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Hey y'all, it's your girl, Saweetie.

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Making love, hooking up,
smashing, knocking the boots,

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getting pipe,
whatever you want to call it,

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sex...

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is a huge part of life.

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Without sex, Netflix and chill

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would be just watching
a whole-ass movie with someone

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and not getting it in.

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Ew!

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Look, we all love our sex,

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but statistics have shown
that during the pandemic

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libidos worldwide have taken a major L.

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It's been reported
that for nearly 50 percent of us

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lockdown was a major vibe killer.

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We're in a sex drought, y'all.

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So, think of this show
as a refresher course

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to rehab your sex drive,

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sex lives, and get your libido
popping in no time.

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We'll be hearing and learning
from a bunch of sexperts.

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Pay more attention to your partner
and less attention to your penis size.

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From funny-ass amateurs.

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-Fucking.
-Fucking.

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-Fucking.
-So I said, "smashed on" once

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and it didn't go well.

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-And this lot.
-Hey, Saweetie!

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Hey, girl!

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-Oh, wow.
-Wow. Look at this.

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Y'all ain't the sex toys I asked for,

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but y'all are kind of fly.

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Who are you?

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Well, we're sex-positive puppets.

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My name is Zeek.

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My pronouns are "they, them."

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'Cause I'm a non-binary babe.

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Gender fluid, pansexual as fuck,

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and down for whoever.

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I know that's right.

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Hey, I am Molly.
Pronouns are "she" and "her."

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I am into girls, I am into guys,

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but more importantly,
subscribe to my Just for Fans

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at "Molly gives it a try

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nothing beats good old-fashioned bi WAP
One-seven-three-four-six-eight."

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Ooh, catchy handle, sis.
And who's this hairy fellow?

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Yes, and yes. What? Oh, oh, oh.

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Oh hey, hi, sorry.

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I'm Mike, and I'm a big gay bear.

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Oh, we love a big boy. You good?

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Yeah, just getting my evening sorted out.

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We're almost done here, right?

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Daddy busy. Yes...

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-Yes?
-Hey.

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I'm Barb.

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And this hunky piece of felt
is my husband, Tuck.

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[laughs nervously]

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-Is he okay?
-Oh, oh, don't mind him.

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He's just in shock. He's your biggest fan.

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-[laughs]
-In fact, you're his celebrity hall pass.

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-What's that?
-You're the one celebrity

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I've given him express permission
to have sex with

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without any consequences.

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Is that right?

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-D'oh!
-[thuds]

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[giggles]

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So, that's the show.

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They're my sex-positive puppets.

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But what exactly does sex positivity mean?

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To me, sex positivity means
the opposite of shaming.

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It's about educating people on sex
with advice that can be empowering.

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But that's just my take.

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Sex positivity is like a fingerprint.

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Everyone's definition
is a little different.

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Sex positivity means

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honesty about sex.

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Loving each other and on yourself
in all shapes, sizes, and shades.

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Sex positivity means to me
maximizing your experience

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and your enjoyment of sex, on your terms.

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Letting people do their thing.

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As long as they're not hurting anybody,

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we shouldn't be shaming anyone
for any kink or anything.

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Be into feet, be into getting spit on,
whatever your deal is.

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You like getting doo-doo'd on.
Go do your thing, man.

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So many people
are not getting their needs met.

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Because they're too afraid
to tell someone to eat their ass.

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If someone wants to be really vanilla

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and only have sex with their husband,

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that's me, and I think that's fine.

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It doesn't mean I'm not sex positive.

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Americans are both obsessed with sex

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and deeply afraid of it.

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We'll fully watch people get murdered
on the news.

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But we won't let a woman
show her nipple on Instagram.

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And also the more comfortable you are
talking about stuff,

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the more you're going to communicate
with the people you having s...

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You're gonna have better sex.

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Sex positivity is better sex, yeah.

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My mom, who is 67 years old,

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she told me when I was 25,

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"Please have as much sex as you can,

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because they don't tell you
that it stops."

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And if she'd have known
that her dick was gonna run out,

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she would have caught
all the dicks that I did.

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So I'm catching dick for me...

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and my mother.

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That sounds weird,

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but that's why sex positivity is good.

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♪ <i>Talking about sex positivity </i>♪

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♪ <i>Positivity </i>♪

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♪ <i>Positivity </i>♪

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[man panting]

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Water.

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Water, water.

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[gasps]

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Oh!

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[panting]

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[water sloshing]

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[woman exclaiming]

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[grunting]

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[screams]

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That's good, yeah!

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Depending on culture,
religion, or society,

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sex can be a very taboo topic
to speak openly about.

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-Mm-hmm.
-Let's break that taboo right now.

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Yes, we want your freak flag to fly high.

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But also help keep you...
[moaning] ...safe.

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Barb, you good, girl?

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Oh yeah, just being open
and celebrating sex.

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Oh, okay.

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So, was Tuck holding it down
during lockdown?

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Oh, yeah, yeah. No sex drought for us.

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We love to see it.

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So, what is your secret
on keeping it popping in the bedroom?

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Oh, Saweetie, you know,

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what keeps our sexual appetite growing
is our... [moaning] ...mindfulness.

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Mindfulness of one another
when we have sex.

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And not to focus so much on how we look,

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or how we perform,
that we forget to enjoy it.

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All that, and obviously butt stuff.

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-Yeah.
-Yeah. [spits]

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Ta-da!

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Oh, my goodness.
Y'all out here really "Finding Nemo."

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I was down by the vagina.

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Oh, I'm not mad at it.

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[laughs] Who's next?

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-Okay.
-[laughs]

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COVID. COVID really cock-blocked
my vagina.

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I had to put it in rehab for a sec.

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Sex is maybe
the most important thing to me,

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which is weird to say because
I haven't had it for a really long time.

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So, the longest I've gone
without sex, I mean,

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I would say, like...

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four years.

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Just like a couple of months or so.

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Probably a year.

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Yeah, four years.

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Maybe five.

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I want to say like two or three months.

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The moment of truth:
it's more likely seven, I think.

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It makes me feel really shitty.

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I hate going without sex.

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I hate the feeling
of not having, like, that connection

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with somebody, anybody.

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If sexual frustration was a sound...

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Uh...

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I think that's it.

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You know the sound of the Titanic sinking?

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-[groans]
-Like... [growls] Like a...

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-[whines]
-...creaking of the metal.

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-[exhales sharply]
-[thumps]

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-Could you hear it?
-[whimpers]

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-[groans]
-[growls]

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-[wails]
-[screams]

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[laughs]

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Like that.

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Ooh. How much sex should we be having?

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There is no right answer.

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My name is Oloni, I am a sex educator.

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I'm an award-winning TV presenter.

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And I'm an ambassador
for Lovehoney. [laughs]

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Everyone's libido is completely different,

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and that is completely fine.

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You might want to have sex once a week.

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You might want to have sex once a month.

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It could be every single day in the week.

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Whatever works for you.

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My name is Emily Morse.

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I'm a doctor of human sexuality,

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and I'm the founder and host
of <i>Sex With Emily.</i>

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I think it is okay to be in a period
of time where you're not having sex.

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In fact, I think it is really healthy,
you know?

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And you can always have sex with yourself.

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Ladies, there's coconut oil
and two fingers.

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Masturbating is an amazing tool.

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So, if you're not having sex
with someone, just masturbate.

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Self-pleasure's great, man.

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♪ <i>Get it on </i>♪

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♪ <i>Sex </i>♪

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-Adam?
-Yes, Eve?

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We've been going steady for a while now,

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and I want you to know
you're the only man for me.

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I should hope so.
I'm literally the only man here.

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I love you. I think I'm ready.

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Lets have, uh...

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-What's it called?
<i>-</i>[God] <i>Sex.</i>

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-Let's have sex.
-All right, okay.

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Great. Really, not sure what to do here.

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Is there an instruction manual?
I mean, come on,

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no one has ever done this before.

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This is literal virgin territory.

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-Just touch me.
-Really?

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Yeah, go on.
Just, yeah, just get in there.

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No, just. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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[both moaning]

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-[Adam] Oh, my...
-[snake groans]

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I can see everything from up here.
It's unbelievable.

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[both moan]

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All right, let's vibe out

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and get to know each other a little more.

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-Yeah.
-It is healthy to talk about sex,

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and you guys seem pretty open.

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So, what was your first time like?

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Yeah, well, me and Barb,

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we decided to wait till we were married
to lose our virginity.

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So the first time
for both of us was very special.

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-What a honeymoon.
-[all exclaim]

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-That's sweet.
-Yeah.

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It was amazing.

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The beaches were so beautiful.

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Our sun-kissed skin,
rubbing against each other,

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sand between our toes.
It was utterly perfect.

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-Barb?
-Hmm?

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Our honeymoon was in Buffalo.

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Uh-oh.

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There are no beaches in Buffalo.

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Um...

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Ahem. Okay, well, what about you, Zeek?

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How did you lose your virginity?

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Well, to be real with you, Saweetie,

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I don't really know
how to answer that question,

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because I don't believe in virginity.

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I don't think your first sexual experience
is defined by penetration.

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It's not like some magic dick comes along
and changes you forever.

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-[all laugh]
-Haha, "magic dick."

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Tell us about yours, Saweetie.

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Um...

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[sighs] You know what? I'm good.

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I think it might just be a little too much
for the audience.

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-What?
-Come on.

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-Come on.
-Come on.

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Don't be embarrassed.
Remember there's no judgment here.

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Tell old Mike, come on.

254
00:10:19.702 --> 00:10:21.787
Come on, come on.

255
00:10:21.871 --> 00:10:23.748
-[whispers]
-Okay.

256
00:10:23.831 --> 00:10:25.333
-[whispers]
-Okay.

257
00:10:25.416 --> 00:10:28.044
-[whispers]
-Oh my God.

258
00:10:28.127 --> 00:10:29.670
What's she saying?

259
00:10:30.921 --> 00:10:32.131
What the fuck?

260
00:10:32.715 --> 00:10:33.966
Oh, my God.

261
00:10:34.550 --> 00:10:35.718
Oh my God, yeah!

262
00:10:35.801 --> 00:10:38.220
We're not going to be able to air that.

263
00:10:38.304 --> 00:10:40.097
[all laugh]

264
00:10:40.931 --> 00:10:44.393
Losing my virginity was important to me

265
00:10:44.477 --> 00:10:45.978
because I wanted to be a grown-up.

266
00:10:46.062 --> 00:10:50.691
And I don't know how that gets so
localized to your hormonal body.

267
00:10:50.775 --> 00:10:53.319
Like, if you want to be grown,
pay some tax.

268
00:10:53.402 --> 00:10:56.405
My parts didn't feel like
they were supposed to be mine.

269
00:10:56.489 --> 00:10:59.408
So, it was a bit confusing.

270
00:10:59.492 --> 00:11:05.373
I tried to find the pleasure,
but it was more a mental thing,

271
00:11:05.456 --> 00:11:06.999
"Oh my gosh, I'm having sex,"

272
00:11:07.083 --> 00:11:09.627
rather than a whole spiritual

273
00:11:09.710 --> 00:11:14.757
and body engagement
that I feel now. [laughs]

274
00:11:14.840 --> 00:11:16.884
Me having sex at 17

275
00:11:16.967 --> 00:11:19.970
was like if I tried to walk
into a helicopter and fly it right now.

276
00:11:20.054 --> 00:11:22.640
Like, we are all lucky,
that there wasn't a tragedy.

277
00:11:22.723 --> 00:11:24.433
[helicopter whirs]

278
00:11:24.517 --> 00:11:27.895
I'll tell you what, I orgasmed
the first time I had sex...

279
00:11:29.063 --> 00:11:30.314
bitch!

280
00:11:30.398 --> 00:11:33.901
I luckily met a guy who, um...

281
00:11:34.402 --> 00:11:37.947
knew I was a virgin,
and like took a lot of, like, care

282
00:11:38.030 --> 00:11:39.949
and pride in taking my virginity,

283
00:11:40.032 --> 00:11:42.785
and then he eventually moved to New York

284
00:11:42.868 --> 00:11:45.579
to be with his girlfriend,
and never really called me again.

285
00:11:45.663 --> 00:11:47.957
[machine] <i>You have no new messages.</i>

286
00:11:48.040 --> 00:11:49.792
The best way I would describe it is

287
00:11:50.543 --> 00:11:54.547
I was having sex,
and my brain was being a commentator.

288
00:11:54.630 --> 00:11:57.383
So like, "You're tongue-kissing her now,
you're tongue kissing her now."

289
00:11:57.466 --> 00:11:59.885
<i>And his hand has moved</i>
<i>to one of her breasts.</i>

290
00:12:00.386 --> 00:12:03.556
<i>And he's massaging.</i>
<i>He's massaging probably too vigorously.</i>

291
00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:05.057
<i>She's moved his hand away.</i>

292
00:12:05.599 --> 00:12:07.852
He really is trying to move in
to seal the deal now.

293
00:12:07.935 --> 00:12:09.979
Don't, just don't come too quick.

294
00:12:10.062 --> 00:12:11.689
Whatever you do,
don't come too quick, mate.

295
00:12:11.772 --> 00:12:13.691
You can handle this.
This is gonna be great now.

296
00:12:13.774 --> 00:12:15.776
<i>He's thrusting, he's thrusting.</i>

297
00:12:15.860 --> 00:12:17.361
<i>He's not quite there,</i>
<i>but now he's thrusting.</i>

298
00:12:17.445 --> 00:12:19.071
He's trying to think about something else.

299
00:12:19.155 --> 00:12:20.489
He's trying to think about fruit

300
00:12:20.573 --> 00:12:22.992
for some reason
to try and stop himself ejaculating.

301
00:12:23.075 --> 00:12:24.368
<i>It is a weird move by him.</i>

302
00:12:24.452 --> 00:12:26.662
He's approaching the final straight now.

303
00:12:26.745 --> 00:12:28.330
And it's over.

304
00:12:28.414 --> 00:12:31.750
And... I've got
a fairly non-expressive face,

305
00:12:31.834 --> 00:12:34.003
but I imagine she was able
to read some of that.

306
00:12:36.630 --> 00:12:39.008
I'm Alexander Cheves,
and I'm a sex writer.

307
00:12:39.091 --> 00:12:42.803
I think that the biggest mistake
people make in having their first time

308
00:12:42.887 --> 00:12:45.097
is thinking that it's gonna be like porn.

309
00:12:45.181 --> 00:12:47.808
Girls, please do not get on top.
You have no business getting on top.

310
00:12:47.892 --> 00:12:49.268
It's not that time yet.

311
00:12:49.351 --> 00:12:51.395
It will come, but it's just not now.

312
00:12:51.479 --> 00:12:53.397
And I have literally worked on a porn set.

313
00:12:53.481 --> 00:12:56.775
And can tell everybody they're acting,

314
00:12:56.859 --> 00:13:00.321
there are edits
and messes that get edited out,

315
00:13:00.404 --> 00:13:01.780
and nobody has sex like that.

316
00:13:01.864 --> 00:13:03.699
Not even porn stars have sex like that.

317
00:13:03.782 --> 00:13:06.660
Porn is not a sex education source.

318
00:13:06.744 --> 00:13:09.622
Pick a partner that you trust
and that you feel safe with.

319
00:13:09.705 --> 00:13:12.708
Make sure you communicate
ahead of time. Use protection.

320
00:13:12.791 --> 00:13:14.168
I don't want to hear excuses, guys.

321
00:13:14.251 --> 00:13:16.212
Don't care what your mum says,
you're not special.

322
00:13:16.295 --> 00:13:18.714
There is a condom out there for you.
Wear it, please.

323
00:13:18.797 --> 00:13:21.550
♪ <i>Safer sex is the greatest sex </i>♪

324
00:13:23.511 --> 00:13:24.345
Sex!

325
00:13:29.683 --> 00:13:32.144
My question for Dr. Ruth is, well...

326
00:13:32.645 --> 00:13:35.314
I'm quite interested
in Dr. Ruth's sex life

327
00:13:35.397 --> 00:13:37.191
and personal history. Like...

328
00:13:38.067 --> 00:13:40.110
Is Dr. Ruth someone who has a lot of sex?

329
00:13:40.194 --> 00:13:42.863
Does she, you know, what's she into?

330
00:13:42.947 --> 00:13:44.657
And then also, I'd like to know...

331
00:13:44.740 --> 00:13:46.951
is it true that...

332
00:13:48.077 --> 00:13:51.038
a clit is basically like a small dick?

333
00:13:51.121 --> 00:13:54.875
Okay, Mae. Okay, my dear. [laughs]

334
00:13:54.959 --> 00:13:57.211
Okay, number one,

335
00:13:57.294 --> 00:13:59.338
my personal sex life

336
00:13:59.964 --> 00:14:03.759
is only my business
and my partner's. Goodbye.

337
00:14:03.842 --> 00:14:04.760
Wait.

338
00:14:05.302 --> 00:14:07.096
Your other question

339
00:14:07.179 --> 00:14:09.682
is a very important one,

340
00:14:09.765 --> 00:14:13.352
and I don't want you to think
about the clitoris

341
00:14:14.103 --> 00:14:17.356
as a penis, but you are right.

342
00:14:17.439 --> 00:14:19.733
When the clitoris is aroused,

343
00:14:20.526 --> 00:14:23.862
blood flows into the clitoris.

344
00:14:23.946 --> 00:14:27.950
It has the characteristics of a penis.

345
00:14:28.033 --> 00:14:30.870
Thank you for that great question.

346
00:14:30.953 --> 00:14:32.496
Thanks, Dr. Ruth.

347
00:14:33.455 --> 00:14:35.833
Next question, please.

348
00:14:35.916 --> 00:14:40.713
Oh, Dr. Ruth, how do I make sure
I'm treating a sex worker ethically?

349
00:14:41.255 --> 00:14:42.882
Asking for a friend.

350
00:14:42.965 --> 00:14:44.174
Hi, Trixie.

351
00:14:44.258 --> 00:14:45.759
I'll tell you how.

352
00:14:45.843 --> 00:14:47.761
Make sure you pay double.

353
00:14:47.845 --> 00:14:50.556
And if that partner says "How come?"

354
00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:54.685
you say, "Dr. Ruth
said I should pay double."

355
00:14:54.768 --> 00:14:57.938
Thank you for that question,.
Bye-bye. Good luck.

356
00:14:58.022 --> 00:14:59.315
Thanks, Dr. Ruth.

357
00:15:00.399 --> 00:15:01.525
Goodbye.

358
00:15:05.446 --> 00:15:08.657
Bush. He-he, bush.

359
00:15:10.576 --> 00:15:13.913
Bermuda Triangle. Hmm.

360
00:15:17.916 --> 00:15:21.587
Brasília. [laughs]

361
00:15:21.670 --> 00:15:26.842
-[whistle blows]
-Brasília! Brasília! Brasília!

362
00:15:29.720 --> 00:15:32.848
I'ma have your nails
looking handsome as hell in no time.

363
00:15:32.931 --> 00:15:34.600
[gasps] You're too good to me.

364
00:15:35.601 --> 00:15:38.938
You know, after so long
in the sexual wilderness,

365
00:15:39.021 --> 00:15:42.274
you'll need to unwind and relax
that body of yours.

366
00:15:42.358 --> 00:15:46.195
so the sex can feel as carefree
and sensual as possible.

367
00:15:46.278 --> 00:15:48.322
Hashtag: "self care is sexy".

368
00:15:48.405 --> 00:15:49.657
No joke.

369
00:15:49.740 --> 00:15:52.284
When venturing back into the sexual arena,

370
00:15:52.368 --> 00:15:54.912
one of the most important
areas are your...

371
00:15:54.995 --> 00:15:56.580
important areas.

372
00:15:56.664 --> 00:16:00.793
Hygiene and grooming
are a huge part of a person's sex appeal.

373
00:16:00.876 --> 00:16:04.672
Personally, I don't subscribe
to gendered beauty standards.

374
00:16:04.755 --> 00:16:07.675
I just let it grow
with the flow, you know?

375
00:16:07.758 --> 00:16:10.052
Big-time sascrotch energy.

376
00:16:10.135 --> 00:16:12.012
-[tearing]
-[Mike] Ah!

377
00:16:13.055 --> 00:16:14.723
I went for the bald eagle.

378
00:16:16.058 --> 00:16:18.268
Oh, my lord.

379
00:16:19.603 --> 00:16:21.855
Don't give me like a bald vagina.

380
00:16:22.481 --> 00:16:25.025
But, I don't want '70s bush,
you know what I mean?

381
00:16:25.109 --> 00:16:26.944
Look like you handle your stuff.

382
00:16:27.027 --> 00:16:29.613
I love when women let it grow.

383
00:16:29.697 --> 00:16:31.824
I think you're meant to have pubic hair.

384
00:16:32.574 --> 00:16:35.327
Full disclosure, I'm utterly hairless.

385
00:16:35.411 --> 00:16:37.788
I just wish there was more
of an open conversation

386
00:16:37.871 --> 00:16:39.748
about what guys should do
with their pubic hair.

387
00:16:40.624 --> 00:16:43.252
'Cause there is nothing.
I'm flying blind right now.

388
00:16:43.335 --> 00:16:45.087
[razor buzzes]

389
00:16:46.964 --> 00:16:50.384
Well, the first time that I, like,
put Veet on my vagina,

390
00:16:50.467 --> 00:16:53.721
I let it get to, like,
into, like, the crevices,

391
00:16:53.804 --> 00:16:57.599
and I had a burnt clitoris
for, like, I don't know,

392
00:16:57.683 --> 00:16:58.726
two weeks.

393
00:16:58.809 --> 00:17:01.103
-[sizzling]
-[howls]

394
00:17:02.438 --> 00:17:03.605
That kind of sucked.

395
00:17:04.481 --> 00:17:06.275
I couldn't use peppermint soap anymore.

396
00:17:07.276 --> 00:17:08.360
What is this?

397
00:17:10.779 --> 00:17:12.156
You have to be clean, I mean...

398
00:17:13.323 --> 00:17:14.408
You have to be clean.

399
00:17:14.491 --> 00:17:17.161
It's a big spectrum of hygiene
that we need to cover

400
00:17:17.244 --> 00:17:19.621
because it is not even
just bodily hygiene.

401
00:17:19.705 --> 00:17:21.749
You know when you go into a man's bed

402
00:17:21.832 --> 00:17:23.459
and you can tell
he don't wash his bedsheets.

403
00:17:24.084 --> 00:17:27.171
Your bedsheets smell frusty.

404
00:17:27.254 --> 00:17:28.839
Like, is that a word? Frumpy.

405
00:17:28.922 --> 00:17:31.800
It smells like the word... blech.

406
00:17:31.884 --> 00:17:33.135
Uh...

407
00:17:36.180 --> 00:17:37.681
Clean ears, very important.

408
00:17:37.765 --> 00:17:40.517
Yuck. Like, if you can't clean your ears,

409
00:17:40.601 --> 00:17:41.852
your dick must be dirty.

410
00:17:41.935 --> 00:17:44.354
I don't know why men
more often don't just...

411
00:17:44.438 --> 00:17:46.440
flop out their dicks
and wash them in a sink.

412
00:17:46.523 --> 00:17:48.567
It should be more socially acceptable

413
00:17:48.650 --> 00:17:51.361
to take your dick out
in a public restroom sink

414
00:17:51.445 --> 00:17:52.279
and give it a wash.

415
00:17:52.362 --> 00:17:56.742
If I saw a man washing his dick in public,
I would applaud him.

416
00:17:56.825 --> 00:17:58.410
I wouldn't be alarmed.

417
00:17:58.494 --> 00:18:00.329
I wouldn't be offended.
I would say thank you.

418
00:18:00.412 --> 00:18:02.206
I will say, sometimes I've been with guys

419
00:18:02.289 --> 00:18:05.125
where they wash the penis
too aggressively,

420
00:18:05.209 --> 00:18:07.544
and then when you are doing
the oral sex, you're like,

421
00:18:07.628 --> 00:18:11.673
"Did you shove an entire bar
of Irish Spring up your piss slit?"

422
00:18:12.257 --> 00:18:15.135
I absolutely know what this is.

423
00:18:15.219 --> 00:18:18.138
Well, worryingly, it really looks used.

424
00:18:18.222 --> 00:18:21.266
I'm gay. Don't you flush
your butthole out with this?

425
00:18:21.934 --> 00:18:23.185
Oh.

426
00:18:23.268 --> 00:18:24.770
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm gay.

427
00:18:24.853 --> 00:18:27.940
You can't stump me
with a butthole mechanism.

428
00:18:28.023 --> 00:18:30.317
I think the word is "douche."

429
00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:32.861
Okay, I like "butthole mechanism."

430
00:18:32.945 --> 00:18:36.198
The official name is "anal douche,"
but I like "butthole mechanism."

431
00:18:36.698 --> 00:18:38.826
Fill it with water, up the butt,

432
00:18:38.909 --> 00:18:40.410
squeezy, squeezy,

433
00:18:40.494 --> 00:18:42.955
pushy out the water, sexy, sexy.

434
00:18:43.997 --> 00:18:46.416
Says that on the box. [laughs]

435
00:18:49.044 --> 00:18:51.004
I think that the hygiene mistakes
that we make

436
00:18:51.088 --> 00:18:52.923
are thinking that there's
something wrong with us

437
00:18:53.006 --> 00:18:56.260
and that we somehow
have to change our natural odor.

438
00:18:56.343 --> 00:18:58.887
I mean, the vaginas
are self-cleaning ovens, essentially.

439
00:18:58.971 --> 00:19:02.015
You are not supposed to wash
inside your vagina.

440
00:19:02.099 --> 00:19:03.642
We have our natural balance,

441
00:19:03.725 --> 00:19:06.687
and it's going to pretty much stay
how it's supposed to.

442
00:19:06.770 --> 00:19:09.857
It's not just about intimacy.
It's also about self.

443
00:19:09.940 --> 00:19:12.860
Making sure that,
we get those regular STI tests.

444
00:19:12.943 --> 00:19:14.653
Some people are still not doing that.

445
00:19:14.736 --> 00:19:16.905
They ignore those smells.

446
00:19:16.989 --> 00:19:20.701
They ignore the burn,
or the pain or, you know,

447
00:19:20.784 --> 00:19:22.911
that's coming from their genitals.
And it's like why?

448
00:19:22.995 --> 00:19:25.581
You should be, at a minimum,

449
00:19:25.664 --> 00:19:29.668
getting a full-range screen
for STIs every three months.

450
00:19:29.751 --> 00:19:31.879
And that's true for men,
that's true for women,

451
00:19:31.962 --> 00:19:34.590
that's true for queer people,
that's true for non-queer people.

452
00:19:34.673 --> 00:19:36.425
And a full screening for me...

453
00:19:37.176 --> 00:19:39.720
I'm already HIV positive,
so I don't get screened for HIV,

454
00:19:39.803 --> 00:19:45.184
but I get screened for gonorrhea,
chlamydia, hep C, and syphilis.

455
00:19:46.101 --> 00:19:50.188
And everybody who's having sex
needs to be screened for those things.

456
00:19:50.272 --> 00:19:52.649
That's just being a responsible,
sexually active adult.

457
00:19:52.733 --> 00:19:56.195
I have a feeling
my grandmother had one of these.

458
00:19:56.737 --> 00:20:00.908
♪ <i>Communication leads to</i>
<i>Better copulation </i>♪

459
00:20:02.201 --> 00:20:04.620
[camera shutter clicks]

460
00:20:07.623 --> 00:20:10.292
You are getting my good side, right?

461
00:20:10.834 --> 00:20:13.253
Profile pics are so important.

462
00:20:14.671 --> 00:20:17.382
[camera shutter clicks]

463
00:20:21.261 --> 00:20:24.139
Mike, did you ever sort your evening out?

464
00:20:24.223 --> 00:20:27.559
Oh, yeah, my new profile
is working a treat.

465
00:20:27.643 --> 00:20:30.479
-[phone dings]
-Yes, yes.

466
00:20:31.271 --> 00:20:32.231
Yes.

467
00:20:33.398 --> 00:20:36.360
What ever happened to a good
old-fashioned pick-up line in a bar?

468
00:20:37.527 --> 00:20:39.279
Also, why am I even in this bit?

469
00:20:39.363 --> 00:20:40.781
Where the hell is Saweetie?

470
00:20:40.864 --> 00:20:42.616
She's doing Zeek's nails.

471
00:20:45.285 --> 00:20:47.204
Three tours on the dating apps wars.

472
00:20:47.287 --> 00:20:49.081
I've spent lot of time on there.

473
00:20:49.164 --> 00:20:52.000
Gotta cast a wide net
if you want to catch a lot of fish.

474
00:20:53.502 --> 00:20:54.920
I've been on Tinder...

475
00:20:55.003 --> 00:20:57.381
Tinder for the straight people,
Grindr for people who grind...

476
00:20:57.464 --> 00:20:58.382
Been on Bumble...

477
00:20:58.465 --> 00:21:01.426
Grindr is certainly
the most popular gay sex app.

478
00:21:01.510 --> 00:21:03.220
-...been on Hinge.
-GROWLr for bears.

479
00:21:03.303 --> 00:21:05.597
Oh, gosh. I use Scruff primarily.

480
00:21:05.681 --> 00:21:06.765
I've been on Raya...

481
00:21:06.848 --> 00:21:10.519
...which is a dating app for
DJs who jump off their friends' yachts.

482
00:21:10.602 --> 00:21:11.603
I've been on Jdate...

483
00:21:11.687 --> 00:21:13.981
Recon is for gay men and queer men

484
00:21:14.064 --> 00:21:16.316
who are into kinks and fetishes.
I use that one quite a bit.

485
00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:18.944
-I've been on JSwipe.
-ChristianMingle,

486
00:21:19.027 --> 00:21:21.071
which is confusing,
'cause if your name is Christian,

487
00:21:21.154 --> 00:21:22.906
why would you want
to meet someone else named Christian.

488
00:21:22.990 --> 00:21:25.784
And for a shot period, I was on OkCupid,

489
00:21:25.867 --> 00:21:28.370
but I met my fiancé doing a podcast.

490
00:21:28.453 --> 00:21:30.372
I was on Yahoo! Personals,

491
00:21:30.455 --> 00:21:32.666
and this was, like,
the app back in the day

492
00:21:32.749 --> 00:21:35.377
where you had to fill out paragraphs

493
00:21:35.460 --> 00:21:37.379
of who you was and what you wanted to be.

494
00:21:37.462 --> 00:21:40.549
I said, "Oh, my God, this is a book."

495
00:21:40.632 --> 00:21:43.010
Now dating apps are just like Uber Eats.

496
00:21:43.093 --> 00:21:45.345
You can just Uber Eats
that dick right on over.

497
00:21:45.429 --> 00:21:48.265
-[doorbell rings]
-Hi, here's your dick.

498
00:21:49.266 --> 00:21:50.517
Guys would say,

499
00:21:51.560 --> 00:21:53.270
"Yeah, I'm...

500
00:21:53.353 --> 00:21:55.188
I want a relationship, I want a thing,"

501
00:21:55.272 --> 00:21:57.774
and then I say, "I'm trans,"
and then the next thing I knew,

502
00:21:57.858 --> 00:22:00.944
my inbox was flooded with nudes

503
00:22:01.028 --> 00:22:05.323
in all various forms, and shapes,
and sizes, and colors,

504
00:22:05.407 --> 00:22:07.701
and, after a while, it just...

505
00:22:09.619 --> 00:22:12.205
got horrifying. [laughs]

506
00:22:12.289 --> 00:22:15.751
My DMs are like
the United Nations of dick right now.

507
00:22:15.834 --> 00:22:17.377
I've got dick from all over the world.

508
00:22:17.461 --> 00:22:19.921
I've got Caribbean dick.
I've got Greek dick.

509
00:22:20.005 --> 00:22:22.466
I've got-- Guys will send you a dick pic

510
00:22:23.216 --> 00:22:24.342
just 'cause it is Tuesday.

511
00:22:24.426 --> 00:22:26.678
The way that straight men
photograph their dicks,

512
00:22:26.762 --> 00:22:29.473
it's like the last photo
of them seen alive.

513
00:22:29.973 --> 00:22:33.351
I met a guy on an app,
and he invited me over,

514
00:22:33.435 --> 00:22:35.395
and I knew he was in an open relationship.

515
00:22:35.479 --> 00:22:38.231
I showed up at his house, and we sat down
in the living room and he was like,

516
00:22:38.315 --> 00:22:40.192
"We have to hook up in the living room,

517
00:22:40.275 --> 00:22:43.779
because my husband is home,
and he's a little bit racist."

518
00:22:43.862 --> 00:22:45.781
I was like, "Excuse me?"

519
00:22:45.864 --> 00:22:48.116
This guy matched with me,

520
00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:49.868
and I said, "Hi," he said, "Hi."

521
00:22:49.951 --> 00:22:52.954
Then he said, "I want to see
your dark brown pussy lips."

522
00:22:53.038 --> 00:22:56.958
And I was like, "First of all,
we just said hello!"

523
00:22:57.042 --> 00:22:59.544
Like, we need to build up
to pussy lip chat.

524
00:22:59.628 --> 00:23:00.962
I'm not mad at dating apps.

525
00:23:01.046 --> 00:23:04.466
I think it's great. I think
it's really important for people

526
00:23:04.549 --> 00:23:05.926
to put themselves out there.

527
00:23:06.009 --> 00:23:07.803
I met my husband...

528
00:23:07.886 --> 00:23:10.055
There's no other way to say it.
It was a one-night stand.

529
00:23:10.847 --> 00:23:12.724
You know, I always tell my friends

530
00:23:12.808 --> 00:23:15.143
that have a lot of rules
when it comes to dating,

531
00:23:15.227 --> 00:23:17.771
"Open your mind, open your heart,
and open your legs to love."

532
00:23:17.854 --> 00:23:19.356
'Cause you never know
when you might find it.

533
00:23:21.983 --> 00:23:23.902
The biggest thing
that I think apps have done

534
00:23:23.985 --> 00:23:27.155
is that they've changed the way
we present ourselves to each other.

535
00:23:27.697 --> 00:23:29.658
Among men who have sex with men,

536
00:23:29.741 --> 00:23:33.036
my generation, and certainly
the generation following mine,

537
00:23:33.120 --> 00:23:35.413
is very concerned
about whether or not they're a top

538
00:23:35.497 --> 00:23:37.874
or a bottom or a versatile,
and they see these roles

539
00:23:37.958 --> 00:23:41.753
as being really divided
and fixed and permanent.

540
00:23:41.837 --> 00:23:45.215
Because that's literally a tag
within the app

541
00:23:45.298 --> 00:23:47.342
that you can either filter
or search somebody for.

542
00:23:47.425 --> 00:23:51.179
So we have this idea
that you must be one or the other.

543
00:23:51.263 --> 00:23:52.556
And I think that that's very new.

544
00:23:52.639 --> 00:23:56.518
Weirdly, like, dating apps are the place
where I did try to use pick-up lines

545
00:23:56.601 --> 00:23:59.604
because I never knew what to say first.

546
00:23:59.688 --> 00:24:01.523
Because, like,
if you're really good-looking,

547
00:24:01.606 --> 00:24:02.941
you can open with like, "Hey!"

548
00:24:03.024 --> 00:24:05.235
But if you're, you know,
kind of average like me,

549
00:24:05.318 --> 00:24:08.446
you have to, like, try to open
with a fun fact, where you're like,

550
00:24:08.530 --> 00:24:11.074
"A lot of people think Vermont
makes the most maple syrup,

551
00:24:11.158 --> 00:24:14.286
but it's actually New Hampshire.
Hi, I'm Ian."

552
00:24:16.955 --> 00:24:19.166
<i>-</i>[interviewer] <i>Has it worked?</i>
-Not once.

553
00:24:23.461 --> 00:24:25.297
[woman] With female intimate anatomy,

554
00:24:25.380 --> 00:24:27.883
the first rule
is that you don't start there ever.

555
00:24:27.966 --> 00:24:31.094
It's important to start at the very
peripheries or at the fingers,

556
00:24:31.178 --> 00:24:33.180
the hands, the arms, and have eye contact,

557
00:24:33.263 --> 00:24:35.348
and make the woman feel safe.

558
00:24:35.432 --> 00:24:37.184
So my name is Stella Anna Sonnenbaum.

559
00:24:37.267 --> 00:24:40.687
I'm a somatic sexologist
in central London.

560
00:24:40.770 --> 00:24:43.106
Once we get to the intimate anatomy,

561
00:24:43.190 --> 00:24:45.483
a nice way is pussy paw strokes,

562
00:24:45.567 --> 00:24:47.986
which is just, with a lubricated hand,

563
00:24:48.069 --> 00:24:50.071
going over the vulva like this,

564
00:24:50.155 --> 00:24:52.574
from different directions,
and find the grooves.

565
00:24:53.116 --> 00:24:55.660
So, the inner labia
sometimes stick out, like here.

566
00:24:55.744 --> 00:24:58.038
Sometimes even more and different colors.

567
00:24:58.121 --> 00:25:01.750
Rose or white-colored,
or grey, purple, or brown.

568
00:25:01.833 --> 00:25:04.586
And sometimes they are hardly there,

569
00:25:04.669 --> 00:25:06.713
so women who look like this.

570
00:25:06.796 --> 00:25:10.467
We can make a vulva sandwich, like that.

571
00:25:11.176 --> 00:25:13.386
The other difference
between different women

572
00:25:13.470 --> 00:25:16.932
is how far is the clitoral head,
which is here,

573
00:25:17.015 --> 00:25:21.978
away from the vaginal opening,
because the further it is away,

574
00:25:22.062 --> 00:25:24.981
the more difficult it is to achieve orgasm

575
00:25:25.065 --> 00:25:28.068
with penetration alone,
without any additional stimulation

576
00:25:28.151 --> 00:25:29.819
on the clitoral head.

577
00:25:29.903 --> 00:25:33.323
The clitoris also has legs,
which are here in the outer labia,

578
00:25:33.406 --> 00:25:35.533
so when a woman gets very aroused,

579
00:25:35.617 --> 00:25:37.619
then the entire thing here swells up.

580
00:25:38.119 --> 00:25:40.789
A nice way to stimulate
the head of the clitoris

581
00:25:40.872 --> 00:25:44.125
is to first of all go around clockwise
for quite a long time.

582
00:25:45.168 --> 00:25:47.212
Some women like direct touch

583
00:25:47.295 --> 00:25:48.672
on the clitoral head.

584
00:25:48.755 --> 00:25:50.048
For other women, it's agony.

585
00:25:50.131 --> 00:25:52.008
It's like being on an electric wire,

586
00:25:52.092 --> 00:25:53.551
so communication is key here.

587
00:25:53.635 --> 00:25:55.262
Some women's clitorises are hidden

588
00:25:55.345 --> 00:25:57.722
by the hood,
and some are really, like, large,

589
00:25:57.806 --> 00:25:59.808
prominent and sticking out.

590
00:25:59.891 --> 00:26:03.228
Oral sex, stimulating
with the tongue the entire vulva...

591
00:26:03.311 --> 00:26:05.105
That can be really nice.

592
00:26:05.605 --> 00:26:07.315
There's also another arousal zone.

593
00:26:07.399 --> 00:26:10.652
The perineal sponge here
between the vagina and the anus.

594
00:26:10.735 --> 00:26:14.531
Rimming, so stimulating
the anal area, can feel really nice.

595
00:26:14.614 --> 00:26:18.118
The other thing to concentrate on
is the clitoral head.

596
00:26:18.201 --> 00:26:20.870
Quick tongue movements,
they can either be up and down

597
00:26:20.954 --> 00:26:22.414
or they can be across,

598
00:26:22.497 --> 00:26:24.874
keeping some stamina going there

599
00:26:24.958 --> 00:26:28.712
and doing the same repetitive movements
for quite a long time.

600
00:26:29.379 --> 00:26:31.047
Other arousal zones.

601
00:26:31.131 --> 00:26:34.884
So, the G-ridge starts
just after the vaginal opening,

602
00:26:34.968 --> 00:26:37.929
and it goes all the way
to the G-spot around the corner.

603
00:26:38.013 --> 00:26:41.308
Women have different amounts
of G-spot tissue.

604
00:26:41.391 --> 00:26:44.144
Some have a G-ridge, some just a G-spot,

605
00:26:44.227 --> 00:26:46.855
and with other women
there is hardly any G-spot tissue at all.

606
00:26:46.938 --> 00:26:50.233
A nice stroke to find the G-spot
with the middle finger,

607
00:26:50.317 --> 00:26:53.361
we need to have the thumb
on the two o'clock

608
00:26:53.862 --> 00:26:55.947
and then to do a kind of pincer movement

609
00:26:56.031 --> 00:26:57.324
because what we have in between,

610
00:26:57.407 --> 00:27:00.327
the urethra is wrapped
in a sheath of erectile tissue,

611
00:27:00.410 --> 00:27:02.829
so that is also an arousal zone.

612
00:27:02.912 --> 00:27:08.418
A penis is unlikely to ever hit the G-spot
because it's going around the corner,

613
00:27:08.501 --> 00:27:11.671
but what a penis can hit
are two other pleasure zones

614
00:27:11.755 --> 00:27:13.506
that are at the end of the vagina.

615
00:27:13.590 --> 00:27:15.383
One towards the belly button

616
00:27:15.467 --> 00:27:18.553
that's, like, all the way in.
That is called the A-spot often.

617
00:27:18.636 --> 00:27:20.972
And there's one that's also
at the end of the vagina

618
00:27:21.056 --> 00:27:22.140
that's towards the guts,

619
00:27:22.223 --> 00:27:24.851
and that's sometimes
called the O-spot or the P-spot.

620
00:27:24.934 --> 00:27:28.188
And so, this is more likely
to get hit by a penis

621
00:27:28.271 --> 00:27:30.982
or by a toy, yeah,
if there is intercourse.

622
00:27:31.608 --> 00:27:34.069
♪ <i>Don't be a rookie</i>
<i>When it comes to getting nooky </i>♪

623
00:27:38.823 --> 00:27:40.742
-Mm.
-[both giggle]

624
00:27:40.825 --> 00:27:43.453
[peach] Ugh, why is it always the grapes?

625
00:27:43.536 --> 00:27:45.121
[eggplant] I know. Always the grapes.

626
00:27:45.205 --> 00:27:47.374
I mean, why do they get the love?

627
00:27:47.457 --> 00:27:49.209
Well, red grapes help stimulate

628
00:27:49.292 --> 00:27:51.503
the production of estrogen
and testosterone.

629
00:27:51.586 --> 00:27:54.130
So, you know, trust the science.

630
00:27:54.214 --> 00:27:55.757
[sighs] All right, Fauci.

631
00:27:55.840 --> 00:27:59.636
Well, I'm a powerhouse of vitamin C,
so I increase the sex drive.

632
00:27:59.719 --> 00:28:01.721
Eat me, eat me!

633
00:28:01.805 --> 00:28:03.223
-Ah.
-[both giggle]

634
00:28:03.973 --> 00:28:06.684
I guess, we're just gonna
have to stay as emojis.

635
00:28:06.768 --> 00:28:08.728
Honestly, I have no idea why I'm here.

636
00:28:08.812 --> 00:28:10.021
I'm not even a fruit.

637
00:28:10.105 --> 00:28:11.940
I'm a vegetable.

638
00:28:13.149 --> 00:28:15.443
Where is that grape going?

639
00:28:15.944 --> 00:28:18.071
Stuff it in there, big guy.

640
00:28:18.154 --> 00:28:22.367
-Ick!
-Yeah, get me. Stick me in there.

641
00:28:22.450 --> 00:28:24.369
That would be a surprise.

642
00:28:24.452 --> 00:28:27.372
-[yawns]
-[meows]

643
00:28:27.455 --> 00:28:28.540
So, uh...

644
00:28:29.833 --> 00:28:30.834
wanna?

645
00:28:31.376 --> 00:28:33.795
Eh, I'm not really feeling it tonight,
babe.

646
00:28:35.088 --> 00:28:37.298
Oh, my gosh.

647
00:28:38.049 --> 00:28:41.052
What happened to you two? Hmm?

648
00:28:41.553 --> 00:28:42.929
At the beginning of the show,

649
00:28:43.012 --> 00:28:45.390
y'all were literally swimming
in each other.

650
00:28:45.932 --> 00:28:48.935
And now, this is just sad.

651
00:28:49.018 --> 00:28:50.687
The vibes are hella off.

652
00:28:50.770 --> 00:28:51.980
You got to set the mood.

653
00:28:52.772 --> 00:28:55.567
-What do you mean?
-Get the lights right.

654
00:28:55.650 --> 00:28:57.777
-Ooh!
-Get some music on.

655
00:28:57.861 --> 00:28:59.362
-[romantic music playing]
-Ah.

656
00:28:59.446 --> 00:29:02.741
And kick that cat out of the room, please.

657
00:29:02.824 --> 00:29:04.576
[meows]

658
00:29:04.659 --> 00:29:06.119
Bye, Stanley.

659
00:29:06.202 --> 00:29:08.746
Okay, vibe check. How are we feeling?

660
00:29:08.830 --> 00:29:11.207
-[moaning]
-[giggling]

661
00:29:11.291 --> 00:29:14.210
Oh! See, now you're speaking my language.

662
00:29:14.294 --> 00:29:17.213
-[growls]
-[moans]

663
00:29:18.131 --> 00:29:20.425
Setting the scene for sex
is very important.

664
00:29:20.508 --> 00:29:22.552
You know,
you have to have a little ambiance.

665
00:29:22.635 --> 00:29:24.804
A nice candle, not too scented

666
00:29:24.888 --> 00:29:26.973
because we want to be able
to smell ourselves.

667
00:29:27.056 --> 00:29:28.933
[laughs] Yes.

668
00:29:29.017 --> 00:29:33.313
Foreplay helps. The passion,
kissing on my neck and, you know,

669
00:29:33.396 --> 00:29:37.275
just admiring my body
and letting me know you're into it.

670
00:29:37.358 --> 00:29:40.820
Going down on a woman is so important.
There is not...

671
00:29:40.904 --> 00:29:44.824
You can't just stick your face in it,
smoosh it about and pray.

672
00:29:44.908 --> 00:29:48.786
Sometimes they're too teethy.
I'm gonna ask you to gum, like just...

673
00:29:48.870 --> 00:29:50.288
Gum... just...

674
00:29:50.371 --> 00:29:51.790
Don't go in there and...

675
00:29:51.873 --> 00:29:55.752
Just... lips. Push your lips forward

676
00:29:55.835 --> 00:29:57.795
and then the tongue underneath it.

677
00:29:57.879 --> 00:29:59.756
Don't just... el, el. That's not cool.

678
00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:04.177
There is no scene-setting for sex
in my marriage anymore.

679
00:30:04.260 --> 00:30:09.599
I kind of feel like there's an honesty
in that, that should be respected.

680
00:30:09.682 --> 00:30:12.101
I mean, some people have a fight
to get in the mood.

681
00:30:12.185 --> 00:30:14.062
Some people really like that as foreplay.

682
00:30:14.145 --> 00:30:16.689
I just feel like I get in the mood for sex

683
00:30:16.773 --> 00:30:19.234
by, like, putting
my husband's dick in my mouth.

684
00:30:20.944 --> 00:30:24.739
When you engage all your senses
and you have an environment that's sort of

685
00:30:24.822 --> 00:30:27.784
geared towards you feeling good
and your partner feeling good.

686
00:30:27.867 --> 00:30:30.203
To me, that is the best way
to set the mood for sex.

687
00:30:30.286 --> 00:30:34.332
The best place I've had sex is

688
00:30:34.415 --> 00:30:36.084
on a terrace in Paris.

689
00:30:36.167 --> 00:30:37.460
-On a beach.
-In a hot tub.

690
00:30:37.544 --> 00:30:40.046
I got fingered on Magic Mountain.

691
00:30:40.129 --> 00:30:42.465
One time I jerked off
on the second floor of a Neiman Marcus

692
00:30:42.549 --> 00:30:45.260
in a handicap stall.
I will not be discussing it at this time.

693
00:30:45.343 --> 00:30:46.886
Ikea...

694
00:30:46.970 --> 00:30:50.431
I love basic simple design.

695
00:30:50.515 --> 00:30:52.100
It really gets me going.

696
00:30:52.183 --> 00:30:54.561
Um... I had sex in like uh--

697
00:30:54.644 --> 00:30:57.063
It's not that weird,
but I think it is weird for me.

698
00:30:57.605 --> 00:31:00.441
But you know, if you were like sitting

699
00:31:00.525 --> 00:31:03.695
in like a dinner party or something,
or like a party,

700
00:31:03.778 --> 00:31:05.613
and everyone goes,
"Where is the weirdest place you had sex"?

701
00:31:05.697 --> 00:31:07.949
My answer, everyone would go "Oh, my God"!

702
00:31:08.491 --> 00:31:12.203
That's pathetic because I imagine
there's like really cool answers,

703
00:31:12.287 --> 00:31:13.788
but I had sex in a Portaloo.

704
00:31:14.289 --> 00:31:16.416
Absolutely disgusting
and I don't recommend it.

705
00:31:16.499 --> 00:31:17.959
In fact I condemn it.

706
00:31:18.042 --> 00:31:20.003
Oh! I had sex in a lake.

707
00:31:20.086 --> 00:31:24.048
I've definitely been fingered in a lake
and had sex in a Canadian lake at night.

708
00:31:24.132 --> 00:31:28.094
Beautiful, probably some moose watching.

709
00:31:28.177 --> 00:31:30.346
You got to have a pervy moose
watching you.

710
00:31:30.430 --> 00:31:32.640
And most Canadians have had sex in a lake

711
00:31:32.724 --> 00:31:36.060
and um, actually, ask Katherine Ryan
if she's had sex in a lake.

712
00:31:36.144 --> 00:31:40.857
Mae Martin, sadly I don't think I had sex
in a Canadian lake.

713
00:31:40.940 --> 00:31:42.734
I grew up in Sarnia

714
00:31:42.817 --> 00:31:44.903
where we have
a massive petrochemical plant

715
00:31:44.986 --> 00:31:47.864
and so I think part of the reason
I can still reproduce

716
00:31:47.947 --> 00:31:49.490
is that I never had sex in that lake.

717
00:31:49.574 --> 00:31:51.826
But no, I don't think I had sex
in the lake.

718
00:31:51.909 --> 00:31:53.995
I mean, my follow-up question
is which lakes?

719
00:31:54.078 --> 00:31:55.538
-We have Great Lakes.
-Yeah, yeah.

720
00:31:55.622 --> 00:31:58.499
We're talking Lake Ontario,
Lake Superior...

721
00:31:58.583 --> 00:32:01.127
um... you know...

722
00:32:01.210 --> 00:32:03.421
-Georgian Bay.
-What?

723
00:32:03.504 --> 00:32:05.048
Is Mae like a seahorse?

724
00:32:05.131 --> 00:32:07.634
What is she doing?
Like, only mating in the water?

725
00:32:07.717 --> 00:32:10.595
I've had sex on a bed.
I've had sex on a couch.

726
00:32:10.678 --> 00:32:14.349
I've had sex on a futon,
which is a bed and a couch.

727
00:32:14.432 --> 00:32:18.311
And then once on the floor, near a couch.

728
00:32:20.938 --> 00:32:25.652
So, I like having sex indoors,
in my bedroom.

729
00:32:27.528 --> 00:32:32.450
[Stella] What I hear from men,
is that women handle penises quite rough.

730
00:32:32.533 --> 00:32:35.662
Without any lube or without any saliva.

731
00:32:35.745 --> 00:32:38.831
So it's often, this kind of movement,
up and down.

732
00:32:38.915 --> 00:32:40.333
And often when there is no lubrication,

733
00:32:40.416 --> 00:32:42.126
that can be downright painful.

734
00:32:42.210 --> 00:32:43.753
And a lot of women tell me

735
00:32:43.836 --> 00:32:46.673
they just don't know what to do
with a penis or they're not confident

736
00:32:46.756 --> 00:32:48.508
to handle a penis.

737
00:32:48.591 --> 00:32:51.010
And so, I really like talking about it.

738
00:32:51.094 --> 00:32:53.054
What's often forgotten is the perineum

739
00:32:53.137 --> 00:32:56.474
which is behind the testicles,
between the testicles and the anus

740
00:32:56.557 --> 00:32:59.143
and what we have there is the root
of the penis within.

741
00:32:59.227 --> 00:33:04.774
So that is often surprisingly essential
and a nice area to touch as well.

742
00:33:04.857 --> 00:33:07.694
The other forgotten area
are the testicles.

743
00:33:07.777 --> 00:33:10.905
The testicles are in the scrotum,
the skin bag

744
00:33:10.988 --> 00:33:14.075
and we can either pull the testicles out
a little bit like that.

745
00:33:14.158 --> 00:33:20.540
Or we can make a ring around the testicles
and either stroke or tickle.

746
00:33:20.623 --> 00:33:23.084
Just a word of warning,
the only thing you must not do

747
00:33:23.167 --> 00:33:25.461
is obviously hitting it really hard

748
00:33:25.545 --> 00:33:27.088
and twisting in any way.

749
00:33:28.089 --> 00:33:31.926
So for the penis itself,
it is quite nice to make rings.

750
00:33:32.010 --> 00:33:35.972
And to see which is actually most
pleasurable because that may differ.

751
00:33:36.055 --> 00:33:39.016
The other thing to discover,
often the underside

752
00:33:39.100 --> 00:33:41.227
is really sensual and pleasurable

753
00:33:41.310 --> 00:33:47.108
But what about comparing the right side
with the left side or the upper side.

754
00:33:47.191 --> 00:33:50.194
A nice simple stroke is when we hold
the penis like that

755
00:33:50.778 --> 00:33:54.657
and glide our palms on top of the glans.

756
00:33:54.741 --> 00:33:58.578
And we can also move
the glans around like this.

757
00:33:58.661 --> 00:34:01.289
Or we can do the stroke
that is called a lemon squeezer.

758
00:34:01.372 --> 00:34:03.332
Where we kind of come from above.

759
00:34:03.416 --> 00:34:07.003
We turn around,
and then all sort of on and off.

760
00:34:07.837 --> 00:34:10.465
So a common misconception is that

761
00:34:10.548 --> 00:34:13.426
in order to give oral sex to a penis owner

762
00:34:13.509 --> 00:34:15.595
that we use our mouth only.

763
00:34:16.304 --> 00:34:18.306
Mm, I would suggest not.

764
00:34:18.389 --> 00:34:20.850
I will suggest to use the hand
and the mouth.

765
00:34:20.933 --> 00:34:23.936
An interesting area
is the sulcus area here.

766
00:34:24.020 --> 00:34:26.814
So that is where the shaft
and the glans meet, um.

767
00:34:26.898 --> 00:34:29.609
Usually that is quite pleasurable
to touch.

768
00:34:30.109 --> 00:34:32.987
So go with the mouth over the sulcus area

769
00:34:33.071 --> 00:34:36.324
and then off again,
and then use the hand also.

770
00:34:36.407 --> 00:34:38.493
To the sulcus area and off again.

771
00:34:38.576 --> 00:34:42.038
What is crucial is lube, lubrication.

772
00:34:42.121 --> 00:34:46.584
More saliva than you think is possible
to produce. A lot, yeah?

773
00:34:46.667 --> 00:34:50.588
And so you still have the one hand free
to stimulate the anal area

774
00:34:50.671 --> 00:34:54.759
And that can be just on the outside,
like on the rim.

775
00:34:54.842 --> 00:34:58.054
Or we can also insert a fingertip inside.

776
00:34:58.137 --> 00:35:01.682
It depends on the nails.
If you have long nails, don't do that.

777
00:35:02.433 --> 00:35:05.186
♪ <i>Let's talk about sex </i>♪

778
00:35:05.269 --> 00:35:07.188
♪ <i>Let's talk about sex </i>♪

779
00:35:08.898 --> 00:35:11.651
-I love you.
-I love you too.

780
00:35:13.319 --> 00:35:16.781
You know, I would really love for you
to talk dirty to me.

781
00:35:18.407 --> 00:35:21.994
-I don't know what to say.
-Say whatever turns you on.

782
00:35:22.078 --> 00:35:24.705
-Shock me.
-You sure?

783
00:35:24.789 --> 00:35:26.916
Oh, yeah, I'm sure.

784
00:35:28.918 --> 00:35:30.211
Okay.

785
00:35:30.294 --> 00:35:32.713
Um... yeah.

786
00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:35.341
I really want to fuck your Dad!

787
00:35:35.424 --> 00:35:36.717
-Wait, what?
-What?

788
00:35:36.801 --> 00:35:38.094
-What?
-Dude.

789
00:35:40.054 --> 00:35:41.222
I don't know about you

790
00:35:41.305 --> 00:35:43.099
but I think we've all learned
something new.

791
00:35:43.182 --> 00:35:44.350
Yeah.

792
00:35:44.433 --> 00:35:46.227
And it's not just the physical stuff
that's important.

793
00:35:46.310 --> 00:35:48.229
-No.
-There is an art to saying

794
00:35:48.312 --> 00:35:49.605
the right thing in bed.

795
00:35:50.439 --> 00:35:53.025
-Communication is hella important.
-Yes.

796
00:35:53.109 --> 00:35:57.655
For a lot of people, talking in bed
and specifically dirty talking,

797
00:35:57.738 --> 00:35:59.240
can be a huge turn-on.

798
00:35:59.866 --> 00:36:00.992
Yes.

799
00:36:01.075 --> 00:36:02.618
With enough conviction,

800
00:36:02.702 --> 00:36:04.954
you can take any word
and make it sound dirty.

801
00:36:05.037 --> 00:36:06.414
Ooh!

802
00:36:06.497 --> 00:36:09.542
Just remember to always keep it
respectful and keep it icy.

803
00:36:09.625 --> 00:36:10.585
[murmuring]

804
00:36:10.668 --> 00:36:13.129
Let's try.
Someone in the class, shout a word.

805
00:36:13.212 --> 00:36:16.090
Ooh! Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh! Me.
Me, me, me, me, me.

806
00:36:16.174 --> 00:36:18.176
-[Saweetie] Uh-huh?
-Door hinge.

807
00:36:19.135 --> 00:36:22.972
Hmm. Do you want to see me
open up like a door hinge?

808
00:36:23.055 --> 00:36:26.475
Oh! You did it.

809
00:36:26.559 --> 00:36:30.396
How about, uh, mango?

810
00:36:30.479 --> 00:36:31.898
Ooh.

811
00:36:32.440 --> 00:36:37.028
Mm. You know what will taste
even better after I eat this mango?

812
00:36:37.111 --> 00:36:38.863
[class exclaims]

813
00:36:38.946 --> 00:36:41.324
-Oh, wow.
-That's true.

814
00:36:41.407 --> 00:36:43.326
Okay, okay, this ought to stump her.

815
00:36:44.076 --> 00:36:45.203
Sassafras.

816
00:36:45.286 --> 00:36:47.205
-[Zeek] Oh!
-Um...

817
00:36:47.288 --> 00:36:49.832
-Can I please get the language of origin?
-Latin.

818
00:36:51.167 --> 00:36:52.627
Definition please.

819
00:36:52.710 --> 00:36:55.713
Sassafras, a North American deciduous tree

820
00:36:55.796 --> 00:36:58.049
with aromatic bark and leaves.

821
00:36:58.132 --> 00:36:59.926
-How does she know that?
-I don't know.

822
00:37:00.509 --> 00:37:02.386
Can you spell it out?

823
00:37:02.929 --> 00:37:06.057
-S, A--
-Sorry, I meant can you spell "sassafras"

824
00:37:06.140 --> 00:37:08.351
with your tongue on my <i>punani</i>?

825
00:37:08.434 --> 00:37:10.770
-[class exclaims]
-[laughs]

826
00:37:10.853 --> 00:37:14.190
-Damn, that is so hot.
-So good.

827
00:37:14.273 --> 00:37:15.650
Told you, Icy's here to teach y'all.

828
00:37:15.733 --> 00:37:18.110
Oh, my God, I just came.

829
00:37:20.071 --> 00:37:23.407
Oh, yeah, I love talking dirty.
I am a dirty talker.

830
00:37:23.491 --> 00:37:26.827
That is an important part
of my sex life for sure.

831
00:37:26.911 --> 00:37:28.913
There is so many different layers to dirty

832
00:37:28.996 --> 00:37:32.375
because you've got dirty as in "Ugh."
Or dirty as in, "Oh, yeah."

833
00:37:32.458 --> 00:37:35.544
I think that the problem
with talking dirty, is once you start,

834
00:37:35.628 --> 00:37:38.422
like once you open Pandora's box,
you can't stop

835
00:37:38.965 --> 00:37:40.341
and it has to kind of escalate.

836
00:37:40.424 --> 00:37:43.719
I've often been sucking the dick,
and someone goes "Yeah."

837
00:37:43.803 --> 00:37:46.389
"Suck my dick." And I go, "I am."

838
00:37:47.723 --> 00:37:51.394
Why are you telling me what I am doing?
Is this closed captioning?

839
00:37:51.477 --> 00:37:55.690
It is dependent on the person,
and how good they are at it.

840
00:37:55.773 --> 00:37:59.944
Sometimes, like...
it's cool like, to be degraded.

841
00:38:00.027 --> 00:38:03.864
And then sometimes
it can be like weirdly too specific.

842
00:38:04.532 --> 00:38:07.576
Like I remember one time
I was fucking this guy and he was like,

843
00:38:07.660 --> 00:38:09.245
"Do you like that, idiot?"

844
00:38:09.328 --> 00:38:11.330
And I was like, "Idiot?"

845
00:38:11.414 --> 00:38:14.000
"I'm not an idiot," like--

846
00:38:14.083 --> 00:38:15.876
You're thinking of it as talking dirty,

847
00:38:15.960 --> 00:38:18.629
but more or less,
think of it as just talking sexy.

848
00:38:18.713 --> 00:38:21.215
As in bringing <i>out </i>your inner sexy.

849
00:38:21.299 --> 00:38:26.304
You know, I'm not trying to talk to you
in the sense of what <i>you </i>want to hear.

850
00:38:26.387 --> 00:38:28.472
I'm going to tell you what I want to hear.

851
00:38:28.556 --> 00:38:30.433
How I feel about myself.

852
00:38:31.142 --> 00:38:34.186
My top tips
for starting to talk dirty are like

853
00:38:34.270 --> 00:38:36.105
just live in your comfort zone.

854
00:38:36.188 --> 00:38:40.359
You know, you don't got to go straight
porno crazy off the top.

855
00:38:40.443 --> 00:38:43.612
You don't got to say nothing nutty like,
"Let me pee on your tits."

856
00:38:43.696 --> 00:38:46.907
You can just kiss a neck
and say "Do you like that"?

857
00:38:46.991 --> 00:38:50.202
You know, just start simple
and ease yourself in.

858
00:38:50.786 --> 00:38:53.456
If I auditioned for a Marvel movie,
that would be my sex voice.

859
00:38:54.123 --> 00:38:56.417
"We can't let Thanos
get the infinity stones."

860
00:38:56.500 --> 00:38:58.919
You like that? You like that?

861
00:38:59.003 --> 00:39:00.755
Ye-Yeah.

862
00:39:00.838 --> 00:39:02.923
I-- see, I'm doing it right now!
I don't even know--

863
00:39:03.007 --> 00:39:06.719
I can't even make fun of how I sound
when I'm doing sex. I get so embarrassed.

864
00:39:06.802 --> 00:39:08.262
When I'm "doing" sex.

865
00:39:08.804 --> 00:39:12.683
This is the part of the interview
where I admit I've never had sex before.

866
00:39:12.767 --> 00:39:14.310
[laughs]

867
00:39:16.312 --> 00:39:19.815
A common mistake is to neglect the mouth.

868
00:39:19.899 --> 00:39:22.151
The mouth has a lot of nerve endings

869
00:39:22.234 --> 00:39:23.986
so the lips and the tongue.

870
00:39:24.070 --> 00:39:27.907
And when we talk
in a sexual way, it's about feeling.

871
00:39:27.990 --> 00:39:29.450
I think I am doing it right now.

872
00:39:29.533 --> 00:39:35.373
It's about feeling the mouth,
so that every syllable is being felt.

873
00:39:35.456 --> 00:39:38.501
You might say something
like, "I want to come all over your face,"

874
00:39:38.584 --> 00:39:40.002
and then, she's just like

875
00:39:40.086 --> 00:39:43.297
"What? Why would you want to do that?
Like why?"

876
00:39:43.381 --> 00:39:45.049
Her sexual boundary might just be,

877
00:39:45.132 --> 00:39:48.844
"I don't mind you nutting on
my butt cheeks or my inner thighs."

878
00:39:48.928 --> 00:39:51.347
You know, on her face
might sound disrespectful.

879
00:39:51.430 --> 00:39:53.724
Oh, of course, we'd love talking dirty.

880
00:39:53.808 --> 00:39:56.310
That's the hottest part of it.

881
00:39:56.394 --> 00:39:59.647
And especially
if you have a nice sexy voice too.

882
00:39:59.730 --> 00:40:02.316
Oh, my God, that's like,
"Let's bring it on."

883
00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:05.444
Talk dirty to me. Yeah, in the ear.
Right here, let's have it.

884
00:40:05.528 --> 00:40:08.614
I want to really give it to you so-so bad

885
00:40:08.697 --> 00:40:13.577
you naughty, you naughty bloody,
bloody woman, I am gonna f--

886
00:40:13.661 --> 00:40:15.663
You are gonna--
Jesus, I'm gonna give it to you.

887
00:40:16.288 --> 00:40:20.084
If you think dirty talk
might be for you, after watching that,

888
00:40:20.167 --> 00:40:22.128
here's a little song
the team has put together

889
00:40:22.211 --> 00:40:24.797
to help you with your naughty vocabulary.

890
00:40:24.880 --> 00:40:27.633
♪ <i>A is for anal </i>♪

891
00:40:27.716 --> 00:40:30.052
♪ <i>B is for ball sack </i>♪

892
00:40:30.136 --> 00:40:35.558
♪ <i>C is for cunnilingus</i>
<i>Cock, clitoris. and climax </i>♪

893
00:40:35.641 --> 00:40:40.771
♪ <i>D is for dildo</i>
<i>It's a dick without a guy </i>♪

894
00:40:40.855 --> 00:40:47.444
♪ <i>E is for ejaculate</i>
<i>Or ejaculate if you like </i>♪

895
00:40:49.071 --> 00:40:50.781
♪ <i>F is for fisting </i>♪

896
00:40:50.865 --> 00:40:52.741
♪ <i>Have you found your G-spot </i>♪

897
00:40:52.825 --> 00:40:56.078
♪ <i>H is for a handjob round the back</i>
<i>Of the chemistry block</i>... ♪

898
00:40:56.162 --> 00:40:57.246
That's very specific.

899
00:40:57.329 --> 00:41:01.834
♪ <i>I is for inter-girl intercourse</i>
<i>When you stick it between two thighs </i>♪

900
00:41:01.917 --> 00:41:03.752
♪ <i>J is for jism, K is for kissing </i>♪

901
00:41:03.836 --> 00:41:05.921
♪ <i>Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer</i>
<i>Cis, straight </i>♪

902
00:41:06.005 --> 00:41:08.048
♪ <i>From New Zealand to Great Britain </i>♪

903
00:41:08.132 --> 00:41:10.217
♪ <i>M, mutual masturbation </i>♪

904
00:41:10.301 --> 00:41:11.969
♪ <i>N, nipple stimulation </i>♪

905
00:41:12.052 --> 00:41:13.888
♪ <i>Oral, Penile, just a Quickie </i>♪

906
00:41:13.971 --> 00:41:15.431
♪ <i>Rimming or Scrotalingus </i>♪

907
00:41:15.514 --> 00:41:17.141
♪ <i>Tribbing, Upside-down ass spanking </i>♪

908
00:41:17.224 --> 00:41:18.851
♪ <i>Voyeurism, just plain wanking </i>♪

909
00:41:18.934 --> 00:41:20.603
♪ <i>Triple-X pornography </i>♪

910
00:41:20.686 --> 00:41:22.062
♪ <i>It's a Yes, Yes, Yes for me </i>♪

911
00:41:22.146 --> 00:41:23.814
♪ <i>And when we're done</i>
<i>We feel the ease </i>♪

912
00:41:23.898 --> 00:41:25.524
♪ <i>We all lie back and get some Zs </i>♪

913
00:41:26.108 --> 00:41:33.032
♪ <i>That concludes the A to Z of sex </i>♪

914
00:41:34.450 --> 00:41:35.367
Good job, everyone.

915
00:41:35.451 --> 00:41:37.620
That was a lot of sex acts
we packed in there.

916
00:41:37.703 --> 00:41:40.289
-Chock full, right?
-Sex is fun.

917
00:41:40.998 --> 00:41:44.543
Okay, you said you wanted us to try
some new toys together, right?

918
00:41:44.627 --> 00:41:47.004
-I did.
-And you were willing to try anything?

919
00:41:47.087 --> 00:41:49.089
-Uh-huh.
-And I was allowed to choose.

920
00:41:49.173 --> 00:41:51.550
Yes, you were. Fuck! This is so hot!

921
00:41:51.634 --> 00:41:53.719
Okay. Well, get ready, babe.

922
00:41:53.802 --> 00:41:54.929
I bought us...

923
00:41:56.222 --> 00:41:59.475
Speak Out! Let's play Speak Out.

924
00:41:59.558 --> 00:42:03.479
Everybody loves Speak Out.
Give me something to say.

925
00:42:03.562 --> 00:42:06.941
I'm gonna get him to say
"This relationship is over."

926
00:42:07.024 --> 00:42:08.442
Speak Out.

927
00:42:14.949 --> 00:42:17.618
Welcome to Mistress Icy's dungeon.

928
00:42:17.701 --> 00:42:20.037
The best way to keep your sex life lit?

929
00:42:20.120 --> 00:42:21.413
Level up the kink.

930
00:42:21.497 --> 00:42:24.792
Role play, throw in some toys,
suck on some toes.

931
00:42:24.875 --> 00:42:28.170
We're gonna cover it all
in whipped cream and lick it off.

932
00:42:28.254 --> 00:42:30.965
Now, kink is not for everyone.

933
00:42:31.048 --> 00:42:32.883
But for those kink lovers out there,

934
00:42:32.967 --> 00:42:36.470
it's great that you're getting
something from the experience.

935
00:42:36.554 --> 00:42:37.721
Any questions?

936
00:42:37.805 --> 00:42:41.517
[muffled speaking]

937
00:42:43.602 --> 00:42:44.603
Sex toys?

938
00:42:44.687 --> 00:42:46.021
[muffled speaking]

939
00:42:46.105 --> 00:42:47.982
Great question. Let's find out.

940
00:42:49.775 --> 00:42:51.944
I do use sex toys,
I think they are crucial.

941
00:42:52.027 --> 00:42:53.153
And I think more people should use them.

942
00:42:53.237 --> 00:42:55.531
I think more straight couples
should use them.

943
00:42:55.614 --> 00:42:58.367
-I think they're the best.
-I do like some machinery

944
00:42:58.450 --> 00:42:59.910
in the mix for sure.

945
00:42:59.994 --> 00:43:02.454
I have used one
of those little vibrator things.

946
00:43:02.997 --> 00:43:04.415
I don't know what the-- Vibrator.

947
00:43:04.498 --> 00:43:05.833
I think that's what they call it.

948
00:43:05.916 --> 00:43:09.712
You definitely got to have a strap-on,
if you're gonna go sling some D.

949
00:43:09.795 --> 00:43:12.840
You know what I mean?
That's like lesbian requirement.

950
00:43:12.923 --> 00:43:15.342
So I mean, I don't even know
if I consider it a sex toy,

951
00:43:15.426 --> 00:43:17.595
as much as like, a sex friend.

952
00:43:18.178 --> 00:43:20.931
-Sex homie.
-I love anything that vibrates.

953
00:43:21.015 --> 00:43:23.517
Something that really has
some battery power to it.

954
00:43:23.600 --> 00:43:25.144
Something that will take out
the power in my building.

955
00:43:25.227 --> 00:43:26.937
I want to be shell-shocked.

956
00:43:27.479 --> 00:43:31.567
Sex toys need to be,
not just for single women alone

957
00:43:31.650 --> 00:43:34.903
to fill in for a dick
that they can't get elsewhere.

958
00:43:34.987 --> 00:43:36.780
Sex toys are great.

959
00:43:36.864 --> 00:43:38.657
And dick is great.

960
00:43:38.741 --> 00:43:40.534
Together, they are the greatest.

961
00:43:40.618 --> 00:43:43.954
I don't have several strap-ons.
One strap-on for one girl.

962
00:43:44.038 --> 00:43:47.374
You take her out when you first date,
you say "pick your dick."

963
00:43:47.458 --> 00:43:50.085
Then, that's the dick
for the relationship.

964
00:43:50.169 --> 00:43:51.128
If she was with a dude,

965
00:43:51.211 --> 00:43:53.797
he wouldn't just be switching
his dick out every other second.

966
00:43:53.881 --> 00:43:55.424
The best thing you can do for yourself

967
00:43:55.507 --> 00:43:57.593
is get one of those molds
of your own dick.

968
00:43:57.676 --> 00:43:59.470
And fuck yourself with your own dick

969
00:43:59.553 --> 00:44:02.181
'cause that, it's like, as an empath,

970
00:44:02.264 --> 00:44:05.059
it is the quintessential sexual experience

971
00:44:05.142 --> 00:44:07.603
'cause you're like "Okay,
this is what it feels like

972
00:44:07.686 --> 00:44:08.812
when I'm fucking somebody."

973
00:44:10.939 --> 00:44:15.152
Sex toys have really come a long way
in the last 15 to 20 years.

974
00:44:15.235 --> 00:44:19.323
You used to see sex toys
that came in a box with a porn star on it

975
00:44:19.406 --> 00:44:21.784
because toys were typically made by men,

976
00:44:21.867 --> 00:44:25.746
thinking that all that people with vulvas
wanted was a toy that looked like a penis.

977
00:44:25.829 --> 00:44:29.708
What they come to find out
is that toys can be small

978
00:44:29.792 --> 00:44:30.959
and they can stimulate the clitoris.

979
00:44:31.043 --> 00:44:34.380
My favorite, favorite toy
is a suction toy.

980
00:44:34.463 --> 00:44:38.425
So it basically behaves as though
it's like you having oral sex.

981
00:44:38.509 --> 00:44:41.220
There isn't really sex toys
that were doing that like five years ago.

982
00:44:41.303 --> 00:44:45.724
This is literally sucking on your clit,
and it feels <i>phenomenal</i>.

983
00:44:45.808 --> 00:44:47.434
Toys that are Bluetooth-enabled.

984
00:44:47.518 --> 00:44:49.812
Then you can have a partner
control it from the next room

985
00:44:49.895 --> 00:44:52.147
or from across the country,
across the world.

986
00:44:52.231 --> 00:44:55.776
They just press a couple of buttons
and they can change the speed.

987
00:44:55.859 --> 00:44:58.028
They can change the intensity.

988
00:44:58.112 --> 00:45:00.781
You're making a big purchase, dude.
Is it attractive to me?

989
00:45:00.864 --> 00:45:03.659
Do I like the color of this toy?
Do I like how it feels?

990
00:45:03.742 --> 00:45:06.620
And it's an intimate thing. You can see
having a relationship with this toy.

991
00:45:06.703 --> 00:45:10.499
Couple of mistakes people make
buying sex toys is they buy

992
00:45:10.582 --> 00:45:12.501
dildos that are just too big.

993
00:45:13.710 --> 00:45:14.920
I just want like...

994
00:45:15.003 --> 00:45:18.006
I want a strap-on that has like...

995
00:45:18.090 --> 00:45:20.342
[bleep]

996
00:45:20.426 --> 00:45:23.095
Someone is gonna steal this idea actually,
so I don't want to say it.

997
00:45:23.178 --> 00:45:24.221
I'm gonna design it.

998
00:45:24.304 --> 00:45:26.181
And it is going
to revolutionize the world.

999
00:45:26.265 --> 00:45:29.059
♪ <i>Everybody get sexual </i>♪

1000
00:45:29.143 --> 00:45:31.812
♪ <i>As long as it's consensual </i>♪

1001
00:45:32.896 --> 00:45:37.067
[scoffs] Molly! You done, girl?
We got a segment to do.

1002
00:45:37.151 --> 00:45:39.278
Give me one second,
I am just finishing up...

1003
00:45:39.361 --> 00:45:41.822
[panting] ...a custom bid.

1004
00:45:41.905 --> 00:45:43.866
Whew! Oh.

1005
00:45:43.949 --> 00:45:46.618
That was more satisfying
than the one time I went to McDonald's

1006
00:45:46.702 --> 00:45:49.246
just one minute
before they stopped serving breakfast

1007
00:45:49.329 --> 00:45:50.706
and I still got a McGriddle.

1008
00:45:51.957 --> 00:45:54.835
Yeah, I started using
one of those Bluetooth vibrators

1009
00:45:54.918 --> 00:45:57.421
that everyone has been talking about
during my cam shows.

1010
00:45:57.504 --> 00:46:00.507
All my clients have to do
is download the app.

1011
00:46:00.591 --> 00:46:03.427
So whether you're some dad
of three in Chugwater, Wyoming

1012
00:46:03.510 --> 00:46:05.637
or an architect from Sugartown, UK.

1013
00:46:05.721 --> 00:46:06.889
You can now control--

1014
00:46:06.972 --> 00:46:09.683
or in the architect's case,
build-- my orgasm.

1015
00:46:10.476 --> 00:46:13.979
It's the hottest thing
that has ever been invented.

1016
00:46:14.062 --> 00:46:15.939
My subscriptions
have gone through the roof.

1017
00:46:16.023 --> 00:46:18.734
My clients love it!

1018
00:46:18.817 --> 00:46:21.320
I'm trying to think
of more ways to spice up my show.

1019
00:46:21.403 --> 00:46:24.281
Well, girl, have you tried role playing?

1020
00:46:24.364 --> 00:46:26.200
'Cause that will definitely
get them tipping.

1021
00:46:26.283 --> 00:46:28.744
Well, what do you mean? Like sexy improv?

1022
00:46:28.827 --> 00:46:31.580
Yeah, girl, you get to dress up
and be anybody you want.

1023
00:46:32.289 --> 00:46:34.708
It can be so sexy.

1024
00:46:34.791 --> 00:46:38.629
Oh! Oh. Oh! [breathes heavy]

1025
00:46:38.712 --> 00:46:41.507
-What?
-I forgot to turn the Bluetooth off.

1026
00:46:42.174 --> 00:46:44.343
Ooh. I love to see my pretty bitches...

1027
00:46:44.426 --> 00:46:46.094
-[moans loudly]
-...experiment with new things.

1028
00:46:46.929 --> 00:46:48.263
-That's my girl.
-Oh, yeah!

1029
00:46:48.347 --> 00:46:49.848
Go ahead, Molly.

1030
00:46:49.932 --> 00:46:51.725
Oh, my God. Yes, yes!

1031
00:46:51.808 --> 00:46:54.811
-Yes! Yes! Yes!
-It is about to get real crazy up in here.

1032
00:46:54.895 --> 00:46:56.480
-[vibrator buzzes]
-[Saweetie giggles]

1033
00:46:57.064 --> 00:47:00.442
I think my biggest turn-on is dicks.

1034
00:47:00.526 --> 00:47:01.401
Dicks.

1035
00:47:01.485 --> 00:47:02.694
I like dicks.

1036
00:47:02.778 --> 00:47:05.572
I like that like, come comes out of them.

1037
00:47:05.656 --> 00:47:06.907
That impresses me.

1038
00:47:06.990 --> 00:47:09.493
Seeing him in sexy underwear turns me on.

1039
00:47:09.576 --> 00:47:10.702
Him seeing me in sexy--

1040
00:47:10.786 --> 00:47:12.955
Me seeing me in sexy underwear
turns me on.

1041
00:47:13.038 --> 00:47:17.417
Hmm. My biggest turn-on is vaginas.

1042
00:47:18.377 --> 00:47:21.713
And my biggest turn-off
is when the vaginas go away.

1043
00:47:22.339 --> 00:47:24.508
Honestly for me
the biggest turn-on is looking at me.

1044
00:47:24.591 --> 00:47:26.760
A person who cross-dresses for a living.

1045
00:47:27.427 --> 00:47:29.346
And it doesn't affect you at all.

1046
00:47:29.429 --> 00:47:31.390
You see it as a completely normal job.

1047
00:47:31.473 --> 00:47:32.766
A turn-on for me is how

1048
00:47:33.308 --> 00:47:35.602
you know, my husband is so nice

1049
00:47:35.686 --> 00:47:39.648
with a waiter or someone
like a stranger on the street, you know.

1050
00:47:39.731 --> 00:47:41.525
That really is my love language.

1051
00:47:41.608 --> 00:47:44.570
Also, when he unloads that dishwasher?

1052
00:47:44.653 --> 00:47:48.949
Bitch, I am moist!

1053
00:47:49.032 --> 00:47:52.119
What is the kinkiest thing I've ever done?

1054
00:47:56.957 --> 00:47:57.791
Dang.

1055
00:47:57.874 --> 00:48:02.087
I don't know, I am not gonna--
I don't know, I mean.

1056
00:48:11.471 --> 00:48:13.807
I'm going through
a library of things in my head

1057
00:48:13.890 --> 00:48:16.602
and I'm like, I'm not saying that on TV.

1058
00:48:16.685 --> 00:48:18.729
What is... [laughs]

1059
00:48:18.812 --> 00:48:21.398
What is the kinkiest thing I've ever done?

1060
00:48:21.982 --> 00:48:24.443
I am into kinks now,
that I would never have foreseen.

1061
00:48:24.526 --> 00:48:25.777
Like, I'm into foot stuff.

1062
00:48:25.861 --> 00:48:28.864
Like, I would like someone
to hold my foot when I come.

1063
00:48:28.947 --> 00:48:31.366
I really like kind of role plays

1064
00:48:31.450 --> 00:48:33.827
and any kind of weird power dynamic,
I'm into.

1065
00:48:33.910 --> 00:48:35.662
I've been the bad little girl.

1066
00:48:36.204 --> 00:48:38.457
-I've been the nurse.
-[beeping]

1067
00:48:38.540 --> 00:48:40.917
Oh! I've been the warrior princess.

1068
00:48:41.668 --> 00:48:42.878
Been that.

1069
00:48:43.503 --> 00:48:45.756
I haven't done anything with anime yet,

1070
00:48:45.839 --> 00:48:48.425
but I might try anime soon. [laughs]

1071
00:48:48.508 --> 00:48:51.303
So, okay, this is my fantasy. I'm a chef.

1072
00:48:51.386 --> 00:48:54.931
And I'm a young nervous chef.
Trying to prove myself.

1073
00:48:55.015 --> 00:48:56.892
Trying to make a name
in the culinary industry.

1074
00:48:56.975 --> 00:49:00.228
And then
a really sexy food critic comes in.

1075
00:49:00.312 --> 00:49:04.274
And she is ordering my food,
and I'm just like desperate to please.

1076
00:49:04.358 --> 00:49:07.069
She's sending stuff back.
She's like, "It's too salty" or whatever.

1077
00:49:07.152 --> 00:49:09.696
And then anyway, I present her
with like my main dish.

1078
00:49:09.780 --> 00:49:10.822
She is eating the food

1079
00:49:10.906 --> 00:49:12.908
and then I go down on her,
under the table.

1080
00:49:14.409 --> 00:49:15.827
[moans]

1081
00:49:16.953 --> 00:49:17.954
[sighs]

1082
00:49:18.038 --> 00:49:19.706
That's my-- I keep thinking about it.

1083
00:49:19.790 --> 00:49:21.208
I'm gonna make it happen.

1084
00:49:21.291 --> 00:49:23.043
I'm gonna get someone
to act that out with me.

1085
00:49:23.126 --> 00:49:25.587
'Cause I'm like, trying to get,
you know, a Michelin star.

1086
00:49:25.671 --> 00:49:27.547
Or like five stars for my restaurant.

1087
00:49:30.175 --> 00:49:34.429
Kink is anything
that is not plain vanilla sex.

1088
00:49:34.513 --> 00:49:36.264
Outside of the--

1089
00:49:37.974 --> 00:49:39.518
It's like basically anything
but missionary.

1090
00:49:39.601 --> 00:49:42.521
And just so,
most people are a little bit kinky.

1091
00:49:42.604 --> 00:49:43.939
I will say that...

1092
00:49:45.190 --> 00:49:47.609
for me and for a lot
of kinky people I know,

1093
00:49:48.110 --> 00:49:52.072
we start doing kink
before we know what it's called.

1094
00:49:52.155 --> 00:49:54.324
When I was a kid, I would sometimes like

1095
00:49:54.408 --> 00:49:55.784
tie up my action figures

1096
00:49:55.867 --> 00:49:58.745
and I would like gag them
with Scotch tape or whatever.

1097
00:49:58.829 --> 00:50:00.831
I used to watch these movies where like--

1098
00:50:00.914 --> 00:50:04.793
Oh, my God, I remember Leonardo DiCaprio
getting cuffed to a pole in <i>Titanic.</i>

1099
00:50:04.876 --> 00:50:07.796
It was just like, the hottest thing
in the world to me.

1100
00:50:07.879 --> 00:50:09.005
Like what does it say that I wanted

1101
00:50:09.089 --> 00:50:12.050
Rose and Cal to get together.
Not Rose and Jack.

1102
00:50:12.134 --> 00:50:14.886
How dark is that? At 13.

1103
00:50:16.054 --> 00:50:19.099
I was like, this is too vanilla.
Jack and Rose.

1104
00:50:19.182 --> 00:50:22.728
And like, here is my encouragement
to people who think they might be kinky.

1105
00:50:22.811 --> 00:50:25.188
If you are kinky, if you have interest...

1106
00:50:26.440 --> 00:50:30.861
be open-minded and explore,
and you will find more.

1107
00:50:35.365 --> 00:50:38.285
Dr. Ruth, my question for you is

1108
00:50:38.785 --> 00:50:43.540
what constitutes
a healthy sexual relationship?

1109
00:50:43.623 --> 00:50:44.624
Hi, Romesh.

1110
00:50:44.708 --> 00:50:49.421
First of all, Romesh, I like very much...
the question.

1111
00:50:49.504 --> 00:50:54.885
If you like her,
if you really have things in common,

1112
00:50:54.968 --> 00:50:57.095
then stop worrying.

1113
00:50:57.179 --> 00:50:59.681
Just enjoy the moment.

1114
00:50:59.765 --> 00:51:03.393
Make sure that you enjoy your erection.

1115
00:51:03.935 --> 00:51:10.400
And that she enjoys
your giving her great orgasms.

1116
00:51:10.484 --> 00:51:14.404
Good luck to you. Bye-bye.
I'm Dr. Ruth Westheimer.

1117
00:51:14.488 --> 00:51:18.158
Thank you very much
for such a great answer, Dr. Ruth.

1118
00:51:18.742 --> 00:51:21.119
Next question, please.

1119
00:51:21.203 --> 00:51:24.122
Hi, Dr. Ruth, I have a question for you.

1120
00:51:24.206 --> 00:51:25.248
Um...

1121
00:51:26.041 --> 00:51:27.918
How do you stop yourself

1122
00:51:28.001 --> 00:51:30.003
from getting lockjaw
when you're sucking dick?

1123
00:51:30.086 --> 00:51:32.714
'Cause I have that problem a lot.

1124
00:51:32.798 --> 00:51:35.467
London, okay. So here is what you do.

1125
00:51:36.468 --> 00:51:38.094
I've never had that question.

1126
00:51:38.637 --> 00:51:41.765
Wonderful that you're engaging
in oral sex.

1127
00:51:41.848 --> 00:51:46.353
I'm sure that he also goes down on you.

1128
00:51:46.436 --> 00:51:51.608
So, your jaw,
make sure that you're relaxing your jaw.

1129
00:51:51.691 --> 00:51:55.237
That you don't do it, like so hard,

1130
00:51:55.320 --> 00:51:57.405
that you get a cramp.

1131
00:51:57.489 --> 00:52:02.327
Maybe do a little exercise
with your hand on your jaw before.

1132
00:52:02.828 --> 00:52:05.455
And then, if he is very large,

1133
00:52:05.539 --> 00:52:09.459
you don't have to take that whole penis
in your mouth.

1134
00:52:09.543 --> 00:52:12.921
Just take the glans, just the tip,

1135
00:52:13.004 --> 00:52:15.423
and he will not know the difference.

1136
00:52:15.507 --> 00:52:17.509
Good question. Goodbye.

1137
00:52:17.592 --> 00:52:20.512
Aw! Thanks, Dr. Ruth. Okay.

1138
00:52:20.595 --> 00:52:21.721
I learned a lot.

1139
00:52:24.057 --> 00:52:26.309
[moaning]

1140
00:52:27.018 --> 00:52:29.062
-Keep going.
-Tell me when!

1141
00:52:29.145 --> 00:52:31.273
-I will.
-Promise me.

1142
00:52:31.356 --> 00:52:32.482
I will!

1143
00:52:33.400 --> 00:52:35.819
-Not yet.
-You better tell me.

1144
00:52:37.153 --> 00:52:38.446
Oh, my God.

1145
00:52:39.114 --> 00:52:39.948
Oh, my God!

1146
00:52:41.116 --> 00:52:43.952
Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Oh, my God. Oh, my God...

1147
00:52:44.035 --> 00:52:46.246
Now!

1148
00:52:47.414 --> 00:52:49.291
[screams]

1149
00:52:55.171 --> 00:52:58.091
-That was amazing.
-You're amazing.

1150
00:53:02.053 --> 00:53:05.974
Fucking hell.
I'm fucking drenched down here.

1151
00:53:07.100 --> 00:53:10.478
Came right on my fucking puppeteer's face.

1152
00:53:10.562 --> 00:53:11.771
Jesus.

1153
00:53:12.522 --> 00:53:14.190
Okay, that's it.

1154
00:53:14.274 --> 00:53:17.193
Thank you for watching,
but the show is over.

1155
00:53:17.277 --> 00:53:19.279
We've reached the climax.

1156
00:53:19.362 --> 00:53:21.531
-Really? What?
-Oh, no!

1157
00:53:21.615 --> 00:53:23.950
-My gosh.
-No, I was just faking it.

1158
00:53:24.034 --> 00:53:26.244
[all laugh]

1159
00:53:26.328 --> 00:53:29.789
-What! I really thought--
-I know.

1160
00:53:29.873 --> 00:53:31.458
Classic. Classic.

1161
00:53:31.541 --> 00:53:32.667
What a skank.

1162
00:53:34.461 --> 00:53:37.839
Of course I've faked it.
I'm fucking busy. Let's go.

1163
00:53:37.923 --> 00:53:40.842
I'm a good actress. Are you serious?

1164
00:53:40.926 --> 00:53:43.261
I didn't have my first orgasm
until I was like 25.

1165
00:53:43.345 --> 00:53:45.931
I didn't start having them
regularly until my 30s.

1166
00:53:46.014 --> 00:53:48.433
I've dated people for years
who never gave me an orgasm,

1167
00:53:48.516 --> 00:53:49.768
and I just thought that was fine.

1168
00:53:49.851 --> 00:53:53.897
And now I love seeing
this new generation of empowered

1169
00:53:53.980 --> 00:53:55.565
like sexual people

1170
00:53:55.649 --> 00:53:57.484
who have equality in the bedroom.

1171
00:53:57.567 --> 00:53:59.611
I don't know
what this says about my psychology,

1172
00:53:59.694 --> 00:54:01.404
but when someone says "Don't come,"

1173
00:54:02.155 --> 00:54:03.990
I come in two seconds.

1174
00:54:04.074 --> 00:54:06.993
A scientist
would probably say that an orgasm...

1175
00:54:07.077 --> 00:54:08.244
Starts off in your toes.

1176
00:54:08.328 --> 00:54:12.999
It feels like you've played the lotto
for the first time and won all the money.

1177
00:54:13.917 --> 00:54:16.336
I just find orgasms really relaxing.

1178
00:54:16.419 --> 00:54:17.754
A orgasm is like

1179
00:54:18.463 --> 00:54:21.758
walking into that all-white room
in <i>The Matrix.</i>

1180
00:54:23.510 --> 00:54:24.594
It's just like a--

1181
00:54:24.678 --> 00:54:26.638
Goddamnit, how do you describe an orgasm?

1182
00:54:27.347 --> 00:54:28.890
An orgasm is a--

1183
00:54:30.016 --> 00:54:31.643
Uh...

1184
00:54:31.726 --> 00:54:33.812
Uh, an orgasm is...

1185
00:54:34.354 --> 00:54:37.983
So, an orgasm... an orgasm...

1186
00:54:38.066 --> 00:54:39.985
I, I, I... huh.

1187
00:54:40.068 --> 00:54:42.612
A little feather is tickling your big toe.

1188
00:54:42.696 --> 00:54:43.571
Yes.

1189
00:54:43.655 --> 00:54:45.824
Then it goes from your toes,
and goes straight to your vagina.

1190
00:54:46.658 --> 00:54:47.575
Goddamn, hmm.

1191
00:54:47.659 --> 00:54:49.494
Often-- So it depends, so there is a...

1192
00:54:49.577 --> 00:54:51.538
Flood of...

1193
00:54:51.621 --> 00:54:52.914
This, like...

1194
00:54:52.998 --> 00:54:53.957
There's like a...

1195
00:54:54.040 --> 00:54:55.709
...flow of like pleasure.

1196
00:54:55.792 --> 00:54:58.003
-It can be...
-Three little fireworks...

1197
00:54:58.086 --> 00:54:59.713
-...tingly...
-Right at the...

1198
00:54:59.796 --> 00:55:02.298
-...physical...
-...beginning of your vagina.

1199
00:55:02.382 --> 00:55:03.383
[sighs]

1200
00:55:03.466 --> 00:55:04.426
[sighs]

1201
00:55:06.011 --> 00:55:06.845
You know?

1202
00:55:06.928 --> 00:55:08.888
These fireworks gotta go somewhere.
Where they gonna go?

1203
00:55:08.972 --> 00:55:11.683
I'm trying to think... I think--

1204
00:55:11.766 --> 00:55:14.352
As I approach orgasm,
I become increasingly frantic.

1205
00:55:14.436 --> 00:55:15.729
-...emotional
-Twitching.

1206
00:55:15.812 --> 00:55:17.147
-It is kind of...
-...mental.

1207
00:55:17.230 --> 00:55:18.481
-Panic.
-Happening in the brain.

1208
00:55:18.565 --> 00:55:20.108
-It's kind of
-...too dirty.

1209
00:55:20.191 --> 00:55:21.317
-No, it is good.
-We're just doing

1210
00:55:21.401 --> 00:55:23.236
what our insides are telling us to do.

1211
00:55:23.319 --> 00:55:25.739
An increased blood flow in the genitals.

1212
00:55:26.239 --> 00:55:27.824
-Dang.
-That's so hard.

1213
00:55:27.907 --> 00:55:29.576
-Like a fucking horse.
-Oh, yeah.

1214
00:55:29.659 --> 00:55:30.910
-No, that's great.
-Right...

1215
00:55:30.994 --> 00:55:32.829
-...before...
-The fireworks go up.

1216
00:55:32.912 --> 00:55:35.081
It feels like a washing machine
being thrown down the stairs.

1217
00:55:35.165 --> 00:55:37.250
-[growls]
-[Romesh] I then pull a face,

1218
00:55:37.333 --> 00:55:39.961
it's very similar to when I'm trying to
open a tough pickle jar.

1219
00:55:40.045 --> 00:55:41.463
[laughs] Okay.

1220
00:55:41.546 --> 00:55:43.214
The nerves all fire together.

1221
00:55:43.298 --> 00:55:44.424
Ooh!

1222
00:55:44.507 --> 00:55:45.884
-...build up.
-Close your eyes...

1223
00:55:45.967 --> 00:55:47.761
-Wet yourself.
-...with a kind of enjoyment.

1224
00:55:47.844 --> 00:55:48.928
Shit comes out this way.

1225
00:55:49.554 --> 00:55:51.514
-Yes.
-I don't know the technical terms.

1226
00:55:51.598 --> 00:55:52.932
-Fluid.
-Water.

1227
00:55:53.016 --> 00:55:54.559
-Moist.
-[laughs]

1228
00:55:54.642 --> 00:55:57.062
And there is a specific brain area
that lights up as well.

1229
00:55:58.646 --> 00:55:59.481
Oh!

1230
00:55:59.564 --> 00:56:00.482
-[moans]
-[fireworks pop]

1231
00:56:00.565 --> 00:56:01.983
Oh, yeah.

1232
00:56:02.067 --> 00:56:04.194
-[moaning]
-[fireworks pop]

1233
00:56:11.868 --> 00:56:14.120
If it was good for you, it's good for me.

1234
00:56:14.204 --> 00:56:15.246
Was it good for you?

1235
00:56:16.706 --> 00:56:20.001
♪ <i>Everybody is talking about sex</i>
<i>Talking 'bout sex </i>♪

1236
00:56:21.127 --> 00:56:24.464
Looks like this show
is about to finish, y'all.

1237
00:56:24.547 --> 00:56:26.049
[all groan]

1238
00:56:26.132 --> 00:56:27.217
-[moans]
-[vibrator buzzes]

1239
00:56:27.300 --> 00:56:28.760
And so am I.

1240
00:56:30.553 --> 00:56:32.305
Molly, if you don't
put that Bluetooth down...

1241
00:56:33.765 --> 00:56:34.724
Oh.

1242
00:56:35.767 --> 00:56:38.436
We've reached the end of the show.
So what did y'all learn?

1243
00:56:38.520 --> 00:56:41.481
Well, we learned
that everyone has a different definition

1244
00:56:41.564 --> 00:56:42.565
of sex positivity.

1245
00:56:43.191 --> 00:56:44.692
Also I learned that Mike's towel

1246
00:56:44.776 --> 00:56:47.737
only covers 65% of his nether region.

1247
00:56:47.821 --> 00:56:48.780
It's true.

1248
00:56:48.863 --> 00:56:51.866
Well, I learned that it's important
to remember how much fun sex can be.

1249
00:56:51.950 --> 00:56:54.869
And that it's okay
to laugh in the bedroom.

1250
00:56:54.953 --> 00:56:57.288
As long as you're not laughing
at my dingle-dongle.

1251
00:56:58.248 --> 00:56:59.999
That's short for "penis."

1252
00:57:00.750 --> 00:57:03.253
And that orgasms
aren't the be-all and end-all.

1253
00:57:03.336 --> 00:57:04.212
Mm-hmm.

1254
00:57:04.295 --> 00:57:05.713
They're everything.

1255
00:57:06.381 --> 00:57:10.510
And I've learned it's important to be safe
and respectful at all times.

1256
00:57:10.593 --> 00:57:13.680
Sex without consent isn't sex.

1257
00:57:13.763 --> 00:57:17.600
Yeah, safe and
enthusiastically consensual sex

1258
00:57:17.684 --> 00:57:19.561
is beautiful sex.

1259
00:57:19.644 --> 00:57:21.980
-A hundred percent.
-What about you, Saweetie?

1260
00:57:22.063 --> 00:57:23.314
Did you learn anything?

1261
00:57:24.065 --> 00:57:25.442
Actually I did.

1262
00:57:25.525 --> 00:57:27.485
I learned a whole lot, y'all.

1263
00:57:27.569 --> 00:57:31.072
I learned that sexual experiences
shouldn't affect your self-worth.

1264
00:57:31.739 --> 00:57:35.160
And more importantly,
I learned that sex positivity

1265
00:57:35.243 --> 00:57:37.871
is really about being comfortable
within your own body.

1266
00:57:38.371 --> 00:57:41.082
No one should tell you
who you should have sex with.

1267
00:57:41.166 --> 00:57:42.917
Or how to have sex.

1268
00:57:43.543 --> 00:57:45.920
Look, I was an only child for 11 years.

1269
00:57:46.004 --> 00:57:48.381
I didn't have someone
teaching me about sex.

1270
00:57:48.464 --> 00:57:51.551
I didn't have a big sister
coaching me through my curious thoughts.

1271
00:57:51.634 --> 00:57:53.636
It was just me and my home girls talking.

1272
00:57:53.720 --> 00:57:57.223
Now imagine a whole bunch of teenagers
giving each other sex advice.

1273
00:57:57.307 --> 00:57:59.517
Like, sis, this is not <i>Degrassi.</i>

1274
00:58:00.268 --> 00:58:02.228
But I think the major thing I learned

1275
00:58:02.312 --> 00:58:05.982
is making a show about sex
is way more lit with puppets.

1276
00:58:06.065 --> 00:58:09.277
-I know that's right.
-I know that's right.