daddy died. 570 00:43:44.345 --> 00:43:48.039 And it rained the day of his, um, funeral too. 571 00:43:48.142 --> 00:43:52.526 So it surprisingly, now we go to the cemetery and it's raining. 572 00:43:52.630 --> 00:43:54.114 -Good. -[laughsÑ 573 00:43:54.666 --> 00:43:55.805 That's good. 574 00:43:57.393 --> 00:43:59.050 Well, you remember what you learned in church? 575 00:43:59.153 --> 00:44:04.124 Pastor Spencer said absent from a body, presence with the Lord. Right? 576 00:44:04.227 --> 00:44:05.746 What's does that mean? 577 00:44:05.850 --> 00:44:11.200 That means when you bury someone, even though their body's there, 578 00:44:11.303 --> 00:44:13.271 that they still go to heaven. 579 00:44:13.374 --> 00:44:19.035 So, the body's there, you bury them, but they're with the Lord right now, 580 00:44:19.139 --> 00:44:20.485 they're in heaven. 581 00:44:22.211 --> 00:44:24.627 We're not gonna do back up Daddy. 582 00:44:24.731 --> 00:44:28.113 Huh? No, no, we're not going to dig up any cemeteries. 583 00:44:28.217 --> 00:44:29.494 -[laughs] -Good. 584 00:44:29.597 --> 00:44:34.154 OK. We're just going to go visit him, talk to him. 585 00:44:34.257 --> 00:44:36.639 Cos I'm sure he can hear us. 586 00:44:36.743 --> 00:44:41.437 How? How... how can he hear us if he doesn't talk? 587 00:44:41.540 --> 00:44:44.958 Well, you know when you pray, God hears you, right? 588 00:44:45.061 --> 00:44:46.338 Mm-hmm. 589 00:44:46.442 --> 00:44:49.341 So, Daddy's like an angel right now in heaven. 590 00:44:49.445 --> 00:44:51.550 So I'm sure he can hear us. 591 00:45:01.906 --> 00:45:06.289 -We have to find the willow section. -Where daddy is? 592 00:45:06.393 --> 00:45:09.016 -So, you're going to have to help me, OK? -OK. 593 00:45:09.120 --> 00:45:11.363 So y'all want me to find daddy's name? 594 00:45:11.467 --> 00:45:13.572 Yeah, but we have to get to the section first. 595 00:45:13.676 --> 00:45:14.677 OK. 596 00:45:15.367 --> 00:45:20.545 Will-low, will...willow. What does that say? 597 00:45:20.648 --> 00:45:24.445 That says chestnut section and linden section. 598 00:45:24.549 --> 00:45:27.207 -Linden? -So, this is willow, 599 00:45:27.310 --> 00:45:31.556 so now we're going to look for... daddy's plaque. 600 00:45:32.419 --> 00:45:35.560 -OK, it's not that one. -No, cos that one says Mom. 601 00:45:35.663 --> 00:45:38.701 -Yeah, because it will be a mommy. -Yeah. 602 00:45:38.805 --> 00:45:40.945 So, let's see... 603 00:45:41.048 --> 00:45:43.464 -Look. -Michael. 604 00:45:44.500 --> 00:45:47.814 Yes. This is where Daddy's buried. 605 00:45:48.573 --> 00:45:51.645 Oh, boy. Hi, Michael. 606 00:45:53.474 --> 00:45:57.444 Is this his phone number? Two zero, one, seven? 607 00:45:57.547 --> 00:46:00.067 No, that's the year he died, 2017. 608 00:46:00.171 --> 00:46:03.001 -Whoa, that's old. -Yes. 609 00:46:05.210 --> 00:46:07.834 -How old was he? -When he died? 610 00:46:07.937 --> 00:46:09.249 -Yeah. -53. 611 00:46:09.352 --> 00:46:12.977 -Well, that's really old. -No, that's not old! 612 00:46:46.976 --> 00:46:51.360 Remember when we first came in here there was a sign saying "Mom"? 613 00:46:51.463 --> 00:46:54.259 I don't know how a mom would die. 614 00:46:55.088 --> 00:46:56.227 How would a mom die? 615 00:46:56.330 --> 00:46:58.298 The same way a dad dies. 616 00:46:58.401 --> 00:46:59.989 -Different ways. -Sick? 617 00:47:00.093 --> 00:47:04.752 Yeah. There's some kids in your group that lost their mom. 618 00:47:04.856 --> 00:47:07.652 Some of them lost their mom and dad. 619 00:47:07.755 --> 00:47:09.481 -Let me tell you something. -Yes? 620 00:47:09.585 --> 00:47:12.968 -Peter. -What did he lose? 621 00:47:13.071 --> 00:47:14.314 Mom and dad. 622 00:47:14.417 --> 00:47:16.764 Yeah, there's another little girl who lost her sister. 623 00:47:16.868 --> 00:47:20.216 Yes, kids can even die. Yes. 624 00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:23.599 -Guess what. You... Guess what. -What? 625 00:47:23.702 --> 00:47:26.636 -Even grandmas can die. -I know. 626 00:47:50.005 --> 00:47:54.043 How's that going for us tonight? Peter? 627 00:47:54.147 --> 00:47:55.320 [kids yelling] 628 00:47:57.633 --> 00:47:59.290 The fox has something to say. 629 00:47:59.393 --> 00:48:03.018 Does the fox have something to say? What does the fox have to say? 630 00:48:03.811 --> 00:48:08.782 -My mommy died. -Oh, your Mommy died. Oh. 631 00:48:08.886 --> 00:48:11.543 -And my daddy. -And your daddy died. 632 00:48:11.647 --> 00:48:13.580 -And my uncles. -And your uncles. 633 00:48:13.683 --> 00:48:16.686 -And my grandmas. -And your grandmas? 634 00:48:18.688 --> 00:48:24.004 I was sad when my dad died because I got to saw him before he went in the ground. 635 00:48:24.108 --> 00:48:26.731 You got to see him before he went in the ground? 636 00:48:26.834 --> 00:48:27.835 Yeah. 637 00:48:27.939 --> 00:48:31.011 -He just got buried. -He got buried, yeah. 638 00:48:36.775 --> 00:48:41.815 OK. Is there anyone in your family that you really feel like 639 00:48:41.919 --> 00:48:45.957 you can talk to about stuff, about hard things that are going on? 640 00:48:46.061 --> 00:48:49.098 Well, I normally talk to my father a lot in my head, just like, 641 00:48:49.202 --> 00:48:54.069 "Hey... can you tell me this answer to my math problem?" 642 00:48:54.828 --> 00:48:57.072 It's like sort of cheating, but still. 643 00:48:59.281 --> 00:49:02.180 What do you think? Who do you feel like you can talk to in your family? 644 00:49:02.284 --> 00:49:04.320 -My dog. -Your dog? 645 00:49:04.424 --> 00:49:06.046 -What's your dog's name? -Seamus. 646 00:49:06.150 --> 00:49:08.117 Seamus. OK. 647 00:49:09.636 --> 00:49:11.949 You know, sometimes it really is good 648 00:49:12.052 --> 00:49:14.882 to talk to somebody who can't talk back to you, right? 649 00:49:14.986 --> 00:49:18.058 Because you can just tell them your feelings 650 00:49:18.162 --> 00:49:21.337 and they're not going to say, "Oh, don't feel that way," 651 00:49:21.441 --> 00:49:26.170 or, "You shouldn't feel that way," or, "Why are you still sad?" or... 652 00:49:26.273 --> 00:49:30.933 Some people go... Some people these days go to the graveyards 653 00:49:31.037 --> 00:49:35.973 and, um, talk to like someone that was in their family, 654 00:49:36.076 --> 00:49:38.044 even though, like, it's not alive. 655 00:49:38.147 --> 00:49:43.394 They leave the part of their skeleton in there, but their soul blows away. 656 00:49:43.497 --> 00:49:46.535 What's... What's a soul anyway? 657 00:49:46.638 --> 00:49:50.988 Oh, yeah. It's like... it's like a core, the main part of your body. 658 00:49:51.091 --> 00:49:54.992 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, when your heart stops, 659 00:49:55.095 --> 00:49:58.512 it goes it goes into the air and it goes to heaven. 660 00:49:59.272 --> 00:50:02.654 Well, some people think that when a person dies, 661 00:50:02.758 --> 00:50:09.006 part of their soul becomes part of you, part of whoever loved them. 662 00:50:31.062 --> 00:50:37.137 -What's inside the coffin? That... -[gasps] A unicorn! 663 00:50:37.241 --> 00:50:39.622 Oh, yeah? Mommy will save you. 664 00:50:39.726 --> 00:50:42.177 -Did you bury the unicorn? -Yeah. 665 00:50:45.801 --> 00:50:48.148 Let's just pretend that she's dead. 666 00:50:49.218 --> 00:50:52.980 Give me the unicorn! I want the unicorn! 667 00:50:53.602 --> 00:50:55.431 I want the unicorn! 668 00:50:55.535 --> 00:50:57.606 -This is a headstone. -Unicorn! Unicorn! 669 00:50:57.709 --> 00:50:59.953 Like in a cemetery. 670 00:51:01.782 --> 00:51:06.960 Do we want to do little puppet shows and have some puppets explains some feelings? 671 00:51:07.064 --> 00:51:08.306 OK. 672 00:51:08.962 --> 00:51:11.240 One, two, three, you're on. 673 00:51:11.344 --> 00:51:13.829 -[roars] -Scared. 674 00:51:13.932 --> 00:51:18.661 Yes. What happens when you're scared? What do you look like? 675 00:51:18.765 --> 00:51:20.353 Oh, yeah. That's good. 676 00:51:20.456 --> 00:51:24.115 When you're feeling scared, what might you need from somebody else 677 00:51:24.219 --> 00:51:26.428 and who could you go tell that you're scared? 678 00:51:26.531 --> 00:51:29.224 -Uh, Mommy. -Yeah. 679 00:51:32.261 --> 00:51:34.539 You gonna show us something, some feelings? 680 00:51:34.643 --> 00:51:36.817 -Yes, yes. -OK. OK. 681 00:51:43.410 --> 00:51:45.447 -What do you guys think? -Sad? 682 00:51:45.550 --> 00:51:47.104 I was wondering about sad. 683 00:51:47.207 --> 00:51:50.348 Peter, is your puppet... Is your puppets sad? 684 00:51:50.452 --> 00:51:52.557 -No. -What is it? 685 00:51:52.661 --> 00:51:55.215 -Shy. -Shy? 686 00:51:56.078 --> 00:51:59.495 -Maybe he's scared. -Scary? 687 00:51:59.599 --> 00:52:01.290 -Yes. -Is it happy? 688 00:52:01.394 --> 00:52:03.982 -Is it happy? -Sad? 689 00:52:04.086 --> 00:52:04.914 No. 690 00:52:05.605 --> 00:52:07.883 Give us a hint. You gotta give us something, Peter. 691 00:52:07.986 --> 00:52:10.092 I'm not giving you a single hint. 692 00:52:10.196 --> 00:52:13.785 Mr Bear, we can't help you if we don't know how you're feeling. 693 00:52:13.889 --> 00:52:16.029 -Do you give up? -Yes, we... 694 00:52:16.133 --> 00:52:20.033 -I'm sorry, what about you guys? -I was confused. 695 00:52:20.137 --> 00:52:22.656 -Oh! -Confused. 696 00:52:22.760 --> 00:52:25.556 I was looking for something. I was, like, drinking. 697 00:52:25.659 --> 00:52:29.974 -Oh, you were confused. -That was good. 698 00:52:34.530 --> 00:52:36.498 -Extra, extra bubbles. -OK. 699 00:52:36.601 --> 00:52:38.741 -But be careful. -Alight. 700 00:52:38.845 --> 00:52:40.985 The pipe... pipe right here. 701 00:52:41.088 --> 00:52:42.676 You're gonna... Watch your feet. 702 00:52:42.780 --> 00:52:45.955 -Wanna rip the first bag open? -Uh, yeah. 703 00:52:46.784 --> 00:52:49.994 -Stick the shovel in and rip the paper. -There you go. 704 00:52:50.097 --> 00:52:52.410 -[grunts] -Go for the middle. 705 00:52:52.514 --> 00:52:54.171 OK. [grunts] 706 00:52:54.274 --> 00:52:58.382 Two hands. One hand on top, Other hand up higher. 707 00:52:59.693 --> 00:53:00.694 [grunts] 708 00:53:00.798 --> 00:53:03.352 -Got it. -Yeah. 709 00:53:03.456 --> 00:53:04.767 Ready? 710 00:53:09.669 --> 00:53:15.192 -Wait. Is this a tire from Mommy? -No. 711 00:53:16.883 --> 00:53:20.024 I'm keeping it just in case it is. 712 00:53:24.649 --> 00:53:27.514 Hopefully I don't... 713 00:53:30.862 --> 00:53:32.657 I miss Mommy. 714 00:53:41.183 --> 00:53:44.738 Did you know, um, the earth moves slowly? 715 00:53:44.842 --> 00:53:47.085 -That's why we don't jiggle. -Yeah? 716 00:53:47.189 --> 00:53:49.847 -What makes wind? -Wind? 717 00:53:49.950 --> 00:53:51.918 -Yeah. -Air currents. 718 00:53:52.021 --> 00:53:55.024 -What makes air? -Oxygen. 719 00:53:55.715 --> 00:53:58.235 Um, can I tell you something, Tamika? 720 00:53:59.408 --> 00:54:01.168 Tag. 721 00:54:01.272 --> 00:54:03.585 Hey, hey, hey. No, no, no, no, no. We're not playing tag on the street, come on. 722 00:54:14.078 --> 00:54:17.357 It says, "Penny's spooning, but that's OK. 22, trampoline." 723 00:54:17.461 --> 00:54:19.186 I... I like the green one. 724 00:54:19.290 --> 00:54:22.086 This one? OK, we can bring that one. 725 00:54:22.949 --> 00:54:25.054 So, we'll do this one, the green one that you like? 726 00:54:25.158 --> 00:54:28.092 -Are you crying? -Yeah. 727 00:54:31.647 --> 00:54:33.270 I miss her. 728 00:56:51.891 --> 00:56:55.895 Can I just take a picture of me... of me and Grandma? 729 00:56:55.998 --> 00:56:57.655 -OK. -Get in. 730 00:57:00.347 --> 00:57:03.765 I'm gonna put it back where it was. 731 00:57:09.633 --> 00:57:11.600 That's it. That's what I took. 732 00:57:11.704 --> 00:57:14.431 These are all pictures you took? 733 00:57:14.534 --> 00:57:16.053 Oh, my. 734 00:57:16.156 --> 00:57:17.779 There's more. 735 00:57:17.882 --> 00:57:19.159 You don't see Grandma. 736 00:57:19.263 --> 00:57:21.886 Yeah, I got one with Grandma. 737 00:57:21.990 --> 00:57:25.303 Yes. OK, that's a nice one. 738 00:57:27.616 --> 00:57:29.238 You took a lot of pictures. 739 00:57:29.342 --> 00:57:31.482 I know. 740 00:57:33.726 --> 00:57:36.729 I would say that was the last Father's Day we had. 741 00:57:36.832 --> 00:57:38.455 -With Daddy. -Yeah. 742 00:57:40.905 --> 00:57:42.907 Oh. 743 00:57:47.947 --> 00:57:52.089 All people spend their Father's Day with their dads. 744 00:57:52.192 --> 00:57:56.058 But if you don't have a dad, you can't spend a Father's Day with him. 745 00:57:56.162 --> 00:57:57.646 -Yes, we can. -How? 746 00:57:57.750 --> 00:58:00.615 With a uncle, only somebody who's a boy. 747 00:58:00.718 --> 00:58:04.653 OK, so you have to look for an uncle or a grandfather. 748 00:58:05.792 --> 00:58:07.484 OK. 749 00:58:21.187 --> 00:58:25.225 ♪ Shine 750 00:58:25.329 --> 00:58:27.883 ♪ On me 751 00:58:29.402 --> 00:58:33.717 ♪ Shine 752 00:58:34.752 --> 00:58:37.893 ♪ On me 753 00:58:39.239 --> 00:58:42.519 ♪ Let the light 754 00:58:44.141 --> 00:58:48.835 ♪ From the lighthouse 755 00:58:49.491 --> 00:58:52.252 ♪ Shine 756 00:58:53.391 --> 00:58:57.361 ♪ On 757 00:58:57.982 --> 00:59:01.503 ♪ Me 758 00:59:02.987 --> 00:59:08.545 ♪ Oh, shine 759 00:59:09.856 --> 00:59:13.653 ♪ On me 760 00:59:13.757 --> 00:59:15.379 ♪ Oh, oh 761 00:59:15.482 --> 00:59:19.383 ♪ Shine, shine 762 00:59:19.486 --> 00:59:23.352 ♪ On me 763 00:59:24.491 --> 00:59:27.702 ♪ Let the light 764 00:59:28.185 --> 00:59:32.983 ♪ From the lighthouse 765 00:59:33.086 --> 00:59:36.849 ♪ Shine 766 00:59:38.816 --> 00:59:43.476 ♪ Oh, on me 767 00:59:45.098 --> 00:59:46.824 Bless you. 768 00:59:47.929 --> 00:59:49.931 [birdsong] 769 00:59:54.245 --> 00:59:56.869 First we have our Green group. 770 00:59:58.284 --> 00:59:59.768 OK, then we have orange. 771 00:59:59.872 --> 01:00:02.495 OK, so you're gonna go with these guys, OK? 772 01:00:02.599 --> 01:00:05.360 There you go. There's your facilitators. 773 01:00:05.463 --> 01:00:07.017 Head down. 774 01:00:10.054 --> 01:00:11.884 Then we have the blue group. 775 01:00:13.230 --> 01:00:17.165 We have a new friend today. George. 776 01:00:17.268 --> 01:00:18.925 Hi, George. 777 01:00:19.029 --> 01:00:21.687 I'm George. Um... 778 01:00:22.101 --> 01:00:26.415 Um, my dad... well, also named George, died. 779 01:00:27.002 --> 01:00:31.593 And I came here with my sister and my mom. 780 01:00:32.042 --> 01:00:33.422 OK. Great. 781 01:00:33.526 --> 01:00:36.978 So, we've been talking a lot about feelings recently. 782 01:00:37.081 --> 01:00:40.395 Can anybody tell us some feelings that we've talked about? 783 01:00:40.498 --> 01:00:43.122 -I'm guessing you talked about sadness. -We did. 784 01:00:43.225 --> 01:00:46.366 Can anybody think about something that might make them sad? 785 01:00:47.126 --> 01:00:52.165 Remembering that person and wanting to be with them again. 786 01:00:52.269 --> 01:00:53.684 Mm-hmm. 787 01:00:54.547 --> 01:00:55.686 Anybody else? 788 01:00:56.618 --> 01:00:58.516 -Angry? -Angry. 789 01:00:58.620 --> 01:01:01.002 Angry. What's something that might make us feel angry? 790 01:01:01.105 --> 01:01:02.866 Um... 791 01:01:02.969 --> 01:01:07.871 To think of, like, why they had to, like, like, you know... pass away. 792 01:01:07.974 --> 01:01:08.975 Mm-hmm. 793 01:01:10.080 --> 01:01:11.150 Yes. 794 01:01:11.253 --> 01:01:12.496 Uh, mad. 795 01:01:12.599 --> 01:01:14.325 What would make you mad? 796 01:01:14.429 --> 01:01:18.364 If... someone made fun of... 797 01:01:18.467 --> 01:01:23.403 someone made fun of your person that passed away. 798 01:01:23.507 --> 01:01:25.302 Does that happen? Has that happened to you? 799 01:01:25.958 --> 01:01:28.305 -It's happened to me so many times. -Really? 800 01:01:28.408 --> 01:01:31.170 Like, the worst time it's happened, they said so many mean things, 801 01:01:31.273 --> 01:01:34.104 I had no choice but to ignore them cos it was online. 802 01:01:34.207 --> 01:01:37.003 It was online? Yeah. 803 01:01:38.315 --> 01:01:39.488 Ooh... 804 01:01:42.422 --> 01:01:44.114 We're going to make a book today. 805 01:01:44.217 --> 01:01:50.292 Teaching people, other kids, what it's like to have a loss in your life, 806 01:01:50.396 --> 01:01:52.260 to have somebody die in your life 807 01:01:52.363 --> 01:01:54.538 and things that you wish that they knew. 808 01:01:58.059 --> 01:02:02.097 [indistinct chatter] 809 01:02:03.098 --> 01:02:05.066 What happened to your dad, was he sick? 810 01:02:06.101 --> 01:02:07.896 Sort of, but not really. 811 01:02:08.000 --> 01:02:10.105 What about you? Was your dad sick? 812 01:02:10.209 --> 01:02:11.624 Kind of. 813 01:02:19.045 --> 01:02:20.840 [crying] I miss Daddy. 814 01:02:24.844 --> 01:02:26.777 Did your dad die recently, George? 815 01:02:30.160 --> 01:02:33.335 He died in, like... March. 816 01:02:33.439 --> 01:02:38.202 That's very recent. You guys remember when it was super recent? When your dad die? 817 01:02:38.306 --> 01:02:40.860 Like, six months ago maybe. 818 01:02:40.964 --> 01:02:44.346 -Six months ago? -October 4th 2016. 819 01:02:44.450 --> 01:02:46.279 I miss Daddy. 820 01:02:47.177 --> 01:02:53.459 I miss him. I just wish I could spend more time with him. 821 01:02:57.981 --> 01:03:00.673 -Do you want us to talk about it, George? -Yeah. 822 01:03:00.777 --> 01:03:03.400 That's what your here for, honey. 823 01:03:03.503 --> 01:03:06.472 These boys have been through the same thing you've been through. 824 01:03:06.575 --> 01:03:07.922 That's why we're here. 825 01:03:08.025 --> 01:03:09.993 You want to... You want to step into this little room 826 01:03:10.096 --> 01:03:13.030 so the three of us can talk about it? Let's go do that. 827 01:03:21.245 --> 01:03:25.008 [indistinct chatter] 828 01:03:32.118 --> 01:03:36.536 To be honest, I don't understand, like, when people come in my room 829 01:03:36.640 --> 01:03:38.124 and ask if I'm OK. 830 01:03:38.228 --> 01:03:43.509 Cos I don't... I don't really expect myself to say no, 831 01:03:43.612 --> 01:03:46.029 cos I... I always say I'm fine. 832 01:03:46.615 --> 01:03:49.032 What would they do if I said no? 833 01:03:51.068 --> 01:03:54.002 [grunting] 834 01:03:58.800 --> 01:04:01.216 -He's evacuating! -Sorry, buddy. 835 01:04:05.669 --> 01:04:08.223 -You guys like the volcano room? -Yes. 836 01:04:08.327 --> 01:04:09.811 -You do? -I love it! 837 01:04:45.364 --> 01:04:47.331 "Owen is a 14-year-old." 838 01:04:47.435 --> 01:04:51.611 "One day, Owen's dad has an accident and hits his head." 839 01:04:51.715 --> 01:04:55.167 "Owen gets to visit his dad at the hospital." 840 01:04:55.270 --> 01:04:59.585 "Unfortunately, Owen's Dad didn't get better and he died." 841 01:05:00.275 --> 01:05:05.004 "Owen didn't know what to do. All he felt was sad and mad." 842 01:05:05.108 --> 01:05:09.388 "He tried to be happy for his mom so she doesn't get sad." 843 01:05:10.354 --> 01:05:14.772 "My friends don't understand how I feel, but they try to help." 844 01:05:14.876 --> 01:05:16.843 That was excellent. 845 01:05:27.164 --> 01:05:30.305 Who remembers going back to school after their person died? 846 01:05:30.409 --> 01:05:33.619 When I came back to school, everybody wanted to be friends all of a sudden. 847 01:05:33.722 --> 01:05:35.207 Just like best friends. 848 01:05:35.310 --> 01:05:37.519 -They felt bad for you. -Yeah, exactly. 849 01:05:38.520 --> 01:05:43.318 When I started this school year, we all had to say who was in our family. 850 01:05:43.422 --> 01:05:46.459 And it was really hard to speak up because I didn't know 851 01:05:46.563 --> 01:05:49.428 what other kids would say or think. 852 01:05:49.531 --> 01:05:54.157 Because they don't know, um, like, what I'm going through 853 01:05:54.260 --> 01:05:57.194 and the emotions that I'm feeling, but I don't know how to tell them that 854 01:05:57.298 --> 01:06:02.165 because it's... yeah, because sometimes it's hard to describe 855 01:06:02.268 --> 01:06:04.581 when you have a challenge or something like that. 856 01:06:05.030 --> 01:06:09.206 This kid made me cry because they kept talking about how they have a father. 857 01:06:09.310 --> 01:06:11.519 Yes! It's like they brag about it. 858 01:06:11.622 --> 01:06:17.628 There was a note that says, "To Aliyah, I'm happy I have a father and you don't." 859 01:06:17.732 --> 01:06:21.322 -It's amazing how people can be, right? -Mm-hmm. 860 01:06:21.425 --> 01:06:25.084 Sometimes at school we may have, like, Fathers Day and a Mothers Day. 861 01:06:25.188 --> 01:06:26.396 Last year... 862 01:06:26.499 --> 01:06:30.262 One of the questions and the thing was like, um... 863 01:06:31.228 --> 01:06:34.128 "What is, like, the recent... recent thing..." 864 01:06:34.231 --> 01:06:38.132 "What is the most recent thing you've done with your dad?" 865 01:06:38.235 --> 01:06:42.515 And I said, "I don't know. I can't remember." 866 01:06:43.137 --> 01:06:46.278 [indistinct chatter from TV] 867 01:07:02.604 --> 01:07:04.020 -Honey? -Yeah. 868 01:07:04.123 --> 01:07:07.092 -Can you... turn? -Why? 869 01:07:07.195 --> 01:07:09.956 Because I'm talking to you. 870 01:07:14.168 --> 01:07:19.518 The beginning of July, July 4th, we're gonna go to New York 871 01:07:19.621 --> 01:07:24.419 and we're... we're gonna put, um, Daddy and Grandma's ashes. 872 01:07:25.765 --> 01:07:27.250 -Where? -We're gonna bury 'em. 873 01:07:28.596 --> 01:07:30.046 You'll have some. 874 01:07:34.119 --> 01:07:36.121 What do you think about that? 875 01:07:36.742 --> 01:07:38.192 -City? -What do you think... 876 01:07:38.295 --> 01:07:41.781 No, not New York City. Upstate New York. 877 01:07:46.993 --> 01:07:50.342 What do you think about that, having a place to go and see him? 878 01:07:50.445 --> 01:07:54.035 Or would you rather just have all the ashes at home? 879 01:07:55.312 --> 01:07:56.658 Mm... 880 01:07:58.143 --> 01:08:00.835 -I know where I'd put them. -Where? 881 01:08:00.938 --> 01:08:04.735 -Las Vegas. -Las Vegas! 882 01:08:04.839 --> 01:08:06.082 -Uh-huh. -Why? 883 01:08:06.185 --> 01:08:08.808 -So we can go there. -[laughs] 884 01:08:08.912 --> 01:08:11.742 -Oh, just so you can go? -Yeah. 885 01:08:12.467 --> 01:08:13.848 -Well, then... -Maybe Bora Bora. 886 01:08:13.951 --> 01:08:15.436 There you go. 887 01:08:15.539 --> 01:08:19.095 Let's take him to the Maldives. 888 01:08:34.040 --> 01:08:40.288 -What's your favorite memory of Dad? -Um... tickle monster. 889 01:08:41.013 --> 01:08:42.463 -Tickle monster? -Mm-hmm. 890 01:08:42.566 --> 01:08:45.742 You know, one of my favorite pictures is him giving you and Nora 891 01:08:45.845 --> 01:08:50.747 a... a horse ride on his back. 892 01:08:50.850 --> 01:08:52.645 At grandma's house. 893 01:08:52.749 --> 01:08:54.406 Don't remember that. 894 01:09:00.032 --> 01:09:02.966 You don't like to talk about it as much as your sister, huh? 895 01:09:03.069 --> 01:09:04.588 -No. -Why? 896 01:09:04.692 --> 01:09:06.245 -Cos. -Cos why? 897 01:09:06.349 --> 01:09:09.559 -People ask a lot of questions. -Yeah, but what about with just me? 898 01:09:09.662 --> 01:09:12.113 You don't even really talk about it with me. 899 01:09:12.217 --> 01:09:13.908 -No. -Why? 900 01:09:14.011 --> 01:09:15.323 Because. 901 01:09:16.566 --> 01:09:18.361 -Does it make you sad? -Yeah. 902 01:09:18.464 --> 01:09:22.848 Or are you just... you're just at a place where you're OK? 903 01:09:22.951 --> 01:09:24.608 Uh... I don't know. 904 01:09:27.508 --> 01:09:29.682 Do you talk about it with your friends at school? 905 01:09:29.786 --> 01:09:31.236 Well, sometimes. 906 01:09:31.339 --> 01:09:35.550 -What do you say when people ask you? -Sometimes I just walk away. 907 01:09:43.696 --> 01:09:47.459 Do you feel like it's a hassle that you've got to deal with this? 908 01:09:47.562 --> 01:09:50.462 Sometimes. Yes, it made it over! 909 01:09:54.224 --> 01:09:57.365 -You just want to be a kid and go on? -Mm-hmm. 910 01:10:26.429 --> 01:10:28.085 Tell me something that's a strength. 911 01:10:28.189 --> 01:10:33.884 Something that makes you able to handle things when you don't feel so good. 912 01:10:37.509 --> 01:10:38.820 Uh... 913 01:10:38.924 --> 01:10:39.925 Uh... 914 01:10:40.028 --> 01:10:44.101 I have a great superpower that... 915 01:10:44.205 --> 01:10:46.863 that I kind of get through it when I cry. 916 01:10:48.140 --> 01:10:51.626 -So your superpower is crying. -Yeah. 917 01:10:52.731 --> 01:10:56.700 I think that's a great superpower. 918 01:11:00.635 --> 01:11:03.155 -Why are you using so much pink? -I'm gonna mix colors. 919 01:11:03.259 --> 01:11:04.743 I have a whole thing of pink. 920 01:11:05.571 --> 01:11:07.780 Let's see what happens if I mix colors. 921 01:11:25.729 --> 01:11:28.767 -Oh, I just defeated you. -Oh, I think I just gave a super punch. 922 01:11:28.870 --> 01:11:31.148 -No, I just... -I think I gave a super punch. 923 01:11:31.252 --> 01:11:33.668 No, I just did that. 924 01:11:35.463 --> 01:11:36.878 Die! 925 01:11:36.982 --> 01:11:38.570 Yes. I'm going to kick his butt. 926 01:11:38.673 --> 01:11:42.539 Oh, I'm going to kill you! I'm going to kill you! 927 01:11:43.057 --> 01:11:45.301 Oh, yes. Thank you, thank you, CJ! 928 01:11:45.404 --> 01:11:49.028 -What did I do? -You gave me my um, my shield. 929 01:11:49.132 --> 01:11:51.479 -Oh, awesome. -That's really important. 930 01:12:00.937 --> 01:12:01.972 Ow. 931 01:12:05.321 --> 01:12:08.116 -This is Earth. -So, where do you want Earth? 932 01:12:08.220 --> 01:12:09.842 Hmm... 933 01:12:15.848 --> 01:12:18.506 -Right there. Right there. -Right here? 934 01:12:20.370 --> 01:12:21.337 Alright, let go. 935 01:12:21.440 --> 01:12:24.754 No. Go ahead, try again. 936 01:12:26.100 --> 01:12:29.828 -Maybe if we don't let it spin. -OK. 937 01:12:29.931 --> 01:12:32.693 You think so? Or your arm are getting tired? 938 01:12:32.796 --> 01:12:34.350 -My arms are getting tired. -[laughs] 939 01:12:34.453 --> 01:12:37.283 I'll hold on to it forever! 940 01:12:38.146 --> 01:12:40.114 -If I have to. -Alright, let go. 941 01:12:40.217 --> 01:12:42.358 -Yes! -Alright. We got Earth. 942 01:12:43.807 --> 01:12:46.500 What do you think that planet is? 943 01:12:46.603 --> 01:12:49.503 Um, I'm not sure of all the planet's names. 944 01:12:49.606 --> 01:12:53.679 You probably know 'em better than I do. I don't know really nothing about planets. 945 01:12:53.783 --> 01:12:56.199 I can tell you anything you wanna know about sports though. 946 01:12:56.302 --> 01:12:58.581 -And politics and religion. -What's politics? 947 01:12:58.684 --> 01:13:01.756 [laughs] You'll learn when you're older. 948 01:13:01.860 --> 01:13:03.655 There you go, you're all set, champ. 949 01:13:04.172 --> 01:13:07.175 You got your solar system aligned. 950 01:13:07.279 --> 01:13:08.936 I guess I can go to bed now. 951 01:13:09.039 --> 01:13:11.490 -No, I guess you have to go to bed now. -Yes. 952 01:13:11.594 --> 01:13:13.389 Alright. Where's Teddy? 953 01:13:13.492 --> 01:13:15.183 -He's down there. -Bang, bang. 954 01:13:15.287 --> 01:13:16.978 What blanket you want? 955 01:13:18.463 --> 01:13:20.603 -This one. -Alright. 956 01:13:21.500 --> 01:13:24.020 That's that. Night-night. 957 01:13:26.471 --> 01:13:28.990 I love you. See you in the morning. 958 01:13:41.520 --> 01:13:45.041 And when you're mad at something, you could do this! 959 01:13:47.388 --> 01:13:48.803 [screaming] 960 01:13:51.288 --> 01:13:53.877 -This is a terrible way to die. -[screams] 961 01:13:53.981 --> 01:13:58.848 Nolan! Why doesn't someone just squeeze you? That's a terrible way to die. 962 01:14:00.401 --> 01:14:03.611 OK, let's go, Nora. 963 01:14:05.889 --> 01:14:07.063 I can't. Goodbye. 964 01:14:08.236 --> 01:14:11.067 Exploring the wilderness with Nolan. 965 01:14:13.310 --> 01:14:15.451 -Goodbye! -Goodbye. 966 01:14:48.794 --> 01:14:53.419 Nora! I made it! Mom, I made it! 967 01:14:53.523 --> 01:14:56.008 -You did? -Yeah, I made it across. 968 01:15:03.015 --> 01:15:04.361 [applause] 969 01:15:04.465 --> 01:15:09.850 As so many of you know, grief is something that is accompanied by 970 01:15:09.953 --> 01:15:14.889 as much loneliness and isolation as sadness. 971 01:15:14.993 --> 01:15:19.238 But today, today grief comes out of the shadows 972 01:15:19.342 --> 01:15:24.623 because you're surrounded by 1,200 of people who support you. 973 01:15:24.727 --> 01:15:28.351 So thank you all for being in this place right now. 974 01:15:28.454 --> 01:15:30.111 [cheering, applause] 975 01:15:30.215 --> 01:15:34.978 One, two, three. [cheering] 976 01:15:35.082 --> 01:15:36.566 Walk! 977 01:16:43.150 --> 01:16:47.568 [yelling, laughter] 978 01:16:48.604 --> 01:16:50.640 [screaming] 979 01:17:18.392 --> 01:17:21.567 -I got it! -Yeah, I see! 980 01:17:25.019 --> 01:17:26.814 How do you celebrate when you score? 981 01:17:26.918 --> 01:17:29.610 GOAL! 982 01:17:30.542 --> 01:17:32.682 -Whoo! -GOAL! 983 01:17:32.786 --> 01:17:33.752 Whoo! 984 01:17:34.546 --> 01:17:36.824 "I am life." 985 01:17:36.928 --> 01:17:40.103 " I am life just as death is death." 986 01:17:40.207 --> 01:17:41.104 "I am life." 987 01:17:41.208 --> 01:17:44.383 "It's me who sets everything in motion." 988 01:17:45.315 --> 01:17:49.561 "I plant seeds and water all that grows." 989 01:17:51.770 --> 01:17:53.772 -Can I read? -Sure. 990 01:17:53.876 --> 01:17:57.811 "I am in everything that breathes and in every creature with a heart 991 01:17:57.914 --> 01:17:59.813 that creates a rhythm of its own." 992 01:17:59.916 --> 01:18:05.128 "Hearts that that can drum with fear or be filled with joy." 993 01:18:05.232 --> 01:18:09.788 "Hearts that need to receive love in order to give love." 994 01:18:09.892 --> 01:18:13.654 "When death comes, I'm always there." 995 01:18:13.758 --> 01:18:17.347 "We live on the earth together." 996 01:18:17.451 --> 01:18:20.281 That's death. That's death. 997 01:18:20.385 --> 01:18:22.870 Cos he's black, it's dark. 998 01:18:22.974 --> 01:18:27.012 But he's somehow riding a great bike. 999 01:18:28.462 --> 01:18:29.912 What else is there? 1000 01:18:30.015 --> 01:18:31.499 There's life. 1001 01:18:32.777 --> 01:18:36.504 -There's life. And they're flying kites. -Right next to death. 1002 01:18:36.608 --> 01:18:37.609 Yeah. 1003 01:18:38.403 --> 01:18:42.096 "I can fill you with love, even though everyone you know is gone." 1004 01:18:43.304 --> 01:18:46.273 "I will be there to remind you 1005 01:18:46.376 --> 01:18:48.793 just how precious you are." 1006 01:18:48.896 --> 01:18:53.763 "Because in the whole wide world, there is only..." 1007 01:18:55.523 --> 01:18:56.939 "...one of you." 1008 01:18:57.042 --> 01:19:00.701 "And every day, you can show the world who you are." 1009 01:19:01.633 --> 01:19:03.359 I like that story. 1010 01:19:05.464 --> 01:19:06.742 Give me a kiss. 1011 01:19:09.158 --> 01:19:13.403 [laughter] 1012 01:19:13.507 --> 01:19:16.096 But there is no laughing. 1013 01:19:17.028 --> 01:19:19.306 Maybe I'll just sleep here tonight. 1014 01:19:19.409 --> 01:19:24.587 Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. [laughter] 1015 01:19:25.450 --> 01:19:28.142 Are you scared? Are you scared, little boy? 1016 01:19:30.075 --> 01:19:33.389 Get him. Get him! Get his feet! 1017 01:19:36.495 --> 01:19:39.326 Tickle monster! 1018 01:19:55.721 --> 01:19:59.035 We're just gonna paint to get it out. 1019 01:19:59.139 --> 01:20:02.280 -Oh, that's so cold. -What color do you want? 1020 01:20:02.383 --> 01:20:05.145 -Yeah, it is. -Is it cold? 1021 01:20:05.248 --> 01:20:08.148 -So, does this feel good? -[all]Yeah. 1022 01:20:08.251 --> 01:20:09.218 -Yeah? -Yes. 1023 01:20:10.598 --> 01:20:12.704 Oh! 1024 01:20:13.601 --> 01:20:16.087 Whoa! Look at the fingerprints. 1025 01:20:16.950 --> 01:20:18.744 -Wow. -Look at this guy. 1026 01:20:18.848 --> 01:20:20.816 What's that guy? 1027 01:20:20.919 --> 01:20:24.854 Oh, those colored me brown! 1028 01:20:25.821 --> 01:20:28.651 -There's only a little blue! -I know. 1029 01:20:28.754 --> 01:20:30.722 There's no more blue! 1030 01:20:30.826 --> 01:20:33.069 None? Maybe at the bottom. 1031 01:21:13.178 --> 01:21:14.317 [chatter] 1032 01:21:14.421 --> 01:21:18.080 We have one, two, three, 1033 01:21:18.183 --> 01:21:21.152 four families that are closing tonight. 1034 01:21:21.704 --> 01:21:26.122 Thank you for sharing your love and your story with us. 1035 01:21:26.951 --> 01:21:30.299 We in this room all know that grief happens in waves. 1036 01:21:30.402 --> 01:21:34.027 Sometimes you're up. Sometimes you're down. 1037 01:21:34.613 --> 01:21:39.791 So... just remember when you're riding that wave, do the buggy, 1038 01:21:39.895 --> 01:21:41.482 keep riding that wave. 1039 01:21:41.586 --> 01:21:46.591 Don't give up, and just know that when the shore line recedes, 1040 01:21:46.694 --> 01:21:49.870 around you there's going to be the beautiful memories that you have 1041 01:21:49.974 --> 01:21:53.667 of the person that you loved and that you are that beautiful something 1042 01:21:53.770 --> 01:21:55.772 that your person left behind. 1043 01:21:55.876 --> 01:21:58.223 God bless you all. Thank you so much for Good Grief. 1044 01:21:58.327 --> 01:22:00.743 [applause] 1045 01:23:15.128 --> 01:23:17.268 [cheering, applause] 1046 01:23:39.773 --> 01:23:42.879 -Ladies and gentlemen... -Mom, get ready! 1047 01:23:43.846 --> 01:23:45.572 -Start lighting your lanterns. -Yes!