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- As an autistic person
who commonly struggles

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with sensory challenges, I
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of inclusive environments.

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Leaving the house is a lot to deal with.

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There's a lot of sensory input.

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I try to teach doctors the understanding

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that our own biases play a huge role

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in how we interact with
patients with sensory issues.

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- [Lola] When you have
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things are better for everyone.

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- I believe there is a
paradigm shift happening

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around our sensory health

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and I would love our low sensory spaces

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to be more mainstream.

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- The world is slow to
change, we all know that.

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But it's important for us
to start a conversation

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and that's why advocacy is so important.

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- I hope that people
see families like mine

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as not some societal problem to fix.

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We just wanna be seen and
not gawked at or stared at.

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It's just a different way of being human.

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This world affects people different ways

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and I think knowledge is power.

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Once you have the knowledge,

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then you could maneuver
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(contemplative music ends)

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(microwave beeps)

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[Mom] Fela, do you want an apple

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or something to tie you
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No, I'm good.

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Okay.

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Here we go.

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Do you want more water?

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All done done.

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All done done?

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You want milk? Juice?

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Fruit juice.

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Juice? Okay, I'll get you some juice.

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My name is Lola Dada-Olley,
I'm a mom, a wife,

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an attorney, an advocate.

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My husband, Tosan, and I
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to have two children.

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Take your salad, go back to the table.

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My daughter's autistic, my son's autistic.

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Come on, come on.

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Breathe, one.

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Two, two, three, four, five, six.

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- [Tosan] Okay, calm
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[Lola] Alero is 11.

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[Tosan] Look.

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- She's what people would
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- Go ahead.
- I don't think

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she has fries in there.

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But we call it minimally
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[Tosan] Yummy?

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You got what you wanted?

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Then we have my son, Fela.

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He thinks he's 30, but he's 13 years old.

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Another burger bun, you need some?

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And he is very much highly verbal.

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He, in school, is classified
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So we are balancing quite a bit

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as we raise a pre-teen and teen.

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Fela and Alero's diagnoses
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They got the diagnosis and
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(sighs) And to now know
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on the autism spectrum and not knowing

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what the future can hold.

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I remember those early days being filled

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with fear and deep concern.

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I'll do the back and sides first.

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There's an aunt that I told this story to

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and I cried 'cause I remembered the moment

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of all those things that happened

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and she let me, you know,
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And she looked at me and she held my hand

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and she said, "I know
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but I think it's time to act like you went

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to the store and you bought it."

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And I sat back and it changed a lot.

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I stopped looking at it like
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I started looking at it like,
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to the store and I bought
this life, how would it look?

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So which one?

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Want the black one?

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(Alero vocalizing)

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You're in your goth period?

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My brother, Kunle, he's
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This is back in the day
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to intellectual disability as the R-word,

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which I will not say.

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that did not exist in
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versus what exists now, I
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And that also fuels me with my children

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because my daughter will
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Mommy's turn, then Alero's turn.

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♪ Ally-Olley doin' the big ♪

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♪ She's doing the big
with her teeth brush ♪

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I'm constantly thinking about
the 18-year-old version,

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25-year-old version,
30-year-old version of them.

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And I want to have as many
neuro-inclusive experiences

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in their life as possible.

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I'm Virginia Spielmann.

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I'm a British-trained
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I'm at the STAR Institute, a global center

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for research into sensory
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We all have sensory sensitivities,

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(horn honking)
but when we talk

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about sensory integration and processing,

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we're trying to understand part
of that population of people

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who have sensory processing differences.

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There's a wide range of
the ways people process

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and experience the world
in their brains and bodies.

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And they have different enough ways

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of experiencing the world.

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They have different needs
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diverse thoughts and ways of being.

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We really want to have a narrative

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around neurodevelopmental differences

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that recognizes the strengths,

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allows for pride, and
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But it's still a work in progress.

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My name is Spike Lee.

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I'm a filmmaker from the Peoples' Republic

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of Brooklyn, New York, Fort Greene.

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See, I grew up in the mid-sixties.

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It's a whole different world, you know.

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Growing up I didn't know what I had.

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I never knew the words or terminology,

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it's like, I just get stuff
mixed up and that was it.

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So it wasn't until my son
got diagnosed with dyslexia

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that I had the right term.

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I just know that there's
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that's different and different is great.

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And now I understand myself much more.

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So looking back, I think that's, to me,

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that's one of my superpowers.

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I'm Burnett.

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I'm agender, non-binary,
autistic, neurodivergent person.

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Well I describe myself as introverted

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and attention hyperactive.

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My whole childhood was
hard. It was really hard.

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I have tried to explain
saying that I'm autistic,

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but the doctors weren't
listening to what I said.

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I have a feeling my mom was
suspected that I was autistic,

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but it's also possible she
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like, in the nineties and stuff.

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I never felt like I could do anything.

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I was just struggling for a long time

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to perform as a normal child,

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which is very much
artificially constructed.

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Bernard is my twin
sibling, right in the goal.

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We both had struggles with
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We often go places together.

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It feels just safer and
it makes things easier.

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Also, we seem to use less energy that way,

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and going out is so exhausting anyway.

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There's just a lot of sensory
inputs, just a lot of stuff,

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and I'm always processing
it, so I usually wear gloves

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and sunglasses just to make
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You've got your classical five systems

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of taste, touch, smell, sound, and sight.

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And then you've also
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a really cool piece of
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about motion.

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There's also my proprioceptive sense,

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which is about the force I'm using,

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how fast or slow my
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And then there's all of our internal sense

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of what's going on in our
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These systems within
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all work together to give us
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And as I am filled with
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and so on, there is a threshold

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beyond which I'm
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than I can keep up with and my body starts

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to find it difficult to detect threat,

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so I'm gonna become even more overwhelmed

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as I become hypervigilant.

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It can result in lots of
states of dysregulation.

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- It's the sensory input
that's all unpredictable,

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which is all of it.

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(receipt printer clicking)

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The varying levels of voices,

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clattering of utensils,
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of the movement.
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(meat sizzles)

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Makes it hard to have conversations.

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Sometimes voices sound
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So if there's a lot of noise around,

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it's hard for me to understand
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Loops really help.

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They're kinda like earbuds.

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You put them in, but they have a filter.

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You can adjust sound levels and they tend

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to block out a lot of noises

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and make people's voices easier to hear.

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As a person who struggles
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I understand there aren't

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enough sensory inclusive environments.

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- I believe there is a
paradigm shift happening.

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We are seeing lots of
different groups of people

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come to the same conclusion that what

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has been happening before
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The narrative needs to move

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from sensory inclusive
spaces being the exception

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to them being the norm.

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(birds chirping)

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(coffee machine whirring)

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[Dr. Dent] Here's your coffee, love.

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Thank you!

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- [Dr. Dent] Welcome.
Y'all have a great day.

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Thank you, you too.

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See y'all this afternoon.

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(calming music)

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How's the things at home
been? Brushing's been good?

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You said she's losing some teeth?

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She's losing her molars, her back teeth.

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Are you ready?

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[Molly] What you wanna do?

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You wanna brush 'em or you wanna play?

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You wanna brush?

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Well, get your blanket. Get your blanket.

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(skin pats)

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You're velcroed to the table, the floor.

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All right. Molly, can I
have that tray, please?

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[Molly] Sure.

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Thanks. All right.

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(Molly laughs)

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Let's see.

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Let's see how good of a job
we're doing here, kiddo.

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My name is Jacob Dent.
I am a general dentist.

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I've been practicing for the last 21 years

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and I am a father of two

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and my son Ethan is on
the autism spectrum.

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So my focus, most of my
practice now, on neurodiverse

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and neuro-sensitive populations.

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Yep, there's a wiggly
one right there, mama.

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[Molly] Which one?

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Right there.

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[Molly] Okay.

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That one's, that's a baby tooth.

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- That one's coming out.
- Is it?

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Yep.

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- And I kinda--
- Ethan didn't speak

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'til he was three.

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And so, you know, as a parent
I was doing everything I could

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to not get that label.

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I didn't want him to be autistic.

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I wanted him to be delayed.

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And, hindsight 20-20, you
realize how ignorant that was.

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But I always wanted to be
able to teach Ethan the things

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that I think every young man should know,

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things that I was taught by my father.

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And when we got the diagnosis,

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my biggest regret was I
didn't think he was going

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to ever play sports.

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Wanna play next?

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Baseball.

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Baseball, all right, let's do it.

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And I don't know why,
but that triggered me

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into a depression about how
I looked at the diagnosis.

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Because in my mind,
that took away something

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that I was hopeful for, for him.

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He'll never drive a car,
he's never gonna get married,

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he's never going, and
there was a lot of nevers

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that came through all of that.

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And again, it's not Ethan
that's upset about it, it's me.

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What do you wanna play tomorrow?

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You're gonna finish up
and dad cut the grass?

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I said, "Why me?"

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You know, "Why did I get
a child with autism?"

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And then they surprise you.

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His limitations are so much
less than what I thought.

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I'm the biggest limiting factor for him.

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Until we got our diagnosis
and until we started

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the personal journey with it,

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you realize how ignorant
myself, as a doctor,

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was to this population.

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In the beginning, we did
find that we struggled a lot

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going to medical doctors
because, you know,

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as you went to a medical office,

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there's always a waiting
room full of people,

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loud noises and bright light,
which is not sensory-friendly.

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For us, we started to
realize that there's got

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to be an alternative way.

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We need more sensory-inclusive spaces

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because everyone deserves quality of care.

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And for someone with a
sensory disability, they need

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that access to an environment
that they're comfortable in.

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And so that's kinda really where my ramp

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as a professional came from.

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And, as the years have gone
on, I actually converted half

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of my practice to be sensory-friendly.

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Because if you have a healthy mouth,

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you have a healthy body.

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People don't understand, when
you start to lose your teeth

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and you start to decline because you don't

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get proper nutrition
from chewing your food,

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then your life expectancy goes way down.

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- At the STAR Institute
for Sensory Processing,

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our vision is for sensory
health for the state,

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the nation, and the world.

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Universal design should be sensory design.

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When there's a ramp into the building,

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everyone can use the ramp, you know?

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And when the building
accommodates sensory differences,

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you're gonna have more
success, greater productivity,

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less burnout, less stress.

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When we don't deal with these differences

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as a community, the cost is exclusion.

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It's trauma every day, all day.

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Dr. Taylor,

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welcome to the "Not Your
Mama's Autism" podcast.

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Thank you. I'm happy to be here.

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- From the start of your
journey to the present day,

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can you tell us a little bit
about trends you've seen,

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maybe the way people look at autism,

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and developmental disabilities?

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Things have definitely changed overall.

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The research has definitely grown.

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We understand a lot more

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about underlying causes
of autism, what might--

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- The "Not Your Mama's Autism"
podcast was birthed out

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of an idea that has been
on my mind for a long time

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to chronicle a family's
journey into autism

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and disability inclusion.

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Because I can't tell you how many times

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in my private advocacy chapter,

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people would approach me and want to learn

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and want to talk to me about resources,

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but they often thought they were alone.

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So I thought, okay, if we
can take our advocacy journey

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and make it public, people
will know they're not alone.

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- We have worked on some
training for specialists.

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One thing that we know
is that women with autism

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do not get the kind of female
healthcare that they need.

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And that goes even further.

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It goes to dentistry, it goes

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to many other specialist conditions

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that require these really
intense medical examinations

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that are aversive to anyone.

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They're not pleasant experiences.

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- [Lola] So we're working with
her occupational therapist

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because she does have more
significant sensory challenges.

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- [Dr. Taylor] I'm not
on the autism spectrum,

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but I have sensory sensitivities,
so I understand this.

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- It's a form of thinking with
a universal design mindset.

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So if you try and design
something for one group,

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it ends up being beneficial
for other groups as well.

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And sensory issues are a common challenge

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with autistic folks.

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- I completely agree, and
I think when I've been

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giving trainings, particularly
over the last several years,

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I really try to focus on the idea

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that we have sensory seeking
and we have sensory aversion.

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And many of our autistic individuals

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will have a combination of both.

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So some cases they might be
seeking sensory experiences

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and then in some cases,
they might be pulling away.

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So we have to be sensitive to that.

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The diagnosis itself
is not, it's important

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for the individual insofar
as it helps them get the care

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that they need and the interventions

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that they need, maybe in the school,

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but we should be using these
interventions for everyone.

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My name's Jonathan Martinez.

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I'm the Head of Federal
Affairs over at Haleon.

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We are a consumer
over-the-counter company.

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We've known about neuro-inclusive needs

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and neurodivergent needs,
specifically, for quite some time.

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Haleon is using its
platform, its products,

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to help promote better outcomes

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for the neuro-sensitive community.

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We wanna make sure that
this community has a voice.

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Part of the problem that you
have with the current system

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is that there isn't a
specific requirement,

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that we think about
neuro-inclusivity in the classroom

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or neuro-inclusivity as
part of a dental practice.

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Creating more inclusive,
sensory-friendly environments

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makes a meaningful difference

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- For the most part, I've been
bullied out of workplaces.

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I've even just been fired for no reason

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or they made up a reason.

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I've been fired because
people said I was hostile,

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but they couldn't give a example.

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And I'm starting to think, now,

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that hostile means quietly doing your work

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and not talking to people.

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I've had some very strange experiences

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and it's hard to talk to people about them

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'cause they don't believe me.

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But I realized later that
neurodivergent people

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have these experiences and they believe me

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and they understand them.

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But most people don't
have these experiences

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because people don't treat them this way.

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It's something about being autistic

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or just behaving differently from them.

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Even if you're not doing,
you're doing what you're paid

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to do, you're not misbehaving or anything,

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you're in trouble or they're
upset or they're angry.

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I think the trauma is never gonna go away,

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it's just always gonna be
a thing for me with jobs.

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I have dreams about it, like, every night

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about getting fired.

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'Cause it can happen any
day, in my experience.

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There doesn't have to be a reason

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or there can be a made up reason.

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So at some point, I stopped
worrying so much about trying

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to fit into arbitrary social norms

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and just decided to be myself.

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And being myself is much less
stressful and I'm happier.

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I work doing quality assurance

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in a food manufacturing plant.

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I do a lot of FDA oversight
and testing things.

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There's a sensory aspect
to the work I do now.

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It makes that aspect very enjoyable to me

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and it's important for me to
enjoy the work that I'm doing.

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Well it took, maybe it took
me about a year, I think,

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to fully accept that I was safe at my job.

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- I started working with
Burnett since May of last year,

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so I've been knowing Burnett
for about a year now.

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And Burnett is so open.

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Just speaking with Burnett
throughout the year,

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I'm realizing, well, why do
I believe certain things?

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It's like, was it just taught to me

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and it been put in my head as normal

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or is it just an actual
belief system of mine?

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So it just kinda helped
me grow as a person.

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My little cousin, he's
actually autistic, too.

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Oh.

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- But just seeing how
you, like, persevere,

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it gave me, like, inspiration
from my little cousin.

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Like, he can still go far.

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People are not, people's
mindsets are changing.

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You are, like, legit one
of the smartest people

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I've ever met, so.

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Ah, well, thanks.

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Not everyone in my community
can speak up for themselves,

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so when people see me in the workplace,

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that can change their minds
about what we're capable of.

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People have told me
that I've inspired them

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and taught them things,
which surprised me.

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But I'm glad because they helped me

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and I like to think I'm giving back.

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How could you check--

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- I think it's really
important to self-advocate.

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At STAR Institute, we have
an adult-specific program.

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We're supporting this
population to be successful

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and thrive, and that
includes finding employment

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and holding a job.

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And it can be really hard.

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- For me, when I'm on a
set, it's a sacred place.

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We're all here, in front
or behind the camera,

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to do the best work we can.

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There's not a joke. This
is some serious business.

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Where there's a great amount
of concentration needs

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to be had, has to be a
setting where I can thrive.

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And film sets are very complex.

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But as a director,

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you wanna make the
actors feel comfortable.

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They do a job and it's a hard job,

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and you have to concentrate.

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And if there's stuff going on the sides,

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that's breaking the
concentration and, you know,

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it's not helping.

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- I realized that there
was such a large gap

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between dentists and
sensory-friendly dentists

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and even one step above that,

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dentists who are sensory friendly

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and can adapt how to
actually provide dental care.

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So in my office in Houston, I took half

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of the physical space and we redesigned it

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to be more sensory friendly.

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There is nobody that goes
into the dental office

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and goes, "Man, this is my
favorite place in the world!

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I love it."

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Hey, how you doing?

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Dr. Dent, very nice

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- to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.

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Come on back, let's go take a
walk and get you into a room.

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We're gonna go visit for a
little bit before we get started.

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It doesn't matter if you're
a neurotypical person,

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you still have sensitivities
that need to be understood

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and need to be accepted

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and not viewed as just
being a baby about it

512
00:28:15,690 --> 00:28:18,360
or just being overdramatic about it.

513
00:28:18,360 --> 00:28:21,750
Because some of those things
can really cause someone

514
00:28:21,750 --> 00:28:24,090
a large amount of anxiety.

515
00:28:24,090 --> 00:28:29,090
And that anxiety can make
people not go to the dentist.

516
00:28:29,220 --> 00:28:33,030
Tell me a little bit about what I can be

517
00:28:33,030 --> 00:28:34,290
of service for you today.

518
00:28:34,290 --> 00:28:35,240
What brings you in?

519
00:28:36,150 --> 00:28:36,983
A cleaning,

520
00:28:36,983 --> 00:28:37,816
- we're gonna do a cleaning.
- A cleaning, okay.

521
00:28:37,816 --> 00:28:39,180
When was the last time that you were

522
00:28:39,180 --> 00:28:40,779
at the dentist and had a cleaning?

523
00:28:40,779 --> 00:28:42,240
[Patient] A few years.

524
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:43,073
Okay.

525
00:28:43,073 --> 00:28:44,550
When I left dental school,

526
00:28:44,550 --> 00:28:48,720
I was a filling and restorative guy.

527
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:52,710
You know, I had zero
training on special needs.

528
00:28:52,710 --> 00:28:57,210
All I knew was from basically
what I saw in the movies.

529
00:28:57,210 --> 00:29:00,510
So what I wanna find out from
you is what are those things

530
00:29:00,510 --> 00:29:03,690
that you're sensitive to
and then we're gonna adjust

531
00:29:03,690 --> 00:29:06,480
our appointment to kinda
fit around that, okay?

532
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,340
So let's just start with the basic five.

533
00:29:08,340 --> 00:29:10,620
So, sights, you said, "I don't like seeing

534
00:29:10,620 --> 00:29:11,640
the needle coming," okay.

535
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,860
So if that happens, is
there any other sights

536
00:29:13,860 --> 00:29:15,150
that bother you?

537
00:29:15,150 --> 00:29:16,111
No.

538
00:29:16,111 --> 00:29:19,053
What about taste?

539
00:29:19,980 --> 00:29:22,170
[Patient] Like, pumice makes me sick.

540
00:29:22,170 --> 00:29:23,700
Okay, so the things that we use

541
00:29:23,700 --> 00:29:25,260
to brush your teeth makes you sick.

542
00:29:25,260 --> 00:29:28,530
Okay, is it the texture of the pumice

543
00:29:28,530 --> 00:29:30,450
or is it the flavor that they use?

544
00:29:30,450 --> 00:29:32,460
- Just the grittiness.
- Just the grit, okay.

545
00:29:32,460 --> 00:29:35,703
So minimal to no grit.

546
00:29:36,780 --> 00:29:41,160
It would be better, in my
opinion, if we had two forms.

547
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:45,720
One health history, one sensitivity form.

548
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,320
Check the boxes on tell me
what your preferences are,

549
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,600
what you're hypersensitive to,

550
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,840
and what would make this
visit better for you?

551
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:56,220
[Patient] Can I put my headphones in?

552
00:29:56,220 --> 00:29:57,150
[Dr. Dent] You're more than welcome

553
00:29:57,150 --> 00:29:58,473
to put your headphones on.

554
00:30:00,990 --> 00:30:03,270
All right, let's start right
there at the top. Ready?

555
00:30:03,270 --> 00:30:05,910
The dentist is a really interesting one

556
00:30:05,910 --> 00:30:08,010
and there's been some
lovely research done on how

557
00:30:08,010 --> 00:30:10,860
to support sensory
differences at the dentist.

558
00:30:10,860 --> 00:30:15,210
I, personally, cry every single time

559
00:30:15,210 --> 00:30:16,320
I go to the dentist.

560
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:21,127
I am not emotionally
upset but cannot handle

561
00:30:22,860 --> 00:30:26,793
the sensory experience
of being at the dentist.

562
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:33,150
So right before she goes under,

563
00:30:33,150 --> 00:30:34,710
and right when she comes out,

564
00:30:34,710 --> 00:30:37,590
we need to make sure she's comfortable,

565
00:30:37,590 --> 00:30:39,543
the things that are familiar to her.

566
00:30:43,350 --> 00:30:44,853
She loves this little fish.

567
00:30:48,675 --> 00:30:50,583
Put that in there.

568
00:30:50,583 --> 00:30:53,940
Then we have her old
faithful here, Sharky.

569
00:30:53,940 --> 00:30:57,900
She's been using this since
her first oral surgery.

570
00:30:57,900 --> 00:31:00,483
So let's keep it consistent.

571
00:31:04,116 --> 00:31:06,750
(contemplative music)

572
00:31:06,750 --> 00:31:11,100
Every year, because of
Alero's sensory challenges,

573
00:31:11,100 --> 00:31:13,425
we take her on the pilgrimage.

574
00:31:13,425 --> 00:31:14,258
[Doctor] Good morning!

575
00:31:14,258 --> 00:31:15,990
Alero, are you ready to come back with me?

576
00:31:15,990 --> 00:31:17,970
- You guys ready, Mom?
- Good morning, yeah!

577
00:31:17,970 --> 00:31:21,480
And that's where her dentist takes, like,

578
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:23,400
a normal, conventional dental visit

579
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,593
and kinda converts it to oral surgery.

580
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,340
So it'd be the same oral examination

581
00:31:29,340 --> 00:31:32,463
within a hospital setting,
but she would be sedated.

582
00:31:33,750 --> 00:31:35,748
[Lola] Thank you. Hi, Dr. Smith!

583
00:31:35,748 --> 00:31:37,430
Good morning!

584
00:31:37,430 --> 00:31:39,480
Do you guys have any concerns

585
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,600
for her teeth at this time in particular?

586
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:43,950
How's she been doing with her home care?

587
00:31:43,950 --> 00:31:45,720
Are you guys still able to brush her well

588
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:47,670
or is she being more resistant?

589
00:31:47,670 --> 00:31:49,908
How is she transitioning?

590
00:31:49,908 --> 00:31:52,260
We are having minimal toothpaste

591
00:31:52,260 --> 00:31:55,710
because she still struggles
with rinsing and spitting out.

592
00:31:55,710 --> 00:31:58,860
- Sometimes she seems
to have some tooth pain.

593
00:31:58,860 --> 00:32:01,590
It goes in and out, so
we're not exactly sure.

594
00:32:01,590 --> 00:32:05,430
We think it might be tied
to her chewy sometimes.

595
00:32:05,430 --> 00:32:08,310
- So last time that we did
her treatment in the hospital,

596
00:32:08,310 --> 00:32:13,310
I extracted several chewies
from her teeth and her gums,

597
00:32:13,710 --> 00:32:16,770
so we are gonna have to kinda collaborate

598
00:32:16,770 --> 00:32:19,350
and see if she'll accept,
like, certain teething tools

599
00:32:19,350 --> 00:32:21,600
that would be more beneficial

600
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,480
that aren't gonna leave,
like, debris in her mouth.

601
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,420
So now that she's transitioning
into being a pre-teen,

602
00:32:27,420 --> 00:32:30,780
teenager, she is gonna have
all of her permanent teeth,

603
00:32:30,780 --> 00:32:32,010
so we definitely wanna make sure

604
00:32:32,010 --> 00:32:35,280
that we are focusing on her
gum health, both at home

605
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,670
and when she comes in
for the yearly exams.

606
00:32:38,670 --> 00:32:40,650
Peace of mind is a form of wealth,

607
00:32:40,650 --> 00:32:43,574
so thank you for keeping us wealthy.

608
00:32:43,574 --> 00:32:44,824
- (all laugh)
- Thank you.

609
00:32:45,903 --> 00:32:46,736
[Lola] Sit down.

610
00:32:46,736 --> 00:32:48,090
All right, just sit. We're just sitting.

611
00:32:48,090 --> 00:32:50,913
We're just sitting and
talking. We're friends.

612
00:32:52,151 --> 00:32:53,490
All right, can I have the bracelets

613
00:32:53,490 --> 00:32:55,620
- to get them to Mom?
- While she's under sedation,

614
00:32:55,620 --> 00:33:00,620
we do a full blood workup in
additional to her dental care.

615
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,950
Blood work would then be
sent to our endocrinologist,

616
00:33:04,950 --> 00:33:09,840
to her allergy team, to her pediatrician.

617
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:11,790
- Okay, no bib.
- Making sure that,

618
00:33:11,790 --> 00:33:16,230
as she grows up, we can get
that at least once a year

619
00:33:16,230 --> 00:33:19,800
of blood work so we can
have somewhat of an idea

620
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,843
of what's going on within her body.

621
00:33:23,769 --> 00:33:26,602
(machine beeping)

622
00:33:30,609 --> 00:33:33,699
(contemplative music)

623
00:33:33,699 --> 00:33:35,820
My hope is there's more of a push

624
00:33:35,820 --> 00:33:40,820
towards a holistic view of
this from cradle to grave.

625
00:33:43,860 --> 00:33:47,640
I think we need to be
better being inclusive

626
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,180
and understanding that
not everybody is going

627
00:33:51,180 --> 00:33:53,913
to have healthcare delivery
in the exact same way.

628
00:33:56,558 --> 00:33:58,980
(birds chirping)

629
00:33:58,980 --> 00:34:03,980
- On any given day, our routine
is very, very ritualistic.

630
00:34:04,230 --> 00:34:08,010
Ethan gets up in the morning,
he eats the same breakfast,

631
00:34:08,010 --> 00:34:09,510
he does the same routine

632
00:34:09,510 --> 00:34:11,943
because that's comfort zone for him.

633
00:34:13,290 --> 00:34:14,730
All right, ganglios.

634
00:34:14,730 --> 00:34:16,176
Can you reach that?

635
00:34:16,176 --> 00:34:19,696
- We try to avoid high-populated areas

636
00:34:19,696 --> 00:34:24,630
or areas that are very
loud or kind of obnoxious

637
00:34:24,630 --> 00:34:27,663
'cause that does tend to trigger
some of his sensitivities.

638
00:34:30,569 --> 00:34:31,503
Oh, and here.

639
00:34:33,090 --> 00:34:37,170
There's a local arcade with
pizza and we always like to go,

640
00:34:37,170 --> 00:34:40,863
but we are very selective
about the times that we go.

641
00:34:42,721 --> 00:34:45,693
Hey, when you need a refill,
let Dad know if you need more.

642
00:34:47,130 --> 00:34:50,070
Here is all of the condiments.

643
00:34:50,070 --> 00:34:52,203
[Mother] Oh, hey, there's this time.

644
00:34:53,220 --> 00:34:55,070
[Dr. Dent] Whatcha lookin' at, bud?

645
00:34:56,636 --> 00:34:57,469
It's a little loud?

646
00:34:59,010 --> 00:35:02,310
There are certain times where they make it

647
00:35:02,310 --> 00:35:06,690
more sensory-friendly and
it gives us the opportunity

648
00:35:06,690 --> 00:35:08,433
as a family to go enjoy that.

649
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,150
Because you don't wanna keep him isolated,

650
00:35:12,150 --> 00:35:15,660
just up in his room playing
video games or watching movies.

651
00:35:15,660 --> 00:35:17,490
He needs that socialization.

652
00:35:17,490 --> 00:35:22,470
But if you can control the
sensory environment for them,

653
00:35:22,470 --> 00:35:25,980
it's a whole lot better
as far as the outcomes

654
00:35:25,980 --> 00:35:29,220
and how he desensitizes to environments

655
00:35:29,220 --> 00:35:30,753
that are not sensory-friendly.

656
00:35:31,710 --> 00:35:32,753
All right, here it comes. Shoot 'em up.

657
00:35:34,191 --> 00:35:36,393
Keep going. Good shot!

658
00:35:39,540 --> 00:35:40,373
Put it in there.

659
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:43,350
Nice shot.

660
00:35:43,350 --> 00:35:44,787
[Mom] Two more!

661
00:35:44,787 --> 00:35:46,537
[Dr. Dent] Curl 'em up. One more!

662
00:35:48,510 --> 00:35:50,433
- Nice, good shot.
- Nice, good job!

663
00:35:51,463 --> 00:35:53,670
- Fantastic, all right,
what do you wanna play now?

664
00:35:53,670 --> 00:35:54,900
I don't remember.

665
00:35:54,900 --> 00:35:56,250
It's good to be inclusive

666
00:35:56,250 --> 00:35:58,020
where we can all do things as a family,

667
00:35:58,020 --> 00:36:00,573
we don't have to do separate activities.

668
00:36:00,573 --> 00:36:03,843
That really helps build that family base.

669
00:36:05,087 --> 00:36:06,295
Look!

670
00:36:06,295 --> 00:36:07,917
There you are!

671
00:36:07,917 --> 00:36:08,897
- You like it?
- Yes.

672
00:36:08,897 --> 00:36:10,380
- [Dr. Dent] All right,
let's go play another game.

673
00:36:10,380 --> 00:36:11,839
You wanna go do Space Invaders?

674
00:36:11,839 --> 00:36:12,874
Space Invaders.

675
00:36:12,874 --> 00:36:14,040
- [Dr. Dent] Space Invaders,
that looks like a fun game.

676
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,228
Let's go sit in the Space Invaders.

677
00:36:16,228 --> 00:36:18,811
(game beeping)

678
00:36:22,740 --> 00:36:23,850
You wanna play ski ball?

679
00:36:23,850 --> 00:36:24,683
[Ethan] Ski.

680
00:36:24,683 --> 00:36:25,516
All right, good.

681
00:36:30,510 --> 00:36:31,923
Good, real hard, real hard.

682
00:36:33,750 --> 00:36:34,743
Good job!

683
00:36:36,180 --> 00:36:39,780
Their sensory-friendly
hours really focus on some

684
00:36:39,780 --> 00:36:41,370
of the most common triggers,

685
00:36:41,370 --> 00:36:44,700
which are the loud noises from the games,

686
00:36:44,700 --> 00:36:46,083
the fluorescent lights.

687
00:36:55,470 --> 00:36:58,530
When they transition
out of sensory-friendly

688
00:36:58,530 --> 00:37:02,520
to just general public
sights, sounds, everything,

689
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:06,153
it creates a whole different
level of anxiety in Ethan.

690
00:37:07,595 --> 00:37:10,512
(machines beeping)

691
00:37:11,820 --> 00:37:16,820
We've learned him so well that
when we start to sense that,

692
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,560
it triggers our sensitivities

693
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:23,463
and we are able to transfer
him out of that situation.

694
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:33,330
I think we have a tremendous mandate

695
00:37:33,330 --> 00:37:38,330
to unlearn the things that
have become assumptions

696
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,183
in the way that we do life.

697
00:37:43,170 --> 00:37:48,170
It's time to sort of be
awake and intentional

698
00:37:50,075 --> 00:37:53,490
about embracing different ways,

699
00:37:53,490 --> 00:37:54,930
different ways of being human,

700
00:37:54,930 --> 00:37:57,003
different ways of experiencing the world.

701
00:37:58,350 --> 00:37:59,823
The wisdom of the body.

702
00:38:00,912 --> 00:38:03,579
(water rushing)

703
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,920
- Well, since I lit it,
you can blow it out.

704
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:14,941
Well, that sounds fair.

705
00:38:14,941 --> 00:38:15,774
Yeah, and it's your ice cream.

706
00:38:15,774 --> 00:38:16,607
Okay.

707
00:38:17,552 --> 00:38:18,385
Oh.

708
00:38:18,385 --> 00:38:19,311
Okay, happy birthday.

709
00:38:19,311 --> 00:38:20,144
Happy birthday.

710
00:38:20,144 --> 00:38:21,480
How's it feel to be 38?

711
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:22,620
Nothing feels different.

712
00:38:22,620 --> 00:38:23,836
[Bernard] Yeah?

713
00:38:23,836 --> 00:38:26,640
(laughing)

714
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,920
Do you feel more optimistic
about the next year?

715
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,020
- More optimistic than--

716
00:38:31,020 --> 00:38:32,550
I feel more optimistic about turning 38

717
00:38:32,550 --> 00:38:33,850
because I won't see there.

718
00:38:34,710 --> 00:38:36,723
And even numbers are very good for me.

719
00:38:39,732 --> 00:38:41,070
[Burnett] Oh that's cold on my teeth.

720
00:38:41,070 --> 00:38:43,133
- Do you need to go back
to the dentist this year?

721
00:38:44,126 --> 00:38:48,210
- Yeah, I think I'm
running out of excuses.

722
00:38:48,210 --> 00:38:50,400
I think I'm getting
too old, so it's, like,

723
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:51,870
irresponsible at this point.

724
00:38:51,870 --> 00:38:52,703
[Bernard] Yeah.

725
00:38:52,703 --> 00:38:53,850
So yeah, I'm think I'm going to.

726
00:38:53,850 --> 00:38:56,970
- [Bernard] Why don't you
impose the deadline on yourself?

727
00:38:56,970 --> 00:38:58,560
Can you make one for me?

728
00:38:58,560 --> 00:38:59,610
A week from Monday.

729
00:39:00,630 --> 00:39:03,210
That way you have all week to do it.

730
00:39:03,210 --> 00:39:04,410
Like I can help you 'cause I can be

731
00:39:04,410 --> 00:39:05,710
at your computer with you.

732
00:39:06,630 --> 00:39:08,250
We could find the dentist together

733
00:39:08,250 --> 00:39:09,810
and I can dial the number for you.

734
00:39:09,810 --> 00:39:10,643
Oh, okay.

735
00:39:10,643 --> 00:39:11,580
And give you the phone.

736
00:39:11,580 --> 00:39:14,580
That'll remove some, a lot of
executive functioning for you.

737
00:39:14,580 --> 00:39:17,010
Yeah, okay. Okay, that's a lot of work.

738
00:39:17,010 --> 00:39:19,320
So find a dentist a week from Monday.

739
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:20,814
I think it's easy to just,

740
00:39:20,814 --> 00:39:22,950
to just justify reasons not to go.

741
00:39:22,950 --> 00:39:25,770
Yeah. I've done five years.

742
00:39:25,770 --> 00:39:27,384
[Burnett] Okay.

743
00:39:27,384 --> 00:39:30,360
(patrons murmuring)

744
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:34,980
That's 2029, I should make
it round up to go 2030.

745
00:39:34,980 --> 00:39:37,590
- [Burnett] Yeah, you're just,
yeah, we're prolonging it.

746
00:39:37,590 --> 00:39:39,152
- You're pushing it back.
- I'll go to the dentist

747
00:39:39,152 --> 00:39:40,503
- in 2030.
- Oh, okay.

748
00:39:42,030 --> 00:39:44,382
Don't you think you should go this year?

749
00:39:44,382 --> 00:39:45,663
[Bernard] Of course I should!

750
00:39:45,663 --> 00:39:46,517
Oh, okay.

751
00:39:46,517 --> 00:39:49,470
- [Bernard] Of course I
do. I'm a logical person.

752
00:39:49,470 --> 00:39:50,373
I'm not going to.

753
00:39:52,325 --> 00:39:56,337
I have an electric
toothbrush, so (laughs).

754
00:39:58,634 --> 00:39:59,820
So you'll just keep coming up

755
00:39:59,820 --> 00:40:02,377
with ways to rationalize not going.

756
00:40:02,377 --> 00:40:05,703
- [Bernard] I got $750 of
dental work done in 2013.

757
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,170
That's more than a decade ago!

758
00:40:10,170 --> 00:40:12,660
- I'm saying, and I haven't
had any cavities since.

759
00:40:12,660 --> 00:40:13,560
[Burnett] Okay.

760
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:18,165
- So I think that dental
work was all I needed.

761
00:40:18,165 --> 00:40:21,614
(Burnett laughing)

762
00:40:21,614 --> 00:40:24,840
- I'm afraid to tell a
dentist that I'm autistic.

763
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:26,513
I don't know if they're gonna get scared.

764
00:40:28,740 --> 00:40:29,703
And reactive.

765
00:40:32,700 --> 00:40:37,510
I expect them to have
a bunch of stereotypes

766
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,160
and misrepresentations that
I don't even understand,

767
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:43,320
like, this person's gonna bite me.

768
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,030
I expect them to just be afraid of me

769
00:40:45,030 --> 00:40:47,280
or not taking me serious.

770
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:48,840
I'm pretty cynical about it.

771
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:49,950
I kinda just don't wanna go to dentist

772
00:40:49,950 --> 00:40:52,080
until I'm in pain, in really bad pain.

773
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:53,850
But I need to stop thinking that way.

774
00:40:53,850 --> 00:40:58,200
- I think that there's a
tremendous amount of work to get

775
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:02,220
to a place where we're
all sensory informed

776
00:41:02,220 --> 00:41:05,520
and sensory health is prioritized,

777
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:09,510
that we're supporting people to feel

778
00:41:09,510 --> 00:41:14,250
and sense the world in the
best way for their brain

779
00:41:14,250 --> 00:41:17,640
and body to be well and flourish.

780
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:22,640
A big bulk of the work is
about unlearning and change.

781
00:41:32,910 --> 00:41:35,284
I didn't have a purpose in dentistry

782
00:41:35,284 --> 00:41:38,523
other than being Dr. Dent.

783
00:41:40,650 --> 00:41:43,800
And then when I had
Ethan, I found purpose.

784
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:46,308
Please help me welcome Dr. Jacob Dent.

785
00:41:46,308 --> 00:41:48,090
Thank you, appreciate it.

786
00:41:48,090 --> 00:41:49,650
- Good luck. Let me know
if you need anything.

787
00:41:49,650 --> 00:41:50,580
Yes sir.

788
00:41:50,580 --> 00:41:53,460
All right, so our goal
today is going to be

789
00:41:53,460 --> 00:41:57,690
to really focus on the
basics of sensory issues.

790
00:41:57,690 --> 00:41:59,820
And I just want y'all to be thinking kinda

791
00:41:59,820 --> 00:42:01,020
that outside the box.

792
00:42:01,020 --> 00:42:06,020
Like, what can we do that is
not the standardized dentistry?

793
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,450
I wanna leave a legacy that's different

794
00:42:09,450 --> 00:42:12,330
than just being a traditional dentist.

795
00:42:12,330 --> 00:42:16,650
Why is it so hard for us
as dentists and hygienists

796
00:42:16,650 --> 00:42:20,940
and providers to see
special needs patients?

797
00:42:20,940 --> 00:42:25,940
I use the acronym TIM,
time, ignorance, money.

798
00:42:26,550 --> 00:42:28,470
Having the platform of being able

799
00:42:28,470 --> 00:42:31,620
to go teach continuing education classes,

800
00:42:31,620 --> 00:42:33,990
it really gives me a little bit more

801
00:42:33,990 --> 00:42:36,840
of a podium to speak to

802
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,330
'cause I can talk to it from both angles.

803
00:42:39,330 --> 00:42:42,990
I can talk to it as a parent,
I can talk to it as a doctor.

804
00:42:42,990 --> 00:42:46,800
And everybody has a heart,
I truly believe that.

805
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,900
There is nobody that I've ever come across

806
00:42:48,900 --> 00:42:51,870
that says, "I'm not going
to treat this population

807
00:42:51,870 --> 00:42:56,547
because they are disabled or
because they're different."

808
00:42:56,547 --> 00:42:58,177
What they're gonna tell me is,

809
00:42:58,177 --> 00:43:00,390
"I don't know what I'm doing."

810
00:43:00,390 --> 00:43:01,500
That's why I'm here.

811
00:43:01,500 --> 00:43:04,260
I've been on a 20 year
residency with my son,

812
00:43:04,260 --> 00:43:06,630
you know, trying to figure out autism,

813
00:43:06,630 --> 00:43:08,400
trying to figure out sensory issues.

814
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:12,120
And that's not, it's not an easy class.

815
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:15,150
So my whole reason for
doing it is to show them

816
00:43:15,150 --> 00:43:17,430
that here's the model that I've done,

817
00:43:17,430 --> 00:43:19,650
here's how I've been successful doing it.

818
00:43:19,650 --> 00:43:22,380
If anybody has any questions
in regards to the kits

819
00:43:22,380 --> 00:43:26,670
or how to build a sensory
room, just let me know, okay?

820
00:43:26,670 --> 00:43:29,280
I hope y'all have a good
rest of y'all's conference.

821
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:30,880
We'll see y'all next time, okay?

822
00:43:31,950 --> 00:43:34,080
My goal at the end of my classes

823
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:37,680
is that one person will take the lead

824
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,590
and start to incorporate
that into their practice

825
00:43:40,590 --> 00:43:43,410
because there will be
a day that I'm not here

826
00:43:43,410 --> 00:43:45,750
and there'll be a day that
Ethan needs another dentist

827
00:43:45,750 --> 00:43:47,310
that isn't Dad.

828
00:43:47,310 --> 00:43:51,000
And the hope is one of
those people that I taught

829
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,880
was inspired enough to be
able to open their doors

830
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:58,880
to my son and continue his
healthcare, well after I'm gone.

831
00:43:59,490 --> 00:44:03,510
- My biggest fear is that
we're not acting quickly enough

832
00:44:03,510 --> 00:44:06,750
to take into account the
neuro-inclusive community's needs.

833
00:44:06,750 --> 00:44:08,820
How do we make that experience
a little bit more pleasant?

834
00:44:08,820 --> 00:44:12,900
And to the credit of doctors
and dentists, they try.

835
00:44:12,900 --> 00:44:15,330
Should they have more resources? Yes.

836
00:44:15,330 --> 00:44:19,140
Should we make sure that there
are more options available

837
00:44:19,140 --> 00:44:21,300
so that we can make dentistry

838
00:44:21,300 --> 00:44:22,740
a little bit more neuro-inclusive?

839
00:44:22,740 --> 00:44:25,470
Absolutely. There are
two conversations here.

840
00:44:25,470 --> 00:44:27,510
The first is making sure
that the healthcare system

841
00:44:27,510 --> 00:44:28,650
is more inclusive.

842
00:44:28,650 --> 00:44:31,710
But then the second is, how
do we think about making sure

843
00:44:31,710 --> 00:44:34,890
that patients and providers
are able to meet each other

844
00:44:34,890 --> 00:44:38,250
where they're at, regardless
of someone identifying

845
00:44:38,250 --> 00:44:40,460
as neurodiverse?

846
00:44:40,460 --> 00:44:43,127
(hopeful music)

847
00:44:52,632 --> 00:44:54,840
(door squeaking)

848
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:56,670
- Burnett, I'm gonna go
ahead and have you fill out

849
00:44:56,670 --> 00:44:59,880
some forms for me and
then you can have a seat

850
00:44:59,880 --> 00:45:01,140
in the waiting room, fill these out,

851
00:45:01,140 --> 00:45:03,294
and bring 'em back up to
me when you're finished.

852
00:45:03,294 --> 00:45:05,040
[Burnett] Okay, thank you.

853
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:07,560
When I first walked in and
sat in the waiting area,

854
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:08,553
I was overwhelmed.

855
00:45:09,570 --> 00:45:12,660
I knew I should be there,
but my anxiety was telling me

856
00:45:12,660 --> 00:45:14,410
that I wasn't supposed to be there.

857
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,737
How do you feel about your appointment?

858
00:45:19,737 --> 00:45:21,453
Oh, not very well. Anxious.

859
00:45:22,980 --> 00:45:25,440
When I brought my sibling with me,

860
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,563
we helped each other when
we went to the office.

861
00:45:28,674 --> 00:45:31,650
At least you'll be less
likely to miss the appointment

862
00:45:31,650 --> 00:45:34,653
or to leave or anything if
someone else is with you.

863
00:45:36,900 --> 00:45:38,820
Take a lot of pressure off,

864
00:45:38,820 --> 00:45:39,990
which I guess is just the pressure

865
00:45:39,990 --> 00:45:41,340
is just negative self-talk.

866
00:45:44,310 --> 00:45:46,043
[Nurse] Burnett, are you ready?

867
00:45:47,189 --> 00:45:48,022
Hey.

868
00:45:48,022 --> 00:45:48,855
[Nurse] How are you today?

869
00:45:48,855 --> 00:45:49,688
Good, how are you?

870
00:45:49,688 --> 00:45:50,633
Well, thank you. This way.

871
00:45:51,870 --> 00:45:54,360
Then we're gonna step over here

872
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:56,190
and then right in this room right here.

873
00:45:56,190 --> 00:45:57,923
And you can have a seat right here.

874
00:45:57,923 --> 00:45:58,756
Okay.

875
00:46:04,230 --> 00:46:05,160
[Nurse] How long has it been for you

876
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:07,680
since you've had your teeth cleaned?

877
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:09,487
[Burnett] About three years.

878
00:46:09,487 --> 00:46:10,787
[Nurse] Well, that's not so bad.

879
00:46:10,787 --> 00:46:13,214
Do you have any teeth
that are bothering you?

880
00:46:13,214 --> 00:46:14,486
[Burnett] Yeah, a few.

881
00:46:14,486 --> 00:46:16,319
[Nurse] A few, okay.

882
00:46:20,621 --> 00:46:24,141
[Burnett] Can you lower the lights?

883
00:46:24,141 --> 00:46:24,974
- [Nurse] Did you bring
your own sunglasses

884
00:46:24,974 --> 00:46:26,040
or would you like to wear these?

885
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,102
- Oh, I left mine in the
car. I'll wear those.

886
00:46:28,102 --> 00:46:28,935
[Nurse] You'll wear those?

887
00:46:28,935 --> 00:46:30,210
Okay, I'll take your
glasses, if you'd like.

888
00:46:30,210 --> 00:46:31,043
Okay.

889
00:46:32,130 --> 00:46:33,879
[Nurse] All right, thank you!

890
00:46:33,879 --> 00:46:36,855
Thanks.

891
00:46:36,855 --> 00:46:37,688
[Nurse] All right.

892
00:46:37,688 --> 00:46:38,910
Okay, I'm gonna put in my Loops.

893
00:46:38,910 --> 00:46:39,743
[Nurse] Okay.

894
00:46:42,450 --> 00:46:45,360
- I calmed down not too
long after being there

895
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:47,460
because of all the natural lighting.

896
00:46:47,460 --> 00:46:51,243
Oh, that was immediately
calming. Surprisingly calming.

897
00:46:53,310 --> 00:46:55,853
- [Nurse] I'm gonna use this
bright light on my head.

898
00:46:59,340 --> 00:47:02,347
And open and turn towards me
a little bit, thank you. Ah!

899
00:47:10,860 --> 00:47:15,750
- It's important to go into
spaces to help people learn

900
00:47:15,750 --> 00:47:18,240
how to become better allies if we're

901
00:47:18,240 --> 00:47:20,493
to create a more inclusive world.

902
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,674
- [Nurse] All right,
everything looks good for me.

903
00:47:24,674 --> 00:47:26,520
[Burnett] Okay.

904
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:28,470
- [Nurse] Now I'll go get
the doctor and she'll come in

905
00:47:28,470 --> 00:47:29,760
and do your exam.

906
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:31,380
Would you like to sit up while you wait?

907
00:47:31,380 --> 00:47:32,230
[Burnett] Sure.

908
00:47:34,710 --> 00:47:39,710
- I think we have to start
normalizing the accommodations

909
00:47:40,410 --> 00:47:42,180
and the different environments rather

910
00:47:42,180 --> 00:47:44,490
than trying to normalize people.

911
00:47:44,490 --> 00:47:47,370
And I would love our sensory spaces

912
00:47:47,370 --> 00:47:52,370
and our low sensory spaces
to be more mainstream,

913
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:59,960
we don't bat an eyelid at using
them, there's more of them.

914
00:48:00,262 --> 00:48:03,095
(water trickling)

915
00:48:04,597 --> 00:48:08,340
Our daughter, Alero, loves water.

916
00:48:08,340 --> 00:48:11,223
Water is one of her favorite places to be.

917
00:48:13,740 --> 00:48:16,560
But that is buttressed
against the fact she has

918
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:18,480
to be around a lot of people.

919
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:19,980
So there's the conflict there.

920
00:48:21,294 --> 00:48:22,473
(Alero vocalizing)

921
00:48:22,473 --> 00:48:23,890
Yeah, it's there.

922
00:48:26,802 --> 00:48:28,385
Alero, ready to go?

923
00:48:30,210 --> 00:48:33,960
Alero's perfect scenario is a giant pool,

924
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:36,063
secluded, nobody's there.

925
00:48:39,900 --> 00:48:43,443
The work I do is because
we need inclusive space.

926
00:48:45,240 --> 00:48:48,270
I see the impact because,
when you have them,

927
00:48:48,270 --> 00:48:53,270
things are better for everyone,
including Alero and Fela.

928
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,990
At a public place like a pool,

929
00:49:00,990 --> 00:49:04,953
you do see the reaction in her body.

930
00:49:12,540 --> 00:49:14,730
I could sense there was a bit

931
00:49:14,730 --> 00:49:18,930
of hesitation on her heart,

932
00:49:18,930 --> 00:49:21,180
so a couple of things
I tried to run through,

933
00:49:21,180 --> 00:49:25,920
one being, okay, Daddy's
gonna go in, it's safe.

934
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:29,544
Daddy's having fun. Can you come join me?

935
00:49:29,544 --> 00:49:30,377
(water splashing)

936
00:49:30,377 --> 00:49:31,770
(kids shrieking)

937
00:49:31,770 --> 00:49:33,193
That didn't work.

938
00:49:34,935 --> 00:49:37,173
Come on kiddo. All it takes is one.

939
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:42,180
Another thing I tried
was more verbal cues.

940
00:49:42,180 --> 00:49:44,880
You know, "Come, come to Daddy.

941
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:47,067
Hold my hand, I'll catch you."

942
00:49:48,183 --> 00:49:49,110
And it almost worked, you know.

943
00:49:49,110 --> 00:49:52,290
You could see her rocking a little bit,

944
00:49:52,290 --> 00:49:54,150
trying to lean and trying to decide

945
00:49:54,150 --> 00:49:55,953
if she was gonna jump into the pool.

946
00:49:57,728 --> 00:50:00,540
[Mother] Don't run, hey!

947
00:50:00,540 --> 00:50:02,610
The final thing that actually did work

948
00:50:02,610 --> 00:50:07,610
was literally walk her to the
step down part of the pool,

949
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:13,320
where she could enter the environment

950
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,630
a little bit at a time, right?

951
00:50:15,630 --> 00:50:19,283
So she stepped literally
one foot in, walk back out.

952
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:29,373
Step two feet in, walk back out.

953
00:50:32,490 --> 00:50:34,913
Step three feet in, walk back out.

954
00:50:43,260 --> 00:50:45,873
And finally decided it was
worth taking the plunge.

955
00:50:51,420 --> 00:50:56,420
All of that took 45 minutes
before she actually got in.

956
00:50:56,970 --> 00:50:59,793
And once you got her in, she had a blast.

957
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:09,310
Alero in the water

958
00:51:11,092 --> 00:51:14,597
is Alero truly at one
of her happiest places.

959
00:51:16,710 --> 00:51:21,710
I would say water, music,
and jumping all bring out

960
00:51:23,490 --> 00:51:28,490
a version of Alero that's
highly playful, that loves life,

961
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:32,190
that loves the people around her.

962
00:51:32,190 --> 00:51:35,400
She laughs more than she normally would.

963
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,740
It truly is her happy place.

964
00:51:37,740 --> 00:51:40,620
It's like when people
come alive when they write

965
00:51:40,620 --> 00:51:44,670
or when they, you know, speak
in public, when they paint

966
00:51:44,670 --> 00:51:48,243
that's how Alero comes
alive in those situations.

967
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:54,990
In the span of an afternoon,
we saw both sides.

968
00:51:54,990 --> 00:51:58,713
We saw sensory overload and
then we saw genuine joy.

969
00:52:03,330 --> 00:52:07,290
The beauty of love is the humanity in it,

970
00:52:07,290 --> 00:52:10,560
and humanity is both beautiful

971
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,510
and not so beautiful at times.

972
00:52:12,510 --> 00:52:14,850
And when you look at the totality of it

973
00:52:14,850 --> 00:52:18,603
and the level of authenticity
that I now live in,

974
00:52:20,460 --> 00:52:21,603
I do love my life.

975
00:52:23,514 --> 00:52:26,310
And I don't know if I would've
said that five years ago,

976
00:52:26,310 --> 00:52:27,840
but I have embraced it all.

977
00:52:27,840 --> 00:52:30,420
I listened to my aunt, I acted like I went

978
00:52:30,420 --> 00:52:32,760
to the store and I bought it.

979
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:34,950
And do I cry sometimes? Absolutely.

980
00:52:34,950 --> 00:52:37,383
But I cry and I still move forward.

981
00:52:41,100 --> 00:52:46,100
I hope that people who watch
this see families like mine

982
00:52:48,630 --> 00:52:52,053
as not some societal problem to fix.

983
00:52:54,300 --> 00:52:56,943
I hope they genuinely see our humanity.

984
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,223
That's what I hope and
that's why we do what we do.

985
00:53:03,866 --> 00:53:06,199
(inaudible)

986
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,527
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987
00:53:20,583 --> 00:53:24,583
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988
00:53:30,900 --> 00:53:32,730
- I wanna thank you for
doing this documentary

989
00:53:32,730 --> 00:53:35,190
because not that many
people really understand

990
00:53:35,190 --> 00:53:37,800
what dyslexia is and, you know,

991
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:41,250
or might even know people are dyslexic.

992
00:53:41,250 --> 00:53:43,653
And knowledge is powerful.

993
00:53:45,736 --> 00:53:49,736
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994
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:58,640
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995
00:54:04,461 --> 00:54:08,461
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996
00:54:14,819 --> 00:54:18,819
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997
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998
00:54:34,490 --> 00:54:38,490
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999
00:54:44,500 --> 00:54:48,500
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1000
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1001
00:55:06,764 --> 00:55:10,764
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1002
00:55:17,821 --> 00:55:21,821
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00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:52,320
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00:56:07,744 --> 00:56:11,744
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1008
00:56:19,133 --> 00:56:22,716
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