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- Girls, don't forget to unload the van.

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- Okay, mom.

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- Cheer up girls.

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It's not like it's the
first time we've moved.

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- Probably not the last time either.

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- It's okay with me.

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I make friends wherever I go.

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- Hey Ralph, you wanted to see me?

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- Yes, yes, come on in Darla.

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Just make yourself at home.

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- How are you doing?

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- It's been pretty rough.

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It's not easy going through a divorce.

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- Can you tell us about the divorce?

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- Ralph?
- Well?

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- If you feel comfortable
telling us what's been going on,

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maybe we can help.

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- It's a very long story,

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but the short version of it

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is that my husband decided
after 19 years of marriage,

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that he didn't wanna be married anymore.

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And he's also told me that he
wants to explore other options

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and other life possibilities.

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- Well, was there any
infidelity during your marriage?

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- Not that I know of, no.

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- Oh, sorry to hear that.

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So how are you responding?

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How are you taking it?

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- I'm trying to let go somehow.

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- You're not fighting for it?

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You're not fighting for your marriage?

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- I'm not going to force myself on him,

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and I'm not gonna stay
in a loveless marriage,

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and I'm not gonna make my
young vulnerable daughters

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be around someone who
clearly does not love them

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or their mother.

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- No, we understand that.

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It's just that-
- What?

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- Well, here at our church,

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we believe that the only
biblical reason for a divorce is,

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well it's marital unfaithfulness.

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Well, since there was no infidelity.

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Yeah, I know you mentioned
that he said he wanted

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to pursue other avenues,

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but since there wasn't any actual cheating

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and you're just willing to
go with it and not fight

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for your marriage...

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- What are you saying?

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Are you trying to say that
it's my fault even partially?

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My young girls need to know
that they are valued and loved.

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And if he's not willing to do it,

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then he can be on his way.

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The Bible also says that,

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"If the wicked choose to
depart, let them depart."

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- It just looks bad.

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You know very well the blow

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that the leadership team
here has had this past year

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with the youth pastor
scandal, he deceived us all,

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and now a young girl's life
will never be the same.

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We just have to make sure
that the congregation

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and the membership know

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that we're not willing to just
throw anyone into leadership,

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that we're not going to
hire child predators,

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or bums, or divorcing couples.

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- What is this about, your image?

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Come on, Ralph.

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You knew about my husband.

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You knew how hard I tried for years

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to get him to come to church.

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- That's not the point.

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- What is the point?

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The Bible says to avoid
all appearances of evil.

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And quite frankly, we're just
not doing a good job of that.

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It's like evil is just prancing around,

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dancing all over our living
rooms for all to see.

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- So you're releasing me
from the leadership team?

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- We have to.

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We can't afford to have any
more rumors going around.

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- What am I going to tell my girls

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who now do not have a father?

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And now, they don't even
have a leadership role

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in their own church.

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- Oh, this does not affect
your girls in any way.

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They are completely fine
to stay where they are.

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- Our family is broken up enough

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and I will allow no more of it, goodbye.

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- Was that completely necessary?

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- So I was thinking about in my new room,

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adding my bed on that one wall-

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- Is that the room I want?

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- What room are you talking about?

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- The room at the end of the hall.

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- The one with the big window?

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- I told you that's the one I wanted.

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- No, that's the one I get.

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- Actually guys, I wanted that one.

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- No, that's the one I get.

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- Do you guys actually
think you're the one

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that's getting the room?

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- Yes, I do.

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I do think that.

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- And why do you think that?

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- Because I should get it.

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- I'm the oldest.

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You shouldn't be the one who gets it.

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- So, I don't care if you're the oldest.

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- I would just really appreciate it

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if I was the one that got the room.

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- I'm sorry, but you're the oldest

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and you always think you
get everything you want.

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I'm getting the room.
- Grow up.

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- Girls, I've had enough.

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Megan, go clean up.

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Kayla, go to your room.

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- What room?
- What room?

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- Dear heavenly Father,
in the name of Jesus.

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I just ask you to help me.

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I have felt so rejected.

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You Lord, You are so good

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and You are so faithful Lord.

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Forgive me Lord for
letting this bitterness

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and pain seep in me.

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Just change this heart of
stone into a heart of flesh.

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And Lord, help me to forgive Bill.

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In fact, right now Lord,
I choose to forgive him.

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I forgive him for leaving us.

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And Lord, I just ask that
wherever he is right now Lord,

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that You would bless him.

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And that You would bring
people into his life Lord,

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that point to You.

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And Lord, that he would
see his deep need for You.

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And Lord, I just ask that You
would be with my daughters,

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that You would be with our daughters.

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I know Lord that You are love.

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I just ask that You help them
to see their worth in You.

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Lord, I believe that
they are gonna be okay

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because they're going to turn to You,

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that they're turning to You, Lord.

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I know Lord God that they
are turning to You right now

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in this time of hardship.

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And they are seeking You and
they are finding their worth

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in You Lord.

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I believe that Lord.

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You're saying in Your word,
that all things work for good

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for those who love You,
and we love You Lord.

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Thank You so much for
all that You do for us.

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And thank You for Your love Lord.

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We grasp that love Lord.

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You are the Lord of Lords
and the King of kings,

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and You are the way
the truth and the life.

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Thank You Lord for being there.

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I commit myself to You Lord.

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Please mold me and heal
me and transform me

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to be more like Jesus.

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In Jesus' precious name, amen.

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Let's just talk about this.

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- Look, I've had enough.

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I cannot do this anymore.

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No, there's no anything!

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- We gotta keep trying.

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Let's go to church together.

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Let's get some counseling.

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- Listen, what'll
God for this relationship?

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He hasn't been here for 19 years!

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- Please Bill,
don't give up on us!

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- There is no way.

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I can't do this anymore.

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I just don't love you anymore.

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- What about the girls?

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- What about the girls?

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- Don't you care about them?

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- Are you kidding?

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Of course I care about them!

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Do not turn this on me.

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You'll pray for me God.

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Pray for this marriage that's
been doomed for 19 years.

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- Don't give up on us.

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- Give up on what?

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I don't love you anymore.

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Give up on what?

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- But what about the girls?

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- What about the girls?

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What about 'em?

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- Don't you care about 'em?

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- Do not do this to me,
of course I care about them!

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- Oh God!

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So I think I'm enjoying
your cat decorations

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more than ever before this year.

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- Oh wow, so how are you doing?

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- So you've heard about
what happened at church?

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- Yeah.

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- So I'm sitting here
coming to the realization

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that everything that I thought
was important in 19 years

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is basically just kind of
fallen apart overnight.

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And I have to come to the
realization that I have to do it

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on my own and start over again.

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- You know it doesn't
have to be like that?

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- You know what,

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something about you
ever since we were kids

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is that you just can't seem
or are willing to see things

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as they really are.

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- Has anyone from church
reached out to you?

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- No.

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- There are still some of
us who are praying for you.

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- Don't say that.

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You don't know that.

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And don't believe
everything everybody says.

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Also just because someone
says they're praying for you,

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doesn't mean that they are.

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Love is action.

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- That's true.

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- And we can't just sweep
everything under the rug

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and act like it's not happening.

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For the first time in my life,

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I'm all on my own and I'm
doing it all by myself.

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- Listen, you're gonna find another church

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and you're gonna make new friends.

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- I don't think so.

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- What do you want then?

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Do you wanna be alone?

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- I want to be more selective
on who I allow to be close

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to me and my children.

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And I'm not looking for church
leadership for starters.

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- So guys, our first day
of school is tomorrow.

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- I know, do you guys think
we're gonna be popular?

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- I highly doubt it Caitlyn.

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We're not jocks, movie people,
musicians, we're nobodys.

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- I'm a jock.

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- And I sing and play ukulele.

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You've never been on a
real cross country team

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and you are just a
beginner, we're nobodys.

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- Maybe so, but I'm no quitter.

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- You're just a jock and
you're just a musician.

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- Okay.
- I'm a foodie too.

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- Oh, my.
- I'm also really good

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at sewing and my kind of
music never goes out of style.

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- What kind of style is that?

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- Cute teen rock music.

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- If you see me at school, don't
look at me, don't touch me,

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don't talk to me and especially
don't sit with me at lunch.

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- So, are you new here?

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- That obvious, huh?

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- No, it's just

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that there aren't many
attractive girls around here

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so when one does come around,
it's pretty noticeable.

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- Oh really?

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I'd say these halls are
full of attractive girls.

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So yeah, you're gonna have
to do better than that.

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- Hello handsome, who's this?

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- It's no one.

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I mean, she's new here.

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- I'd say so.

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- I didn't catch her name though.

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- Kayla.

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- Braiden, and this is
my girlfriend, Cami.

258
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- So where'd you move from?

259
00:20:07,623 --> 00:20:10,792
- Bakersville, it's about an
hour and a half away from here.

260
00:20:10,792 --> 00:20:11,627
- I see.

261
00:20:12,669 --> 00:20:14,129
- I saw you at our football game.

262
00:20:14,129 --> 00:20:16,089
Yeah, I just forgot to mention.

263
00:20:16,089 --> 00:20:18,967
- Oh right, yeah, that's
much more believable

264
00:20:18,967 --> 00:20:20,636
than the first reason you gave me.

265
00:20:21,970 --> 00:20:23,513
- We should probably get going to class.

266
00:20:23,513 --> 00:20:25,015
It was really nice to see you.

267
00:20:25,015 --> 00:20:26,016
I'll see you around.

268
00:20:26,016 --> 00:20:27,809
- Nice to meet you Carla.

269
00:20:30,062 --> 00:20:33,190
- Kayla, and right back at ya.

270
00:20:34,733 --> 00:20:36,860
This is gonna be an interesting first week

271
00:20:38,028 --> 00:20:39,863
and I never went to a football game.

272
00:20:39,863 --> 00:20:41,240
This is my first day.

273
00:20:49,289 --> 00:20:52,209
- So why am I here again?

274
00:20:52,209 --> 00:20:53,460
- It's just school policy

275
00:20:53,460 --> 00:20:56,255
that when a student goes
through a traumatic event

276
00:20:56,255 --> 00:21:00,050
such as a death or separation
of parents in the household,

277
00:21:00,050 --> 00:21:03,136
or really any other life-changing event

278
00:21:03,136 --> 00:21:08,141
that we allow students to miss
three hours of class per week

279
00:21:08,350 --> 00:21:10,018
to give them counseling.

280
00:21:10,018 --> 00:21:13,605
- Oh, sweet, well, it's well
worth it for the free coffee.

281
00:21:16,483 --> 00:21:19,152
- So how are things at home?

282
00:21:19,152 --> 00:21:21,571
- I mean, fine I guess.

283
00:21:21,571 --> 00:21:24,616
Making some new friends here
and getting involved in band

284
00:21:24,616 --> 00:21:27,202
so yeah, that's really cool.

285
00:21:29,079 --> 00:21:31,248
- You're not having any problems at home?

286
00:21:31,248 --> 00:21:32,666
- Oh, no, not at all.

287
00:21:33,625 --> 00:21:36,169
I just got a new ukulele for my birthday

288
00:21:36,169 --> 00:21:39,006
and me and my sisters
all got their own rooms

289
00:21:39,006 --> 00:21:40,507
for the first time.

290
00:21:40,507 --> 00:21:42,217
So I can't really complain.

291
00:21:43,427 --> 00:21:44,594
- What about your dad?

292
00:21:47,222 --> 00:21:50,100
- Well, I don't really see my dad much,

293
00:21:50,100 --> 00:21:51,893
but I'm sure he's just busy.

294
00:21:54,521 --> 00:21:56,481
This is so good.

295
00:21:56,481 --> 00:21:58,817
Do you think I could have another cup?

296
00:21:58,817 --> 00:22:02,195
I promise I'll tell you
about all my problems.

297
00:22:05,699 --> 00:22:06,867
- She's in denial.

298
00:22:08,076 --> 00:22:09,619
- What do you mean?

299
00:22:09,619 --> 00:22:14,041
- She's suppressing all
this pain and anguish

300
00:22:14,041 --> 00:22:16,752
and not addressing the issues at home.

301
00:22:18,128 --> 00:22:22,758
- That's Caitlyn, that's
how she copes with things.

302
00:22:22,758 --> 00:22:25,093
She's in her own little world.

303
00:22:25,093 --> 00:22:27,637
- Yes well, I think I need to work

304
00:22:27,637 --> 00:22:28,972
with her a little bit more

305
00:22:28,972 --> 00:22:31,099
because if she doesn't
address these issues,

306
00:22:31,099 --> 00:22:33,435
they're gonna manifest themselves

307
00:22:33,435 --> 00:22:38,023
in other ways one day
when you least expect it.

308
00:22:38,023 --> 00:22:41,777
- Okay, do whatever you
feel you need to do.

309
00:22:41,777 --> 00:22:43,904
- Okay well, if you have
any questions or concerns,

310
00:22:43,904 --> 00:22:46,031
give me a call.
- Thank you.

311
00:23:01,171 --> 00:23:02,506
- Hey, are you new here?

312
00:23:02,506 --> 00:23:05,634
- You're like the fifth person
today who's asked me that.

313
00:23:05,634 --> 00:23:07,052
- Oh, sorry.

314
00:23:07,052 --> 00:23:08,178
- It's all good.

315
00:23:08,178 --> 00:23:10,222
At least you came up and said something.

316
00:23:10,222 --> 00:23:12,849
Most, everyone just gives me looks.

317
00:23:12,849 --> 00:23:15,185
- Oh well, most of us
still welcome newcomers.

318
00:23:15,185 --> 00:23:16,728
I'm just terrible with faces.

319
00:23:16,728 --> 00:23:20,065
- Well, I'm the same way
with names so I get ya.

320
00:23:20,065 --> 00:23:22,067
I'm Megan.
- Ashley.

321
00:23:22,067 --> 00:23:24,861
- Tell me that three more
times before we leave tonight.

322
00:23:24,861 --> 00:23:25,737
- Okay, deal.

323
00:23:27,531 --> 00:23:28,573
Well, why don't you just come over here?

324
00:23:28,573 --> 00:23:30,450
I'll introduce you to
the rest of the group.

325
00:23:30,450 --> 00:23:34,871
- Yeah, I just got wait
on the other extensions

326
00:23:34,871 --> 00:23:36,748
of me basically.

327
00:23:36,748 --> 00:23:37,999
- Oh, you're waiting for someone?

328
00:23:37,999 --> 00:23:40,127
- Yeah, my two sisters.

329
00:23:40,127 --> 00:23:41,795
I don't know what's keeping them.

330
00:23:43,171 --> 00:23:44,673
Oh, there they are.

331
00:23:44,673 --> 00:23:45,799
- Sorry, we're late.

332
00:23:45,799 --> 00:23:47,676
Kayla got lost in the five meter building

333
00:23:47,676 --> 00:23:49,845
and my therapy session went over

334
00:23:49,845 --> 00:23:52,472
because I was on the verge of suicide.

335
00:23:52,472 --> 00:23:55,475
- Yeah, I gotta meet with
that counselor tomorrow.

336
00:23:55,475 --> 00:23:57,185
- Me too.

337
00:23:57,185 --> 00:23:59,020
- Well, if it wasn't for the free coffee,

338
00:23:59,020 --> 00:24:00,605
I wouldn't be there.

339
00:24:00,605 --> 00:24:03,859
- Yeah well guys, this is Anna.

340
00:24:03,859 --> 00:24:08,405
- Ashley.
- Ashley, of course, sorry.

341
00:24:08,405 --> 00:24:10,907
- It's okay, y'all can
just join us up here.

342
00:24:10,907 --> 00:24:11,741
- Okay.

343
00:24:22,294 --> 00:24:24,337
- Hey, are you busy?

344
00:24:24,337 --> 00:24:25,338
- Nope, come on in.

345
00:24:27,048 --> 00:24:27,883
- I just wanted to let you know

346
00:24:27,883 --> 00:24:28,925
that I ran some more numbers

347
00:24:28,925 --> 00:24:31,136
from the real estate account
like you wanted me to

348
00:24:31,136 --> 00:24:32,262
and it just so happens that

349
00:24:32,262 --> 00:24:34,514
that piece of property
right at the county line,

350
00:24:34,514 --> 00:24:37,476
all the way up to as far
as the 85 mile marker

351
00:24:39,227 --> 00:24:40,061
is up for sale.

352
00:24:41,062 --> 00:24:42,898
- Okay, and I suppose you
want me to strike a deal

353
00:24:42,898 --> 00:24:44,316
with the owners?

354
00:24:44,316 --> 00:24:45,692
- Absolutely, that's you and Barbara.

355
00:24:45,692 --> 00:24:46,735
That's y'all's forte.

356
00:24:46,735 --> 00:24:47,569
Y'all can handle that.

357
00:24:47,569 --> 00:24:48,403
I've nothing to do with that.

358
00:24:48,403 --> 00:24:50,697
But the reason I wanted to
tell you about it specifically

359
00:24:50,697 --> 00:24:52,324
is ironically enough,

360
00:24:54,117 --> 00:24:57,078
this piece of land is where
your old church is on.

361
00:24:58,205 --> 00:25:00,749
- Okay I mean, and why
would I care about that?

362
00:25:01,666 --> 00:25:02,542
- Well, I don't know.

363
00:25:02,542 --> 00:25:04,127
I just thought you might be interested.

364
00:25:04,127 --> 00:25:06,004
- Ben, what is going on

365
00:25:06,004 --> 00:25:08,757
in that schemish little mind of yours?

366
00:25:08,757 --> 00:25:11,635
- All right, I admit it.

367
00:25:12,719 --> 00:25:13,553
So I was just thinking

368
00:25:13,553 --> 00:25:16,473
that maybe since that
particular plot of land

369
00:25:16,473 --> 00:25:20,143
is say no longer under
government ownership.

370
00:25:20,143 --> 00:25:21,269
- It isn't?

371
00:25:21,269 --> 00:25:23,897
- No, it's actually been
under private ownership

372
00:25:23,897 --> 00:25:26,233
for about the last two
and a half years or so.

373
00:25:26,233 --> 00:25:27,275
The old owners basically just cashed out

374
00:25:27,275 --> 00:25:29,277
and went and got some land further West

375
00:25:29,277 --> 00:25:30,111
or whatever or whatnot.

376
00:25:30,111 --> 00:25:33,782
But anyway, the point is if in fact,

377
00:25:33,782 --> 00:25:36,993
you wanna show your old
little church people whatnot,

378
00:25:36,993 --> 00:25:40,455
once our company acquires
the ownership for that land,

379
00:25:40,455 --> 00:25:41,665
you can do whatever you wanna do with it.

380
00:25:41,665 --> 00:25:42,666
- Like what?

381
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:49,965
- I don't know, sell it, burn
it to the ground .

382
00:25:53,385 --> 00:25:54,302
Catch you later.

383
00:26:08,024 --> 00:26:11,111
- So girls, how was your first day?

384
00:26:11,111 --> 00:26:11,945
- Good.
- Good.

385
00:26:13,488 --> 00:26:15,615
- Everyone kept staring at us

386
00:26:15,615 --> 00:26:17,951
and commenting about the way we dress.

387
00:26:18,994 --> 00:26:22,872
They kept using this one word,
like consi, consi-something.

388
00:26:27,210 --> 00:26:28,211
- Conservative?

389
00:26:28,211 --> 00:26:30,171
- Right, that's it, conservative.

390
00:26:31,131 --> 00:26:33,883
- Caitlyn, your counselor called today.

391
00:26:33,883 --> 00:26:36,011
She said you're suppressing a lot of pain.

392
00:26:37,804 --> 00:26:41,016
- I am, that coffee causes heartburn

393
00:26:45,228 --> 00:26:47,397
for me after five cups.

394
00:26:47,397 --> 00:26:49,858
- No wonder you can't sleep.

395
00:26:49,858 --> 00:26:51,818
You're doped out on caffeine.

396
00:26:55,405 --> 00:26:56,323
Anybody else?

397
00:26:58,283 --> 00:27:00,285
- I met a cute guy today.

398
00:27:02,120 --> 00:27:07,125
Relax, he's got a girlfriend
much hotter than me.

399
00:27:07,375 --> 00:27:08,543
- I doubt that.

400
00:27:10,211 --> 00:27:11,921
- That's not saying much.

401
00:27:13,590 --> 00:27:14,549
- Girls?

402
00:27:14,549 --> 00:27:17,218
- I bet you didn't meet a cute guy today.

403
00:27:17,218 --> 00:27:21,014
- Well, I will admit you got me there,

404
00:27:21,014 --> 00:27:22,891
but I did make a new friend.

405
00:27:22,891 --> 00:27:24,934
- Oh yeah.
- Who?

406
00:27:26,186 --> 00:27:27,562
- Her name's Ashley.

407
00:27:27,562 --> 00:27:30,440
She is one of the leaders
of the on-campus crusade.

408
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:33,109
And she wants us to go to
church with her on Sunday.

409
00:27:33,109 --> 00:27:35,153
- No.
- No?

410
00:27:35,153 --> 00:27:36,946
I already told her we would.

411
00:27:36,946 --> 00:27:39,157
I thought that would be a no brainer.

412
00:27:39,157 --> 00:27:41,993
- Mom, I know how you
feel about what happened,

413
00:27:41,993 --> 00:27:44,663
but you don't want us
to go to church anymore?

414
00:28:06,017 --> 00:28:08,061
- Maybe you can have her over for dinner.

415
00:28:12,023 --> 00:28:13,525
- I'm sure that would be fine.

416
00:28:53,606 --> 00:28:56,443
- No, you just said that, right?

417
00:28:56,443 --> 00:29:00,196
You know, wait, you know
when you're leaving?

418
00:29:28,516 --> 00:29:31,144
- Oh, did you do that all by yourself?

419
00:29:31,144 --> 00:29:34,063
- Oh, it's only 2000 pieces.

420
00:29:34,063 --> 00:29:36,983
You start from the corners
and work your way in.

421
00:29:36,983 --> 00:29:38,067
It's no big deal.

422
00:29:38,985 --> 00:29:42,447
- I see, and how are things at home?

423
00:29:44,824 --> 00:29:48,119
- We're getting along despite
everything that's happened.

424
00:29:48,119 --> 00:29:50,663
- Are you adjusting well to school?

425
00:29:50,663 --> 00:29:52,290
- Well, it's school.

426
00:29:52,290 --> 00:29:54,209
I have to make the most of everything.

427
00:29:55,668 --> 00:29:56,920
I'm the oldest

428
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,672
so my little sisters look
to me for leadership.

429
00:29:59,672 --> 00:30:02,926
If I'm okay, they can find
it in themselves to be okay.

430
00:30:09,724 --> 00:30:12,018
- Are you finding school challenging?

431
00:30:12,018 --> 00:30:14,687
- My life sucks, okay?

432
00:30:14,687 --> 00:30:17,065
I'm the poster child for the doped up,

433
00:30:17,065 --> 00:30:20,652
can't function, problem
teen of the new generation.

434
00:30:20,652 --> 00:30:22,779
Now, can you just pack me full of Prozac,

435
00:30:22,779 --> 00:30:24,989
or lithium, or tranquilizers,

436
00:30:24,989 --> 00:30:27,700
or canned arsenic for that matter,

437
00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:30,495
or whatever it is you guys prescribe

438
00:30:30,495 --> 00:30:32,956
and send me on my merry way.

439
00:30:32,956 --> 00:30:34,707
I'm missing gym class.

440
00:30:43,132 --> 00:30:44,717
- She said what?

441
00:31:02,944 --> 00:31:04,362
- Hey, you're crazy.

442
00:31:04,362 --> 00:31:06,322
- I'd rather be crazy than be with you.

443
00:31:20,837 --> 00:31:22,922
- Okay last night, your dogs kept me up

444
00:31:22,922 --> 00:31:25,717
for half an hour because he
was scratching in the inside

445
00:31:25,717 --> 00:31:27,468
of the gate.
- Oh my God, what?

446
00:31:27,468 --> 00:31:28,803
- And so, I was a little upset

447
00:31:28,803 --> 00:31:29,762
so I yelled, "Stop!"

448
00:31:32,557 --> 00:31:33,558
- Oh my God.

449
00:31:35,310 --> 00:31:37,562
- He listened to me and
I was like, "Fabulous."

450
00:32:24,943 --> 00:32:26,653
- Hey.
- Hey.

451
00:32:26,653 --> 00:32:29,572
- So about church this Sunday.

452
00:32:29,572 --> 00:32:30,698
- You can't come?

453
00:32:30,698 --> 00:32:32,742
- Well, let's just say my mom wants

454
00:32:32,742 --> 00:32:34,786
to get to know you first,

455
00:32:35,912 --> 00:32:37,538
kind of know what she's
getting herself into.

456
00:32:37,538 --> 00:32:39,540
- Oh yeah, of course, that's fine.

457
00:32:39,540 --> 00:32:42,043
- Awesome, could you
come to dinner tonight

458
00:32:42,043 --> 00:32:43,252
or maybe tomorrow night?

459
00:32:44,462 --> 00:32:46,422
- Yeah, tonight can be fine.

460
00:32:46,422 --> 00:32:48,049
- Great, I'm hungry.

461
00:32:48,049 --> 00:32:49,759
My mom makes a lot.
- Okay.

462
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:09,237
This is really good, thank you.

463
00:33:09,237 --> 00:33:11,406
- Oh yeah, it is isn't it?

464
00:33:14,325 --> 00:33:16,953
- So Ashley, do you go

465
00:33:16,953 --> 00:33:19,122
to church around here
somewhere close do you?

466
00:33:19,122 --> 00:33:21,416
- Yeah, my dad is actually
the Senior Pastor.

467
00:33:23,501 --> 00:33:26,796
- And your parents aren't
divorced I suppose?

468
00:33:26,796 --> 00:33:27,630
- Mom?

469
00:33:27,630 --> 00:33:29,215
- Oh no, they're very much together

470
00:33:29,215 --> 00:33:30,675
and very much in love.

471
00:33:30,675 --> 00:33:32,176
In fact, I think just last week,

472
00:33:32,176 --> 00:33:35,179
my dad got my mom this really nice gift

473
00:33:35,179 --> 00:33:38,349
and we were so excited.

474
00:33:38,349 --> 00:33:40,893
My dad, oh.

475
00:33:43,104 --> 00:33:45,940
- That's very nice.

476
00:33:54,699 --> 00:33:57,160
Well Ashley, we want our daughters

477
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:01,372
to be in an environment
that's safe, very safe.

478
00:34:08,588 --> 00:34:12,592
- Well yeah, our church is
definitely in a safe section

479
00:34:12,592 --> 00:34:14,677
of town for sure.

480
00:34:14,677 --> 00:34:18,806
- She means friendly
environment and non-judgemental.

481
00:34:23,269 --> 00:34:28,274
- Oh, oh yeah, our church is
definitely all about that.

482
00:34:28,274 --> 00:34:30,902
The culture of our church
is definitely one of grace.

483
00:34:31,819 --> 00:34:34,238
- Because that's what
our last church said.

484
00:34:35,698 --> 00:34:36,741
- It's okay.

485
00:34:40,161 --> 00:34:43,206
- Mom wouldn't keep us from
going to church would she?

486
00:34:45,166 --> 00:34:46,626
- Where are you going?

487
00:34:46,626 --> 00:34:48,294
- To get a second helping.

488
00:34:49,420 --> 00:34:52,632
- Grab me one more too while
you're out there please.

489
00:34:52,632 --> 00:34:54,842
- You're gonna get fat.

490
00:34:54,842 --> 00:34:58,096
- Nope, I have another 10
years to eat like a pig

491
00:34:58,096 --> 00:35:00,890
before my metabolism catches up with me,

492
00:35:02,975 --> 00:35:04,852
according to my science teacher.

493
00:37:08,017 --> 00:37:09,727
- Oh, here comes Bradley!

494
00:37:09,727 --> 00:37:11,812
- Hey there!

495
00:37:11,812 --> 00:37:13,648
- What's up?

496
00:37:14,815 --> 00:37:15,733
- Hey guys.

497
00:37:25,785 --> 00:37:27,453
- Dude, that girl is staring you down.

498
00:37:27,453 --> 00:37:28,371
- Yeah man.

499
00:39:26,781 --> 00:39:27,948
- Sidney?

500
00:39:27,948 --> 00:39:28,866
- Yeah, that's him, that's Sidney.

501
00:39:28,866 --> 00:39:30,242
- I was almost in the cold.

502
00:39:35,956 --> 00:39:37,583
- My name was almost .

503
00:39:41,253 --> 00:39:42,963
- This is Chadwin's plant, Edward

504
00:39:44,757 --> 00:39:46,759
He's very handsome.

505
00:39:46,759 --> 00:39:48,969
- I used to water him so much.

506
00:39:48,969 --> 00:39:49,845
I don't know why.

507
00:39:55,434 --> 00:39:57,728
- All right, all right everybody.

508
00:39:57,728 --> 00:39:59,688
Thank you guys all for coming.

509
00:39:59,688 --> 00:40:00,940
For those of you who don't know me,

510
00:40:00,940 --> 00:40:02,066
I am Terrence.

511
00:40:02,066 --> 00:40:02,983
I see some new faces.

512
00:40:02,983 --> 00:40:04,693
It's very nice to have you guys.

513
00:40:04,693 --> 00:40:07,488
And this is my lovely fiance, Andrea.

514
00:40:07,488 --> 00:40:10,366
Together, we run the Young Life Program

515
00:40:10,366 --> 00:40:11,492
on Thursday evenings,

516
00:40:11,492 --> 00:40:15,246
or lead or figurehead
this little assembly,

517
00:40:15,246 --> 00:40:16,163
if you will.

518
00:40:17,039 --> 00:40:20,960
So we would like to go around
and introduce each other.

519
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,420
And I know that you
guys that have been here

520
00:40:22,420 --> 00:40:24,755
for a while have done
this a million times,

521
00:40:24,755 --> 00:40:27,299
but we'd like to make
a level playing field

522
00:40:27,299 --> 00:40:29,427
for all of our newcomers.

523
00:40:29,427 --> 00:40:32,930
So if you want, state your name,

524
00:40:32,930 --> 00:40:36,183
your year in school and how
many years you've been coming

525
00:40:36,183 --> 00:40:37,768
to Living Waters.

526
00:40:37,768 --> 00:40:40,479
And of course a fun fact,

527
00:40:40,479 --> 00:40:42,690
something interesting that
you would like other people

528
00:40:42,690 --> 00:40:44,942
in the group to know about you.

529
00:40:44,942 --> 00:40:46,819
So I'll start as always.

530
00:40:46,819 --> 00:40:49,989
And then Andrea will go and
we'll go around this way.

531
00:40:51,407 --> 00:40:53,951
So again, my name is Terrence.

532
00:40:53,951 --> 00:40:57,037
I am a fourth year at NHU.

533
00:40:57,037 --> 00:41:00,499
I've been coming to Living
Waters for 12 years,

534
00:41:00,499 --> 00:41:01,417
leading for three.

535
00:41:02,334 --> 00:41:05,588
And a fun fact about myself
is that my dad is that Pastor

536
00:41:05,588 --> 00:41:07,423
that you guys all see on TV.

537
00:41:09,592 --> 00:41:11,927
- Hi, I'm Andrea like Terrence said.

538
00:41:11,927 --> 00:41:14,138
I am a junior at NHU.

539
00:41:14,138 --> 00:41:15,681
I've been coming here for five years now.

540
00:41:15,681 --> 00:41:18,726
And my interesting thing is
that I've been in every country

541
00:41:18,726 --> 00:41:20,352
in Europe following the Newsboys.

542
00:41:21,896 --> 00:41:23,647
- Must be nice.

543
00:41:24,648 --> 00:41:25,483
- Kayla!

544
00:41:27,526 --> 00:41:29,403
- Yeah, it was really an experience.

545
00:41:35,367 --> 00:41:37,495
- I'm Braiden, I'm a senior

546
00:41:37,495 --> 00:41:41,081
and this is me and my
girlfriend's first time too.

547
00:41:41,081 --> 00:41:42,833
Interesting fact about me

548
00:41:42,833 --> 00:41:44,335
is that I actually won the MVP

549
00:41:44,335 --> 00:41:46,754
of our high school's football
team two years in a row.

550
00:41:46,754 --> 00:41:48,380
And here's to three.

551
00:41:50,257 --> 00:41:51,967
- Oh, that's where I know you from,

552
00:41:51,967 --> 00:41:53,010
you scored that winning touchdown

553
00:41:53,010 --> 00:41:55,596
against was it Willow Creek last year?

554
00:41:55,596 --> 00:41:57,723
- Yeah, I did it again
against Mountain View.

555
00:41:57,723 --> 00:41:59,058
- Oh yeah, I saw that too.

556
00:41:59,058 --> 00:42:01,185
Heck yeah man, welcome.
- Yeah.

557
00:42:06,607 --> 00:42:09,318
- So I'm Cami, it's my first night here.

558
00:42:09,318 --> 00:42:11,070
I'm a senior at school.

559
00:42:11,070 --> 00:42:12,279
Interesting thing about me

560
00:42:12,279 --> 00:42:14,490
is that I got to interview
Reese Witherspoon

561
00:42:14,490 --> 00:42:16,158
for an article in our magazine.

562
00:42:16,158 --> 00:42:17,952
She was so awesome.

563
00:42:17,952 --> 00:42:19,370
- Wow.

564
00:42:21,789 --> 00:42:23,791
- Hi, I'm Ashley.

565
00:42:23,791 --> 00:42:28,420
I am a senior here at Heath
High and I've been going here

566
00:42:28,420 --> 00:42:30,339
for about four years now.

567
00:42:33,092 --> 00:42:35,678
I'd say the most
interesting thing about me

568
00:42:35,678 --> 00:42:39,139
is that I've read the Bible
four times all the way through.

569
00:42:39,139 --> 00:42:41,809
- Wow, that's interesting.

570
00:42:41,809 --> 00:42:44,228
- Well then, what's
your favorite book then?

571
00:42:44,228 --> 00:42:47,523
- Oh golly, I don't really
have a favorite book.

572
00:42:47,523 --> 00:42:50,025
It's more like I like
the New Testament better

573
00:42:50,025 --> 00:42:51,068
than the Old Testament.

574
00:42:51,068 --> 00:42:53,612
- The New Testament, what
about the Old Testament?

575
00:42:53,612 --> 00:42:56,657
The battles like the Israelites led by,

576
00:42:56,657 --> 00:42:59,451
let's see Moses and Joshua and King David?

577
00:43:00,578 --> 00:43:01,453
- I'm sure your favorite

578
00:43:01,453 --> 00:43:03,747
is the Israelites
getting exiled to Babylon

579
00:43:03,747 --> 00:43:06,333
and that evil King Zedekiah
getting his eyes gouged out

580
00:43:06,333 --> 00:43:08,419
and his sons killed right in front of him.

581
00:43:09,378 --> 00:43:13,674
- Yeah, no.

582
00:43:13,674 --> 00:43:16,635
- Okay, hi, I'm Megan.

583
00:43:16,635 --> 00:43:18,846
I'm here tonight with my two sisters

584
00:43:18,846 --> 00:43:21,807
and I'll let them introduce themselves.

585
00:43:21,807 --> 00:43:25,477
I am new to Heath High
going into my senior year

586
00:43:25,477 --> 00:43:27,271
and this is our first night here.

587
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:31,692
I guess my interesting thing
about me/accomplishment

588
00:43:31,692 --> 00:43:35,404
is I won state title for
individual track last year.

589
00:43:35,404 --> 00:43:39,658
- Wow.
- Wow.

590
00:43:42,995 --> 00:43:46,498
- Hi, I'm Caitlyn, and like she said,

591
00:43:46,498 --> 00:43:50,711
first time here and
interesting thing about me

592
00:43:50,711 --> 00:43:54,173
is I'm awesome at everything I do.

593
00:43:55,633 --> 00:43:57,843
No, I'm just kidding.

594
00:43:57,843 --> 00:43:59,595
I'm a singer/songwriter.

595
00:44:01,388 --> 00:44:06,352
- Oh, that's cool.
- Wow.

596
00:44:12,399 --> 00:44:17,112
- I'm Kayla, first time and
nothing interesting about me.

597
00:44:18,030 --> 00:44:20,574
- Oh come on, I'm sure there's something.

598
00:44:20,574 --> 00:44:25,579
- No, no famous dad or any
dad really for that matter.

599
00:44:25,996 --> 00:44:28,415
No track star crap, no music,

600
00:44:34,421 --> 00:44:39,051
no trophies, no state title, no football

601
00:44:39,051 --> 00:44:41,929
no "Legally blonde" actresses, no Europe.

602
00:44:51,814 --> 00:44:53,148
- Well, I'm sure you've accomplished more

603
00:44:53,148 --> 00:44:54,441
than you think you have.

604
00:44:55,442 --> 00:44:57,486
- She just hasn't found her niche yet.

605
00:44:58,320 --> 00:44:59,863
- Well, just remember

606
00:44:59,863 --> 00:45:02,408
that you're a child of
God first and foremost.

607
00:45:02,408 --> 00:45:05,119
Hold fast to that and build from there.

608
00:45:05,119 --> 00:45:06,787
- Now you sound like my mom.

609
00:45:07,663 --> 00:45:10,624
- Okay, so before we turn
this into a pity party

610
00:45:10,624 --> 00:45:12,835
for whining losers, let's move on.

611
00:45:18,090 --> 00:45:19,466
- Well, thanks for coming tonight guys.

612
00:45:19,466 --> 00:45:20,926
And thanks for sharing.

613
00:45:20,926 --> 00:45:22,219
Kayla is not alone.

614
00:45:22,219 --> 00:45:24,555
We understand many of you guys
are going through hard times

615
00:45:24,555 --> 00:45:26,098
that you don't wanna talk about tonight.

616
00:45:26,098 --> 00:45:28,225
And we completely understand.

617
00:45:28,225 --> 00:45:31,145
We just hope the message
tonight blesses you.

618
00:45:31,145 --> 00:45:32,730
By the way Ashley,

619
00:45:32,730 --> 00:45:35,399
I think we can all agree
that the Old Testament

620
00:45:35,399 --> 00:45:37,568
is not as good as the New Testament.

621
00:45:39,069 --> 00:45:44,074
Speaking of which, that brings
us to the topic of the night.

622
00:45:45,409 --> 00:45:50,414
So this semester, we will be
focusing on, drum roll please.

623
00:45:56,545 --> 00:45:58,839
Now, I'm going to use an old term here

624
00:45:58,839 --> 00:46:02,176
and it's something that's
very important to us.

625
00:46:02,176 --> 00:46:03,677
And it's something that
we're all called to be

626
00:46:03,677 --> 00:46:06,263
as individuals and as a church.

627
00:46:07,139 --> 00:46:09,308
And this is a little cliche,

628
00:46:09,308 --> 00:46:12,352
a little misplaced, overused ministers.

629
00:46:14,146 --> 00:46:15,981
We're called to minister or to effect,

630
00:46:15,981 --> 00:46:18,525
but a word I think better describes it

631
00:46:18,525 --> 00:46:20,778
is to impact.

632
00:46:22,070 --> 00:46:25,616
We're all called to
impact those around us.

633
00:46:26,617 --> 00:46:28,577
And it's not just our friends and the ones

634
00:46:28,577 --> 00:46:30,871
that are closest to us.

635
00:46:30,871 --> 00:46:32,706
We're called to impact even those

636
00:46:32,706 --> 00:46:34,333
that are farthest from God.

637
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,880
So the question that we wanna ask tonight

638
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,883
is how often have we been doing that?

639
00:46:46,678 --> 00:46:48,180
I know I'm not perfect.

640
00:46:48,180 --> 00:46:51,475
There's plenty of people that
I run into in my everyday life

641
00:46:51,475 --> 00:46:54,102
that I am frankly too busy for.

642
00:46:55,312 --> 00:46:58,732
And other times I say that I'm too busy

643
00:46:58,732 --> 00:47:01,443
even though there's a million
other things I could be doing

644
00:47:01,443 --> 00:47:02,277
at the moment.

645
00:47:04,530 --> 00:47:07,157
So with that, let's open Ephesians 4,

646
00:47:08,325 --> 00:47:12,204
and there's a verse that
I want you to go over.

647
00:47:12,204 --> 00:47:15,207
I think it speak a little
bit of truth into this.

648
00:47:15,207 --> 00:47:18,001
Start with verse 29 alrighty.

649
00:47:22,089 --> 00:47:25,843
"No foul language should
come out of your mouths,

650
00:47:25,843 --> 00:47:29,429
"but only such as is good
for needed edification

651
00:47:29,429 --> 00:47:32,224
"that it may impart
grace to those who hear.

652
00:47:34,017 --> 00:47:37,187
"And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God

653
00:47:37,187 --> 00:47:40,899
"with which you were sealed
for the day of redemption.

654
00:47:43,026 --> 00:47:47,406
"All bitterness, fury, anger, shouting,

655
00:47:48,407 --> 00:47:52,870
"inner viling must be removed
from you along with all

656
00:47:52,870 --> 00:47:53,787
"of their malice.

657
00:47:54,955 --> 00:47:59,585
"And be kind to one
another, compassionate,

658
00:47:59,585 --> 00:48:04,172
"forgiving one another as God
has forgiven you in Christ."

659
00:48:06,758 --> 00:48:09,094
- I think these are all
verses that we kind of know

660
00:48:09,094 --> 00:48:10,971
in our heads, but it's
not really something

661
00:48:10,971 --> 00:48:13,640
that we practice on a day-to-day basis,

662
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,560
hasn't really penetrated our hearts.

663
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,354
In our modern Western Christian culture,

664
00:48:19,354 --> 00:48:21,773
we're so focused on the
importance of our lives

665
00:48:21,773 --> 00:48:23,984
and our schedules that we're not focusing

666
00:48:23,984 --> 00:48:25,319
on what's really important,

667
00:48:28,822 --> 00:48:32,284
even if we ourselves don't
think we're important or matter.

668
00:49:03,899 --> 00:49:07,319
- Hey, I just wanted to give
some words of encouragement.

669
00:49:07,319 --> 00:49:08,570
Megan told me you guys

670
00:49:08,570 --> 00:49:11,448
were kind of going through
a hard time right now.

671
00:49:11,448 --> 00:49:14,159
- Yeah, she talks too much.

672
00:49:14,159 --> 00:49:15,786
- Yeah, some of us do.

673
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:18,664
I just wanted to know if you wanted

674
00:49:18,664 --> 00:49:20,749
to maybe get some coffee sometime?

675
00:49:20,749 --> 00:49:23,710
I'd love to hear your story
and see what we can do to help.

676
00:49:24,586 --> 00:49:28,215
- I appreciate the gesture Miss, Europe,

677
00:49:28,215 --> 00:49:31,635
but I really don't think
that's the best idea.

678
00:49:44,189 --> 00:49:46,233
How's Saturday morning sound?

679
00:49:46,233 --> 00:49:48,318
- Sounds good, I'll write down my number.

680
00:50:24,604 --> 00:50:26,398
- Hey, thank you so much
for inviting me over

681
00:50:26,398 --> 00:50:27,315
to dinner the other night.

682
00:50:27,315 --> 00:50:28,150
It was so fun.

683
00:50:28,150 --> 00:50:30,152
- Yeah, thanks for inviting me to this.

684
00:50:30,152 --> 00:50:31,486
- I'm so glad you all came.

685
00:50:31,486 --> 00:50:33,238
- Yeah, thanks for inviting us.

686
00:50:34,281 --> 00:50:39,286
Also, would you keep
Kayla in your prayers?

687
00:50:39,411 --> 00:50:41,538
Our family's been going through divorce

688
00:50:41,538 --> 00:50:43,957
and she hasn't been taking it very well.

689
00:50:43,957 --> 00:50:45,959
- Oh no, yeah, absolutely.

690
00:50:48,003 --> 00:50:49,629
And about the other night, I'm so sorry.

691
00:50:49,629 --> 00:50:52,632
I did not know you guys
were going through that.

692
00:50:52,632 --> 00:50:53,884
- No, it's okay.

693
00:50:53,884 --> 00:50:56,053
I'm the one that should
have said something.

694
00:50:57,220 --> 00:50:58,764
- We should get together sometime.

695
00:50:58,764 --> 00:50:59,765
- Yeah, we should.

696
00:50:59,765 --> 00:51:00,932
We should go to a coffee shop.

697
00:51:00,932 --> 00:51:02,476
- I love coffee.

698
00:51:10,942 --> 00:51:12,277
- Hey!
- Oh, hey.

699
00:51:14,988 --> 00:51:17,699
- I'm old enough to know
when it's time to skedaddle.

700
00:51:17,699 --> 00:51:19,451
- Where do you think you're going?

701
00:51:19,451 --> 00:51:21,953
- You two have to talk.

702
00:51:21,953 --> 00:51:23,830
- You're not escaping that easily.

703
00:51:23,830 --> 00:51:27,334
- Come on, you know it's new
guy, new girl, they meet.

704
00:51:28,460 --> 00:51:31,379
- Quit your babbling and get over here.

705
00:51:31,379 --> 00:51:32,839
- Oh, okay.

706
00:51:34,007 --> 00:51:35,884
- So cool message tonight, huh?

707
00:51:35,884 --> 00:51:37,010
- Yeah, for sure.

708
00:51:37,010 --> 00:51:38,011
You can never hear too much

709
00:51:38,011 --> 00:51:40,472
about loving others, huh Caitlyn?

710
00:51:40,472 --> 00:51:42,891
- Yeah, love is dope.

711
00:51:44,726 --> 00:51:46,520
- Well, I just wanted to let you know

712
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:47,729
that some of us are going
to see that new movie

713
00:51:47,729 --> 00:51:49,272
at the theater downtown on Saturday

714
00:51:49,272 --> 00:51:53,693
and you're welcome to join us if you want.

715
00:51:53,693 --> 00:51:55,862
- Yeah, that's so nice of you.

716
00:51:55,862 --> 00:51:58,698
I'll check my schedule
and let you know tomorrow.

717
00:52:00,367 --> 00:52:03,120
- Hi, you social butterfly.

718
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,371
- She knows what I do.

719
00:52:04,371 --> 00:52:06,123
- Yeah, you again.

720
00:52:06,123 --> 00:52:09,709
- Yes.
- I invited her

721
00:52:09,709 --> 00:52:12,129
to come to the movies with
our group on Saturday.

722
00:52:12,129 --> 00:52:14,047
- Our group, what group?

723
00:52:14,047 --> 00:52:16,466
It was just supposed to be the two of us.

724
00:52:16,466 --> 00:52:18,009
- Well, plans change.

725
00:52:19,052 --> 00:52:23,849
- Oh, I mean, she's a very busy girl.

726
00:52:23,849 --> 00:52:26,351
She probably doesn't have
time for us on Saturday.

727
00:52:27,269 --> 00:52:30,689
- You know what, that reminds me,

728
00:52:30,689 --> 00:52:34,317
I actually have a birthday gig to go to

729
00:52:34,317 --> 00:52:35,694
with my sister Saturday.

730
00:52:35,694 --> 00:52:37,612
- We do?

731
00:52:37,612 --> 00:52:41,575
Oh right, Owen Sue, of course, my bad.

732
00:52:42,784 --> 00:52:44,661
- So maybe next time.

733
00:52:45,996 --> 00:52:46,872
- Next time.

734
00:52:49,791 --> 00:52:52,210
- Great, see y'all round.

735
00:52:52,210 --> 00:52:53,211
- See you next week.

736
00:52:54,171 --> 00:52:56,548
- What, you'll see are next week?

737
00:52:56,548 --> 00:53:01,011
- Heartbreaker, you're
gonna be a heartbreaker.

738
00:53:01,011 --> 00:53:03,054
- Shut up, you're not big enough

739
00:53:03,054 --> 00:53:05,223
to where I still can't kick your butt.

740
00:54:06,618 --> 00:54:08,370
- Good morning, everyone.

741
00:54:08,370 --> 00:54:10,288
It's another beautiful Sunday morning.

742
00:54:11,831 --> 00:54:12,666
With heavy hearts,

743
00:54:12,666 --> 00:54:15,794
we have an announcement
that we need to make.

744
00:54:15,794 --> 00:54:20,799
It's gonna be hard for some of
you congregation to swallow.

745
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:23,969
It's certainly very difficult for us,

746
00:54:23,969 --> 00:54:26,179
but our church has reached a decision

747
00:54:29,474 --> 00:54:31,893
and we regret to inform everyone.

748
00:54:38,191 --> 00:54:40,110
- Babe, did you see Stacy?

749
00:54:40,110 --> 00:54:41,987
I mean, she was judging me

750
00:54:41,987 --> 00:54:44,072
especially when the
offering was going around.

751
00:54:44,072 --> 00:54:46,574
She was watching how much
we were putting in there.

752
00:54:46,574 --> 00:54:48,702
Babe, I'm just feeling a
lot of judgment right now.

753
00:54:48,702 --> 00:54:51,496
Did you see the way that
Stacy looked at you?

754
00:54:51,496 --> 00:54:52,539
- Yeah, I did, but I don't
think it was because of him.

755
00:54:54,291 --> 00:54:56,001
- We need to talk to them about it.

756
00:54:56,001 --> 00:54:57,919
- Seriously?
- Yeah.

757
00:54:57,919 --> 00:54:59,629
- Why do you have to
make everything a joke?

758
00:54:59,629 --> 00:55:00,463
It's not a joke.

759
00:55:00,463 --> 00:55:01,339
It's not funny, I'm serious.

760
00:55:01,339 --> 00:55:04,009
- It's very healing to people.

761
00:55:04,009 --> 00:55:06,511
- Babe, I just feel like
everyone's judging us.

762
00:55:06,511 --> 00:55:08,388
I mean, did you see Connie?
- Yeah.

763
00:55:08,388 --> 00:55:09,472
- The way that she looked at us.

764
00:55:09,472 --> 00:55:11,808
- She smells funny today, it's weird.

765
00:55:11,808 --> 00:55:13,852
- I think it's her grandmother's perfume.

766
00:55:15,103 --> 00:55:17,897
So we need to not say anything about that.

767
00:55:17,897 --> 00:55:19,524
- Hey.
- Hi!

768
00:55:24,321 --> 00:55:27,615
It's just so hard what's going in.

769
00:55:27,615 --> 00:55:29,117
I'm so sorry about all that.

770
00:55:29,117 --> 00:55:30,827
- It is, yeah.

771
00:55:30,827 --> 00:55:33,872
Pastor Smith and his wife
have been here for 20 years.

772
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:37,167
- I know, it's heartbreaking.

773
00:55:37,167 --> 00:55:38,126
- And we're here to support him

774
00:55:38,126 --> 00:55:39,669
and his family any way we can.

775
00:55:42,756 --> 00:55:44,507
- Paul, you're on the board.

776
00:55:44,507 --> 00:55:46,426
I mean, I hate to keep
airing dirty laundry,

777
00:55:46,426 --> 00:55:49,095
but did you have anything to do with this?

778
00:55:51,431 --> 00:55:54,392
- It was a business decision
that we needed to make

779
00:55:54,392 --> 00:55:57,270
and it's been staring us in
the face for a while now.

780
00:55:57,270 --> 00:55:59,189
We tried to come up with
alternate solutions,

781
00:55:59,189 --> 00:56:01,107
but let's face it, our
membership is dwindling

782
00:56:01,107 --> 00:56:04,277
and we're just not getting
the offerings that we used to.

783
00:56:06,321 --> 00:56:08,073
People wanna keep blowing
this out of proportion

784
00:56:08,073 --> 00:56:10,909
like it's a direct stab to
Pastor Smith and his family.

785
00:56:10,909 --> 00:56:13,286
It's not, it's not personal at all.

786
00:56:13,286 --> 00:56:15,705
- No.
- We don't wanna see him go,

787
00:56:17,290 --> 00:56:19,209
but it was a business decision.

788
00:56:19,209 --> 00:56:22,337
And you would have done the
same thing at your company.

789
00:56:22,337 --> 00:56:24,422
When the numbers are
down as tough as it is,

790
00:56:24,422 --> 00:56:25,298
you do layoffs.

791
00:56:25,298 --> 00:56:27,759
It's how every business in the world works

792
00:56:28,593 --> 00:56:30,762
and we gotta do what's
best for the church.

793
00:56:33,932 --> 00:56:34,766
- I understand.

794
00:56:36,559 --> 00:56:39,229
- Well, if you'll excuse me,
I'll go pick up the kids.

795
00:56:43,650 --> 00:56:44,484
- Get up.

796
00:56:46,152 --> 00:56:48,947
- So hey Ralph, we got any
of that tripping budget left

797
00:56:48,947 --> 00:56:49,781
by any chance?

798
00:56:50,740 --> 00:56:52,325
- No, we're fresh out.

799
00:56:52,325 --> 00:56:54,035
- Well, come on baby,

800
00:56:54,035 --> 00:56:56,913
we're probably the next
ones to get kicked out.

801
00:56:57,789 --> 00:56:59,374
- Are you going to group lunch?

802
00:56:59,374 --> 00:57:02,043
- Yeah, yeah.

803
00:57:03,211 --> 00:57:04,879
- Okay, I'll save you a seat.

804
00:57:08,383 --> 00:57:12,011
- This place has become a laughing stock.

805
00:57:12,011 --> 00:57:13,805
- Hey, can I talk to you for a second?

806
00:57:16,307 --> 00:57:18,059
- Why do you always have to be a joker?

807
00:57:18,059 --> 00:57:19,644
- Because it's funny.

808
00:57:19,644 --> 00:57:23,440
- It's not, seriously stop it, shut up.

809
00:57:25,316 --> 00:57:28,653
- I just wanted to ask
you about what's going on.

810
00:57:28,653 --> 00:57:30,697
I mean, I talked to you about
what happened with my sister,

811
00:57:30,697 --> 00:57:32,907
but now Pastor Smith?

812
00:57:32,907 --> 00:57:34,909
What is happening with our church?

813
00:57:34,909 --> 00:57:39,914
- I know, honestly,
I've been really praying

814
00:57:40,039 --> 00:57:42,250
about what's been going on lately.

815
00:57:42,250 --> 00:57:44,711
And especially with your sister,

816
00:57:44,711 --> 00:57:45,837
I don't even fully agree

817
00:57:45,837 --> 00:57:49,174
with the decisions being made about that.

818
00:57:49,174 --> 00:57:52,719
And I just feel like our
church panics at the first sign

819
00:57:52,719 --> 00:57:53,511
of a problem,

820
00:57:53,511 --> 00:57:57,348
and I'm just really
feeling convicted about it.

821
00:58:17,494 --> 00:58:20,663
- I can't believe they did this to us.

822
00:58:22,790 --> 00:58:25,877
They can't do this to us.

823
00:58:25,877 --> 00:58:29,047
The church wouldn't even
exist without you Harold.

824
00:58:29,047 --> 00:58:32,592
- Honey, technically they
can, but you have to remember,

825
00:58:32,592 --> 00:58:37,555
they're responsible for the
church's financial future.

826
00:58:37,597 --> 00:58:40,975
I mean, if tithes and
offerings aren't up to par,

827
00:58:40,975 --> 00:58:43,186
and you have to admit they
haven't been for quite a while,

828
00:58:43,186 --> 00:58:45,772
then sacrifices have to be made.

829
00:58:47,106 --> 00:58:47,941
- But why us?

830
00:58:49,317 --> 00:58:51,861
We are the church.

831
00:58:52,904 --> 00:58:54,239
They wouldn't be anywhere near

832
00:58:54,239 --> 00:58:56,074
where they are today without us.

833
00:58:57,492 --> 00:59:00,620
- You have to understand
that we get paid generously

834
00:59:00,620 --> 00:59:01,621
for what we do.

835
00:59:03,289 --> 00:59:07,001
Look, you have to stop looking at it

836
00:59:07,001 --> 00:59:10,004
as what they've done to us,

837
00:59:10,004 --> 00:59:13,716
rather more what God is doing through us

838
00:59:13,716 --> 00:59:15,927
in this unfortunate situation.

839
00:59:18,388 --> 00:59:21,391
- Are you gonna fight it Harold?

840
00:59:21,391 --> 00:59:23,768
Don't you feel it's unjust?

841
00:59:25,436 --> 00:59:28,856
- I could Amanda, but what
would I really be fighting for?

842
00:59:30,191 --> 00:59:33,069
And what kind of example
would we be leading

843
00:59:33,069 --> 00:59:36,531
especially to those who know
us at church and beyond?

844
00:59:37,824 --> 00:59:41,828
Look honey, we have to pray over this

845
00:59:42,787 --> 00:59:47,750
and see what God does in the
meantime in providing for us,

846
00:59:48,251 --> 00:59:52,005
in meeting our needs and
then what the next step is.

847
00:59:54,465 --> 00:59:56,551
- You can't fool me Harold.

848
00:59:58,303 --> 01:00:00,888
You're just as worried as I am.

849
01:00:02,765 --> 01:00:04,684
- We'll get through it.

850
01:00:18,781 --> 01:00:21,284
- Look, I need to get
something straight with you.

851
01:00:22,243 --> 01:00:25,163
- Okay.
- Braiden's mine, okay?

852
01:00:25,163 --> 01:00:27,123
I've seen the way you've
been flirting with him.

853
01:00:27,123 --> 01:00:28,750
- Flirting?

854
01:00:28,750 --> 01:00:29,792
- Last week at Bible study,

855
01:00:29,792 --> 01:00:32,003
he couldn't keep his eyes
off of you all night.

856
01:00:32,003 --> 01:00:33,838
- And that's my fault?

857
01:00:33,838 --> 01:00:35,673
- You and your sisters
parade yourself around

858
01:00:35,673 --> 01:00:36,799
like you're something special.

859
01:00:36,799 --> 01:00:39,135
You show up at a new school
with your perfect clothes

860
01:00:39,135 --> 01:00:41,095
and your crazy hair.

861
01:00:41,095 --> 01:00:43,598
You don't keep quiet like the others.

862
01:00:43,598 --> 01:00:46,017
You just show up, guns blazing.

863
01:00:46,017 --> 01:00:49,646
- Look girl, Braiden,
you can have him, okay.

864
01:00:51,064 --> 01:00:52,523
Let's just say he's not my type.

865
01:00:52,523 --> 01:00:54,275
- Oh, he's not good enough for you?

866
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,613
- You're jealous, it's obvious.

867
01:00:58,613 --> 01:01:01,532
- Oh honey, don't play with the big girls.

868
01:01:01,532 --> 01:01:05,662
You don't wanna play in
the big leagues I promise.

869
01:01:05,662 --> 01:01:08,581
You we're in way, way over your head.

870
01:01:08,581 --> 01:01:12,251
- I got to go to class, but yeah,

871
01:01:12,251 --> 01:01:14,962
try to have more confidence in yourself.

872
01:01:14,962 --> 01:01:17,924
I mean, Braiden's not stalking me yet.

873
01:01:17,924 --> 01:01:20,635
He's still talking to you, right?

874
01:01:26,057 --> 01:01:30,228
- Okay, you want war,

875
01:01:30,228 --> 01:01:31,145
I'll give you war.

876
01:01:32,230 --> 01:01:33,398
Two can play that game.

877
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:51,332
- So you and your family
are new to the area?

878
01:01:54,669 --> 01:01:56,796
- What's left of us, yeah.

879
01:01:56,796 --> 01:01:58,589
- Yeah, Ashley told me you guys

880
01:01:58,589 --> 01:02:00,049
were going through a divorce.

881
01:02:01,050 --> 01:02:02,301
- Oh she did huh?

882
01:02:03,177 --> 01:02:05,638
- I'm sorry, I was just trying to help.

883
01:02:05,638 --> 01:02:07,765
- Not only did I go through a divorce

884
01:02:07,765 --> 01:02:08,850
when I was eight years old,

885
01:02:08,850 --> 01:02:12,395
but the man my mom was married
to wasn't even my real dad.

886
01:02:12,395 --> 01:02:15,148
I was what the church would
call an illegitimate child.

887
01:02:16,691 --> 01:02:19,777
- I'm what you would call
not the brightest crown

888
01:02:19,777 --> 01:02:20,945
in the box.

889
01:02:20,945 --> 01:02:22,905
I'm sorry, what's that mean?

890
01:02:22,905 --> 01:02:27,326
- Oh, I was born out of wedlock
and for the longest time,

891
01:02:29,412 --> 01:02:32,081
I really, really
struggled with my identity

892
01:02:32,081 --> 01:02:35,418
as a person and my
certainty as a child of God.

893
01:02:35,418 --> 01:02:38,546
I mean, I wasn't even supposed to exist.

894
01:02:38,546 --> 01:02:41,090
I was a result of my parents' sin

895
01:02:42,133 --> 01:02:44,677
and being in the middle of a divorce,

896
01:02:44,677 --> 01:02:47,555
it's like, how can God honestly love me

897
01:02:47,555 --> 01:02:49,098
and have a plan for me?

898
01:02:49,098 --> 01:02:50,391
I believed it for everyone else,

899
01:02:50,391 --> 01:02:52,769
but I couldn't accept it for myself.

900
01:02:52,769 --> 01:02:56,647
And I was just so afraid that
one day it would be revealed

901
01:02:56,647 --> 01:03:00,026
to me that I wouldn't inherit
the great things from God

902
01:03:00,026 --> 01:03:03,029
that my pastors and my religious people

903
01:03:03,029 --> 01:03:04,447
that I knew growing up would.

904
01:03:07,283 --> 01:03:11,329
It took me a long time to
realize that we're all here

905
01:03:11,329 --> 01:03:12,914
for a reason.

906
01:03:12,914 --> 01:03:17,126
And God loves to take people
from broken circumstances

907
01:03:17,126 --> 01:03:19,545
and make them into something wonderful,

908
01:03:19,545 --> 01:03:20,546
that's what He does.

909
01:03:21,506 --> 01:03:24,509
- When I first came here,
no one ever talked to me.

910
01:03:24,509 --> 01:03:27,220
People would pass right by
me and not even say a word.

911
01:03:28,846 --> 01:03:30,139
Guys that I would talk to,

912
01:03:31,682 --> 01:03:33,643
They would just say they were too busy.

913
01:03:34,977 --> 01:03:37,522
Then the next week, they'd
be with another girl.

914
01:03:41,776 --> 01:03:43,069
It upset me to the point

915
01:03:43,069 --> 01:03:44,654
that I felt like I wasn't good enough

916
01:03:44,654 --> 01:03:47,990
to be in a relationship
with a good Christian man.

917
01:03:47,990 --> 01:03:50,451
I felt like I didn't fit in
with the Christian circle.

918
01:03:51,452 --> 01:03:53,120
If God loved me so much,

919
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:55,706
then why did I mean so
little to His other children.

920
01:04:00,002 --> 01:04:02,547
- I appreciate you all
sharing your stories with me.

921
01:04:04,382 --> 01:04:06,467
- You feel similar because your dad left?

922
01:04:07,969 --> 01:04:12,098
- Honestly, I'm not really
sure how I'm feeling about it.

923
01:04:12,098 --> 01:04:14,183
- Were you close with your dad?

924
01:04:14,183 --> 01:04:16,894
- Still am, he says him
leaving mom had nothing

925
01:04:16,894 --> 01:04:18,145
to do with us.

926
01:04:20,773 --> 01:04:22,024
- You believe him, right?

927
01:04:24,527 --> 01:04:25,653
- I guess.

928
01:04:27,488 --> 01:04:29,407
- I guess what we're trying to say

929
01:04:29,407 --> 01:04:33,160
is that you shouldn't let this experience

930
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:37,206
define your relationship with
God and how you view God.

931
01:04:38,708 --> 01:04:41,294
God wants us to fight for
our relationship with Him

932
01:04:41,294 --> 01:04:44,297
and our relationship with
our spouses and others.

933
01:04:47,425 --> 01:04:48,718
- Thanks.

934
01:04:48,718 --> 01:04:50,970
- Do you mind if we pray for you?

935
01:04:50,970 --> 01:04:51,804
- Sure.

936
01:04:58,978 --> 01:05:01,981
- Heavenly Father, I
pray for Kayla right now.

937
01:05:01,981 --> 01:05:03,858
Please give her a peace and a comfort

938
01:05:03,858 --> 01:05:06,152
that only You can give.

939
01:05:06,152 --> 01:05:09,238
I pray that we would
be good friends to her

940
01:05:09,238 --> 01:05:11,532
and that we would understand and help her

941
01:05:11,532 --> 01:05:12,867
and that she would understand

942
01:05:12,867 --> 01:05:15,578
that we're glorifying You.

943
01:05:15,578 --> 01:05:20,583
I pray God that You'd please
give her family comfort

944
01:05:21,292 --> 01:05:25,880
and that she'd be able to
fit in well with school,

945
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:30,885
that You'd help her with
school and all her friends.

946
01:05:31,552 --> 01:05:33,638
I pray that she'd start
making more friends

947
01:05:33,638 --> 01:05:38,434
and that she would grow in You
and a relationship with You

948
01:05:38,434 --> 01:05:39,810
and her family.

949
01:05:39,810 --> 01:05:42,438
Please give her and her
family a peace and a comfort

950
01:05:42,438 --> 01:05:44,482
that only You can give.

951
01:05:44,482 --> 01:05:46,442
I pray that we give blessing to her

952
01:05:46,442 --> 01:05:48,235
and that we'd encourage her

953
01:05:48,235 --> 01:05:50,404
and that she would be blessed by us

954
01:05:50,404 --> 01:05:55,409
and want to turn to You
Lord for everything.

955
01:05:55,534 --> 01:05:59,080
I pray that we all would
be more dependent on You

956
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:03,459
and rely on who Christ is
and what He has done for us

957
01:06:03,459 --> 01:06:04,543
on the cross.

958
01:06:09,465 --> 01:06:12,051
- And Lord, I just pray
that you please just protect

959
01:06:12,051 --> 01:06:13,469
and guard Kayla's heart

960
01:06:13,469 --> 01:06:15,471
as she goes through these uncertain times.

961
01:06:15,471 --> 01:06:17,807
And I pray for Your hand to just be

962
01:06:17,807 --> 01:06:20,768
on her whole family right
now during these times Lord.

963
01:06:20,768 --> 01:06:22,687
And I pray that You just
help her to keep in mind

964
01:06:22,687 --> 01:06:25,815
that she's a child of God
first and foremost Lord.

965
01:06:25,815 --> 01:06:29,110
And I just pray for Your love
to just show in her life Lord.

966
01:06:29,110 --> 01:06:30,569
And thank You for these amazing times

967
01:06:30,569 --> 01:06:31,904
that we've got together.

968
01:06:31,904 --> 01:06:34,365
And all the things I ask
in Your holy name, amen.

969
01:06:34,365 --> 01:06:36,158
- Amen.
- Amen, thank you.

970
01:07:00,266 --> 01:07:01,517
- Good morning.

971
01:07:01,517 --> 01:07:03,436
- Hey, how are you doing?

972
01:07:03,436 --> 01:07:05,062
- Moving right along, I suppose.

973
01:07:05,062 --> 01:07:06,022
And you?

974
01:07:06,022 --> 01:07:08,357
- Great, I have the afternoon off work

975
01:07:08,357 --> 01:07:11,235
so I'm gonna go do a little
early Christmas shopping.

976
01:07:11,235 --> 01:07:13,529
You and the girls still
coming over on Friday?

977
01:07:13,529 --> 01:07:16,699
- Of course, the girls
are excited to see you.

978
01:07:16,699 --> 01:07:18,784
- Hey, I heard you found a new church.

979
01:07:21,662 --> 01:07:22,955
- They're exploring other options

980
01:07:22,955 --> 01:07:24,373
with their friends at school.

981
01:07:25,332 --> 01:07:27,418
They haven't really convinced
me to come along yet.

982
01:07:27,418 --> 01:07:28,335
- Well, why not?

983
01:07:28,335 --> 01:07:31,589
I figured you'd be excited
to start somewhere new?

984
01:07:31,589 --> 01:07:33,466
- You know that I'm not
going to keep my daughters

985
01:07:33,466 --> 01:07:34,967
from going back to church.

986
01:07:34,967 --> 01:07:36,343
I just would never do that.

987
01:07:37,553 --> 01:07:39,680
It's just my job to protect them.

988
01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:41,599
And naturally, I'm afraid

989
01:07:41,599 --> 01:07:44,393
that they're going to be
greatly disappointed again.

990
01:07:44,393 --> 01:07:46,395
I just don't want them to
turn their backs on God

991
01:07:46,395 --> 01:07:49,065
because of the wrongs that the
church has done toward them.

992
01:07:50,107 --> 01:07:51,859
I just wish they would have waited.

993
01:07:53,486 --> 01:07:55,404
- It is all part of the plan Darla.

994
01:07:55,404 --> 01:07:57,031
I want you to believe that.

995
01:07:57,031 --> 01:07:59,492
Anyway, I was calling because
I wanted to let you know

996
01:07:59,492 --> 01:08:00,951
about something that happened at church.

997
01:08:00,951 --> 01:08:02,453
It might make you feel better.

998
01:08:03,454 --> 01:08:04,747
- I'm all ears.

999
01:08:04,747 --> 01:08:06,957
I need some good news about right now.

1000
01:08:06,957 --> 01:08:09,335
- Well, I wouldn't say
that it's good news.

1001
01:08:09,335 --> 01:08:10,753
Pastor Smith got let go.

1002
01:08:10,753 --> 01:08:12,671
They say due to financial reasons.

1003
01:08:13,714 --> 01:08:15,341
- Really?

1004
01:08:15,341 --> 01:08:18,761
- Yeah, it's made a lot of people upset,

1005
01:08:18,761 --> 01:08:22,181
but we took up a collection
for him and his wife

1006
01:08:22,181 --> 01:08:25,434
before a lot of people took off.

1007
01:08:25,434 --> 01:08:26,936
- Took off?

1008
01:08:26,936 --> 01:08:28,187
- Yeah, but no,

1009
01:08:28,187 --> 01:08:30,606
a bunch of people thought
this was a huge injustice

1010
01:08:30,606 --> 01:08:32,358
and they left the church.

1011
01:08:32,358 --> 01:08:34,193
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know

1012
01:08:34,193 --> 01:08:37,113
that what happened to you was not right

1013
01:08:37,113 --> 01:08:38,614
and it wasn't your fault.

1014
01:08:38,614 --> 01:08:40,991
It's just, these guys have their ideas

1015
01:08:40,991 --> 01:08:42,368
about how things should be done

1016
01:08:42,368 --> 01:08:44,537
and they don't stray from them.

1017
01:08:44,537 --> 01:08:46,831
- Well, - I appreciate
you letting me know.

1018
01:08:47,790 --> 01:08:49,125
- Well, to be honest,

1019
01:08:49,125 --> 01:08:51,418
we're trying to get better as
a church, but to be honest,

1020
01:08:51,418 --> 01:08:54,338
I feel like the congregation
is in its Twilight stage.

1021
01:08:59,093 --> 01:09:01,470
- You may be more right than you think.

1022
01:09:02,638 --> 01:09:04,723
- Well, don't wish bad things on anyone.

1023
01:09:04,723 --> 01:09:05,933
You're better than that.

1024
01:09:13,315 --> 01:09:14,400
Listen, I got to go.

1025
01:09:14,400 --> 01:09:16,402
It's time for me to start my shopping.

1026
01:09:18,904 --> 01:09:20,531
I'll see you girls on Friday.

1027
01:09:20,531 --> 01:09:21,615
- You bet.

1028
01:09:21,615 --> 01:09:24,451
- All right, love you.
- Love you.

1029
01:09:25,870 --> 01:09:26,704
- All right, bye.

1030
01:09:53,314 --> 01:09:54,648
- I miss you guys too.

1031
01:10:02,323 --> 01:10:04,491
- Can you please be quiet?

1032
01:10:58,754 --> 01:11:01,382
- She's just telling me to stop.

1033
01:11:19,733 --> 01:11:23,070
Watch this, I just learned it yesterday.

1034
01:11:25,823 --> 01:11:27,157
Pretty cool huh?

1035
01:11:31,161 --> 01:11:36,166
It's so hard.

1036
01:12:29,428 --> 01:12:31,930
- Hey, I'm hanging out with
some friends for a little bit.

1037
01:12:31,930 --> 01:12:33,390
- On a school night?

1038
01:12:35,184 --> 01:12:36,352
- I won't be out late.

1039
01:13:44,503 --> 01:13:46,088
- So where do you wanna go?

1040
01:13:46,088 --> 01:13:48,132
- I don't know, wherever you wanna go.

1041
01:13:49,508 --> 01:13:51,552
- I know this cool place.

1042
01:13:51,552 --> 01:13:55,681
- Okay, what kind of place?

1043
01:13:55,681 --> 01:13:58,142
- Just somewhere where we can talk.

1044
01:14:24,543 --> 01:14:25,878
- Do you know him?

1045
01:14:25,878 --> 01:14:28,755
- Yeah, it's a smelly
old hobo begging again.

1046
01:14:28,755 --> 01:14:29,840
I'll take care of him.

1047
01:14:39,057 --> 01:14:40,267
Hey buddy, you hungry?

1048
01:14:41,852 --> 01:14:43,187
- God bless you.

1049
01:14:55,365 --> 01:14:58,494
- Bon apetit buddy.

1050
01:15:02,998 --> 01:15:04,333
- God bless you.

1051
01:15:35,781 --> 01:15:36,823
- Bradley!

1052
01:15:36,823 --> 01:15:38,659
- Hey guys, what's up?

1053
01:15:42,496 --> 01:15:43,580
- This is my girl Kayla.

1054
01:15:43,580 --> 01:15:45,832
- Oh, yes I see you.
- Okay.

1055
01:16:22,619 --> 01:16:24,204
- You feeling okay?

1056
01:16:30,877 --> 01:16:32,546
- What's wrong baby?

1057
01:16:42,764 --> 01:16:43,599
What the?

1058
01:17:07,581 --> 01:17:11,335
- Hey, we were in the neighborhood

1059
01:17:11,335 --> 01:17:13,837
and thought we would give you a lift.

1060
01:17:15,047 --> 01:17:16,798
- Seriously?

1061
01:17:16,798 --> 01:17:19,551
- We're gonna get some
ice cream on the way home.

1062
01:17:23,138 --> 01:17:26,350
We only have one seat
left for one passenger.

1063
01:17:27,517 --> 01:17:29,436
- We could probably squeeze.

1064
01:17:29,436 --> 01:17:34,316
Oh yep, only one seat left, sorry.

1065
01:17:38,612 --> 01:17:40,405
- I'll get you for this later.

1066
01:17:49,831 --> 01:17:51,750
- You'll thank me for this later.

1067
01:17:55,420 --> 01:17:56,254
- I'll text you.

1068
01:18:05,430 --> 01:18:07,432
- You forgot this.

1069
01:18:21,697 --> 01:18:22,948
- One thing that God really put

1070
01:18:22,948 --> 01:18:24,616
on our hearts to talk about tonight

1071
01:18:24,616 --> 01:18:28,370
is division among believers,
division in the church.

1072
01:18:28,370 --> 01:18:31,039
And one thing that Paul talks
about in the New Testament

1073
01:18:31,039 --> 01:18:32,416
is that we'll be recognized

1074
01:18:32,416 --> 01:18:35,919
or identified might be a more
accurate word for our fruit,

1075
01:18:35,919 --> 01:18:37,963
our love for one another.

1076
01:18:37,963 --> 01:18:41,258
- Yeah, even amongst the
strongest of Christians,

1077
01:18:41,258 --> 01:18:45,804
sin can creep in and drive a
wedge in your relationships.

1078
01:18:45,804 --> 01:18:47,222
Now, one thing God has shown me

1079
01:18:47,222 --> 01:18:52,227
is that our minds are so finite,

1080
01:18:52,811 --> 01:18:54,229
that God is so much bigger,

1081
01:18:55,230 --> 01:18:57,816
so much bigger than the
limited circumstances

1082
01:18:57,816 --> 01:19:00,777
that our minds can create
on the path in front of us.

1083
01:19:14,499 --> 01:19:16,460
- Hey Andrea, can I ask you something?

1084
01:19:17,377 --> 01:19:18,628
- Yeah, what's up?

1085
01:19:18,628 --> 01:19:20,714
- I have something I need your advice on.

1086
01:19:20,714 --> 01:19:21,548
- Okay.

1087
01:19:25,969 --> 01:19:26,887
- Are you done?

1088
01:19:26,887 --> 01:19:27,721
- Are you?

1089
01:19:29,181 --> 01:19:31,224
- You are the one that
doesn't know what they want.

1090
01:19:31,224 --> 01:19:32,476
- Are you kidding me?

1091
01:19:32,476 --> 01:19:34,352
- If I was kidding, we wouldn't
be having this conversation.

1092
01:19:34,352 --> 01:19:35,645
- Oh my God.

1093
01:19:42,778 --> 01:19:45,071
- Of me being not participating

1094
01:19:45,071 --> 01:19:46,656
when I'm the one who called you over here

1095
01:19:46,656 --> 01:19:48,366
to actually have this conversation.

1096
01:19:48,366 --> 01:19:50,577
I honestly care about this.

1097
01:19:50,577 --> 01:19:51,661
And you're the one that kind of like,

1098
01:19:51,661 --> 01:19:54,456
you're the one that's always doing this,

1099
01:19:54,456 --> 01:19:55,665
always bringing stuff up.

1100
01:19:55,665 --> 01:19:58,335
You aren't bringing anything up.

1101
01:20:29,950 --> 01:20:30,784
- Bummer.

1102
01:22:02,584 --> 01:22:04,920
- Hey you, just wanted to let you know

1103
01:22:04,920 --> 01:22:06,796
that me and Cami are no more.

1104
01:22:06,796 --> 01:22:08,757
- Oh, goody.

1105
01:22:08,757 --> 01:22:11,259
- Yeah, she just wasn't for me.

1106
01:22:11,259 --> 01:22:14,054
- And let me guess, I am?

1107
01:22:14,054 --> 01:22:18,224
- Well, I mean maybe-
- Save it.

1108
01:22:18,224 --> 01:22:20,185
I'm gonna save you from the embarrassment

1109
01:22:20,185 --> 01:22:22,062
of making a fool of yourself.

1110
01:22:22,062 --> 01:22:24,731
I'm not even remotely
interested in you at all.

1111
01:22:37,452 --> 01:22:39,329
- But you don't even know me.

1112
01:22:39,329 --> 01:22:42,165
- Well, I would say in a
way I know you quite well,

1113
01:22:42,165 --> 01:22:44,960
certainly better than
Cami ever did, excuse me.

1114
01:22:49,297 --> 01:22:50,173
- Busted .

1115
01:23:28,253 --> 01:23:31,840
- Oh, wonderful, if you're
here to gloat don't, okay.

1116
01:23:31,840 --> 01:23:34,009
Today's not the day to mess with me.

1117
01:23:34,009 --> 01:23:37,095
- No, I just wanted to
come and say I'm sorry

1118
01:23:37,971 --> 01:23:40,598
and that you deserve much better.

1119
01:23:40,598 --> 01:23:41,891
- Don't mess with me.

1120
01:23:41,891 --> 01:23:46,062
- No seriously, think about all
the ways you've been acting,

1121
01:23:46,062 --> 01:23:50,859
trying to hold onto someone
that isn't the best for you.

1122
01:23:51,693 --> 01:23:54,779
And I think you knew it deep down inside,

1123
01:23:54,779 --> 01:23:57,032
that's why you were holding on so tight

1124
01:23:57,032 --> 01:23:59,784
and it almost made you a
whole different person.

1125
01:23:59,784 --> 01:24:02,954
- You don't know anything about
me or who I am as a person.

1126
01:24:02,954 --> 01:24:05,498
- I know what a head
over heels girl in love

1127
01:24:05,498 --> 01:24:07,042
with the wrong man looks like.

1128
01:24:08,376 --> 01:24:10,879
My sisters are going through it now

1129
01:24:10,879 --> 01:24:13,048
and I'm gonna be patient with them.

1130
01:24:14,007 --> 01:24:16,926
There was a time when I was so obsessed

1131
01:24:16,926 --> 01:24:18,887
with someone I wanted to be with.

1132
01:24:18,887 --> 01:24:21,264
I was so infatuated with him

1133
01:24:21,264 --> 01:24:24,100
that I couldn't see
myself not being with him,

1134
01:24:24,100 --> 01:24:26,478
but God had other plans

1135
01:24:26,478 --> 01:24:29,022
and He showed me how miserable
my life would have been

1136
01:24:29,022 --> 01:24:31,149
with someone who seemed to look good

1137
01:24:31,149 --> 01:24:33,026
and seemed to be the best for me.

1138
01:24:33,026 --> 01:24:35,445
But in reality, I just didn't have a clear

1139
01:24:35,445 --> 01:24:37,280
and raw picture of my life,

1140
01:24:37,280 --> 01:24:39,449
Just like they talked
about at Bible study.

1141
01:24:40,784 --> 01:24:42,535
- I almost don't even care anymore.

1142
01:24:44,788 --> 01:24:47,957
What's an amazing Godly man
gonna wanna do with me now,

1143
01:24:47,957 --> 01:24:49,417
my sins and flaws and all?

1144
01:24:51,044 --> 01:24:54,339
- Yeah, I used to think that way too.

1145
01:24:54,339 --> 01:24:57,217
I was so obsessed with what
I thought was realistic,

1146
01:24:57,217 --> 01:24:59,427
I left no room for faith.

1147
01:24:59,427 --> 01:25:03,098
I realized if you're
genuinely pursuing God,

1148
01:25:03,098 --> 01:25:04,057
then at that point,

1149
01:25:04,057 --> 01:25:06,392
you really have no
excuse to not trust Him.

1150
01:25:07,811 --> 01:25:11,523
- What if God wants me to be
single for the rest of my life?

1151
01:25:11,523 --> 01:25:14,526
- I may not be mature
enough to bring my 2 cents,

1152
01:25:14,526 --> 01:25:17,445
but we live in a world where
we blame everything on God,

1153
01:25:17,445 --> 01:25:20,448
our failures, the devil's schemes.

1154
01:25:20,448 --> 01:25:22,951
If you were to be single
for the rest of your life,

1155
01:25:22,951 --> 01:25:25,245
it's not because God
didn't bring you anybody.

1156
01:25:26,079 --> 01:25:27,038
In the Bible, it says,

1157
01:25:27,038 --> 01:25:29,415
"Delight yourself in the Lord
and He'll give you the desires

1158
01:25:29,415 --> 01:25:30,667
"of your heart."

1159
01:25:30,667 --> 01:25:32,669
So if it's your desire to get married,

1160
01:25:32,669 --> 01:25:34,587
ask God and pursue it.

1161
01:25:34,587 --> 01:25:35,797
That's just my thoughts.

1162
01:25:37,048 --> 01:25:41,219
- You're right, that makes
perfect sense, thank you.

1163
01:25:41,219 --> 01:25:44,139
I guess I was just so obsessed with him

1164
01:25:44,139 --> 01:25:46,182
that I lost who I was along the way.

1165
01:25:47,183 --> 01:25:48,560
It's not me.

1166
01:25:48,560 --> 01:25:51,062
Listen, I'm so sorry about the
way I've acted in the past.

1167
01:25:51,062 --> 01:25:53,148
It's not who I am.

1168
01:25:53,148 --> 01:25:53,982
I was just obsessed with him

1169
01:25:53,982 --> 01:25:56,067
that I kind of lost myself along the way.

1170
01:25:56,067 --> 01:25:58,862
I've been a completely different person.

1171
01:25:58,862 --> 01:26:02,073
- Friends?
- Friends.

1172
01:26:17,755 --> 01:26:20,758
- So how has the new school been?

1173
01:26:20,758 --> 01:26:23,052
- It's awesome, I get free coffee,

1174
01:26:23,052 --> 01:26:26,681
get to skip class and get to
talk about my life all day.

1175
01:26:26,681 --> 01:26:28,308
It's pretty great.

1176
01:26:28,308 --> 01:26:29,893
- Wow.

1177
01:26:29,893 --> 01:26:32,562
- That's coming to a close very soon.

1178
01:26:32,562 --> 01:26:33,563
- For real?

1179
01:26:35,315 --> 01:26:36,149
Fine.

1180
01:26:37,233 --> 01:26:39,194
- Oh, the drama.

1181
01:26:39,194 --> 01:26:41,571
- It's definitely been
a wild semester so far.

1182
01:26:42,906 --> 01:26:46,701
- Well, I definitely
wanna hear all about it.

1183
01:26:46,701 --> 01:26:47,535
Are you girls done?

1184
01:26:47,535 --> 01:26:48,870
You look like you're done.

1185
01:26:48,870 --> 01:26:50,788
- Yeah, I am.
- Me too.

1186
01:26:50,788 --> 01:26:53,208
- I mean, I could always
go for more .

1187
01:26:54,250 --> 01:26:55,627
- Pig.

1188
01:26:55,627 --> 01:26:56,961
- Go ahead and enjoy some more.

1189
01:26:56,961 --> 01:26:58,379
Clean up when you're done.

1190
01:26:58,379 --> 01:26:59,839
Your aunt and I need to talk.

1191
01:27:01,216 --> 01:27:02,467
- Ooh, that sounds serious.

1192
01:27:02,467 --> 01:27:03,301
Wait a second,

1193
01:27:03,301 --> 01:27:06,221
does that mean that they're
gonna clean up in my kitchen?

1194
01:27:07,263 --> 01:27:09,349
This is great.

1195
01:27:09,349 --> 01:27:12,393
You girls growing up is
definitely to my benefit.

1196
01:27:12,393 --> 01:27:13,228
Does this mean

1197
01:27:13,228 --> 01:27:15,063
I don't get them Christmas
presents this year?

1198
01:27:15,063 --> 01:27:16,231
- No, what?
- What?

1199
01:27:16,231 --> 01:27:17,398
- No, no.
- No.

1200
01:27:20,777 --> 01:27:23,279
- No, no, no, no, no, no.

1201
01:27:23,279 --> 01:27:24,948
- No, I'm kidding.

1202
01:27:24,948 --> 01:27:26,574
I already bought you presents.

1203
01:27:26,574 --> 01:27:27,408
Are you kidding me.

1204
01:27:27,408 --> 01:27:29,661
You gotta wait for them.

1205
01:27:29,661 --> 01:27:31,829
Okay, this is big tonight.

1206
01:27:51,849 --> 01:27:53,935
- So do you always have to decorate

1207
01:27:53,935 --> 01:27:55,687
for Christmas before Thanksgiving?

1208
01:27:55,687 --> 01:27:57,897
- Yes, I do always have to decorate

1209
01:27:57,897 --> 01:28:00,316
for Christmas before Thanksgiving.

1210
01:28:02,944 --> 01:28:03,778
- Put your foot down.

1211
01:28:03,778 --> 01:28:05,154
- Why are you all up in my business?

1212
01:28:05,154 --> 01:28:06,948
- Because I'm always up in your business.

1213
01:28:06,948 --> 01:28:10,034
- Oh, well, you know I'm about to get up

1214
01:28:10,034 --> 01:28:12,036
in your business too.

1215
01:28:12,036 --> 01:28:14,330
Are you gonna go to church
with the girls on Sunday?

1216
01:28:14,330 --> 01:28:16,207
- I'm just still trying

1217
01:28:16,207 --> 01:28:18,042
to debate whether I should go or not.

1218
01:28:18,960 --> 01:28:20,044
- So why?

1219
01:28:21,713 --> 01:28:23,089
- Well, I'm glad they're going,

1220
01:28:23,089 --> 01:28:26,259
but I just feel like it's too late for me.

1221
01:28:27,802 --> 01:28:29,429
They don't need a divorced woman

1222
01:28:29,429 --> 01:28:32,056
at the church justified or unjustified.

1223
01:28:34,851 --> 01:28:39,439
- I talked to Ralph and Yvette
at small group on Wednesday

1224
01:28:39,439 --> 01:28:43,026
and I feel like they're both
the starting to understand

1225
01:28:43,026 --> 01:28:44,777
and see what's happening to us.

1226
01:28:44,777 --> 01:28:46,654
I even pulled Yvette aside and I'm like,

1227
01:28:46,654 --> 01:28:47,780
"What have we become?"

1228
01:28:47,780 --> 01:28:49,574
It just seems like ever
since that incident

1229
01:28:49,574 --> 01:28:50,950
with a youth pastor,

1230
01:28:50,950 --> 01:28:54,078
we've been making more
and more rash decisions

1231
01:28:54,078 --> 01:28:54,912
in the church

1232
01:28:54,912 --> 01:28:58,082
and it is causing a lot of division.

1233
01:28:58,082 --> 01:29:00,126
And I just say all that to say, I mean,

1234
01:29:00,126 --> 01:29:03,296
God is your ultimate authority,
not the church leadership,

1235
01:29:03,296 --> 01:29:05,089
not your boss at work.

1236
01:29:05,089 --> 01:29:07,800
And if you know that
you're right with God,

1237
01:29:07,800 --> 01:29:10,470
it gives you the ability to forgive people

1238
01:29:10,470 --> 01:29:13,264
who are just being dumb humans.

1239
01:29:14,223 --> 01:29:17,435
Can only see things from
their own perspective,

1240
01:29:17,435 --> 01:29:20,313
and they're not 100% right about anything.

1241
01:29:22,231 --> 01:29:25,151
Even when I told you about what
happened with Pastor Smith,

1242
01:29:28,321 --> 01:29:29,864
whatever it is that our
church is dealing with,

1243
01:29:29,864 --> 01:29:33,159
whether it's weakened leadership
or people are overreacting

1244
01:29:33,159 --> 01:29:35,119
because of past experiences.

1245
01:29:35,119 --> 01:29:38,664
And it doesn't change God's
love or affection for you,

1246
01:29:38,664 --> 01:29:41,709
but I feel like deep down,
maybe you feel like it does.

1247
01:29:41,709 --> 01:29:43,961
- But, what about what they said?

1248
01:29:43,961 --> 01:29:44,921
Like I'm not fighting

1249
01:29:44,921 --> 01:29:46,839
for my marriage like it's all my fault?

1250
01:29:48,091 --> 01:29:53,096
- Well, I mean, I grew up with
you and I think we both know

1251
01:29:53,638 --> 01:29:57,183
that you are perfectly capable of fighting

1252
01:29:57,183 --> 01:29:59,102
and I don't even remember one instance

1253
01:29:59,102 --> 01:30:00,228
when you were wrong.

1254
01:30:01,354 --> 01:30:05,274
- Okay, yeah, yeah.

1255
01:30:07,568 --> 01:30:09,028
- And has anything ever been your fault?

1256
01:30:09,028 --> 01:30:11,406
No, nothing has ever been your fault.

1257
01:30:13,366 --> 01:30:16,744
Oh come on, I mean, you
know what I felt about Bill?

1258
01:30:16,744 --> 01:30:18,246
I mean, I know you were sick of his lies.

1259
01:30:18,246 --> 01:30:19,747
I was sick of his lies.

1260
01:30:20,623 --> 01:30:24,210
I mean, it's not fair what he
did to you, church did to you.

1261
01:30:24,210 --> 01:30:26,003
I mean, it's not fair that you have

1262
01:30:26,003 --> 01:30:28,589
to go through a divorce
without your church family,

1263
01:30:28,589 --> 01:30:31,551
or start over again in a new town,

1264
01:30:31,551 --> 01:30:34,804
a new job, the new school for the girls,

1265
01:30:37,598 --> 01:30:40,017
just all of it, single parenting.

1266
01:30:40,017 --> 01:30:42,812
But it does remind me of
what mom always used to say.

1267
01:30:42,812 --> 01:30:47,150
She said, "Pray for a
spirit of unselfishness

1268
01:30:48,109 --> 01:30:50,611
"even if you don't feel
like you've been selfish."

1269
01:30:58,494 --> 01:31:00,329
What?

1270
01:31:00,329 --> 01:31:02,832
- Well, you know about my new company,

1271
01:31:02,832 --> 01:31:05,960
how we buy, sell land, property venues?

1272
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:07,044
- Right.

1273
01:31:07,044 --> 01:31:10,047
- Well, somehow our company
started to do business

1274
01:31:10,047 --> 01:31:11,757
with the owner of the plot of land

1275
01:31:11,757 --> 01:31:15,052
that owns some businesses,
including the church.

1276
01:31:16,179 --> 01:31:19,640
So I requested for that
building to be torn down

1277
01:31:20,975 --> 01:31:24,395
and the document just came in this week

1278
01:31:24,395 --> 01:31:26,731
and all it needs is my signature.

1279
01:31:29,317 --> 01:31:32,069
- Okay well, please tell me
that you did not sign that.

1280
01:31:57,637 --> 01:32:02,642
- No, instead I signed
a check for a donation

1281
01:32:03,100 --> 01:32:05,186
to Pastor Smith

1282
01:32:05,186 --> 01:32:06,771
and I set that document aside,

1283
01:32:06,771 --> 01:32:08,564
maybe to think about it for later.

1284
01:32:08,564 --> 01:32:11,984
- Okay well, please just tell
me you're gonna tear it up

1285
01:32:11,984 --> 01:32:13,277
and throw it away.

1286
01:32:14,612 --> 01:32:18,032
- Yes I am.
- Okay, good.

1287
01:32:20,243 --> 01:32:23,079
I mean, you just have to pray
for a way to move past this.

1288
01:32:23,079 --> 01:32:24,956
I mean, the girls need you.

1289
01:32:24,956 --> 01:32:28,042
I can tell Kayla, she has
some abandonment issues.

1290
01:32:28,042 --> 01:32:29,544
I know she's getting some
help from the church,

1291
01:32:29,544 --> 01:32:31,837
but still, it's still affecting them.

1292
01:32:31,837 --> 01:32:36,467
It's affecting all of them
and you and me, mostly me.

1293
01:32:36,467 --> 01:32:38,719
- Yes.
- And that's what matters.

1294
01:32:41,389 --> 01:32:42,932
Oh yeah, that in itself is just a thing.

1295
01:32:42,932 --> 01:32:46,269
Whatever, I always forget about that.

1296
01:32:46,269 --> 01:32:48,104
I love you sis.
- I love you too.

1297
01:32:49,480 --> 01:32:51,440
Thank you.
- Oh, thank you.

1298
01:33:15,089 --> 01:33:17,008
- Are you still talking to him?

1299
01:33:19,468 --> 01:33:20,970
- What makes you think you have the right

1300
01:33:20,970 --> 01:33:23,389
to constantly be in my business?

1301
01:33:23,389 --> 01:33:26,726
- I've been your best
friend all your life.

1302
01:33:26,726 --> 01:33:30,187
I've always been up in your
business and you in mine.

1303
01:33:30,187 --> 01:33:32,356
What's so different about now?

1304
01:33:32,356 --> 01:33:34,317
- I just wanna make my own decisions

1305
01:33:34,317 --> 01:33:37,445
and stop being treated like
I'm some dumb little girl

1306
01:33:37,445 --> 01:33:39,322
that doesn't know what's best for her.

1307
01:33:43,701 --> 01:33:46,704
- You know just as well as I do,

1308
01:33:46,704 --> 01:33:50,750
people our age don't make good
decisions without guidance.

1309
01:33:50,750 --> 01:33:52,335
Let's face it,

1310
01:33:52,335 --> 01:33:55,254
neither of us have been
the same since dad left.

1311
01:33:56,255 --> 01:33:59,759
Shoot, the only one that's
been normal is Caitlyn.

1312
01:34:02,970 --> 01:34:04,680
- Caitlyn doesn't count.

1313
01:34:05,556 --> 01:34:09,852
I mean, look at her,
everything's a joke to her.

1314
01:34:09,852 --> 01:34:13,189
Just like the counselor
says, she's suppressing it.

1315
01:34:14,357 --> 01:34:18,986
- Maybe she just chooses joy
over dwelling and sadness.

1316
01:34:21,697 --> 01:34:25,409
You can make the choice to let
your experiences define you.

1317
01:34:25,409 --> 01:34:28,496
You can choose to believe
that all your new friends

1318
01:34:28,496 --> 01:34:31,624
from church are gonna one day leave you

1319
01:34:31,624 --> 01:34:35,544
or you can trust that God will
bring people into your life,

1320
01:34:35,544 --> 01:34:38,714
some permanent and some for a season

1321
01:34:38,714 --> 01:34:41,050
and it's your job not to run them off.

1322
01:34:42,968 --> 01:34:45,846
- You can't trust anyone to stay.

1323
01:34:45,846 --> 01:34:46,681
- Yes, you can.

1324
01:34:52,770 --> 01:34:56,524
Kayla, just just know that God is there

1325
01:34:56,524 --> 01:34:58,609
even when others cannot be.

1326
01:34:58,609 --> 01:35:01,862
Just concentrate on you there for others.

1327
01:35:01,862 --> 01:35:04,824
Think about it, are you perfect?

1328
01:35:04,824 --> 01:35:06,659
Do you care for Cami at school?

1329
01:35:06,659 --> 01:35:07,952
- What?

1330
01:35:07,952 --> 01:35:09,578
No way.

1331
01:35:09,578 --> 01:35:11,622
- She's a friend of mine now.

1332
01:35:13,082 --> 01:35:14,458
Very much so.

1333
01:35:15,501 --> 01:35:17,712
I'll explain later.

1334
01:35:17,712 --> 01:35:18,629
- What happened?

1335
01:35:21,465 --> 01:35:26,011
- Braiden broke up with her
and I took the chance to...

1336
01:35:28,848 --> 01:35:31,726
- What?
- Show her compassion.

1337
01:35:31,726 --> 01:35:34,228
That's all I felt for her was compassion.

1338
01:35:35,062 --> 01:35:38,065
I prayed that God would help
me see her through His eyes.

1339
01:35:41,569 --> 01:35:42,361
- Was it hard?

1340
01:35:43,446 --> 01:35:45,364
- It was until I prayed that prayer.

1341
01:36:12,683 --> 01:36:16,604
- Dear God, why am I doing this to myself?

1342
01:36:17,563 --> 01:36:22,568
You've always been so faithful
to me, but out of my anger,

1343
01:36:22,735 --> 01:36:24,487
I've turned my back on You.

1344
01:36:26,530 --> 01:36:29,366
I'm sorry, please forgive me

1345
01:36:29,366 --> 01:36:31,327
for all the wrong decisions I have made

1346
01:36:32,411 --> 01:36:33,788
that has led me to sin.

1347
01:36:35,289 --> 01:36:37,875
Heal my heart and help me to trust You

1348
01:36:38,959 --> 01:36:40,711
and get me back on the path that leads

1349
01:36:40,711 --> 01:36:44,548
to life, righteousness and joy

1350
01:36:45,758 --> 01:36:48,052
that I know only truly comes from You.

1351
01:36:49,595 --> 01:36:51,305
Help me to love my family

1352
01:36:54,558 --> 01:36:57,102
and thank You for my sisters and my mom.

1353
01:36:58,521 --> 01:37:01,482
And just help me to love
and appreciate them.

1354
01:37:03,442 --> 01:37:06,153
I know I haven't been the
easiest person to be around,

1355
01:37:07,154 --> 01:37:09,824
but help me to change that.

1356
01:37:11,909 --> 01:37:13,035
Heal me Lord.

1357
01:37:23,671 --> 01:37:27,591
I'm sorry I've been so rude
and impossible to deal with.

1358
01:37:29,552 --> 01:37:31,095
- We knew you'd come around.

1359
01:37:32,388 --> 01:37:34,431
- It's been hard on all of us.

1360
01:37:34,431 --> 01:37:35,474
We love you.

1361
01:37:35,474 --> 01:37:37,393
And you know God will see us through.

1362
01:38:34,575 --> 01:38:36,076
- Whose flowers are these?

1363
01:38:36,076 --> 01:38:38,621
Girls, who got these flowers?

1364
01:38:39,830 --> 01:38:40,706
- I did, mom.

1365
01:38:43,792 --> 01:38:44,919
- Why?

1366
01:38:44,919 --> 01:38:48,088
They're beautiful, my
favorite, pink roses.

1367
01:38:48,088 --> 01:38:49,632
But why did you get them?

1368
01:38:49,632 --> 01:38:52,259
- Because you've always been there for me.

1369
01:38:52,259 --> 01:38:53,969
You're the strongest person I know.

1370
01:38:56,138 --> 01:38:58,182
- You are an awesome daughter.

1371
01:39:00,684 --> 01:39:01,644
Thank you Megan.

1372
01:39:03,312 --> 01:39:04,563
I love you.

1373
01:39:04,563 --> 01:39:05,689
- I love you too.

1374
01:39:05,689 --> 01:39:07,816
- And you've always been there for me too.

1375
01:39:24,458 --> 01:39:28,253
- Kayla, didn't think we'd forget you

1376
01:39:28,253 --> 01:39:30,255
on your special day did you Miss. Kayla?

1377
01:39:32,424 --> 01:39:33,258
- We're taking you out to dinner.

1378
01:39:33,258 --> 01:39:34,385
You can't say no.

1379
01:39:34,385 --> 01:39:36,261
- Oh, I know just the place.

1380
01:39:38,639 --> 01:39:40,599
- Happy birthday.
- Thank you, wow.

1381
01:39:41,934 --> 01:39:44,019
- Oh, look at that?

1382
01:39:44,019 --> 01:39:45,896
That is so sweet.

1383
01:39:45,896 --> 01:39:47,523
Do you think they'd
mind if I took a video?

1384
01:39:47,523 --> 01:39:49,233
Just the creepy aunt in the background?

1385
01:39:49,233 --> 01:39:52,277
- Not at all.
- Of the sweet moment.

1386
01:39:52,277 --> 01:39:54,405
- It's so good to see Kayla happy.

1387
01:39:54,405 --> 01:39:58,242
- Oh, it's precious, love it.

1388
01:40:00,494 --> 01:40:03,414
- Well, I have the check

1389
01:40:03,414 --> 01:40:05,916
to give to you to give to
Pastor Smith at your church.

1390
01:40:05,916 --> 01:40:07,209
- Well, you know what?

1391
01:40:07,209 --> 01:40:09,837
I am having dinner with
him and his wife tonight.

1392
01:40:09,837 --> 01:40:13,090
Do you wanna join us?
- Okay, we'll be there.

1393
01:40:13,090 --> 01:40:14,133
- Awesome.

1394
01:40:24,268 --> 01:40:26,311
- Well, we regret not having a chance

1395
01:40:26,311 --> 01:40:29,023
to really get to know you
better while we were there,

1396
01:40:29,023 --> 01:40:32,860
but just this whole experience,
it's taken us by storm.

1397
01:40:33,736 --> 01:40:34,570
- It sure has.

1398
01:40:34,570 --> 01:40:37,448
- But, I accepted a new position down,

1399
01:40:37,448 --> 01:40:41,326
what, a couple of hours
South of here to a new church

1400
01:40:41,326 --> 01:40:43,787
so all is well with us.

1401
01:40:43,787 --> 01:40:48,751
Just wish God would have
chose a less dramatic way

1402
01:40:49,168 --> 01:40:50,502
of moving us on .

1403
01:40:52,171 --> 01:40:53,297
- We all do.

1404
01:40:55,382 --> 01:40:59,344
- But we have learned so much
through this whole experience.

1405
01:40:59,344 --> 01:41:01,055
I mean, we sure have.

1406
01:41:01,055 --> 01:41:02,806
- Oh, so have we.

1407
01:41:05,100 --> 01:41:07,811
- Really, tell us about it?

1408
01:41:07,811 --> 01:41:09,104
- I've been through a lot.

1409
01:41:09,980 --> 01:41:12,941
When my husband left me, it crushed me.

1410
01:41:12,941 --> 01:41:14,651
I mean, really crushed me.

1411
01:41:15,569 --> 01:41:18,238
And the hardest part was
that the church didn't help.

1412
01:41:19,239 --> 01:41:21,033
I just needed someone to be there for me

1413
01:41:21,033 --> 01:41:22,117
and to encourage me.

1414
01:41:24,369 --> 01:41:26,622
I just needed to be strong for my kids.

1415
01:41:28,665 --> 01:41:30,209
Wanna know how I did it?

1416
01:41:30,209 --> 01:41:31,043
- Absolutely.

1417
01:41:31,043 --> 01:41:32,795
- Oh, we really wanna hear it, yes.

1418
01:41:35,047 --> 01:41:37,591
- With the help of
someone very close to me

1419
01:41:37,591 --> 01:41:39,676
who helped me push past my pain.

1420
01:41:42,304 --> 01:41:44,598
I started to just abide in the Lord.

1421
01:41:44,598 --> 01:41:47,309
I started to press into the
Lord and spend time alone

1422
01:41:47,309 --> 01:41:49,186
with Him and reading His word.

1423
01:41:49,186 --> 01:41:52,981
The Lord minister to me
personally in my quiet time

1424
01:41:52,981 --> 01:41:56,360
and let me realize He was still in control

1425
01:41:56,360 --> 01:41:58,612
even in the midst of my loneliness.

1426
01:41:59,655 --> 01:42:01,448
And you know what I found out?

1427
01:42:01,448 --> 01:42:03,367
God did not forsake me.

1428
01:42:05,369 --> 01:42:08,497
When the church shunned
me, that wasn't God,

1429
01:42:08,497 --> 01:42:12,000
that was just fallen people
blinded by their own opinions.

1430
01:42:13,168 --> 01:42:17,714
But God, He accepted me, and He loved me,

1431
01:42:19,925 --> 01:42:24,930
and He forgave me and He
encouraged me to get back up again.

1432
01:42:24,930 --> 01:42:27,599
That is the power of Jesus.

1433
01:42:27,599 --> 01:42:28,767
- Amen.
- Amen.

1434
01:42:30,644 --> 01:42:34,398
- I'm so sorry you went through all that.

1435
01:42:34,398 --> 01:42:36,108
- We didn't realize all that was happening

1436
01:42:36,108 --> 01:42:40,028
to you at our church, but
I praise God that the Lord,

1437
01:42:40,028 --> 01:42:41,363
He's been ministering

1438
01:42:41,363 --> 01:42:44,241
to you the same way He's
been ministering to us.

1439
01:43:12,811 --> 01:43:14,813
- Hey there, I'm Kyle.

1440
01:43:14,813 --> 01:43:16,440
I'm Pastor Harold's son.

1441
01:43:25,616 --> 01:43:27,868
I hear you used to go to our church.

1442
01:43:27,868 --> 01:43:30,078
How have we not met before?

1443
01:43:30,078 --> 01:43:30,913
- I don't know.

1444
01:43:37,544 --> 01:43:39,379
- Okay, time to go.

1445
01:43:39,379 --> 01:43:42,257
- Yup, got some more gifts to open.

1446
01:43:42,257 --> 01:43:46,762
- Caitlyn, Kayla where do
you think you guys are going?

1447
01:43:46,762 --> 01:43:48,388
I'm talking to you.

1448
01:43:49,765 --> 01:43:50,974
Come back here.

1449
01:43:52,017 --> 01:43:53,018
Guys, I'm serious.

1450
01:43:54,436 --> 01:43:55,771
- You'll thank me later.

1451
01:43:55,771 --> 01:43:57,397
- Oh my gosh.

1452
01:43:57,397 --> 01:43:59,233
Oh, no you were not.

1453
01:44:01,860 --> 01:44:03,528
Hi, I'm Megan.

1454
01:44:05,197 --> 01:44:06,031
- Hi.

1455
01:44:10,661 --> 01:44:11,495
- All right everybody,

1456
01:44:11,495 --> 01:44:14,289
it's time for Kayla to give
her birthday speech tonight.

1457
01:44:16,333 --> 01:44:20,045
- Speech, speech, speech, speech, speech.

1458
01:44:20,045 --> 01:44:22,965
- Speech,
speech, speech, speech.

1459
01:44:22,965 --> 01:44:25,550
speech, speech, speech, speech.

1460
01:44:28,762 --> 01:44:29,721
- Okay, okay, okay.

1461
01:44:31,306 --> 01:44:35,352
Well, thank you all for
coming and for the presents.

1462
01:44:35,352 --> 01:44:40,357
And thank you for just being there for me.

1463
01:44:43,944 --> 01:44:44,903
As most of you know,

1464
01:44:44,903 --> 01:44:46,738
I'm going through a really hard time.

1465
01:44:49,741 --> 01:44:51,535
I appreciate how supportive

1466
01:44:51,535 --> 01:44:53,495
and accepting you've all been to me.

1467
01:44:55,580 --> 01:44:57,249
It means more to me than you know.

1468
01:44:59,209 --> 01:45:02,337
God is healing me and He's
showing me how faithful He is.

1469
01:45:04,131 --> 01:45:06,550
This has been an amazing evening.

1470
01:45:07,551 --> 01:45:10,178
Your encouragement has showed me

1471
01:45:10,178 --> 01:45:14,308
that even when you're hurting,
God can give you hope again.

1472
01:45:20,230 --> 01:45:22,107
Now let's see some cake!

1473
01:46:57,702 --> 01:46:59,329
- You can do a little turn maybe?